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Hi hope you sexy lot can give a little advice
We are a couple been swinging on and off the scene a number of years and met some lovely people ago the journey
The problem we have is for the last 12 months we’ve been looking for a single guy for some regular fun, so she is the centre of attention but we are finding it hard to find that guy.
We don’t want a bull
A guy that what’s to meet just her alone
A dom
Are what ever else
We are just after a guy to meet regularly who we can trust and build up a bond with has she wants to try again at dp, vagina dp
We don’t know if just us or do other couples have the same trouble finding this.
Is it our profile is to much( we had smaller profiles before) but find that after a number of messages we aren’t compatible so thought if everything is in the profile it cuts down ping pong chats
Any thoughts/advice would be great.
We will add we meet a female regular for and that works great we just want a guy for the same thing but for her to have lots of attention with
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Reading this I would not meet you
You want to meet a single male to make the woman feel the centre of attention
For me any meet whether with one person or couples or multiples you should all be made to feel equally as important and equally centre of any attention given |
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You have quite a few verifications from single guys, so I’m actually wondering what the issue you’re having is?
Are you meeting a lot of guys and they’re not right for what you want?
Or are you not meeting guys more than socially?
I would suggest that you’re probably getting enough interest, but you’re not doing enough discussion beforehand with regards to what you’re looking for.
If you’re looking for a FWB for the wife then be upfront about that, and make sure you communicate it to whoever you’re contacting |
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"Hi hope you sexy lot can give a little advice
We are a couple been swinging on and off the scene a number of years and met some lovely people ago the journey
The problem we have is for the last 12 months we’ve been looking for a single guy for some regular fun, so she is the centre of attention but we are finding it hard to find that guy.
We don’t want a bull
A guy that what’s to meet just her alone
A dom
Are what ever else
We are just after a guy to meet regularly who we can trust and build up a bond with has she wants to try again at dp, vagina dp
We don’t know if just us or do other couples have the same trouble finding this.
Is it our profile is to much( we had smaller profiles before) but find that after a number of messages we aren’t compatible so thought if everything is in the profile it cuts down ping pong chats
Any thoughts/advice would be great.
We will add we meet a female regular for and that works great we just want a guy for the same thing but for her to have lots of attention with
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We're pretty new and we're coming to a similar place for what we're looking for.
We always respect who we're playing with and want them to have a good time and feel a part but we also want cuffs to be at the centre of the action.
We also find a lot of the single guys sell themselves as wanting to please but without the male half getting involved - we get there's a lot of Stags and Vixens, hotwives, Bulls and cuckolds out there but it's not our thing and a lot of single males that contact us try to push that agenda from the first message. No judgement but not our kink.
We're not looking for an all out throuple but it's nice to think you can build something a little more regular and adventurous with a regular addition that respects us.
Hope you're lucky in finding yours OP |
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Hi op
If you wanted to attract women, you'd be best adding some pics of the mr too, if you're all playing.
I think your profile is all about what you want to be totally honest, there's not much to tell the man what you're offering him.
There's much about who you don't want to meet ie no bi men, hairy men etc.
Remember with regular arrangements there has to be something good in it for all parties.
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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We'd be more inclined to simply lend out the male half with one or two of the couples we've already met. That were also into this of course.
You need trust really and its easy to build trust with other couples you've already swapped with. Plus, you'd be sending home the male to his wife which should stop hassling messages out of the blue. |
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Op...
We're in a similar ISH situation... we're not looking for a regular guy but we are hoping for some more private room MFM play where everyone has lots of fun but the focus is me! (Mrs lol)
Just seems like the men folk aren't stepping up to the plate very well... lacking in a bit of personality sadly.
We meet at clubs and even then it's not always great!
Sorry to not be helpful
K |
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By *afmanMan 12 weeks ago
South East England |
I'm single male and if I was in your area I wouldn't meet. (No offense but you're asking.) Despite the fact I'm happily looking around for couples. But also, I'm quite particular. A bit like you I suppose.
Now I'm not gonna give you bull and say I'm a seasoned swinger but that doesn't matter.
Firstly, what is it with people blocking others for such lame things? Someone says hi and you block them? I get it, whilst I wouldn't start a convo with hi (cos it is the lowest form of dull), it's not like they've offended you. Just ignore the message. That person could end up sending another message that's getting you both horny AF a few months later.
"If there is no effort in the message then we take it there isn’t going to be much effort in the bedroom from you" - that conversation can build up. You've even said on your profile you're shy, maybe some people are shit at starting chat and then get better.
On the flip side, I don't entertain anyone that's giving war and peace in their profiles because I find that boring, but I wouldn't end up blocking them. I think it's just odd.
I've seen profiles with "updates" and the their dialogue is sooo long 🥱🥱🥱
IMO I would cut your profile down. I'm seriously considering cutting mine down and mine isn't that long in comparison to others.
DPing a vagina is niche and not all straight guys would be into that. And arguably that's for bi males, not straight ones, which you're not looking for, so is ambiguous.
I dunno, just thought I'd give my 2 cents. You might think I'm chatting 💩, which is fine but you're asking for advice and this is mine. Dial the profile down, and widen your boundaries a bit. Good luck 🤞 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
There'll be someone out there that's interested and fits the bill.
It'll just take time.
Maybe don't mention the idea to guys straight away and just meet them without any preconceptions. You'll not know if someone would be suitable and genuinely interested until you've met for first time sex anyway. Someone could say all the right things and then be completely incompatible for the job.
Try before you buy. Consider it a test drive, maybe even a few test drives. The guy needs to be as comfortable as you and everyone has the right to change their minds. Nobody will commit to the idea before it's been road tested to ensure all are happy. |
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I can't speak for all the single guys but my preference is for regular meets. I have a fair few repeat verifications. The fun gets better the more you get to know someone and in fact I now have friends that I can meet for vanilla aswell as naughty fun  |
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By *iverstMan 12 weeks ago
Rossendale |
I am relatively new to the scene and I have been blessed to strike up a relationship with a wonderful couple. Every time we meet we learn more about each other and that allows us to enjoy our time more.
Getting to know and trust each other has allowed us to push our boundaries and be more adventurous, which we all enjoy.
And we enjoy the lady being the centre of attention.
I hope you can be as lucky as I have been OP. Good luck with your search, I hope you can find someone that fits your requirements and you all have a fantastic Fab time.
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"I hope you don't mind me saying but I think your profile could be condensed.
E.g. Instead of giving message examples over muktiple lines just state you don't respond to low effort messages.
Thank you have looked at the profile and taken some bits and changed some bits
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By *jonesMan 12 weeks ago
Plymouth |
I think your profile is long ...but well written and pleasant..
As one previous lady said it's just difficult finding people on fab, or indeed the internet in general.
Have you been to any organised socials ? They are a great way to meet a bunch of people and might be a better environment to have a good chat with a prospective regular.
Good luck and I'm sure you'll find what your looking for.
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"There'll be someone out there that's interested and fits the bill.
It'll just take time.
Maybe don't mention the idea to guys straight away and just meet them without any preconceptions. You'll not know if someone would be suitable and genuinely interested until you've met for first time sex anyway. Someone could say all the right things and then be completely incompatible for the job.
Try before you buy. Consider it a test drive, maybe even a few test drives. The guy needs to be as comfortable as you and everyone has the right to change their minds. Nobody will commit to the idea before it's been road tested to ensure all are happy. "
That makes sense to test drive which we have done in the past. And why we are looking for regular so we can build up the trust to try more things. X |
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By *rpeggioCouple 12 weeks ago
Baughurst |
Go to a social if you can.
On Fab many men will say anything to get a one off meet so it's hard for you to know who's in your same wavelength.
At a club, similar: men are there to play.
At a social, you'll find men who are into the swinging scene and you can chat to them and see if they are for you. Also they're are many couples happy to play split, so you can have what you want from a couple that you trust and like and occasionally invite the male for a special session, and viceversa. |
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"Go to a social if you can.
On Fab many men will say anything to get a one off meet so it's hard for you to know who's in your same wavelength.
At a club, similar: men are there to play.
At a social, you'll find men who are into the swinging scene and you can chat to them and see if they are for you. Also they're are many couples happy to play split, so you can have what you want from a couple that you trust and like and occasionally invite the male for a special session, and viceversa."
Thanks we’ve been to a few social meets but travelled has not many social near to home, we’ve also met a few guys and had a great night but they’ve been hotel meets miles from home. We are just after a local(ish) guy to meet every few months like we do with a female we know, we are happy to meet half way book hotel etc.
we have a meeting with a guy this weekend and hopefully if the conversation and connection is there we might have got somewhere. Fingers crossed |
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"Hi hope you sexy lot can give a little advice
We are a couple been swinging on and off the scene a number of years and met some lovely people ago the journey
The problem we have is for the last 12 months we’ve been looking for a single guy for some regular fun, so she is the centre of attention but we are finding it hard to find that guy.
We don’t want a bull
A guy that what’s to meet just her alone
A dom
Are what ever else
We are just after a guy to meet regularly who we can trust and build up a bond with has she wants to try again at dp, vagina dp
We don’t know if just us or do other couples have the same trouble finding this.
Is it our profile is to much( we had smaller profiles before) but find that after a number of messages we aren’t compatible so thought if everything is in the profile it cuts down ping pong chats
Any thoughts/advice would be great.
We will add we meet a female regular for and that works great we just want a guy for the same thing but for her to have lots of attention with
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Can't see the problem with you finding a single man but I can't message you privately to show you pictures of me. I'd love to join your wife |
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"Hi hope you sexy lot can give a little advice
We are a couple been swinging on and off the scene a number of years and met some lovely people ago the journey
The problem we have is for the last 12 months we’ve been looking for a single guy for some regular fun, so she is the centre of attention but we are finding it hard to find that guy.
We don’t want a bull
A guy that what’s to meet just her alone
A dom
Are what ever else
We are just after a guy to meet regularly who we can trust and build up a bond with has she wants to try again at dp, vagina dp
We don’t know if just us or do other couples have the same trouble finding this.
Is it our profile is to much( we had smaller profiles before) but find that after a number of messages we aren’t compatible so thought if everything is in the profile it cuts down ping pong chats
Any thoughts/advice would be great.
We will add we meet a female regular for and that works great we just want a guy for the same thing but for her to have lots of attention with
Can't see the problem with you finding a single man but I can't message you privately to show you pictures of me. I'd love to join your wife "
No idea why you can’t message private has we’ve not filters on to stop messages |
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By *abioMan 12 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hi hope you sexy lot can give a little advice
We are a couple been swinging on and off the scene a number of years and met some lovely people ago the journey
The problem we have is for the last 12 months we’ve been looking for a single guy for some regular fun, so she is the centre of attention but we are finding it hard to find that guy.
We don’t want a bull
A guy that what’s to meet just her alone
A dom
Are what ever else
We are just after a guy to meet regularly who we can trust and build up a bond with has she wants to try again at dp, vagina dp
We don’t know if just us or do other couples have the same trouble finding this.
Is it our profile is to much( we had smaller profiles before) but find that after a number of messages we aren’t compatible so thought if everything is in the profile it cuts down ping pong chats
Any thoughts/advice would be great.
We will add we meet a female regular for and that works great we just want a guy for the same thing but for her to have lots of attention with
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I've not even looked at your profile yet… but I would say this before even starting….
if you know exactly what you are after… then be proactive and be the hunter so to speak…. Rather than waiting on people to come to you!
You make the first move and contact
You sell yourself to them
A lot of the people out there you may want are already out there… a lot can be said for those who network
I might look at your profile in a mo and see if anything screams red flags to me |
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By *abioMan 12 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
To be honest… nothing wrong with the profile as such, even if I was the type of person you were after, I personally would not send a first message to you (there are bits in it that make me personally squirm a bit, and there is one particular bit that is a red flag no for me)
Not going to tell you what those are because if you listen to everyone’s feedback and change it (ask a hundred different people and you will get a hundred different answers) then a profile isn’t authentically yours anymore
But the 1st thing I said is the biggest thing I would say to you…. If you are that specific about what you are after, then you find them! Don’t rely on them finding you! |
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I've found lots of couples say they want a regular local guy, but don't want to put any effort in after the initial meet, instead only replying if the guy contacts them.
Lots of guys like myself are looking for regular meets with couples, not all of us are looking for 1-offs. Most of the couples I've met over the years have turned into regular meets, doing exactly the kind of activities you're looking to try.
As others have said, do some leg work and contact local guys you like the look of, you're more likely to find us 'hidden gems' that way.
Your profile looks fine, maybe broaden your scope a bit. You may meet great guys who you click with, that may not immediately fall into your 'type' category.
Good luck in your search |
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"I've found lots of couples say they want a regular local guy, but don't want to put any effort in after the initial meet, instead only replying if the guy contacts them.
Lots of guys like myself are looking for regular meets with couples, not all of us are looking for 1-offs. Most of the couples I've met over the years have turned into regular meets, doing exactly the kind of activities you're looking to try.
As others have said, do some leg work and contact local guys you like the look of, you're more likely to find us 'hidden gems' that way.
Your profile looks fine, maybe broaden your scope a bit. You may meet great guys who you click with, that may not immediately fall into your 'type' category.
Good luck in your search "
Thank you your reply, we’ve messaged quite a few guy that have she has liked the look of and profile was good. Mostly about a hours travel some easier to met regular but after a chat most of fizzled out and lead to nothing much. But we’ve had a great meeting at the weekend and hopefully things will carry on. |
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"Not many single men want regular meets with one couple. They might say they do but the reality is that nobody can make commitments like that. "
That's exactly what I'm looking for, I would love to find a couple for regular meets |
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