I'm looking for advice either dom female or male don't know if there's a difference anyhow I'm a bi top and a female friend wants to try dom with me ie she's dom I'm sub. I'm not into humiliation but am willing to do things I'm told to do.
Any advice I'm a sub virgin so to speak also is there a dress code for me I must admit I do like to be in just underwear or bollocky buff.
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For me no one can advise you. Sorry
D/s is a state of mind. It starts and ends there and develops from there over time with communication and trust and honesty
If you’re not properly committed to it and in the right head space the potential for physical and mental damage is huge.
There is a play side to it, maybe this sounds where you’re more leaning towards but even then only you know your limits, and if you don’t, then you need even more open communication and huge trust of the person you’re with
I don’t think anyone can rightfully suggest anything without knowing a whole load more and even then it’s not really their place.
There are mentors out there, but be careful they are not doing it just for their gratification rather than yours
Speak to her. This is the exciting part. Setting the scene. What you want and need and what they want and need
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Sounds like she’s asking you to bottom not D/s. Clunky use of language perhaps? Bottoming (ie. Reciving), is different to D/s and may be an easier mindset to get into? Defining what you want and communicating your boundaries, wishes, hots, nots and beige (ambivalent) activities might be a place to start.
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"I'm looking for advice either dom female or male don't know if there's a difference anyhow I'm a bi top and a female friend wants to try dom with me ie she's dom I'm sub. I'm not into humiliation but am willing to do things I'm told to do.
Any advice I'm a sub virgin so to speak also is there a dress code for me I must admit I do like to be in just underwear or bollocky buff.
Advice ASAP please "
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