A club is just a great night out. Its just freedom. You are more than welcome in a club just enjoy the environment, the social aspect, the people and just to watch.
Your not the only ones. Only the other day we met a couple in a club who been going for years and categorically don't swing. They just love the freedom to dress down, hang out with fun people and for the just the freedom to fuck as a couple when they want in all spaces provided.
Really don't hold back, go, see. Its really not a big deal and you'll kick yourselves you didn't do it sooner. People won't be bothered if you don't swing. They'll just love that you're there adding your personalities to the atmosphere and enriching the experience. Obviously people will find you hot and be intrested. All you need to do is be frank and open about your boundaries if conversation moves that way. But people are lovely and it's totally OK. And there's plenty of us in a club who love to be watched and love to know other couples are enjoying watching. However I would also say environment wise for what you want selecting the right club and night is important for the right environment for you to feel most at ease. |
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You shouldn't feel under any pressure when you go to a club. Enjoy the atmosphere the people and get a sense for what swinging truly is about with the people there. I have been to clubs where I have watched and felt nonpressures equally I have been and enjoyed fantastic pleasures too. Good luck and so what's right for you x  |
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We do swing in clubs but also, at times we just want to enjoy ourselves without the involvement of others...its what you feel like doing at that moment and there should never be any pressure from anyone. |
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We certainly always go with an open mind. We are happy in each others company and if people want to watch us then that's great too.
We go with the flow and never do anything we don't want to. As all good clubs will state 'no means NO!'
Remember you're there for your enjoyment not there to please all and sundry. |
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"We are wanting to go have a look what goes on in clubs but without the pressure of people wanting to play.
Is this something that happens?
Just a thought really."
We just looked around and sat at the bar terrified for our first 3 visits, eventually played together and then with a couple, a disaster, next couple lovely.
Just tell people you are new and taking things one step at a time.
If anyone, not just single guys but couples too, get pushy tell the staff, no club wants to loose new couples.
Have a great time, it's nerve racking but so exciting.
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We enjoy watching, and also enjoy being watched if there is no one we want to play with (or they with us). The bigger the audience the better!
We see lots of couples and singles who spend the evening in a club just watching. You would be made welcome. |
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We have been to clubs 50 plus times and played with others twice.
More often than not its either people watching us, or occasionally us watching others.
Play in blackpool has a specific room (as I’m sure do others) where you can lock the door and the viewers are behind a one way mirror.
Just be aware people can still be a more than you’d like in this scenario. Our pet hate os people giving very loud opinions (why doesn't she do…. Why doesn't he try…) like you are solely there for their gratification.
So, as long as you do what you choose, for your benefit, youll be fine. |
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"We are wanting to go have a look what goes on in clubs but without the pressure of people wanting to play.
Is this something that happens?
Just a thought really."
There’s loads of couples and singles that just go for the social side of the clubs and also just to enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere. It gives the ladies a chance to dress up in their underwear and heels and give their men a thrill - there’s never going to be anyone pressuring you to play. Sure, you look fantastic and will probably get a few offers I’m sure but just say no thanks, not playing tonight. There’s many couples who will go to clubs and only have sex between themselves - lock themselves in a playroom and have fun and there are those who will have sex in the couples rooms and enjoy the experience of being watched (or watching). Give it a go, life is about the experiences! |
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By *oxy jWoman 5 weeks ago
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theres never any pressure you do you and dont worry about others its still your rules just be up front with people when chatting by saying just here to check things out so not playing most people will be great ignore the few but most clubs most clubs are very welcoming ...
we've been swinging 30 yrs plus do clubs once a month more than often dont play simply because no one catches our eye and you'll find from others people only play if theres someone they want to play with so just go enjoy just dont forget you are in charge of you so say no thanks as often as you please most wont be offended and those who are tough poos
dont let others tell you what to do as they only have self interest |
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We have been to clubs were people like to dress down and just watch, we have no issue as long as if we start a conversation with someone we’re attracted too that they make us aware early on… we’re there to swing!
However, we have left clubs without any action with other people/couple way more times than we have interacted, but we don’t mind! We’re a quality over quantity couple. |
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