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"We won't meet those that don't kiss. Totally respect their wishes, but for us,it's a must. "
Yes we completely understand that's why we put it on our profile because we won't meet people who insist on it. Everyone gets what they want that way. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I’ve seen this debated a lot before …
For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two.
I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this….
But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m
Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man…
It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel …
I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side …
Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate …
Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry ….
I know what I mean tho !!!
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When my and my husband started swinging kissing was an absolute no because its so intimate.
There's not a huge amount of room for intimate kissing during a threesome anyway so it was never an issue.
Meeting alone though, kissing plays an important part so we relaxed the rules and now I couldn't live without it. Even when someone joins us both kissing is a part of it for me although I still feel weird kissing someone in front of hubby.
I wouldn't expect any woman to meet my husband without kissing being involved so although I've never seen it yet it isn't something that bothers me. |
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"No kissing, no go, apart from the fact playing without kissing is tedious, it also throws up a load of issues about the non kisser..."
This has often been said. What issues does it throw up in your opinion? Genuinely interested |
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"No kissing, no go, apart from the fact playing without kissing is tedious, it also throws up a load of issues about the non kisser..."
What issues does it throw up?
Also why is it tedious without kissing someone on the lips? |
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us.
But, mainly we just love it!  "
We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting |
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It's a yes from us, can't see why kissing would be an issue yet having somebody's dick in your wife's mouth is not lmao
Kissing is a massive part of foreplay but we have met people who are terrible kissers though  |
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us.
But, mainly we just love it!
We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting"
I agree people seem to want to read more into it, if people like kissing so much, they can easily just avoid those who don't kiss meets. |
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us.
But, mainly we just love it!
We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting
I agree people seem to want to read more into it, if people like kissing so much, they can easily just avoid those who don't kiss meets. "
It's why we put it on our profile so we can easily be avoided. |
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Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand.
Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. |
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand.
Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. "
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By *andb69Couple 12 weeks ago
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Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that.
What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. |
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that.
What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will.  I was going to add more or less the same thing  we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.. "
Yep!
I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth  |
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before …
For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two.
I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this….
But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m
Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man…
It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel …
I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side …
Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate …
Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry ….
I know what I mean tho !!!
Woman typing. "
Thankyou so much for this. You have hit the Nail on the head!
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
This is exactly how I feel. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before …
For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two.
I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this….
But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m
Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man…
It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel …
I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side …
Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate …
Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry ….
I know what I mean tho !!!
Woman typing.
Thankyou so much for this. You have hit the Nail on the head!
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
This is exactly how I feel. "
At least it made sense to someone xxxxxxxx |
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand.
Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. "
Thankyou for this.. I completely ageee. Everyone is different and everyone should just respect everyone else’s boundaries no matter what they are |
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before …
For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two.
I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this….
But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m
Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man…
It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel …
I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side …
Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate …
Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry ….
I know what I mean tho !!!
Woman typing. "
We are exactly the same.
C x |
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us.
But, mainly we just love it! "
You are definitely wrong. We don’t kiss and our relationship in and outside of swinging is rock solid. Everyone sets their own boundaries for different reasons and it isn’t for anyone to make assumptions or judge others for those boundaries.
C x |
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand.
Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. "
Exactly that. Everyone has different boundaries as everyone is different, I don’t see why others have to insult just because someone’s opinion is different to theirs. |
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that.
What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. "
That’s really good to know. Thankyou for sharing this. |
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that.
What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss..
Yep!
I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth "
Thankyou for sharing this. This good to know. |
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"Let's face it, there's lots of people for both sides.
Nobody has to explain their preferences.
Exactly. Some like and others not. Why best to always ask what like or not and respect that always"
100 agree. Thankyou |
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By *andT2023Couple 12 weeks ago
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I would find it hard to get going so to speak without kissing . It would feel very mechanical and straight to the action. I love the build up with kissing. And if i am happy to engage my lips elsewhere i dont see an issue.
Not to say i dont respect others who dont. Its just our preference.
Ms T xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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We initially were against when we first thought to try swinging. Now we don't mind each other kissing other people when it comes to swapping partners to have sex. |
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We have always been in the "no kissing" camp because for us, as several others have also noted, there is a level of romantic intimacy associated with kissing which (for us) doesn't attach to other aspects of sex. And no, it does not reflect some sort of underlying insecurity or "red flag" - we have been together for several decades (!) and our relationship is as solid as a rock. We would though make a distinction between kissing on the mouth/with tongues, and kissing other parts of the body which we always enjoy with play partners |
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"We have always been in the "no kissing" camp because for us, as several others have also noted, there is a level of romantic intimacy associated with kissing which (for us) doesn't attach to other aspects of sex. And no, it does not reflect some sort of underlying insecurity or "red flag" - we have been together for several decades (!) and our relationship is as solid as a rock. We would though make a distinction between kissing on the mouth/with tongues, and kissing other parts of the body which we always enjoy with play partners"
Exactly this! People also forget that there are neurodivergent people out there who struggle with things that others don’t. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone except those involved, you just need to be able to respect the boundary and if you can’t, then you’re not compatible and that’s fine.
C x |
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that.
What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss..
Yep!
I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth "
As a single lady I didn't kiss guys.... it's a personal reason for me,and can make me feel very uncomfortable... as a couple I will very occasionally but still finding I prefer not to kiss other men.. nothing to do with insecurities or red flags just that it is not something I enjoy with other guys...
Mr kisses other ladies a lot..I love seeing it. No one ever seems to notice that I rarely if ever kiss other men. X |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before …
For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two.
I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this….
But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m
Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man…
It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel …
I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side …
Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate …
Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry ….
I know what I mean tho !!!
Woman typing.
We are exactly the same.
C x"
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Kissing is massive to both of us. We could quite happily just spend a night Kissing lots of different people. However Kissing genrally unlocks that chemistry with the right people that leads to more |
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl "
don't need to understand it at all.. juat respect it. Respect goes a long way in this world |
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It’s funny we are exactly the same , we tried kissing others and it upset me, the wierd thing is I’m more than happy to see his cock being sucked or him going down on a woman but the second he kisses her it hurts ! I like you also love to kiss females and it turns me on and also my man because he loves to watch it so that works for us.
Kissing to me is loving and sensual, I think two women doing this is ok because we are not going to run off with each other but if male and females kiss there could get chemistry that isn’t just the filth of sex..
Now I’ve waffled on lol ! |
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl don't need to understand it at all.. juat respect it. Respect goes a long way in this world "
Obvs and we know that,but it’s a general forum thread for us to share ours views so respect that Pmsl |
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By *andb69Couple 12 weeks ago
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl "
Why do you feel the need to understand it? All you need to do is respect it and accept that it's not for you, just as some people might find your choices are not for them but they respect your right to choose. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Oh, me! Have and would walk away again due to "no kissing". A bit of light play is fine without. But for sex? Need kissing. And *do* notice.
Happened once in my 20s. Little lunch time hello with nothing mentioned; back to theirs after work. Found out about the rule...
I tried to give it a shot but was not motivated to touch them at all. So, after barely tolerating them fondling me a bit, I left.
Their summary "Ah, well, at least you now know you really don't like that then"  |
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