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"Many people read profiles before the message. Do you feel yours gives an accurate picture of what someone could expect if they met you or what you expect from them? "
In all honesty, I'm baffled by what to put. I've done the long wordy profile and tried to narrow it down over the past year, neither appears to help and if any interest is show, it's fro males and I clearly state that I'm straight so can't figure out where I'm going wrong.   |
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You can filter out mail from sing men of it helps.
You're probably not doing anything wrong in particular, there are a lot of guys to women in fab. Are there any social events near you, do you chat in the forum much? |
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Ah ok, I'll look into the settings and sort that out, thanks.
I'd feel creepy turning up to an event on my own, just feels wrong to go to the clubs as a single man, pub's are a different thing, but swingers club's seem alien to me unfortunately |
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"Ah ok, I'll look into the settings and sort that out, thanks.
I'd feel creepy turning up to an event on my own, just feels wrong to go to the clubs as a single man, pub's are a different thing, but swingers club's seem alien to me unfortunately "
Have you been to a club? If not then you don't know so worth trying. |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.  "
Personally I would like to see more in your profile… what exactly are you looking for?
What do you have to offer… what makes you special compared to every other bloke?
I like more photos of full body… ideally standing! Blur/block of face and intimate area if desired but I want to see what’s on offer!
Good luck |
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "
Your profile is frankly terrible. Work out what draws you to other profiles and then put some of that in your own. It's more important to say what you do like rather than what you don't and what you are looking for. Lx |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"Unless I’m totally missing something the first line of your profile makes no sense to me 🤷♀️
I think he changed his username, used to be something Dom related. Just forgot to update bio  "
Now it makes sense. Thank you. I thought must be a euphemism for something 😁 |
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"Ah ok, I'll look into the settings and sort that out, thanks.
I'd feel creepy turning up to an event on my own, just feels wrong to go to the clubs as a single man, pub's are a different thing, but swingers club's seem alien to me unfortunately "
Why, I go alone to events and others with my husband, yes it's nerve-wracking but just go for it. |
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Because most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, the vast majority of Messi won't be replied to. They'll view your profile to see if they match and move on, when you don't
Obviously many clear photos helps them to know if it could physically work. Likewise, clear details of what you offer, completes the picture. Clubs are like pubs but with additional facilities. Single men are needed in them, on the nights that are open to them. |
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Your pictures are pretty poor and your bio is none existent.
You are competing with a lot of single guys on here and you need to stand out....you don't.
Also you can't accommodate and for us it screams cheating.not always the case we know that.
We won't ask anyone why they can't accommodate,nothing to do with us.
Just won't.meet them. |
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By *oxy jWoman 26 weeks ago
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you cant make someone like you ..its that simple and until someone does then its a waiting game but with how few women and couples there are on this scene in general the as a guy its simple '' there is not someone for everyone on this scene '' do the maths and its pretty clear |
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I'll be honest op, I don't think the first 2 pics add any value to your profile, you can't tell anything about you from them.
Also your profile text is Excatly the same as your tag line and tells us nothing at all except you're tall and want nsa fun.
What do you offer meets and what are you actually into, you need 5o try and sell yourself a bit. |
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By *nesCouple 25 weeks ago
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "
You say you’re single, but your profile says attached (and can’t accommodate) so my money’s on you’ve got a wife at home who doesn’t realise what’s going on. HTH  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
You say you’re single, but your profile says attached (and can’t accommodate) so my money’s on you’ve got a wife at home who doesn’t realise what’s going on. HTH "
Good catch!
Hadn’t spotted that!
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"The pictures are all totally pointless.
Why bother with all that effort at covering up?"
Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc |
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"The pictures are all totally pointless.
Why bother with all that effort at covering up?
Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc"
Cropping looks better than the dumb emojis. |
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"Delete the dick pics
Dick pics in a bathroom just scream that you’re attached and taking a pic whilst the unknowing partner is watching tv
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Agreed. The pictures are low quality, and the bio is uninformative. |
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"Delete the dick pics
Dick pics in a bathroom just scream that you’re attached and taking a pic whilst the unknowing partner is watching tv "
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I agree. The cock photos will mostly close any potential doors of opportunity on here than open them. |
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"The pictures are all totally pointless.
Why bother with all that effort at covering up?
Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc"
People told you 25 weeks ago that cropped pictures look better than emojis. |
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"The pictures are all totally pointless.
Why bother with all that effort at covering up?
Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc
People told you 25 weeks ago that cropped pictures look better than emojis. "
Yes. No sign of improvement in such a long time is not a good sign. |
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
Try going to local socials or a club and meet people in real life "
This something I do intend on doing, just feels a little odd to me is all |
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"Several people have said that cropped photos are way better than pixelated nonsense, and you’ve just added a new one…. It would be a no from me. "
I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse, almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃 |
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"Any better?
No.
😔 right in the feels....lol
We said cropped.
We said better profile text.
You did neither."
In my defence, I've had way more people say the opposite, I just don't seem to get the right balance is all x |
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I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse "
I think they would look better !
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almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃"
I'm afraid I don't understand this |
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Take photos of yourself. You can do it right now.
Prop your phone up with something - a book, the end of your bed, whatever. Either use the timer function or take stills from videos. There'll be lots of bloopers, but only you get to see those. Pose for the camera etc.
And crop your head. Don't pixelate, don't emoji, don't scribble. Crop. |
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I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse
I think they would look better !
almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃
I'm afraid I don't understand this"
I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x |
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"Any better?
No.
😔 right in the feels....lol
We said cropped.
We said better profile text.
You did neither.
In my defence, I've had way more people say the opposite, I just don't seem to get the right balance is all x"
Your profile screams to me "just another dude, not that interesting, says he's interested in everything, which probably means he's inexperienced or lying". It'd be an instant delete.
It's only my perspective, but it's all anyone is offering here. |
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I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse
I think they would look better !
almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃
I'm afraid I don't understand this
I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x"
Nobody is suggesting you show your face. |
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I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x"
This is why we are suggesting cropping the head off all the clothed pics you have posted, rather than pixelating |
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"I honestly don’t understand why you’re asking for help, as you seem to have a reason to not do everything that is suggested by your target audience. "
In these types of threads, I'm often torn between "if I post in the forum, maybe the women will come to me" (we won't) and "I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas". |
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"OP has anyone on this thread advised keeping all the dick pics ?"
Is it wrong to pre-empt this one with the answer to the usual response?
If the only parts of your body are your face and your penis, you should see a doctor and are probably a medical miracle. Congratulations and/or I'm sorry. |
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
Try going to local socials or a club and meet people in real life
This something I do intend on doing, just feels a little odd to me is all"
Yeah, the first time that I went to a club I felt very self-conscious going on my own. But it proves that you can walk the walk. Think of it as just being like a bar, which happens to have a dance floor area where some people might be dressed a little less than most places. Swinging clubs rely on having at least a few single guys going along, so it's not actually unusual being there on your own. Just don't imagine that it'll be wall to wall women all waiting to fuck you. There's loads of other threads in these forums about what to expect from a swinging club, read some of those threads and make sure that you go with the right attitude.
As I said above, I was self-conscious the first time I went into a club. But half an hour later I was feeling totally at ease. I didn't have sex with anyone that night, and not for another half dozen visits either. But I did make friends on that first visit, I got verifications, I started chatting on fab with people that I'd met that evening.
There's nothing on fab, or in clubs, or at social parties, that gives any assurance of getting sex. But all of these together provide a gateway into a social life where you might meet women, you might find sexual experiences, you might even end up with a partner. But you have to put the work in, which means doing a lot more than just having a below average profile and being afraid to actually get out into the world. |
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I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse
I think they would look better !
almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃
I'm afraid I don't understand this
I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x"
What don’t you understand? I work in the public sector industry to protect my identity I have cropped my head out of photos |
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"I'm certainly grateful for all you comments and advice, I've literally almost pissed myself laughing at my incompetence at taking pictures 🤭🤣 there one thing for sure, I'm no David Bailey 📷"
Very normal. When I get into taking pictures for Fab, there's usually a good one in every fifty attempts. |
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Thank you x I'll keep trying ha ha, dick picks gone too, but you can guarantee, someone will ask what there is to work with! Suppose it's better to be asked for a dick pic rather than ...boom, here it is. All appreciated and I'll take on board 🙏 |
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"Added a little, but never good at talking about myself without coming across as arrogant or waffling "
You might just want to run it through a spell checker. Not being snotty saying that but it helps create a good impression.
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"Looking for women to enjoy nsa fun with
Looking for women or the right couple to enjoy all aspects of fun with
Could you merge these two phrases rather than having repetition ? "
Well spotted, sounded awkward x thanks |
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