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Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while |
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"Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while "
She's being honest with you, don't project your values on to her. |
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Sorry guys I might have come across as a hypocrite or sounding like I’m worried that she’s cheating on me, I’m not at all trying to shame her.
I’m glad she could come to me and ask about it. I was just looking for opinions on if she’s still possibly thinking about it or looking to cuck me? |
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"Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while
She's being honest with you, don't project your values on to her. "
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"Sorry guys I might have come across as a hypocrite or sounding like I’m worried that she’s cheating on me, I’m not at all trying to shame her.
I’m glad she could come to me and ask about it. I was just looking for opinions on if she’s still possibly thinking about it or looking to cuck me? "
Ask her! How on earth can we know what she's thinking. Is your motive really that you *want* her to cheat? |
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"Like I said I am not judging her!
Haven’t kissed or met anyone from here.
Just wondering if this is a thing girls do to test there partners or what "
How is her asking If she can kiss someone testing *you*? |
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"Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while "
I think you are a lucky man and you should delete your fab account. |
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I've seen many people who are cheating, accuse their partners of doing the same.
It'll be because you know what you're doing isn't right, so you're trying to justify it, by trying to make her guilty too. |
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You're on here, she's asking permission to kiss another guy.
You're both done. Split up and get it over and done with.
I'm not going to explain it to you but i will tell you this. The psychology of men and women cheating on their partners, how they do it and why they do it has been well documented and debated in the last few decades. And tha ks to the Internet you can find all the information you want about it.
You can research it at your own leisure but I promise you, if she was committed to you, she wouldn't even be asking for permission. Actual swinger couples where both partners engage in the lifestyle are a different ball game...but that isn't the case for you I am assuming?
And I'm sure some ladies here could say the same about yourself since youre on here and how committed you are.... ...but psychologically speaking it's different ball game for both genders when it comes to this stuff.
End it. Youre not "the one" for each other because if you where....this situation wouldn't even have happened.
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You say it’s not hypocrisy, well it is
At least she asked your permission yet you’re on here without her knowledge
So maybe show her your profile here and whoever is in the photo, best case is it’s her and you’ve violated her privacy, worse case is it’s someone else and you’ve done that
In fact there is no best case at all |
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By *8bobMan 16 weeks ago
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When I was your age Goofy I used to get jealous easily and if asked would have probably given the same answer.
Now much older if my wife found herself in that position she probably wouldn’t think to ask me but hopefully just tell me about it when she got home. My only hope would be that it didn’t stop at just a kiss.
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Having been a cuck for over 30 years, I would read these signals as she wants your acceptance that she can cuckold you.
You need to decide if that’s what you want and if you love her enough for the relationship to develop into that sort of relationship going forwards.
Something you need to get you head around and talk to her about. |
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Tbh op you can't pull the moral high ground on this one, why not say go for it see what happens and it may open up a conversation with new possibilities. Alternatively it'll expose you as a hypocrite, life's full of choices some good some not so good and some just different. |
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By *w214Couple 16 weeks ago
Wirral |
Get in the sea.
This is either pure attention seeking fantasy or you're an awful human being with no morals or standards.
I hope you get what you deserve and not what you want from this post.
We'll be blocking you.
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What? You weren't happy with it, but you are on here behind her back?
Why would you not be happy with it? What gives you the right to do what you want and then have any say in denying her what she wants?
I think you may need to look at yourself and figure out how you can be be better boyfriend, or let her go and enjoy her life! |
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"Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
She is a seriously considerate and caring girl, whereas as you are a complete hypocrite with double standards to match any Westminster occupant. If this is a serious and true post you need to take a long hard look at yourself.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while "
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"Ha ha yeah…..she fucked him for sure.  "
Of course, she did. Then went home with a cum filled pussy .
She probably fucked a few other guys not just that one.
OP, what are you going to do about ? You are on here without her knowledge, believing that she trusts you. Clearly you are betraying her . And so does she. She fucks everyone she fancies . She might even have a profile here.
Do you want to find out if she is a slut? Send me pm and I'll tell you how. |
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"I think guilty consciences judge others by their standards and assume others are also up to no good. "
Funny old thing that. My ex wife often put me under interrogation and sometimes outright accused me of cheating (on really baseless grounds as well). I was always faithful, yet ironically after all the shit she put me through she cheated on me and in hindsight I dont think that was the first time either (but I trusted her so gave a couple of iffy things the benifit of the doubt). I was explaining this to my therapist and she told me "people who can't be trusted themselves can rarely trust other people". It made complete sense when I thought about it. |
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You're choosing to meet people to use your good stamina with and asking about her choices? It would probably be ideal if you have equality in the relationship and trust each other to engage as agreed
I'm inclined to think that she's very trustworthy but only you know her. |
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"Hey, I know I’m a singles profile but I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now (girlfriend doesn’t know I’m on this) and recently my girl friend was on a night out and texted me to ask me if she could kiss a guy she bumped into and knew from before.
I told her I wasn’t happy with that and she said ok that it’s fine and she was only asking. She didn’t seem annoyed by it at all.
After the pub closed she went back to her friends house with about 10 other people for a few drinks. The guy she asked for permission to get with was also there. I trust her when she told me she wasn’t with him but what do you guys think? She’s never been defensive about it and she said she would never get with him if I wasn’t happy with it.
What do you guys think? Is she lying to me or was she being honest? It’s been playing in my mind a while "
From what you've said there's no ground to suggest she's cheated only that she has been open and honest with you and respected your boundaries.
From what has been said hat's off to this woman for her openness, honesty and respect. Maybe she would be better off with someone who respects this, gives it her this back in return and gives her loving freedom to explore and be herself.
Ironically (unlike yourself) she sounds like she'd thrive in a swinging/non-monogamous relationship. Maybe it's her who should be trusted to be on here not you. |
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The replies are justifiably harsh on OP yet it's unnecessary. OP shared something with us , whether true or fictious. Best to reply to his question instead of becoming unappointed judges.
It's none of my business who cheats and what not.
In short, the answer to his question is : we cannot possibly know what happened . She might've kissed the guy, she may have not , she may
have fucked him and been doing this for ages...We don't know.
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