Got my first wink a few days ago. Sent a message to the winker, but despite them having been back online a few times my message remains stubbornly unread.
I thought a wink was to denote some sort of passing interest, but maybe I'm wrong. Just seems odd to send one and then not even bother to read a response - what's the point? |
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Most people use winks to show an interest before messaging. Be aware that on a tablet on the desktop site it's easy to send an accidental wink (we've done it), one accidental touch of the wink button and it's gone. |
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I will send a wink initially as, from experiences when part of a couple, couples/single ladies can be inundated with messages and (as per my profile) I don’t want to add to the pile initially. If I get a wink back I’ll then send a message.
Caveat to this is if a profile says that winks are ignored then I’ll send a message.
For me the wink is not being lazy, purely me doing my best to respect the people I’m seeking to engage. |
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"Got my first wink a few days ago. Sent a message to the winker, but despite them having been back online a few times my message remains stubbornly unread.
I thought a wink was to denote some sort of passing interest, but maybe I'm wrong. Just seems odd to send one and then not even bother to read a response - what's the point?"
This is standard and would say happens about 90% of the time when we respond to winks.
Like you we find it baffling why someone would wink then ignore a message from someone THEY winked at. 🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻 |
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I don't get certain couples when they clearly state on their profiles that they're only looking for females and maybe other couples and not single men which is kool and I respect their wish but yet they wink, fab and sometimes send me messages |
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"I don't get certain couples when they clearly state on their profiles that they're only looking for females and maybe other couples and not single men which is kool and I respect their wish but yet they wink, fab and sometimes send me messages "
Our profile says not looking for single Men as we don't want to be inundated with messages. Today we messaged a Man about meeting as it's something we do occasionally, but we really can't be doing with loads of messages. |
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"Got my first wink a few days ago. Sent a message to the winker, but despite them having been back online a few times my message remains stubbornly unread… "
That’s because your message has joined the winkers 300 other yellow messages and effectively disappeared into the background. Sometimes it takes days for even good female friends to realise I’ve messaged them
Or… it was a slip of the finger and they didn’t mean to wink |
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"I don't get certain couples when they clearly state on their profiles that they're only looking for females and maybe other couples and not single men which is kool and I respect their wish but yet they wink, fab and sometimes send me messages
Our profile says not looking for single Men as we don't want to be inundated with messages. Today we messaged a Man about meeting as it's something we do occasionally, but we really can't be doing with loads of messages. "
So basically you couples say that just so that you don't get harassed by single men? Why not block messages from single men and message the ones you like? Lol |
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Might send a few now actually 
