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I was wondering if anyone could help me understand what makes a good opening message. My reply rate seems to be very close to 0 and I was just hoping maybe somebody could help me with what works for them. |
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"Everyone will be different but just something coherent would be good along with reading a profile before considering sending a message."
I do always try to find something on a profile to talk about, just seems my messages don’t get opened ![](/icons/s/sad.gif) |
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"Everyone will be different but just something coherent would be good along with reading a profile before considering sending a message.
I do always try to find something on a profile to talk about, just seems my messages don’t get opened "
Don't forget that people may well read your profile before considering responding and if they don't think you're a fit for them they may not bother opening your message. |
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"Everyone will be different but just something coherent would be good along with reading a profile before considering sending a message.
I do always try to find something on a profile to talk about, just seems my messages don’t get opened
Don't forget that people may well read your profile before considering responding and if they don't think you're a fit for them they may not bother opening your message."
It’s very Rarely that people click on my profile to see |
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"Everyone will be different but just something coherent would be good along with reading a profile before considering sending a message.
I do always try to find something on a profile to talk about, just seems my messages don’t get opened
Don't forget that people may well read your profile before considering responding and if they don't think you're a fit for them they may not bother opening your message.
It’s very Rarely that people click on my profile to see "
Most women view in 'stealth mode' so you won't know if they have looked or not. |
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"Everyone will be different but just something coherent would be good along with reading a profile before considering sending a message.
I do always try to find something on a profile to talk about, just seems my messages don’t get opened
Don't forget that people may well read your profile before considering responding and if they don't think you're a fit for them they may not bother opening your message.
It’s very Rarely that people click on my profile to see
Most women view in 'stealth mode' so you won't know if they have looked or not. "
Didn’t even know that was a thing lol |
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By *nipeMan 7 weeks ago
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I wouldn't worry to much about it bud!... if they want you, they will find you!... it's gone to crap this site now...the male to female ratio will be well out.... women get 100s of messages a day....so most of them will go unread or ignored... ![](/icons/s/sad.gif) |
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"Long enough to give me a feel for what you’re looking for and why you think we’d be compatible. Nothing too sexualised as an opener and no long stories telling me what you’d do. "
So from a first message you’re looking for a guy to tell you what he’s looking for? I’m just confused because you’ve said nothing to sexual but say your intnentions. |
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"Long enough to give me a feel for what you’re looking for and why you think we’d be compatible. Nothing too sexualised as an opener and no long stories telling me what you’d do.
So from a first message you’re looking for a guy to tell you what he’s looking for? I’m just confused because you’ve said nothing to sexual but say your intnentions. "
It’s the difference between saying I’m looking for regular meets with women in a club environment vs I want to lick your pussy until you scream. |
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"Long enough to give me a feel for what you’re looking for and why you think we’d be compatible. Nothing too sexualised as an opener and no long stories telling me what you’d do.
So from a first message you’re looking for a guy to tell you what he’s looking for? I’m just confused because you’ve said nothing to sexual but say your intnentions.
It’s the difference between saying I’m looking for regular meets with women in a club environment vs I want to lick your pussy until you scream. "
Thank you for answering what probably seemed like a silly question I’ll give that a go thank you |
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"Long enough to give me a feel for what you’re looking for and why you think we’d be compatible. Nothing too sexualised as an opener and no long stories telling me what you’d do.
So from a first message you’re looking for a guy to tell you what he’s looking for? I’m just confused because you’ve said nothing to sexual but say your intnentions.
It’s the difference between saying I’m looking for regular meets with women in a club environment vs I want to lick your pussy until you scream.
Thank you for answering what probably seemed like a silly question I’ll give that a go thank you"
No I realise it could have sounded contradictory if you didn’t know what kind of messages I was thinking of ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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"Long enough to give me a feel for what you’re looking for and why you think we’d be compatible. Nothing too sexualised as an opener and no long stories telling me what you’d do.
So from a first message you’re looking for a guy to tell you what he’s looking for? I’m just confused because you’ve said nothing to sexual but say your intnentions.
It’s the difference between saying I’m looking for regular meets with women in a club environment vs I want to lick your pussy until you scream.
Thank you for answering what probably seemed like a silly question I’ll give that a go thank you
No I realise it could have sounded contradictory if you didn’t know what kind of messages I was thinking of "
Either way I’m grateful for the help you’ve given thank you ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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Try to match their requirements before you message, don't send images that you wouldn't feel uncomfortable showing to someone in the pub. Read the profile and don't just say hi or something similar and expect a meet. Wish you good luck on here, at least you're asking for advice ?? |
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"Try to match their requirements before you message, don't send images that you wouldn't feel uncomfortable showing to someone in the pub. Read the profile and don't just say hi or something similar and expect a meet. Wish you good luck on here, at least you're asking for advice ??"
I very very rarely send pictures on here if ever, I feel like I’ve got enough on my profile that I don’t need to send privately. I always try to read a profile I’m just not the greatest at creating something from what I’ve read. Sometimes in life help can be what you need ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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"you get a better response on a dating app. women are more honest than they are on here..
If your not willing to go to a social or a club , you are really wasting your time .........."
I wish I literally get no interest taken on any of my dating profiles. Had tinder over a month and I have 1 match lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"I normally insult them, like love someone who loves a greggs, that normally gets a reply
I’d rather never get a response than come across as rude or insulting "
That's where you're going wrong, they love it! ..you've got a hot body, toned and fit but maybe slow down on the 4 2 0 as it does look visually like it's having an affect on you. |
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