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"When ever I have been round men they can only have semis never fully erect. Why? What am I doing wrong? " How many men have you been round roughly? Is it 2 or 3 or are we talking about 20 men or higher? And do you mean that even during sex they aren’t erect? Obviously some men can’t get an erection or struggle to get an erection but it’s a small percentage that can’t so you must be very unlucky if every man you’ve been with is one of the small percentage. But it’s weird that you say they only get a semi, as if to imply that they are only half turned on…like you’re saying that men get more erect when they get more turned on and we can only get a semi if we aren’t turned on enough….and obviously that’s not true because if a man is turned on then he’ll get an erection, it doesn’t matter if he’s turned on a little bit or a lot, the erection will be the same. We don’t get semi’s if we’re only turned on a little bit…that’s not how it works for me anyway. If a man can’t get an erection for some sort of medical reason then he won’t get a semi either and if you’re with a man but he’s not totally attracted to you then he will still be able to get an erection, if i play with my dick myself it gets hard and i’m less attracted to myself than i am to any woman. | |||
"When ever I have been round men they can only have semis never fully erect. Why? What am I doing wrong? How many men have you been round roughly? Is it 2 or 3 or are we talking about 20 men or higher? And do you mean that even during sex they aren’t erect? Obviously some men can’t get an erection or struggle to get an erection but it’s a small percentage that can’t so you must be very unlucky if every man you’ve been with is one of the small percentage. But it’s weird that you say they only get a semi, as if to imply that they are only half turned on…like you’re saying that men get more erect when they get more turned on and we can only get a semi if we aren’t turned on enough….and obviously that’s not true because if a man is turned on then he’ll get an erection, it doesn’t matter if he’s turned on a little bit or a lot, the erection will be the same. We don’t get semi’s if we’re only turned on a little bit…that’s not how it works for me anyway. If a man can’t get an erection for some sort of medical reason then he won’t get a semi either and if you’re with a man but he’s not totally attracted to you then he will still be able to get an erection, if i play with my dick myself it gets hard and i’m less attracted to myself than i am to any woman. " Do you go from flaccid to rock hard erect?  I mean, the actual physical process involves a stage of tumescence so, respectfully, it's bs to say that failure to get a full erection, and maintain it, means a guy won't get semi hard. | |||
"When ever I have been round men they can only have semis never fully erect. Why? What am I doing wrong? " It’s happened to us now and then, they apologise and leave. Unsure if it’s nerves, alcohol, or just not feeling it no more ???!? I think it’s such a fantasy for some men that when it actually happens nerves get the better of them. It does make me feel a bit meh … afterwards tho… but I guess it’s just human nature… | |||
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"Condoms, initial nerves, not enough sleep, wanking too much !, making demands, lights too bright, not enough affection shown, worried his wife will find out, moving too quickly, uncomfortable environment or position, not enough chat and touch beforehand, worried he'll have a heart attack, lack of attraction, wanting kissing and oral to start...." A good long list of reasons and there are still many more that could be happening behind the scenes . OP, don't blame yourself in the slightest . When it happens, just be relaxed. Chat for a bit , kiss. Do something else, if you have time. Erection may return with a vengeance . If not, don't write him off. Meet on another occasion. My training as a masseur plays on me subconsciously. While with regular clients, there's absolutely zero sexual thought and feelings. When I meet for sex, if we do it straightaway , I can rip her apart with lust with my iron bar. However , if we start off with a massage , when it's a proper massage, not simply teasing the way untrained people would do as a prelude to sex, the moment I touch the body, the pro kicks in me . No errection, no excitement . Purely: this is a body, massage to bring healing. It takes a bit of persuasion to get back in the mood afterwards. What works for me normally is receiving bj and switching my mind off from being a masseur. | |||
"When ever I have been round men they can only have semis never fully erect. Why? What am I doing wrong? " If you’re as negative (don’t do this/don’t do that), in real life, as you are in your profile, I’m not surprised to hear guys aren’t rock hard and ready to go with you….. Men aren’t machines, our cocks don’t just spring to attention because you clicked your fingers. Take your time. Be sexy. It will happen….  | |||
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"Condoms, initial nerves, not enough sleep, wanking too much !, making demands, lights too bright, not enough affection shown, worried his wife will find out, moving too quickly, uncomfortable environment or position, not enough chat and touch beforehand, worried he'll have a heart attack, lack of attraction, wanting kissing and oral to start...." __ Lights too bright? ?? Everyday is a school day... | |||
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