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Advice for single men in clubs- a couples perspective
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Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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Good advice there
After our last few experiences we would also add don’t be shy about approaching couples
Sometimes the couples can be shy about approaching single males and need that initial contact |
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I don't know how a couple can be nervous about approaching a single guy. It's 2 vs 1. The single guy should be the nervous one in that situation. If the couple is nervous they need some help. |
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We had a couple of these last night and one of the ‘followers’ proceeded to not say a word AT ALL! He just walked around ogling me then we went to a locked room with a glory hole, we could hear him shuffling around trying to look through and then he started to tap and signal with his hand for us to move over so he could see better  left after that where he then followed us to the changing rooms.. mouth on the floor while i dressed. When he was done he left without a word..  Hmm
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"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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As a single guy, I totally agree with all these points.
I used to frequent Cupid's fairly regularly before COVID.
Considering I'm not exactly Brad Pitt!! I had a lot of success with couples and single ladies by just being normal, having a drink at the bar and making interesting conversation. The nights I didn't get lucky were actually some of the best laughs! I also made friends through visiting the club.
So it is possible for single guys to be successful in clubs, just be "normal and patient and do expect too much" Happy fabbing.
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I'm not single.
I just go to the club without my wife regularly (if she's working) and I usually do so on the couples night, not singles night.
Everything you said is 100% true.
Effort goes a long way and it's categorically not my style to wander around watching couples anyway. I'm in the bar having a laugh. If I get invited elsewhere, game on. If I don't, I'm still having a good time chatting with freinds or making new ones.
I think a good rule of thumb is, go where you're invited and don't linger where you're not.
I personally hate it when my wife and I are followed around by guys (not our thing) so i won't do it to anyone else. |
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"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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Good summary of expected behaviour |
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"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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This should apply to everyone, not just "single" guys. Couples and other singles should have behaviour and appearance standards also. |
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"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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I think the real special sauce for single guys in clubs is having a bit of a spark and most of all the emotional intelligence to read the room. I think these are the guys who tend to do really well and it's not something you can buy or teach.
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"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.
I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-
Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably
If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.
Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?
Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me
Don't follow people round like a lemming
Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event
Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.
Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.
Put a bit of effort in.
Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.
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100% agree. Great summary |
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