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By *eeds89 OP Man 20 weeks ago
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Hey everyone. I just get too nervous to meet. I'm not very experienced and don't really know anyone in the scene. I have joined a couple and slept with men before but only when it's been natural like I have been approached in a club when I'm out with friends.
Any tips on how to just take the first steps without being so uncomfortable in myself |
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By *jk69Man 20 weeks ago
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I know exactly what you mean. All the questions that are in your mind prior to a meeting. Will I know them, will I perform, will I get caught. Guess it's natural to have some sort of nerves. |
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"The only advice we give is
He who hesitates, masturbates."
True!
The more you stay at home and do,
The more you'll feel like poo.
Best go out, chat to others.
You'll come across a few kind brothers. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"Hey everyone. I just get too nervous to meet. I'm not very experienced and don't really know anyone in the scene. I have joined a couple and slept with men before but only when it's been natural like I have been approached in a club when I'm out with friends.
Any tips on how to just take the first steps without being so uncomfortable in myself "
I've been in your situation 100%
Quite inexperienced and a tad shy!
I'm no Casanova or stud.
I was brutally honest about both with anyone I messaged or who contacted me, and yes it put a fair few off!
For me I didn't want to lie to people or try and wing it!
However 1 couple (M/F) knew the situation took the time to have a social meet and get to know me, we got on well and decide to have physical one a week later.
I was a bundle of nerves and very anxious, worrying about all the things you probably are, and everyone else probably has on their first time.
For me being upfront and honest with the couple helped a lot, there were no expectation and I could be my self!
The best advice I could give you!
1. Is be genuine.
2. Take the time to read peoples profile in full, and take the time to write a personal message, Doesn't need to be an essay but at least a paragraph!
You have to be in it to win, so take a chance 
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"Hey everyone. I just get too nervous to meet. I'm not very experienced and don't really know anyone in the scene. I have joined a couple and slept with men before but only when it's been natural like I have been approached in a club when I'm out with friends.
Any tips on how to just take the first steps without being so uncomfortable in myself "
Go to social events and meet people that way then step up to meets & clubs |
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Most people aren't looking for a fuck boy who will try to charm them into bed but just some decent man who respects them. There is no onus on the man having to do all the work. Relax and just let them share your company and they can find things to say etc.
Move on by doing. |
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"The only advice we give is
He who hesitates, masturbates."
Best quote of the day.
To op, nerves can get the better of people and sometimes you can't help being nervous.
Just try to enjoy your self. I'm sure we have all done things that have felt forced at times, unfortunately not everything is natural and feels perfect all the time. |
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