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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
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By *ydrewMan 3 weeks ago
Bournemouth |
I was the third person in a married couples relationship. Never considered myself a bull, but I guess it became that. Started with me just flirting with her and watching him getting embarrassed by her flirting back. Escalated into a whole lot more over the 3 years we played. |
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By *lecom1Couple 3 weeks ago
Stornoway |
"I was the third person in a married couples relationship. Never considered myself a bull, but I guess it became that. Started with me just flirting with her and watching him getting embarrassed by her flirting back. Escalated into a whole lot more over the 3 years we played. "
Best way for things to develop is over a period of time |
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By *ydrewMan 3 weeks ago
Bournemouth |
"I was the third person in a married couples relationship. Never considered myself a bull, but I guess it became that. Started with me just flirting with her and watching him getting embarrassed by her flirting back. Escalated into a whole lot more over the 3 years we played.
Best way for things to develop is over a period of time"
I totally agree |
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By *omRachCouple 3 weeks ago
Wirral |
We've met a couple of guys from this site who DID actually listen to us when we told them what we wanted and what we were looking for and is refreshing to say that none of them ever abused their position or overstepped the mark.
Maybe we have just touched lucky but guys reading this - if you're invited into another couples private life don't try and make it about you, cos if you do I doubt you'll be around very long. |
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By *harmanMan 3 weeks ago
Living Abroad |
In my experience it is always better communicating before hand and express what you want. Every couple function differently with a single guy, so if the couple let it clear the scenario it will be easier to the bull take the lead.  |
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wise words and , in th emain, our experience too. Only exception are those weve chatted to in the kink worlds, who have a different mindset, that suits ours
"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
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"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
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Very well made points there.
For me verifications on fab are total BS.
Anyone who is on fab and a serious fun seeker knows this. |
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"I was the third person in a married couples relationship. Never considered myself a bull, but I guess it became that. Started with me just flirting with her and watching him getting embarrassed by her flirting back. Escalated into a whole lot more over the 3 years we played. "
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"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
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Some will no doubt have watched porn movies where a man has abused a husband while screwing his wife, and think that they are now experienced bulls. Perhaps you should check their palms for hairs before you let them in.. |
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"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
Very well made points there.
For me verifications on fab are total BS.
Anyone who is on fab and a serious fun seeker knows this. "
Absolutely agree, I've only recently rejoined, but I was part of a couple on here for years and the discrepancy between what was delivered to what was written in some veri's was amazing! |
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By *as0046Man 3 weeks ago
stourbridge |
I’ve done it before. Most the time I find the couples back out of it at the last minute. Or they expected something completely different.
It just takes a lot of communication from all parties involved. Nothing wrong with saying what you want… |
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Its something that I have been interested in for sometime, but have absolutely zero experience and that put couples off when I have spoken to them.
I think you are really just like a human sex toy to a certain extent and it is mostly if not all about the couple and what they want, as I think every couple might want something slightly different. |
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"I’ve done it before. Most the time I find the couples back out of it at the last minute. Or they expected something completely different.
It just takes a lot of communication from all parties involved. Nothing wrong with saying what you want…"
I agree communication is key but sadly most (couples) don’t appear to get that aspect and then as you say back out |
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By *rispyDuckMan 3 weeks ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x"
I think most guys just want to bang the wife either dont really care or understand the cuckold dynamic!
I meet a couple once that said ‘I didn’t think looking at your profile you where so dominant’ lol
And that’s the thing. I don’t call myself Dom or Bull it’s just a trigger that switches on in the moment. |
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x"
Largely because men on fab will say anything to get laid. I’m sure we will hear from the ‘not all men’ crowd to decry our generalisation but the sheer level of either desperation or porn fantasy thinking displayed by people who have contacted us when we were looking for a ‘bull’ says otherwise. |
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yes my started with a few meets and some flirting then both of them told me what they want and the terms ie they married with young family so only meet when suit them and where suited them and yes the sex did happen |
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I'm experienced in many scenarios. From the most gentle to being a beast.
I follow one rule : listen and attune to the needs of the couple. If I won't agree with something or can't deliver what they are after, I won't meet them in the first place.
If more people look out for the interests of others, sex (and life in general) would be so much better! |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
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"In my experience it is always better communicating before hand and express what you want. Every couple function differently with a single guy, so if the couple let it clear the scenario it will be easier to the bull take the lead. "
as with this lifestyle and swinging/kinks in general communicating is key at all times ... we normally find those who communicate well generally ''get it'' and those who dont just fall way side |
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By *as0046Man 3 weeks ago
stourbridge |
"In my experience it is always better communicating before hand and express what you want. Every couple function differently with a single guy, so if the couple let it clear the scenario it will be easier to the bull take the lead.
as with this lifestyle and swinging/kinks in general communicating is key at all times ... we normally find those who communicate well generally ''get it'' and those who dont just fall way side"
A lot of people on here don’t really communicate that well  |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
Very well made points there.
For me verifications on fab are total BS.
Anyone who is on fab and a serious fun seeker knows this. "
verifications used to be a very good way of making sure someone is real at least but nowdays with so many fake veri changing hand its no longer means anything at all people who rely on the veri system just as well be blindfolded |
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I've been with a few couples and the best way in my experience is to meet them outside the bedroom, listen and understand what they want. Mostly the male wanted his partner to get something he couldn't give. I always took the lead from watching their dynamic. If the male wanted to be humiliated I waited for his partner to do it first.
If "bull" is a term for a guy who joins a couple to help them fulfil a fantasy then I'm it. |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
"I'm experienced in many scenarios. From the most gentle to being a beast.
I follow one rule : listen and attune to the needs of the couple. If I won't agree with something or can't deliver what they are after, I won't meet them in the first place.
If more people look out for the interests of others, sex (and life in general) would be so much better!"
experience in cuckolding counts for nothing i feel because of the differences between many ie for starters theres the real cuckold vrs the fantasy/role play couple they are miles apart ... and then each and every couple is different ... we belong to a private group of just real cuckold couples ie not fantasy and tho we are all cuckolding in the real world its surprising just how different we all are so thats why we find experience as in for the 3rd guy means nothing as you will have to relearn the new couple ...if that makes sense ...
and by the way before the pissy crowd comes in there nothing wrong with roleplay/fantasy at all its just very different fantasy is more about the sex acts and sex only
also these are just mu opinions and we all have them |
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I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you. |
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you."
Exactly. Need to discuss what like or not and be honest. End results so much better when all enjoy the fun. It’s the way it should be |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you."
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term |
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"I'm experienced in many scenarios. From the most gentle to being a beast.
I follow one rule : listen and attune to the needs of the couple. If I won't agree with something or can't deliver what they are after, I won't meet them in the first place.
If more people look out for the interests of others, sex (and life in general) would be so much better!
experience in cuckolding counts for nothing i feel because of the differences between many ie for starters theres the real cuckold vrs the fantasy/role play couple they are miles apart ... and then each and every couple is different ... we belong to a private group of just real cuckold couples ie not fantasy and tho we are all cuckolding in the real world its surprising just how different we all are so thats why we find experience as in for the 3rd guy means nothing as you will have to relearn the new couple ...if that makes sense ...
and by the way before the pissy crowd comes in there nothing wrong with roleplay/fantasy at all its just very different fantasy is more about the sex acts and sex only
also these are just mu opinions and we all have them"
You and I practically say the same thing . |
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By *rad670Man 3 weeks ago
South Lakes |
It's a crap term really "bull" I would guess 90% don't want a bull and blokes who call themselves that are maybe delusional. As a couple you surely wouldn't invite a third person without detailed discussion, you are surely in charge especially if inviting third person into your home as well as your life even for a limited time. The extra person should realise they are there firstly for the pleasure of the couple who invited them, how else do you expect to reap the rewards, gain trust and become a regular. |
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"It's a crap term really "bull" I would guess 90% don't want a bull and blokes who call themselves that are maybe delusional. As a couple you surely wouldn't invite a third person without detailed discussion, you are surely in charge especially if inviting third person into your home as well as your life even for a limited time. The extra person should realise they are there firstly for the pleasure of the couple who invited them, how else do you expect to reap the rewards, gain trust and become a regular. "
Exactly!
Communication and building the right dynamic is paramount |
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"It's a crap term really "bull" I would guess 90% don't want a bull and blokes who call themselves that are maybe delusional. As a couple you surely wouldn't invite a third person without detailed discussion, you are surely in charge especially if inviting third person into your home as well as your life even for a limited time. The extra person should realise they are there firstly for the pleasure of the couple who invited them, how else do you expect to reap the rewards, gain trust and become a regular. "
Well said, my friend |
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"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
i stopped looking for bulls years ago and found regulars who really do get it i done this by looking for assertive tye guys who wanted to try and be the third and it worked because they knew nothing but wanted to try and that way they mould to your way rather than the bullshit way ...
its the same with alot of guys they want you to think they are experience but they are blagging it in hope see it all the time in all sexual lifestyles . kinks ....
and when we talk to friends in the cuckold world you'll be surprise how many avoid bulls and doms and those who brag ...
its the same with regular guys not one of the regular guys i meet has come from the internet sites alot say regular but in truth its not what alot want and regular can be very important for alot of cuckold couples ...
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Fantastic advice.
If it helps...
We have always stuck firmly to the belief that the type of male we seek, who actually gets the dynamic, is the kind that will read a profile!
They will understand that, what couples are looking for in a "Bull" can be wide and varied, like us they will be selective of who they contact by finding out as much about them as they can beforehand, through what information there is on the profile (pinch of salt recommended) , to ensure mutual compatibility.
Anyone contacting us who hasn't already read ours, we rule out straight away. This limits our opportunities, but so far has meant few to no disappointments. |
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term"
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires "
think you need to read again ... 
fantasy = non reality 
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Communication is key. Keep talking until you are 200% happy. And it should help to filter out the pretenders. Just don't disclose what puts you off in public otherwise we know what you are not looking for. |
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
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Semantics deliberately obtuse whatever lol |
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
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It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x"
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras  |
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras "
You're quite correct I don't understand you. However enjoy whatever or however you want. You seem to have picked up on a word, well just change it for a different one, because it's out of context the way you've interpreted it, didn't think it was that deep. Enjoy x |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras
You're quite correct I don't understand you. However enjoy whatever or however you want. You seem to have picked up on a word, well just change it for a different one, because it's out of context the way you've interpreted it, didn't think it was that deep. Enjoy x "
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras
You're quite correct I don't understand you. However enjoy whatever or however you want. You seem to have picked up on a word, well just change it for a different one, because it's out of context the way you've interpreted it, didn't think it was that deep. Enjoy x "
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"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras "
Well he must have some redeeming qualities |
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From my own experiences, I've met most of my new cuck friends I have, the initial contact was made in a swing club.
After a successful meeting, private meets then took place where their more precise needs were discussed and addressed.
Whilst it's not helpful to generalise, this approach has worked for me with friends many times |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
somerset |
"I think what the cuckold dynamic is varies wildly from couple to couple, and bearing that in mind communicating wants and needs before any play is essential. I've been a third of whatever you want to label it in a few relationships, as a guy you have to remember you're fantasy facilitation for them, define your role as they see it and you'll all have a wonderful time, don't listen have your own I know best approach it'll be one meet and rubbish for them and you.
what youve said may well apply to roleplay / fantasy couples thats true but not real cuckold couples thats just not true i meet two guys one now for 30 years and the other 25 years sorry but my regulars are not throwaways we have deep friendships with them yes there is a line in the sand for sure ..
even with others guys its not ''you mean nothing'' i want to please the guys i meet as much as they want to please me otherwise id not want to meet them every guy ive met that ive enjoyed has become good friends of us both ... sorry but we dont see our meets as toys guys or women everyone will be treated as we/i would want to be treated ... we only call them the ''3rd person'' as we dont buy into the bull ... shit term
Are you saying you didn't communicate your wants to them before playing. I used the word fantasy in the respect of you have a desire to cuckold your partner you discussed what that'd look like to you then involved other guys who became your 3rd or whatever one wants to call that role. Simplistically that's what generally happens then you choose a guy who be a god fit for how you want to achieve your desires
think you need to read again ...
fantasy = non reality
It started as a fantasy then through communication it progressed to reality it's how these things usually go,maybe you're different, don't know but you do you x
what bit do you not understand ?? and no it never started as a fantasy my hubs has always been ill health and on the small side so nope still not fantasy why can you not accept that some people are just cuckold couples without the fantasy/roleplay its that simple two types of cuckold ...
as for the abuse comment sorry to piss on your fire again but i can tell you we are both fully consensual and do what we both want to do thats why we are such a strong together couple who are very happy married with extras
Well he must have some redeeming qualities"
i would not want to spend my life with anyone else if i met him again knowing what i know now id still married him we make a perfect couple we are very happy we have a great life everything we do is what we both want its fully talked about and fully consented ...
i dont know what it is with some but they just cant seem to think that cuckold couples are indeed very happy very together couples ...our life is exciting id rather our life than the couple who never talks and live a boring life moaning and falling out swinging couples cuckold couples kink couples nearly all are built on great relationships... even the most sadistic kink lifestyles just think of the trust and understanding that takes |
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"i dont know what it is with some but they just cant seem to think that cuckold couples are indeed very happy very together couples ...our life is exciting id rather our life than the couple who never talks and live a boring life moaning and falling out swinging couples cuckold couples kink couples nearly all are built on great relationships... even the most sadistic kink lifestyles just think of the trust and understanding that takes"
What was the cuckolding scene like for a vibrant young couple in their 20s pre internet ? |
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"Any cuck couples in or near Wigan is love to fuck someones wife in all holes then have hubby clean up after me 
You may want to try reading the thread."
If there was a guy pitching in that could reinforce your point any better
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I’ve never liked the term ‘bull’, but it’s each to their own, we all see things differently, and need to respect another’s view.
I have been the ‘Alpha male’ to a couple for over 8 years now, the husband very happy to be cuckolded by myself, his lovely wife spoiled by what her husband and I bring to her life 
This is the third couple I have been fortunate to be invited inside their relationship. Others have talked about such an ‘arrangement’, but most are dreamers who fold at the last minute. Cuckolding is not for everyone, not everyone truly understands it |
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By *ubyRonCouple 2 weeks ago
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I do find it hard, I think we have more of a hotwife situation. But there are some bulls that drop messages dick swinging when in reality they turn up and they're a foot shorter and built like a rake. (Not a bad thing, but doesn't help the dynamic when they're smaller than me)
We like them to be respectful and follow Ruby's lead rather than their own. |
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"I do find it hard, I think we have more of a hotwife situation. But there are some bulls that drop messages dick swinging when in reality they turn up and they're a foot shorter and built like a rake. (Not a bad thing, but doesn't help the dynamic when they're smaller than me)
We like them to be respectful and follow Ruby's lead rather than their own. "
Sadly had this happen more than once  |
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By *as0046Man 2 weeks ago
stourbridge |
"I do find it hard, I think we have more of a hotwife situation. But there are some bulls that drop messages dick swinging when in reality they turn up and they're a foot shorter and built like a rake. (Not a bad thing, but doesn't help the dynamic when they're smaller than me)
We like them to be respectful and follow Ruby's lead rather than their own.
Sadly had this happen more than once "
Sounds like you’ve had some bad experiences?? |
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"I do find it hard, I think we have more of a hotwife situation. But there are some bulls that drop messages dick swinging when in reality they turn up and they're a foot shorter and built like a rake. (Not a bad thing, but doesn't help the dynamic when they're smaller than me)
We like them to be respectful and follow Ruby's lead rather than their own.
Sadly had this happen more than once
Sounds like you’ve had some bad experiences?? "
Nope but those not meeting expectations did. |
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By *oxy jWoman 2 weeks ago
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"I do find it hard, I think we have more of a hotwife situation. But there are some bulls that drop messages dick swinging when in reality they turn up and they're a foot shorter and built like a rake. (Not a bad thing, but doesn't help the dynamic when they're smaller than me)
We like them to be respectful and follow Ruby's lead rather than their own. "
this is so true of the whole scene can talk the talk but cannot walk the walk ... |
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By *SB92Man 2 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Defo agree the term “bull” it’s a load of rubbish tbh
But speaking from my experiences in Cuck scenarios communication in the build up is key! Like people have said most people on here will say owt for a shag and not walk the walk despite giving it all the talk, or they’ll just not turn up and waste time meaning us genuine guys barely get a reply anymore!
I’ll often chat in depth about what the couple are looking for out of a meet as some have wanted a more tamed interaction from me where the wife will do most of the humiliation etc or I’ve been asked the opposite where I’m much more vocal, especially love it when you make the husband hold up his wife’s legs for you and get them to watch how it’s done haha but yeah each to their own I suppose communication works for me especially in clubs as there’s too many time wasters on here |
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By *m3232Man 2 weeks ago
maidenhead |
The dynamic between couples and what they want varies so much don’t expect to have the perfect meet on the first go.
Myself I always ask what to they want and expect in a meet and then behave the way they enjoy.
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x"
Belive me, it would be worse. My wife is a cuckqean (couples account in profile) and it's even harder finding women who understand or even want to be part of that. Spent many nights at the club trying to explain it.
But as a guy who meets cuckold couples I get it. I understand he's part of it and that involvement will vary couple to couple. But there are limits of what I'm comfy with. Don't mind photos or videos. Dont mind being watched. Don't mind if it's a 3sum dynamic. Happy with a regular thing if the chemistry is right.
But there are some things I have my limits it's about.
The main issue I would say is too many men calling themselves "bulls" (a term.i won't use nor would apply to.myself) that really have no place doing so. Similar thing with Domming as well. A lot of guys, reguardless of their "thing" make it about their pleasure, not hers / theres. They just wanna come in, get off and then get lost.
Personally I like to make an effort, make.sure everyone is on the same page, work.out whats wanted and then get her wetter than an otters sock and give both parties exactly what they want. |
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When I have been the Bull with couples in a Cuck relationship, understanding the dynamic and building that relationship before we even met was important.
I knew what they wanted there was a connection before we even met that had developed from messaging, phone/video calls. So when we met, I knew level of involvement the cuck was allowed. It worked really well |
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x
How about meeting a bull couple
A what now?"
What they said, please tell |
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x"
It’s such a sexy dynamic, but that dynamic has to work for all three people, doesn’t it. For me, the excitement of seeing a Hotwire and her cuck both turned on with me is what really turns me on the most, so setting role play scenarios which play to that are always a great way to start. |
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x
How about meeting a bull couple
A what now?"
A couple who operate in the bull dynamic. Rather than just engaging in sex with a male you engage in sex with the male and female. It allows more interaction with the cuck. |
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"A lot of bulls don’t seem to fully understand the dynamic and it’s very easy for this to cause issues "
Tbf a lot of couples are not clear on what they want. We've had bulls tell us all kinds of horror stories where the couple have changed their minds midway though a meet or bail at the last minute. Lx |
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"A lot of bulls don’t seem to fully understand the dynamic and it’s very easy for this to cause issues
Tbf a lot of couples are not clear on what they want. We've had bulls tell us all kinds of horror stories where the couple have changed their minds midway though a meet or bail at the last minute. Lx"
Yep, when fantasy becomes reality, it’s too much for the majority. Someone above used the phrase “Talking the talk, is not walking the walk”, and that has been my experience several times over the years. There are plenty of genuine people out there , for us all to meet, you just have to keep trying  |
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"Communication is really the key here. The best bulls we've played with are all about listening and understanding. "
Totally agree...and earning the trust of the couple. Was lover/bull to a couple for 4yrs...was best ever. No jealousy ego....actually became great friends. Ultimately it all about satisfying the wife and hubbys fantasies and realising never to over step the mark. Had the most amaZing of times and even was invited to the Wife's 50th bday party with family and friends....some.of her more openminded friends gathered i was her bull....great times. |
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"We've met a couple of guys from this site who DID actually listen to us when we told them what we wanted and what we were looking for and is refreshing to say that none of them ever abused their position or overstepped the mark.
Maybe we have just touched lucky but guys reading this - if you're invited into another couples private life don't try and make it about you, cos if you do I doubt you'll be around very long. "
Yep, exactly this ! xx |
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"Why is it so hard to find guys who get it , so frustrating , most just want Cuck to be ignored and watch not what we’re after ! Rant over lol x"
Probably because
"its easy stop looking for ''bulls'' as most are full of shit ... they claim theyve been with other cuckold couples but most of it is rubbish ...
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And
"Some will no doubt have watched porn movies where a man has abused a husband while screwing his wife,"
And
"I think most guys just want to bang the wife either dont really care or understand the cuckold dynamic!"
All of the above
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