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To wink or not to wink, this is the question
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ??   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message
I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?  "
Do you still wink ? |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message
I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?
Do you still wink ?"
Pointless. You're not what they want. Just admire from afar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message
I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?
Do you still wink ?
Pointless. You're not what they want. Just admire from afar"
That one was a slight joke |
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By *harAndBryCouple 23 weeks ago
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"Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ?? "
We are fans of winking. But nothing so annoying as receiving a wink, winking back and then either getting nothing back or worse....another wink!
We figure a wink is an easy way to show interest without the risk of actual written rejection 
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"We wink a lot of the time....sometimes just as a testing the water in case we are maybe not exactly what the other profile are looking for"
That's my point of view however I have seen alot of profiles saying don't wink |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Some people look at winks & some don't.
We've (couples profile) had some great meets that started with a wink so I'm quite fond. "
I think a wink is perfect, I'm glad I'm not the only one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ??
We are fans of winking. But nothing so annoying as receiving a wink, winking back and then either getting nothing back or worse....another wink!
We figure a wink is an easy way to show interest without the risk of actual written rejection
(Bry)"
I 10000000% agree |
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Nothing wrong with winking. In fact, I wrote a song about it ...
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
The worst thing it will lead to is a drink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You've loaded up the app
And now you're looking down your feed
And we all know you're there
Because it's time to fill a need
You see a sexy picture
These people catch your eye
So what should you do next?
This is no time to be shy!
You look at all their pictures
Each one hotter than the last
They're getting you excited
And your heart rate's getting fast
You read right through their bio
Find out what they're looking for
You wonder if they'll like you too?
There's one wat to be sure
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Maybe you'll find someone who can share your kink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You jumped into this lifestyle
But don't know quite what to do
Feels like everyone knows everyone
Except they don't know you
You know inside your heart
That nobody's being mean
But as the time goes on
You think you're just not being seen
The way to make it better
Is to follow this advice
You'll never win the game if you're too scared to roll the dice
There's so many gorgeous people
Everywhere you take a look
But if you're staying hidden
Then you'll never get a fuck
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Regardless if you're after blue or pink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You've finally got your spirits up
And ready now to swing
Don't matter what you're wearing
Because confidence is king
You've come out of your shell
And now you've lost that little frown
With any luck, soon, it won't just
Be hair you're letting down
So WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Just walk yourself away now from the brink
Don't hide away and let your spirits sink
This lifestyle is much easier than you think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Tend to ignore winks, think they’re lazy, just our opinion "
Perfect I saw someone say this and I wanted to dig deeper, why is it lazy ? What gives you the ick about it ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Nothing wrong with winking. In fact, I wrote a song about it ...
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
The worst thing it will lead to is a drink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You've loaded up the app
And now you're looking down your feed
And we all know you're there
Because it's time to fill a need
You see a sexy picture
These people catch your eye
So what should you do next?
This is no time to be shy!
You look at all their pictures
Each one hotter than the last
They're getting you excited
And your heart rate's getting fast
You read right through their bio
Find out what they're looking for
You wonder if they'll like you too?
There's one wat to be sure
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Maybe you'll find someone who can share your kink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You jumped into this lifestyle
But don't know quite what to do
Feels like everyone knows everyone
Except they don't know you
You know inside your heart
That nobody's being mean
But as the time goes on
You think you're just not being seen
The way to make it better
Is to follow this advice
You'll never win the game if you're too scared to roll the dice
There's so many gorgeous people
Everywhere you take a look
But if you're staying hidden
Then you'll never get a fuck
Just WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Regardless if you're after blue or pink
So give a wink
Just give a wink
You've finally got your spirits up
And ready now to swing
Don't matter what you're wearing
Because confidence is king
You've come out of your shell
And now you've lost that little frown
With any luck, soon, it won't just
Be hair you're letting down
So WINK!
Don't get inside your head and overthink
Don't even take the time to stop and blink
Just walk yourself away now from the brink
Don't hide away and let your spirits sink
This lifestyle is much easier than you think"
All I can say is WINK |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I only wink when I'm unsure if I'm the kind of guy a couple is looking for, e.g. if I see on their verifications that they've only met 50+ year old guys. In such situations I think there is close to a zero probability of them replying so I don't put effort into a message.
For profiles that specify exactly what kind of guy they are looking for - and I happen to meet their specifications — I will send a message instead of a wink because I think there is a good chance of a response in that situation. |
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We do wink unless the profile says not to.
If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.
It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"We do wink unless the profile says not to.
If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.
It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us. "
That is a sensible idea. I also find it strange why some would put "don't wink" on a profile then proceed to ignore the overwhelming majority of messages they get...
Also, the content of messages is not really what drives the interest for a meet between two couples/singles. It is the profile of the person who sends the message that will influence your decision to meet with them. In that regard, there is very little difference between a wink and a message for the first contact. |
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"We do wink unless the profile says not to.
If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.
It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us.
That is a sensible idea. I also find it strange why some would put "don't wink" on a profile then proceed to ignore the overwhelming majority of messages they get...
Also, the content of messages is not really what drives the interest for a meet between two couples/singles. It is the profile of the person who sends the message that will influence your decision to meet with them. In that regard, there is very little difference between a wink and a message for the first contact."
There is absolutely a difference, just not a functional one for the purposes of fabmin.
The wink is an indicator of intent allowing the recipient to have their attention brought to the invitation and consider it.
The bespoke message someone put actual time and effort into that they then delete summarily is a little dopamine hit that vindicates their egotism.
Hence why those who refuse winks are not going to be for us, because odds are good they aren't here for anything more than an ego stroke and even if they are then their attitudes are not likely to endear them to us. |
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As a general (but not absolute) rule.
Winking women is pointless. There's hundreds every day and they just get bulk deleted.
Some couples and t girls are interested enough to check if their profiles aren't too busy.
Men are the most likely group to respond to a wink. |
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"As a general (but not absolute) rule.
Winking women is pointless. There's hundreds every day and they just get bulk deleted.
Some couples and t girls are interested enough to check if their profiles aren't too busy.
Men are the most likely group to respond to a wink."
A wink a day keeps the wank at bay ready for the jump in the hay on another hot day what the hey , it’s not hurting anyway it’s just a fantastic day to brighten someone’s day , Is that another hit ladies lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Tend to ignore winks, think they’re lazy, just our opinion
Perfect I saw someone say this and I wanted to dig deeper, why is it lazy ? What gives you the ick about it ??"
It’s asking us to initiate a conversation. Send a decent message and we’ll reply, send a wink and we’ll ignore you |
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By *unchalMan 23 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ?? "
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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Constantly forget to check the winks section, by which time it's too overwhelming and often end up getting rid.
Friend Requests is the one I'm not so keen on - by which I mean a friend request before we've even messaged. Never accept those. |
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By *ynecplCouple 22 weeks ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
We see the wink system as another way of expressing interest. If somebody winks us we will wink back and it is up to the winker to start a conversation. The same is true in reverse if we wink and get a wink back we will message.
Like anything on here some love it some hate it or ignore it |
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I prefer men to wink first, then send a message thanking them if I'm interested over getting a tonne of messages that usually all say the same thing - especially if a guy winks me from a profile I've viewed but they don't mention Ts on their looking for list (which is usually a high proportion of men who actually want to talk/meet). |
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"Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ?? "
Before anything, read their profile first.
Then go from there. |
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"Always send a wink to show interest, hopefully get a wink back then I'll drop them a polite message "
As long as the people on the other end like winks.
Otherwise it will be a piss take reply, and it will be going nowhere. |
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"Love receiving a wink me !! Not everyones cup of tea though ! However i think its a great introduction "
Yes for me that wink says that lady is hot stuff and she took my breath away , It may not be reciprocated but Really is the wink on the street ever taken seriously either and the lady knows she an admirer |
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Is the power in the wink dependent on the winker...
As a guy I'd rarely bother sending a woman a wink, my assumption being what's the point... it gives nothing of me and she probably has a million messages let alone winks.
On the flip side, if a woman sends me a wink... it's a big sign that I should invest some time in a hello message and we're likely to have a chat.
I love a wink! |
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