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basic conversation starters, easy ice breakers for single men, women, couples in clubs and saunas
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It seems like we are many introverts or kind of find it sometimes tricky to get past the first steps of connecting, chatting, trading signs in clubs or saunas.
May it be m'en, women, couples alike, we are all just beings, deep inside.
Go ahead, give us a few:
- ice breakers
- conversation starters
- your first moves
- how to lead through?
- and more...
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Hi, my name is....
Would you like a bit of a chat?
Do you come here often?
And similar. If, by any chance, you watched her/them play, throw a tasteful compliment about it maybe- just try to make it classy rather than crude.
Props also work - some people bring floggers to a club, for me and my partner, our spikey gloves usually do the talking.
Then it's the choice of underwear/outfits- make an effort, particularly if it's a fancy dress event, and people would compliment the outfit. Or you can compliment people's outfits/underwear.
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"Hi, my name is.... slim shady
Would you like a bit of a chat?
Do you come here often?
And similar. If, by any chance, you watched her/them play, throw a tasteful compliment about it maybe- just try to make it classy rather than crude.
Props also work - some people bring floggers to a club, for me and my partner, our spikey gloves usually do the talking.
Then it's the choice of underwear/outfits- make an effort, particularly if it's a fancy dress event, and people would compliment the outfit. Or you can compliment people's outfits/underwear.
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By *oxy jWoman 26 weeks ago
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i think your either confident or not theres no magic way bearing in mind everyone is different ...
if im in a club ill make it clear im approachable to the right people anyone else is just told im not interested .... what people need to realize in in these clubs we are all there for nearly the same reason mainly to be social and if lucky play ...
when you go to a club you'll find the biggest problem is not chatting but not accepting being told no or not interested |
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Totally agree. Been well versed in clubs, For me no is the basic, as in life basically, or business, rejection is not a reflection of self worth and should just allow to be grateful that we can enjoy play with the right match.
That being said, it's still a thread on ice breakers and first contact suggestions, any other ideas that you've used or enjoyed from others towards you? |
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As a couple of two naturally flirty people we find starting a conversation easy.
We also find that no one actually likes small talk and your best just making eye contact and trying to be engaging. If your struggling give a complement, it’s usually easy to gauge by that if who ever your taking to is interested. |
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By *elloWoman 26 weeks ago
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I like a cheeky, light conversation starter, which makes me laugh. So something like '_ello sugar tits, wanna play with my sausage?!' would probably make me talk to a guy more than '_ello, you look pretty'.  but then again I am an odd lady what I find charming would probably earn them a slap round the face from someone else  |
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By *oxy jWoman 26 weeks ago
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i think guys over think it we just want a polite non sexual non porn none cheesey none false flattery message that leads to a nice profile with a few nice pics on the rest is out of your hands really as that will come down to sexual attraction and how that getting on moves forward ....
there simply is no magic theres either an attraction or there is not and thats just the start some go down hill fast with the convo so attraction alone is noy enough its a package not just looks..
so if there is any advice it should be be yourself your normal self dont pretend to be someone else lets people decide for themselves and guys it will mean a high rate of rejection simply down to no connection no attraction
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Hi everyone, completely new to this and really want to get involved! In person not shy at all but really have no clue where to start really! ?? If you’ve got any advice, let me know. Is it best to meet people individually first? Looking for local group…..
All help is much appreciated X |
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The hardest part I found, as a solo guy in clubs, was finding people not bunched up in clicky groups. The big events were the worst; people have already organised their night ahead in private messenger groups, so even more difficult to get an ‘in’, as a solo outsider. Going on quieter, ‘ordinary’ nights, was easier, just less people in, and therefore, less chance of mutual attraction…
As far as making the first move goes; it’s no different to being in a pub. Just say _ello and go from there. And yes, just like in Fab; single guys have to speak first  |
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"Hi everyone, completely new to this and really want to get involved! In person not shy at all but really have no clue where to start really! ?? If you’ve got any advice, let me know. Is it best to meet people individually first? Looking for local group…..
All help is much appreciated X "
It's best to meet people through organised socials and/or clubs, if that's your thing. There is an organised social coming up in MK at the end of July, not sure how many spaces are left for single men. Then there is Bedford Social, organised by the fabulous Holyfuckstickbatman. Next one is due September/October time. |
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"Hi everyone, completely new to this and really want to get involved! In person not shy at all but really have no clue where to start really! ?? If you’ve got any advice, let me know. Is it best to meet people individually first? Looking for local group…..
All help is much appreciated X
It's best to meet people through organised socials and/or clubs, if that's your thing. There is an organised social coming up in MK at the end of July, not sure how many spaces are left for single men. Then there is Bedford Social, organised by the fabulous Holyfuckstickbatman. Next one is due September/October time. "
Well space the final frontier where no person has gone before is probably progress and suggested sugar tits they definitely are sweet  |
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You try to read the vibes...most females and couples say no cock photos or crude messages ....so I always stick to polite basic...but a couple of come back saying , " this is not a dating website." |
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"You try to read the vibes...most females and couples say no cock photos or crude messages ....so I always stick to polite basic...but a couple of come back saying , " this is not a dating website.""
You’re the second poster on this thread who didn’t read the topic properly…… |
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