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Just been sent this, it’s happened to me and wondered if anyone has experienced it?
https://amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/jun/13/london-man-jailed-stealthing-removing-condom-without-consent |
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"I've not had this happen to me, but know a couple of ladies it has hapoened to.
It's good that it is now being taken seriously and guys can be punished for it x"
Totally agree, sadly it’s still going on here |
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By *ean11130Man 24 weeks ago
Madrid / Birmingham / WSM |
So glad people are being prosecuted over this. We as society need to highlight that this is rap3. Anything that deviates from the consent given means no consent is given. Really think that consent is not taught enough in school and should be. Anyway, sorry for what the poster above have gone through and so glad that this person is safely behind bars. |
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"So glad people are being prosecuted over this. We as society need to highlight that this is rap3. Anything that deviates from the consent given means no consent is given. Really think that consent is not taught enough in school and should be. Anyway, sorry for what the poster above have gone through and so glad that this person is safely behind bars. "
I was told at the time it was the equivalent of rap8. The host was amazing when I reported it and offered a life ban from the club. What sickened me was the response to it afterwards |
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"Happened to me before when I was young and very inexperienced.
Glad it's being taken seriously now cause when I spoke about it to friends it was a joke "
Sorry that it happened to you too. I am experienced so just didn’t expect it in the situation I was in |
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Nearly happened to me at a club years ago. Luckily I happened to reach back to guide him back in and couldn't feel the condom. Unfortunately it was in a dark room so had no idea who the guy was. Glad it's now been taken seriously and those guilty should be prosecuted.
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"Nearly happened to me at a club years ago. Luckily I happened to reach back to guide him back in and couldn't feel the condom. Unfortunately it was in a dark room so had no idea who the guy was. Glad it's now been taken seriously and those guilty should be prosecuted.
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Similar to myself, how I wished I’d felt back too |
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Happened to me, not from this site I would like to add.
*Trigger warning*
I wondered where the condom was, I text him to ask and he said he had no idea, bit odd I thought, I was remaking my bed and there it was, unused.
I immediately messaged him and of course I was blanked but with no other contact details there wasn't much I could do, I called a helpline for advice etc as I felt a bit "wrong", it's hard to describe until you have experienced it and I think some of my old girlfriends thought I was over reacting a little when I mentioned it to them but to me, I felt a bit vulnerable and took me a while to meet anyone again, trust them and would always watch as they put a condom on. I got my self tested immediately and then every month there after.
Hope this wasn't too much, remove if needed and I'll go on the naughty step if needed but wanted to share my experience x |
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"Happened to me, not from this site I would like to add.
*Trigger warning*
I wondered where the condom was, I text him to ask and he said he had no idea, bit odd I thought, I was remaking my bed and there it was, unused.
I immediately messaged him and of course I was blanked but with no other contact details there wasn't much I could do, I called a helpline for advice etc as I felt a bit "wrong", it's hard to describe until you have experienced it and I think some of my old girlfriends thought I was over reacting a little when I mentioned it to them but to me, I felt a bit vulnerable and took me a while to meet anyone again, trust them and would always watch as they put a condom on. I got my self tested immediately and then every month there after.
Hope this wasn't too much, remove if needed and I'll go on the naughty step if needed but wanted to share my experience x"
Not too much at all. It’s how it makes you feel afterwards and the attitude of the other person/s to it as well, like it’s perfectly acceptable. Niggles into your mind. The response I got when I realised and said I can’t believe you’ve just done that was “it’s ok, I test regularly” |
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Happened in an orgy room, husband was doing a pretty good job of looking after her repeatedly said strictly condoms but I noticed this guy about to take his turn, the fucker had actually gone through the motions of rolling on a condom and was about to enter her from behind and then I saw that there was no condom (husband had looked away and this guy took the opportunity), I said ‘hey! What the fuck!!??’ and put my hand across her ass and actually deflected his cock. He practically snarled in frustration and then two other guys clocked what he was trying to do - we practically threw him out of the room, told him to fuck off, don’t let us see you around again you fucking prick, better leave the club now… I guess three big horny angry guys with hardons bobbing around threatening him from the doorway did the job. |
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"Happened in an orgy room, husband was doing a pretty good job of looking after her repeatedly said strictly condoms but I noticed this guy about to take his turn, the fucker had actually gone through the motions of rolling on a condom and was about to enter her from behind and then I saw that there was no condom (husband had looked away and this guy took the opportunity), I said ‘hey! What the fuck!!??’ and put my hand across her ass and actually deflected his cock. He practically snarled in frustration and then two other guys clocked what he was trying to do - we practically threw him out of the room, told him to fuck off, don’t let us see you around again you fucking prick, better leave the club now… I guess three big horny angry guys with hardons bobbing around threatening him from the doorway did the job. "
So glad you were there to protect her. It’s incredible how common this is x |
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"Happened to me, not from this site I would like to add.
*Trigger warning*
I wondered where the condom was, I text him to ask and he said he had no idea, bit odd I thought, I was remaking my bed and there it was, unused.
I immediately messaged him and of course I was blanked but with no other contact details there wasn't much I could do, I called a helpline for advice etc as I felt a bit "wrong", it's hard to describe until you have experienced it and I think some of my old girlfriends thought I was over reacting a little when I mentioned it to them but to me, I felt a bit vulnerable and took me a while to meet anyone again, trust them and would always watch as they put a condom on. I got my self tested immediately and then every month there after.
Hope this wasn't too much, remove if needed and I'll go on the naughty step if needed but wanted to share my experience x"
Thank you for sharing. Its happened to me in a club but i noticed. Also at a private party a guy tried to join in without one and got a bit pushy when i refused. Luckily another guy intervened on my behalf. I dont know why some guys think its ok when you clearly say only safe play. |
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It’s happened to me at a club.
And he’s gone on and done it to other girls I know from the scene.
The condom “broke” on all of us and when asked to see it he’d already binned it… which was empty.
Banned from the club he did it to me in but not from others.
Another guy tried to play without a condom previously and the club were all over it and kicked him out without question.
Thankfully, in over 8 years of regular clubs, there have only ever been 2 incidents which were dealt with xx |
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It happened to my ex at a club in Tenerife
She didn’t realise till finished!!!! He was Spanish told the club not interested!!!
PS we both got an STI ????????put an end to our swinging had being playing for 10 years |
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"It’s happened to me at a club.
And he’s gone on and done it to other girls I know from the scene.
The condom “broke” on all of us and when asked to see it he’d already binned it… which was empty.
Banned from the club he did it to me in but not from others.
Another guy tried to play without a condom previously and the club were all over it and kicked him out without question.
Thankfully, in over 8 years of regular clubs, there have only ever been 2 incidents which were dealt with xx"
The host where I was offered a life ban. Dealt with very professionally |
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"It happened to my ex at a club in Tenerife
She didn’t realise till finished!!!! He was Spanish told the club not interested!!!
PS we both got an STI ????????put an end to our swinging had being playing for 10 years "
Horrendous and I’m not surprised you stopped. I couldn’t rest until I’d got my results back. |
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"It’s happened to me at a club.
And he’s gone on and done it to other girls I know from the scene.
The condom “broke” on all of us and when asked to see it he’d already binned it… which was empty.
Banned from the club he did it to me in but not from others.
Another guy tried to play without a condom previously and the club were all over it and kicked him out without question.
Thankfully, in over 8 years of regular clubs, there have only ever been 2 incidents which were dealt with xx
The host where I was offered a life ban. Dealt with very professionally "
Yeah same on both occasions.
But both men are still active and play elsewhere very regular through. |
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I have had this happen to me too.
I don’t think any males on here have commented so far but I was far from happy and this is the first time I have spoken about it. I did get myself checked out and luckily all was good but it may have been a far different situation if he wasn’t clean.
I think it may have happened to a lot more men but they could be too shy to say. |
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Well as a man it's rather difficult to be a victim of stealthing in the truest sense though I'd argue lying about birth control is comparable.
To answer the direct question I think my answer would have to be... Sort of.
In a group scenario, made plain we are playing safe. I'm behind the other wife, just having a bit of a touch and kiss of the back of the neck and my cock ends up touching her pussy and she pushes back.
I quickly adjusted myself and put a rubber on and it wasn't a major deal, but it was more than a bit naughty. |
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"Had it happen to me yes. I popped the guys eye for his effort and left
Scummy people "
His third eye? Ouch! So sorry this happened to you, all of you, there are some right dirty chancers out there |
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"Just been sent this, it’s happened to me and wondered if anyone has experienced it?
https://amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/jun/13/london-man-jailed-stealthing-removing-condom-without-consent"
it haven’t happened to me but to know something could be done if it ever did thanks you learn something new everyday on here |
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"Had it happen to me yes. I popped the guys eye for his effort and left
Scummy people
His third eye? Ouch! So sorry this happened to you, all of you, there are some right dirty chancers out there"
Ha no I mean I broke/ shattered his eye socket by introducing him to my elbow and head butt 
I think he learned a lesson at end of it |
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"I have had this happen to me too.
I don’t think any males on here have commented so far but I was far from happy and this is the first time I have spoken about it. I did get myself checked out and luckily all was good but it may have been a far different situation if he wasn’t clean.
I think it may have happened to a lot more men but they could be too shy to say."
Thank you for speaking up and glad you got the all clear |
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I was having sex with a friend using a condom. Now, I always check that it's still on before I cum and had a shock when it wasn't! It wasn't on the bed or nearby; I eventually retrieved it from near her cervix. Slipped another one on to finish ...
Sometimes, it's an accident...
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What do guys get by having unprotected sex, they are risking themselves as well as others !
We had a big group situation and notice this guy had a condom on and was not changing between partners (including his own), when challenged he didn't actually got what the problem was as he already had a condom on. Took some explaining why it is necessary to use a fresh condom when changing partners.
Another one in a club was actually taking his condom off and leaving to one side to use again...we left him with a box of condoms and left the room. |
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"What do guys get by having unprotected sex, they are risking themselves as well as others !
We had a big group situation and notice this guy had a condom on and was not changing between partners (including his own), when challenged he didn't actually got what the problem was as he already had a condom on. Took some explaining why it is necessary to use a fresh condom when changing partners.
Another one in a club was actually taking his condom off and leaving to one side to use again...we left him with a box of condoms and left the room."
Shocking! Saving money  |
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"I was having sex with a friend using a condom. Now, I always check that it's still on before I cum and had a shock when it wasn't! It wasn't on the bed or nearby; I eventually retrieved it from near her cervix. Slipped another one on to finish ...
Sometimes, it's an accident...
An accident is one thing but many are deliberately not wearing one or removing it because they want to go bare but not giving the other person the option without them realising
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By *eren4891Woman 21 weeks ago
North east wales |
Yep, had it happen wondered why he d backed out and then realised, i moved just out of the way as he came inside my thighs.
Was not impressed but too shocked to ask if that was normal/acceptable/do anything about it. |
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"Yep, had it happen wondered why he d backed out and then realised, i moved just out of the way as he came inside my thighs.
Was not impressed but too shocked to ask if that was normal/acceptable/do anything about it. "
The shock can leave us stunned/speechless |
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By *ornycougaWoman 21 weeks ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"It happened to my ex at a club in Tenerife
She didn’t realise till finished!!!! He was Spanish told the club not interested!!!
PS we both got an STI ????????put an end to our swinging had being playing for 10 years
Horrendous and I’m not surprised you stopped. I couldn’t rest until I’d got my results back. "
Happened to me at a gang bang a few years back. I had been absolutely clear that there was to be no genital contact without a condom. I only found out afterwards from a video that one guy had removed his condom whilst I was being spit roasted. I was raging that none of the other guys spoke up and was beside myself with worry for the next 3 months that the sly fucker had given me something |
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Sadly.. your right it's r@pe.. SAFE SEX is a right!.. even in a sex club.. dark room.. and all round "working" or fun situations in the adult entertainment industry.
A working person or a casual client CAN refuse any person..if they refuse to wear a condom as requested. Tell management immediately of club or house.
Same basis that happens with doctors who remove gloves.. when doing internals. Sadly very common as well. |
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"I have had this happen to me too.
I don’t think any males on here have commented so far but I was far from happy and this is the first time I have spoken about it. I did get myself checked out and luckily all was good but it may have been a far different situation if he wasn’t clean.
I think it may have happened to a lot more men but they could be too shy to say."
same this has happened to me also more than one occasion, when I was younger it's never happened to me on the swing scene, I have had it where tried to remove it or tried to damage it with there long nails, one girl cut me were she tried to pinch the condom and pinch to hard, also had mates this has happened to, |
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"It happened to my ex at a club in Tenerife
She didn’t realise till finished!!!! He was Spanish told the club not interested!!!
PS we both got an STI ????????put an end to our swinging had being playing for 10 years
Horrendous and I’m not surprised you stopped. I couldn’t rest until I’d got my results back.
Happened to me at a gang bang a few years back. I had been absolutely clear that there was to be no genital contact without a condom. I only found out afterwards from a video that one guy had removed his condom whilst I was being spit roasted. I was raging that none of the other guys spoke up and was beside myself with worry for the next 3 months that the sly fucker had given me something"
Disgusting behaviour |
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By *essTTWoman 20 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"I was having sex with a friend using a condom. Now, I always check that it's still on before I cum and had a shock when it wasn't! It wasn't on the bed or nearby; I eventually retrieved it from near her cervix. Slipped another one on to finish ...
Sometimes, it's an accident...
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This has also happened to me, scary but defo not the same thing as a partner purposely removing it without your knowledge x |
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By *ornagainchristianMan 20 weeks ago
Preston, Glasgow, Cheltenham, Leeds, Birmingham and Leicester (but travel all over the UK |
I have a couple of girl friends who this has happened to, both by their husbands resulting in an unwanted pregnancy. Absolutely fucking vile behaviour and should be treated as r ape |
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"I have a couple of girl friends who this has happened to, both by their husbands resulting in an unwanted pregnancy. Absolutely fucking vile behaviour and should be treated as r ape"
It mostly certainly is. I spoke to a policeman about my situation and I didn’t even ask, he said that’s rap.e |
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This happened to me about 25 years back, the guy finished and pulled out. I then noticed the condom on the side, it had been used but not used if you get my meaning, plus there was no way he could’ve taken it off in the time it took me to look. I asked him but he said he used it, but didn’t believe him, I grabbed me stuff and went to the bathroom, trying to empty myself. Then got dressed and left. |
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I am absolutely appalled that this has happened to so many of you. Absolutely disgusting. For those who it has happened to, I hope you've had no long standing effects from it and the guy has been arrested, or beaten. Or both preferably.
Didn't realise it was an actual thing u till this post, so I'm glad that this has been posted.
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I got checked out and thankfully all clear. Part of me worried I’d jumped to the wrong conclusion. I chatted to the guy online afterwards, this was back in the day with yahoo and chat rooms. Anyway I saw him online and he messaged, at first he continued to deny and I accepted it, then he mentioned that he had some friends who’d like to meet me, and we continued chatting. But it soon became evident that he was keen to bb me, as were his friends, and he then admitted it.
That was the last time I went online there or chatted to him. |
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