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Any Suggestions/comments as to what i'm doing wrong?
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Hi there, i was wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction please as i've been on here a couple of years now and never seem to get anywhere, i met a girl on here when i first signed up and we got on great, we verified each other but she has since left the site so i don't know if it still shows up. I'm always polite to people on here and always make sure i read their profile fully and that i meet their requirements, i don't send pictures of my private parts as i know people don't like that so i really don't know what i'm doing wrong and its getting to the point where i'm considering leaving the site as i feel i'm wasting my time. I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts. |
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over a year ago
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You could try maybe going to some local socials or clubs, its easier to connect with people in person, and as well as having an enjoyable evening, your profile would be garnished with lots of glowing veri's as a reward for your efforts!  |
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"Hi there, i was wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction please as i've been on here a couple of years now and never seem to get anywhere, i met a girl on here when i first signed up and we got on great, we verified each other but she has since left the site so i don't know if it still shows up. I'm always polite to people on here and always make sure i read their profile fully and that i meet their requirements, i don't send pictures of my private parts as i know people don'tc like that so i really don't know what i'm doing wrong and its getting to the point where i'm considering leaving the site as i feel i'm wasting my time. I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts."
You're Scouse.....therein lies the answer
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2 things come to mind.
Firstly 2 pictures are not knicker wetters one is a face which is fine although a proper smile would be good as that one looks as though you are hiding your teeth and it has me wondering if they are a problem.
Next the line "I will add more to here as and when i can think of more things to say" on your profile says to me that you lack inspiration and might not be worth chatting to.
Neither will be magic fixes but it might not harm having a change. |
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"I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts."
You've more or less answered your own question there. Some people come over much better in person than they do on a site like this. My guess is you are one of those people. You're in a really good position nationally to take advantage of some good clubs up your way (Blackpool, for instance). If I were you, I would be going for those. Anyone you meet that way will be able to verify you, and if you have hit all the right buttons for them, hopefully they will be glowing veris! |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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The fact your profile text says 31, and your age on site says 32 - kinda says to me you've not updated in ages, and the previous poster mentioned "I'll add more here as and when I can" just seems a little lazy to me.
I'm not looking for single men but with all the competition single men face, even if I was you'd be a thanks but no thanks.
I'd suggest some better pictures too - doesn't need to be explicit but a hint of whats on offer (nice bum or torso pics go down well) and a real smile.
Bit more personality in your profile wouldn't go amiss, it just read a bit dull and plodding along.
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"I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts.
You've more or less answered your own question there. Some people come over much better in person than they do on a site like this. My guess is you are one of those people. You're in a really good position nationally to take advantage of some good clubs up your way (Blackpool, for instance). If I were you, I would be going for those. Anyone you meet that way will be able to verify you, and if you have hit all the right buttons for them, hopefully they will be glowing veris!"
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"2 things come to mind.
Firstly 2 pictures are not knicker wetters one is a face which is fine although a proper smile would be good as that one looks as though you are hiding your teeth and it has me wondering if they are a problem.
Next the line "I will add more to here as and when i can think of more things to say" on your profile says to me that you lack inspiration and might not be worth chatting to.
Neither will be magic fixes but it might not harm having a change. "
I thought it was just us that thought that about teeth lol  |
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"Hi there, i was wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction please as i've been on here a couple of years now and never seem to get anywhere, i met a girl on here when i first signed up and we got on great, we verified each other but she has since left the site so i don't know if it still shows up. I'm always polite to people on here and always make sure i read their profile fully and that i meet their requirements, i don't send pictures of my private parts as i know people don't like that so i really don't know what i'm doing wrong and its getting to the point where i'm considering leaving the site as i feel i'm wasting my time. I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts."
Your verification 'tick' still shows from the lady who left the site, but her words are no longer there. For some people (not me!), this will appear that you are 'hiding' your verifications, so it would be good if you could get some new verifications to display.
As another poster said, don't wait to be invited to a club - go on your own!
But, as some other posters have said, I would definitely recommend going along to some of the organised socials and parties in your area (you'll find them in the UK Forum, or the Meet Request and Parties Forum). Meeting people socially is the easiest way to get verifications, and the organised socials/parties are the quickest way to make friends with lots of people in one evening.
If you're nervous about being 'Billy No Mates' at the socials/parties in your area, then I suggest you become a "regular" in Northern Chat in here - it's a great way to make friends who will chat with you at the socials/parties.
My tips for success in Chat are:-
~ put your cam on your face, and be prepared that few people will watch it (but peeps will feel more comfortable knowing that they COULD watch it!)
~ chat with everyone, NOT just the people you hope to have sex with
~ be friendly and polite, and patient!
~ persevere!
Good luck
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"Hi there, i was wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction please as i've been on here a couple of years now and never seem to get anywhere, i met a girl on here when i first signed up and we got on great, we verified each other but she has since left the site so i don't know if it still shows up. I'm always polite to people on here and always make sure i read their profile fully and that i meet their requirements, i don't send pictures of my private parts as i know people don'tc like that so i really don't know what i'm doing wrong and its getting to the point where i'm considering leaving the site as i feel i'm wasting my time. I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts.
You're Scouse.....therein lies the answer
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Firstly, dont leave as that is the one sure way to guarantee you wont get to meet anyone.
Secondly, your profile is fine, your pic is a good clear one ( yes its not a wide grin but its a clear face pic).
Lastly, dont use the site to just 'look for a meet', use it to chat, to banter, to join in the forum and get to know people that way. Have fun on here and who knows where it could lead.
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With indoor photos, I prefer a bland and featurless background. The first pic is too fuzzy to see any detail. The second looks as though there is a small arm growing from your neck.
1. Better photos / torso shots / hint of what's available
2. Go on local area chat and chat/cam
3. Go to a club. Lots where you are!
4. Don't be a scally.
5. Practice a Newcastle accent.
6. Improve your profile with what you like and what you don't like - be true to yourself as you won't attract all the people all the time by trying to cover all bases, no matter what you write, some will like it, some won't.
7. Do you like Starwars?  |
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"Hi there, i was wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction please as i've been on here a couple of years now and never seem to get anywhere, i met a girl on here when i first signed up and we got on great, we verified each other but she has since left the site so i don't know if it still shows up. I'm always polite to people on here and always make sure i read their profile fully and that i meet their requirements, i don't send pictures of my private parts as i know people don't like that so i really don't know what i'm doing wrong and its getting to the point where i'm considering leaving the site as i feel i'm wasting my time. I don't have any problems meeting people any other time so i don't know whats different here. Any ideas will be much appreciated and thanks in advance to anyone who posts."
Im completely with you on that mate. Ive been on here three years on and off and had the same problem. Its utterly relentless and completely demoralising. I have tried EVERY SINGLE trick in the book, taken advice from lots of people and compared myself to the seemingly kings of fab and without trying to seem deluded, didnt see what they had that was much better than me. Ive always stayed on here just cos I always think maybe one day I can break the ice but I dont rely on it. I meet a lot of women outside so obviously its hard to show youre just a normal chilled out bloke to people on here. I say just stick in there, try the clubs, get out to the socials, it will be a domino effect after that. |
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"With indoor photos, I prefer a bland and featurless background. The first pic is too fuzzy to see any detail. The second looks as though there is a small arm growing from your neck.
1. Better photos / torso shots / hint of what's available
2. Go on local area chat and chat/cam
3. Go to a club. Lots where you are!
4. Don't be a scally.
5. Practice a Newcastle accent.
6. Improve your profile with what you like and what you don't like - be true to yourself as you won't attract all the people all the time by trying to cover all bases, no matter what you write, some will like it, some won't.
7. Do you like Starwars? "
no'7 very important!  |
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You're a good looking man who can accommodate. You also seem able to string a sentence together, but the content of your profile needs work: it's generic and dull. Your first picture makes you come across as a lad, someone you'd go drinking with, not naked with.
Unfortunately you're height may put some off, but there's a cheeky wee Scottish chappy that frequents the forums who has to beat the ladies off with a stick! His personality and confidence makes him a giant among men in my view.
Not everyone likes clubs and socials but it won't hurt using the forums to interact with other users and not just to whine about your lot.
We'll never appeal to everyone...don't try...good luck! |
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I don't see your height as being a problem but your profile is very bland and boring I am afraid and I don't really like your first picture.
Time for a revamp. Good luck. |
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"I don't see your height as being a problem but your profile is very bland and boring I am afraid and I don't really like your first picture.
Time for a revamp. Good luck."
Are you talking to me or OP?
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