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Verifications/No luck!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all. The majority of profiles I've come across mostly state that messages/replies won't be sent to those without meet verifications. Which is all well and good...but what about the newbies who haven't yet had the chance to be verified? Although I can totally understand their reasons for doing so. It just frustrates me slightly...
Not new to the 'swinging scene' as such and we've had the pleasure of a few ladies' company off of previous sites. But so far on here it's as dry as a desert. I'm just wondering if we're doing something wrong? Feedback most welcome... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty of profiles that don't make that demand though. Maybe focus on those. Most people accept that newbies like yourself won;t be verified but my be more concerned by people that have been on significantly longer but remain unverified.
Or you could go to a club or social where it's pretty certain that you'll find someone off the site happy to verify you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can get verified on cam?!
Not quite as impressive as a meet in person but will enable you to get the magical little green tick.
I have to admit as a single female, I do prefer a tick. But if you didn't have one already I'd meet in a public place for a social., |
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I don't think your lack of verifications is the main problem: not all of us rely on total strangers to decide whether we take another total stranger into our bed! 
You've only been here three weeks. You're looking for a bi fem under 30, and you make no reference as to what part your partner will play. Will the other woman get to have sex with both of you, or is she there to put on a show, be the warm up act then sit like a spare part while you both get your grove on?
Make your profile appealing to your (very small and highly sought) target audience.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all. The majority of profiles I've come across mostly state that messages/replies won't be sent to those without meet verifications. Which is all well and good...but what about the newbies who haven't yet had the chance to be verified? Although I can totally understand their reasons for doing so. It just frustrates me slightly...
Not new to the 'swinging scene' as such and we've had the pleasure of a few ladies' company off of previous sites. But so far on here it's as dry as a desert. I'm just wondering if we're doing something wrong? Feedback most welcome..."
Hey guys first off live the profile, think it says it all, don't worry about verification that will happen so bide your time, you will get more no's than you will the illusive yes, I have had a fair no of messages deleted with out a reply,n you just take it on the chin and keep trying, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't insist on verifications and actually say this on our profile. We understand that sometimes it takes a while to meet someone off here when your new. But we do prefer for them to be photo verified. If they have been on a year and got no verifications or not photo verified we wouldn't bother talking and arranging to meet as it does seem a bit strange. |
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I think your lack of luck has little to do with verifications.
You are looking for a minority on this website, a single bi female. Add to the fact you have a very narrow age range makes your target audience a lot smaller. Add to the fact that your interests state soft swing, insinuating that said bi female wouldn't get to have sex with your male partner, makes your target audience even smaller. Most (not all) single bi fems that meet couples (a small minority), prefer to play with both, not be seen as some kind of warm up act. If this isn't the case, I suggest you alter your profile text and interests.
I'm not in any way suggesting you alter your preferences, just be prepared to wait a lot longer for what you are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think your lack of luck has little to do with verifications.
You are looking for a minority on this website, a single bi female. Add to the fact you have a very narrow age range makes your target audience a lot smaller. Add to the fact that your interests state soft swing, insinuating that said bi female wouldn't get to have sex with your male partner, makes your target audience even smaller. Most (not all) single bi fems that meet couples (a small minority), prefer to play with both, not be seen as some kind of warm up act. If this isn't the case, I suggest you alter your profile text and interests.
I'm not in any way suggesting you alter your preferences, just be prepared to wait a lot longer for what you are looking for. "
FunkyFox has just about summed it up here. A lack of 'meet veris' is very often something which people clutch at to justify why they are finding it hard to get going, but the root of the problem is usually much closer to home... you may need a bit of a rethink... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all of your replies and feedback. I understand that 3 weeks isn't a lot of time to have been actively looking. To be honest I didn't expect it to happen overnight. We would like to get to know someone first before a meet is arranged and were willing to put in the time and effort.
I'm thinking it may be a good idea to see if I can get verified by cam so thank you for that suggestion.
And I will change my profile text to specify what we're looking for more clearly. I most definitely want everyone involved in the fun and there will be no one left out 
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"There are plenty of profiles that don't make that demand though. Maybe focus on those. Most people accept that newbies like yourself won;t be verified but my be more concerned by people that have been on significantly longer but remain unverified.
Or you could go to a club or social where it's pretty certain that you'll find someone off the site happy to verify you."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you for the bum comments 
I do have face pictures and of us both. Have chosen to keep them private, to attach to messages. Is this something that hinders interest? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for the bum comments
I do have face pictures and of us both. Have chosen to keep them private, to attach to messages. Is this something that hinders interest? "
No. Keep it that way. I would even put your face pics in your private gallery. If someone wants to see them, you can attach them to a message. And it saves having to allow people 'perving your privates' by adding them to 'friends'.. which is a whole other subject! |
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"Thank you for the bum comments
I do have face pictures and of us both. Have chosen to keep them private, to attach to messages. Is this something that hinders interest? "
You don't have to show his face pic publicly but you're BOTH looking to play with a BI fem, just a guess she'd want to see a body shot of you both!  |
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