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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy " Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here." you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "Ditch her mate, go and fill your boots   | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
Ditch her mate, go and fill your boots "thankyou for sensible answer. | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here. "You ask questions, you got answers. It’s not always going to be what you want to hear, I’m afraid. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
Ditch her mate, go and fill your boots thankyou for sensible answer."Or should I say; empty your sack | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here. "Any good at golf? | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here.
Any good at golf?"sport is like watching paint dry | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here.
Any good at golf? sport is like watching paint dry "Counselling, if she’s similar age to you, not too old. | |||
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"I think personally, you need to decide what is more important for you. Could you be happy in a sexless relationship? Would you be heartbroken and devastated if you were no longer with her.. and could you give your all to her without sex involved? It's not an easy situation to be in "i am giving her my all, she is a lady of leisure. | |||
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"Op try couples counselling. If your wife won't go, go alone. From your recent posts this is obviously causing you problems. Best of luck to both of you"
We totally agree with the comment above. At 53 your home sex life should just be getting into top gear!! | |||
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"I think personally, you need to decide what is more important for you. Could you be happy in a sexless relationship? Would you be heartbroken and devastated if you were no longer with her.. and could you give your all to her without sex involved? It's not an easy situation to be in i am giving her my all, she is a lady of leisure."yes | |||
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"Am I her age op? " yes | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs" Brilliantly put, Tea. | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs" for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "It's a vert tricky one op. Nobody knows your situation other than you. But no is no and all I will say is.. Think of your life without her and evaluate whether you can compromise and swallow your own needs to keep with what you have got. It's tough. Been there myself. | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting "Joining a site like this isn't the answer. | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting
Joining a site like this isn't the answer. "that is your opinion | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here. "That is (Fab...) for you, lol.  | |||
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"Why do you ask for help from only women and couples ?" by help I think he means have sex with him. | |||
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"Why do you ask for help from only women and couples ? by help I think he means have sex with him." Ah, THAT kind of help  | |||
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"Why do you ask for help from only women and couples ?" Because they might give a different perspective that might help? Who knows. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
It's a vert tricky one op. Nobody knows your situation other than you. But no is no and all I will say is.. Think of your life without her and evaluate whether you can compromise and swallow your own needs to keep with what you have got. It's tough. Been there myself. "The trouble is you don't know what life will be like without her until you leave. | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting "I’m not talking about swinging. I’m talking about your relationship. Forget swinging and focus on your relationship or leave her, treat her with the respect that you promised you would, stop thinking with your cock | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
It's a vert tricky one op. Nobody knows your situation other than you. But no is no and all I will say is.. Think of your life without her and evaluate whether you can compromise and swallow your own needs to keep with what you have got. It's tough. Been there myself. The trouble is you don't know what life will be like without her until you leave. "i know | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "I bloody hope 53 isn't too old for sex. I'd only have two years to go. 
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"Have you thought that your wife my be going through the menopause when saying to old for sex means she really can't be arsed and trying to put it in a nicer way ?" she has never really liked it | |||
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"I’d say shag as much as you can OP "thankyou | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
I bloody hope 53 isn't too old for sex. I'd only have two years to go.
How old is your wife? "53 | |||
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"I’d say shag as much as you can OP thankyou "I think we’ve found what you’re looking for. You don’t want advice, you want someone to agree with you to ease your guilty conscience | |||
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". for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting "Honestly if you relationship is on rocky ground and you are not having sex ..... trying to introduce her to fab is a massive mistake ... and will never get the result you want. Talk to her, listen, try to understand, be compassionate. And if all else fails. Leave ... divorce and enjoy a happy single life ... | |||
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"Dont cheat. That's unfair and brutally cruel. If that's her choice then you need to sit down and have a long hard think as to whether you will stay or go. What's more important to you? I understand it's not easy. Do you love her and enjoy her companionship? Would you honestly risk family in exchange for the occasional bonk? The only way is to talk this through. You are both very young to be in a sexless marriage. There is a reason for this, try to work out the underlying issue. But ultimately you have to respect her boundaries and final decisions. Is the relationship worse more than sex? Or is the relationship doomed without it? So many questions. For the record I do sympathise, to give up at this age is to young in my personal opinion ( not that my opinion matters) Best of luck Thankyou Mrs" | |||
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"Have you thought that your wife my be going through the menopause when saying to old for sex means she really can't be arsed and trying to put it in a nicer way ? she has never really liked it" you answered your own question then . | |||
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" ... It's not an easy situation to be in i am giving her my all, she is a lady of leisure."Sounds like she's got the trump cards! | |||
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"Have you thought that your wife my be going through the menopause when saying to old for sex means she really can't be arsed and trying to put it in a nicer way ? she has never really liked it" I’ll get lambasted for this one. If she’s never liked it, is it because you’re not attending to her needs? Because good sex takes 2 people. But - you need to pick Your marriage & your wife. Sexless. Which does not mean loveless. Or leave. Give you both a chance for happiness. Cheating is not the answer. Fab is not the answer. And no matter how many times you ask the same question on here. THAT answer is not going to change. | |||
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" ... It's not an easy situation to be in i am giving her my all, she is a lady of leisure.
Sounds like she's got the trump cards!"Has she ? In what way ? | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here. "To be fair OP, it's not the first time you've discussed this in the forums. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "Exactly the same situation. It's rough | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
Exactly the same situation. It's rough "Get ready to be slated. | |||
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"If it's just about the sex then find yourself a nice local lady of the night Cheaper than divorce" There’s plenty of divorces as a result of utilising “professional services”. | |||
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"At this point the ‘if you love me card’ Is very necessary and reasonable. Explain how important it is to you. " Erm….. 
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
Exactly the same situation. It's rough
Get ready to be slated. "I'm OK I have my hard hat on | |||
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"The thing is OP, this isn’t a hook up site, this is a swingers site. People on here are often about building their relationships through honesty and open communication. What you’re doing is pretty much the opposite. People that cheat usually get very short shrift on here. Your partner is obviously going through something and you’ve chosen option C; go behind her back and try to cheat. If the only reason that you’re with them is for the sex, then you need to examine your relationship and think about that. Rather than trying to make a mockery of your relationship and the person that you claim to ‘love’ why don’t you try talking, counselling and supporting her. If that doesn’t work then split up and find someone that can meet your needs for your information, i have asked her to come onto a site like this, because i want to, and do it properly, she says its disgusting
Joining a site like this isn't the answer. that is your opinion "It's very clearly also your wifes opinion too, from what you've posted about things she's said. A woman you made vows with. She's already made it very clear to you that if you play away, it's over and yet here you are. You're hitting out at those who are saying that what you're doing is wrong, so it seems very clear to me that you were hoping to get a lot of sympathy when the opposite is the case. As has been said, this is a swinging site, and swinging is all about trust, respect and honesty and cheating is not the same thing at all and very much frowned upon on fab. I'd suggest that by still being on here despite the things she's said, you clearly don't give a rats ar*e about her, so why not do her a favour and leave her so she can find someobe who will respect her | |||
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"Too old for sex at 53 sounds a bit like an excuse. You've said she has never liked it, so you need to decide now what takes precidence...a sexless marriage. Or marriageless sex. You need to sit down and have a conversation, you obviously have needs that she does not want to assist you with. She doesn't like sex. There's no winner. Masturbate. Or leave. " I'd agree with this. Does she not want to have sex, or does she not want to have sex with *you*? | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "I'm 65 save still active, seems younger women are easier to get now. | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here.
To be fair OP, it's not the first time you've discussed this in the forums."Shag pint avoid threads seems to repeat.. Why not this one.? | |||
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"At this point the ‘if you love me card’ Is very necessary and reasonable. Explain how important it is to you. Erm…..
I really hope you mean opening a conversation and not coercing her into sex."When married our couples counsellor suggested she give it a go... In fairness she did... But within seconds we were both in tears... Fucking stupid counsellor. | |||
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"Are things ok outside of the bedroom? Start there." Yes. As they say, problems in Bedfordshire That Keep popping up, might also be indicative of problems outside of Bedfordshire. | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here.
To be fair OP, it's not the first time you've discussed this in the forums.
Shag pint avoid threads seems to repeat.. Why not this one.? "lol | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "Have you considered seeking help from an experienced and professionally qualified counsellor accredited in Psychosexual Therapy? | |||
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"Op try couples counselling. If your wife won't go, go alone. From your recent posts this is obviously causing you problems. Best of luck to both of you" Excellent point made - absolutely worth a try however, the waits in the NHS even in this sector can take quite a long time … Good luck - awful Dilemma but be supportive | |||
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"Get a new wife who wants sex. " Are you looking for a husband | |||
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"Did she say you're too old for sex before or after you joined here? Are you clapped out?" far from it thankyou | |||
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"It’s a dilemma. I was in a similar situation at your age. I bit the bullet, had a long conversation and left. It was like losing a noose around my neck. I’ve had relationships, fun on here and been to swingers clubs. Have a new relationship now with a highly sexed lady who is great fun. Not suggesting you do the same, but remember, your life is not a rehearsal. PM me if you want " thankyou | |||
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"The statement “We’re too old for sex” is deflection and not the real reason for the lack of sexual interest. You need to get to the real cause of the problem, and that could prove challenging. Does your wife have any physical issues which can result in sex not being enjoyable for her? Has she never enjoyed it or just not enjoyed it with you? Has she got any hang ups about her body or with sex generally? How is everything else at home? Does she feel wanted, valued, loved? Other than sexual intimacy, is there any affection? Lots to explore, but how do you get to the bottom of it? You need a very frank and open conversation with her about it. Does she know how you feel about it? As others have suggested, professional counselling could be very beneficial for both of you. If you can’t get it resolved, to the point that your wife engages and enjoys a full sex life with you, then you have to ask yourself a few hard questions. Would your wife allow or tolerate you having a sex life elsewhere if she really has no further interest in sex? Is there enough in the marriage to enable you to put a sex life aside and continue together without one? Is sex so important to you that you would leave a marriage in order to build a new sex life for yourself with others? An affair, casual fab meets, or transactional relationships are best avoided as if discovered, it could ruin any chance of restoring your sex life at home, and more likely end the marriage non-amicably." And everyone is a couch psychotherapist... | |||
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"Get a new wife who wants sex. " i wish | |||
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"Op, you have been given advice several times on this and your old profile. She's told you not to cheat, yet you're on here anyway looking for people to help you do that. Only you know your wife and why she doesn't want sex, if it can't be fixed maybe it's time to call it quits, then you can go have all the sex you want. We only ever hear your side of the story though and there are always 3 sides to any story. " i havent got an old profike this is tge only one i have ever had. | |||
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"Are things ok outside of the bedroom? Start there. Yes. As they say, problems in Bedfordshire That Keep popping up, might also be indicative of problems outside of Bedfordshire." i dont live in bedfordshire | |||
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"Too old for sex at 53 sounds a bit like an excuse. You've said she has never liked it, so you need to decide now what takes precidence...a sexless marriage. Or marriageless sex. You need to sit down and have a conversation, you obviously have needs that she does not want to assist you with. She doesn't like sex. There's no winner. Masturbate. Or leave. I'd agree with this. Does she not want to have sex, or does she not want to have sex with *you*?" i sont know and dont care. | |||
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"And everyone is a couch psychotherapist... "What advice would you give the OP? | |||
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"And everyone is a couch psychotherapist...
What advice would you give the OP?"My advice would be to get sucked off by the hoover.......or is that too much deflection based on a transactional relationship...... Mr | |||
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"Op, you have been given advice several times on this and your old profile. She's told you not to cheat, yet you're on here anyway looking for people to help you do that. Only you know your wife and why she doesn't want sex, if it can't be fixed maybe it's time to call it quits, then you can go have all the sex you want. We only ever hear your side of the story though and there are always 3 sides to any story. i havent got an old profike this is tge only one i have ever had." You keep saying this, but we know differently | |||
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"Always treat her with respect OP. " sounds like a veri... Sucks like a pro | |||
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"Are things ok outside of the bedroom? Start there. Yes. As they say, problems in Bedfordshire That Keep popping up, might also be indicative of problems outside of Bedfordshire. i dont live in bedfordshire" I'm fully aware. Quite a lot of people use "Bedford" or "Bedfordshire" as slang to refer to the bedroom or going to sleep. And we know that problems in Bedford That Keep popping up, might indicate problems outside of Bedford(shire) | |||
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"I hated sex until I met the right man.I was 36 when we met.Haven't stopped sex since that day.Even when poorly we still have quality love making.I believe I was with the wrong men.Im 60" Heck yes. | |||
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"I think you should make it clear that you don't feel too old for sex, so ask her for a solution. If she can't offer one suggest that you can - it's only right that she allows you the freedom to enjoy sex and she should agree to a compromise. K." thankyou | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "If you’re able to talk about this with your wife, counselling is certainly one idea that may help, but you may need to be prepared to hear some truths about yourself that are uncomfortable, and which require you to put some personal work in. Her saying you are too old for sex could be a cover for a lot of things- for example: Has you considered that she might have an underlying health condition that makes sex difficult/painful/uncomfortable, that she might be too embarrassed to discuss with you? Menopause/HRT/medications could be destroying her libido? Has gained/lost a lot of weight and has this destroyed her confidence and made her feel unattractive? Have YOU gained/lost a lot of weight? What are you doing about making her actually feel attractive and desirable? Do you make an effort or sit around the house scratching yourself and farting until it’s time to demand a bunk-up?! Are you pulling your weight domestically, or is she so exhausted by work and running the house etc that she no longer has the energy for anything else? What shared interests and activities do you have that help bring you together and give you both enjoyment and common ground?- or have you drifted into being nothing more than legally bonded room mates? | |||
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"Get a new wife who wants sex. i wish" If that is what you wish then why are you sticking around? | |||
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"Op try couples counselling. If your wife won't go, go alone. From your recent posts this is obviously causing you problems. Best of luck to both of you
We totally agree with the comment above. At 53 your home sex life should just be getting into top gear!!"Not necessarily both men and women can suffer a major loss of libido due to low hormone levels so a visit to the gp is a good place to start. You have a right to a sex life so you both need to find a solution. | |||
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"There must be some reason for going off sex and age isnt one that comes to my mind.. I’m 70 and partner 51 we had sex 26 times last month. " Things could be different in a couple of year's time. OP's wife is 53! | |||
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"Are things ok outside of the bedroom? Start there. Yes. As they say, problems in Bedfordshire That Keep popping up, might also be indicative of problems outside of Bedfordshire. i dont live in bedfordshire" One might have hoped that a sense of humour might go some way towards resolving this awkward situation, but perhaps not. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know. "She sounds extremely selfish to me. Just because shes given up on sex at a relatively young age why should you? You only live once, have fun! Mr | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
She sounds extremely selfish to me. Just because shes given up on sex at a relatively young age why should you? You only live once, have fun!
Mr "To be fair, we haven't heard her side of the story yet. Unlikely unless she joins and, if she does, it will put a whole new slant on things! | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
She sounds extremely selfish to me. Just because shes given up on sex at a relatively young age why should you? You only live once, have fun!
Mr "With all due respect your taking what some random person over the Internet has said as facts. It's a very convient excuse to have when someone is just being a selfish twat. | |||
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"Am I her age op? yes" Hit me up?! | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
She sounds extremely selfish to me. Just because shes given up on sex at a relatively young age why should you? You only live once, have fun!
Mr With all due respect your taking what some random person over the Internet has said as facts.
It's a very convient excuse to have when someone is just being a selfish twat.
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"go for a thai massage or es cort no one will know hurts no one " Never been too impressed with Thai massage. They always say "Too big!". Guess in their case you can't always say it hurts no one! I never have that problem with Africans! | |||
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" Does she not want to have sex, or does she not want to have sex with *you*? i sont know and dont care. " Perhaps, OP, if you took more time to find out the answer to this you might start getting closer to a resolution? Maybe start by actually caring about her? If you do manage to talk about it with her, be prepared for some hard to hear answers. Maybe you are not the great lover you think you are? Perhaps you are not making sex an enjoyable experience for her? We’re only hearing your side. And have a look on Rightmove and start researching your new single life, as if she finds your fab profile that might be the answer you get. | |||
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"Green arrow "It certainly makes for some interesting reading. I rather enjoyed how one of the threads got amusingly hijacked. Surely the cure for desperation is the long established sex industry? I guess that the lure of the FAB route is that it could cost less, but probably not in terms of time and effort! | |||
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"Green arrow "And that's just this current profile.. | |||
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"Helmet on OP, this could get bumpy Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here. you ask sensible question, and ther are always sarcastic nasty people on here.
You ask questions, you got answers. It’s not always going to be what you want to hear, I’m afraid. "It is hardly friendly though is it when they are giving out what people that say it is "banter" when the OP clearly doesn't want it | |||
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"Are things ok outside of the bedroom? Start there. Yes. As they say, problems in Bedfordshire That Keep popping up, might also be indicative of problems outside of Bedfordshire. i dont live in bedfordshire One might have hoped that a sense of humour might go some way towards resolving this awkward situation, but perhaps not." What if like me you had no clue were the joke was? I had never heard of the saying either | |||
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"Op try couples counselling. If your wife won't go, go alone. From your recent posts this is obviously causing you problems. Best of luck to both of you
We totally agree with the comment above. At 53 your home sex life should just be getting into top gear!!"Keep Jeremy Clarkson and company out of this lol | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
I bloody hope 53 isn't too old for sex. I'd only have two years to go.
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"Get a new wife who wants sex. i wish" Seriously though, I know what it feels like to have a sexless marriage. I'm assuming there's love in yours though. People have given you advice as to counselling, medical help and telling her how you feel. If she isn't going do any of that you have 3 choices. Spend the rest of her life masturbating; have sex with women without her knowledge; leave the relationship. I do know some women who turned a blind eye to their partners' philandering, because they had a nice home, plenty of money and they weren't pestered for sex. I hope you resolve your issue. | |||
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"Any woman or couple help me, my wife says we are to old for sex, but if i stray she says it over, but thats why i am on here. She just dosent want to know.
I bloody hope 53 isn't too old for sex. I'd only have two years to go.
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