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Any tips on unicorn hunting?
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Me and my female friend are trying to bring an additional woman into the bedroom but fab has been highly disappointing in this regard.
Are clubs the best bet to find other women as neither of us are able to be open with the fantasy at work due to our jobs and neither of us really know anyone that is into this way of life.
Any tips/anecdotes in how you've managed to find the elusive unicorn!? |
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Not treating them as a mythical beast to be hunted would be a good start 
Then set up a couple profile that shows what you have to offerva single lady.
I would also reccomend trying clubs. That's where we've had most success.
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Many bi women like to be considered people and not disposable sex aids for bored couples. Those who don't get put off by the term unicorn hunting are even rarer 
But yeah. Head to a club.
A single profile on here contacting me to meet with them and their 'partner' is an instant no anyway. |
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By *ojo2joWoman 41 weeks ago
Penclawdd |
"Yes!
Don’t treat them as objects to be hunted.
Ha, I get what you're saying but I'm only using that terminology as it's a common phrase!"
It might be a common phrase but doesn’t mean it’s pleasant. |
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Speaking as a unicorn... You need a couples profile containing photos of you both, some together and not just of your bits.
Take some time over your profile description, and make it clear you aren't looking for a female sex toy to fufill both your needs/wants/fantasies  |
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Yeah, I’d agree the term ‘hunting’ is more offensive than the term ‘unicorn’ - but google unicornsrus and give it a good read. If you make sure you give as much thought to what the unicorn might want as what you two want, you’ll be on a good path. Good luck. |
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The 'unicorns' we've found have all been friends before anything even ever came up. Best let it happen naturally. As a guy, that's all I got for you really. Be that safe and I hate to use the word, fun couple. Be approachable, be respectful. There's no secret trick to it anymore than this is trying to find someone for one on one sex. |
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Also here’s how the conversation has gone with every single profile man who has messaged me asking if I want to join him and his female friend:
Him: Hello, would you like to join me and my female friend for hot sex? She has asked me to look for a woman to join us.
Me: Hello! That sounds great. Perhaps your female friend could message me so that I can see her profile and have a chat with her too?
Then:
Either nothing at all ever again, or he claims she doesn’t have a fabs profile. |
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"There is a group (not on this site) where the women hunt the (naked) men with whips etc!"
There have been several of those groups over the years.
I attended a paintball one about 12 or 13 years ago.
It was great. |
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All good advice here but as you say you have a female friend you are basically two singletons so much more likely that she would be able to find a bi female and then introduce her to the idea of inviting you into the mix. |
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"Me and my female friend are trying to bring an additional woman into the bedroom but fab has been highly disappointing in this regard.
Are clubs the best bet to find other women as neither of us are able to be open with the fantasy at work due to our jobs and neither of us really know anyone that is into this way of life.
Any tips/anecdotes in how you've managed to find the elusive unicorn!? "
I dunno mate, treat people like they’re humans and not just there to service the fantasies of you and your “female friend”. |
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"Me and my female friend are trying to bring an additional woman into the bedroom but fab has been highly disappointing in this regard.
Are clubs the best bet to find other women as neither of us are able to be open with the fantasy at work due to our jobs and neither of us really know anyone that is into this way of life.
Any tips/anecdotes in how you've managed to find the elusive unicorn!? "
I don’t hunt for unicorns. I look for friends here  |
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By *oxy jWoman 41 weeks ago
somerset |
one your a single guy profile so 99.9% will walk on by ...two hunted wow really ... three most but not all hate the unicorn tag ... four you asking the question to the very few ie these forums are tiny most never go near it and as you'll openly see most are here just for the forums not all but most ...
so what your looking for is a bi woman who wants to play with you both so this is why its so hard to find most bi women want just ff ... but those who do want mff have to fancy both so thats most out the window ..then most dont want to me a toy / piece of meat so the guy can wank n watch ... and alot dont like male led couples ...and even more wont meet a fb/fwb couple .. there is so much going against it that its not hard to see why its not easy for most ...
the best way for a woman to meet and have fun with other women is gay clubs/nights ...
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Even as a couple, the old single lady is a hard find. We had it a few times, I’ve had it a few times alone (mostly off site though). But the best thing you can do? Clubs. Get out there and don’t treat them like statistics. You have to understand, that’s all you are… a number. There will always be hundreds more. They have the right to cherry pick who they want, and when.
Ao yeah a club night is always a good shout, because then you not only limit the pool of contenders as it were, but you also show your true self - something that’s hard to do on here.
Just thank yourself lucky you’re not in Telford. Over here, there’s hardly any singles OR couples… we have to go further afield! |
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You've been to Quest.... so why not just take your female friend there?
Single fems are majorly put off by a single male profile with a plus 1....
And your wording is cringe .....
You'll have better look IRL
K |
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"Many bi women like to be considered people and not disposable sex aids for bored couples. Those who don't get put off by the term unicorn hunting are even rarer
But yeah. Head to a club.
A single profile on here contacting me to meet with them and their 'partner' is an instant no anyway."
Pretty much the above. I have been called a unicorn as I played with a few cpls when I was single. It's not a good frase to use. I don't like the name myself. Joanne |
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We've been here on and off for a decade and often see the term 'unicorn' to reference a single 'genuine', extremely rare female on this site. There's nothing derogatory or predatory about the term.... Finding one is possible, we've had a few ourselves (Tony two on his own) yet incredibly difficult now the site has become a minefield of fakes, pic collectors and utter timewasters !. Yes much more chance in a good club... |
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Hi op, I'm not your target audience as I'm straight, however no lady will agree to meet a man and his friend from a single male profile.
If you are looking to meet together regularly then a couples profile with pics of you both on would work best. Bi fems are much in demand so you need to tell them what you offer and make them feel like you'd be interested in them as a person. Not just as a fantasy you're looking to fulfil.
If you don't want to do the joint profile then try a club, there's so many couples all after the same ffm fantasy on fab, so bi ladies who meet couples can afford to be very picky. |
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By *elkieWoman 40 weeks ago
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Have multiple female friends who enjoy having sex with you. Statistically, if you’re fucking enough women, eventually at least two of them will be bisexual. Introduce the two women so they can become friends who enjoy fucking each other. Then have a threesome.
All of this involves everyone involved being a likeable person, and clubs do make it easier to find friends to fuck. |
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If you want to go unicorn hunting, get yourself a spear first and stab yourself a few times. Realise its not a pleasant experience and then think of it less as hunting and more treating people less like a trophy and more like another human being? |
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Seems in our experience the way to hunt them is not to hunt them. We don't seek or hunt anyone as such. We go out, have a good time, meet who we bump into and if the mutual chemistry is there it's there and if its not its not. We've never had a game plan or a target. The single ladies We've been with it's always just been a case We've all happened to get along, the chemistry is there and its naturally lead to the bedroom. Most people don't want to be someone's sex toy or plaything. They want to be an equal stakeholder in the whole thing and terms that sort of objectify can to some give off all the wrong vibes (even if unintentional). They just want good mutually enjoyable times with people they vibe with and are attracted to.
So my advice chill. Put the end game on the back burner, forget about unicorns. Just take ladies as you find them, take an intrest in them as individual and seek three way chemistry. Of which also means being prepared in your own relationship to properly be prepared to fully accept accepting the desires and wants of another woman in your sex life too. Because most women don't want to be your little disposable sex toy or experiment, they have their own desires, wants and needs from you both too. I say that because I think some couples have a very idealised world in terms of singles which don't factor in the desires or needs of the guy or woman they want to join them and are just focused on what they want.
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Try a couples profile. I'd never reply to a single guy wanting a threesome. I always want to chat to the woman.
Go to a club and meet people naturally. It's the best way.
Realise that a single lady is not your toy and is not there to keep you happy. She has wants, needs and fantasies to fulfill too.
Single women have the pick of the crop. Make an effort.
Good luck x |
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Your profile indicates that you are a single male ( irrespective of what you have mentioned ) create a couples profile , with pictures of you both together. Simply mention in your bio what you both seek together, both enjoy together and both offer others together, that will help. |
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By *ezandCCouple 39 weeks ago
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Singles ladies have the power we realised finding a single lady on here is really hard, close to impossible, hence the unicorn, in some ways it depends where you live, some areas have more ladies.
We will continue to look but we are trying to broaden our horizons, so perhaps the same, explore more options?
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Yes.
1) Realise they're not mythical creatures but women out for fun just as you are. Treat them as such.
2) Go to clubs and/or social events.
3) Be charming.
4) Have no expectations.
People will suggest you to get a couples profile and that "may" work but my wife and I (who do have a couples account) find it very hard to meet any ladies through Fab. Clubs and socials are a different story though.
It's also worth taking into account some ladies simply won't join a fwb couple simply becauae it's a different dynamic to a romantic couple....but singles night at the club...all bets are off.
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Change your profile to a couples profile with some pics.
Get some verifications as a couple.
Put yourselves about as a couple, go to clubs, try to get invites to parties etc
I have no problem with the term unicorn, but do have a problem with a single guy asking on behalf of a couple.
Put yourself in the shoes of a lady looking to meet a couple.
Trust me, as a lady who has done it several times its very, very difficult to find them, lots chat about it, very few really want to make the effort as distance, time and compatability have to be taken into account.
Good luck in your search. |
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