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If I'm messaging someone for the first time it's because something in their profile or a forum post got my attention so I lead with that and aim to start a conversation.
I tend to keep it short and sweet. |
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Something either interesting- either if they're noticed we've posted in a forum or it's something they've read on our profile.
Just a standard "hi how are you" type message is annoying. Anyone can send one of those.
C xoxo |
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By *ojo2joWoman 42 weeks ago
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"Friendly and fun ones xx Is the first line important ? as I struggle to think of something that is interesting enough "
The first line and the title are the most important became this is what the receiver sees before they decide to open your message or not.
Boring or generic title/ first line unlikely to even be opened. |
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"Friendly and fun ones xx Is the first line important ? as I struggle to think of something that is interesting enough
The first line and the title are the most important became this is what the receiver sees before they decide to open your message or not.
Boring or generic title/ first line unlikely to even be opened."
I can think of titles but I’m clueless with the first line |
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"Something either interesting- either if they're noticed we've posted in a forum or it's something they've read on our profile.
Just a standard "hi how are you" type message is annoying. Anyone can send one of those.
C xoxo"
This! |
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I struggle a lot if there’s not much info on a profile, as I’m the kind of person that when I go onto a profile, the first thing I look at is their bio to see if there’s a common interest or something I can say that relates, as that’s more important to me than their photos. I’d be lying though if how they look doesn’t have a role to play if I’m going to message them, as I need to feel an attraction. But that works both ways, as the person or couple I’m messaging will look at both my pictures and/or profile and decide if they feel an attraction. |
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"Something with a bit of banter that shows they have looked at the profile.
Honestly it isn't too much to ask."
"I don’t mean it’s too much to ask at all. I mean, if there’s little to no info on a profile or just sexual things, I find it hard to send a message, as I don’t like sending anyone things that are sexual on a first message . But that’s just me, though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Something with a bit of banter that shows they have looked at the profile.
Honestly it isn't too much to ask. "I don’t mean it’s too much to ask at all. I mean, if there’s little to no info on a profile or just sexual things, I find it hard to send a message, as I don’t like sending anyone things that are sexual on a first message . But that’s just me, though."
Do you really want to message people who wont give clear indications on their profile though?
Also never send a sexual message on the first one. Unless it says to do so on the profile. |
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"Something with a bit of banter that shows they have looked at the profile.
Honestly it isn't too much to ask. "I don’t mean it’s too much to ask at all. I mean, if there’s little to no info on a profile or just sexual things, I find it hard to send a message, as I don’t like sending anyone things that are sexual on a first message . But that’s just me, though.
Do you really want to message people who wont give clear indications on their profile though?
Also never send a sexual message on the first one. Unless it says to do so on the profile. "
Not really, but where I live, there are a lot of profiles with no info. However, I love to travel, so I don’t mind going a bit further if I find profiles I have more in common with, as a connection is more important to me than having a one-night stand. I’d never send a sexual message first; I believe it’s disrespectful. |
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"An intelligent, polite, funny message is always a nice surprise, if you acknowledge that we are a couple and don’t gross us out that’s even better"
I definitely need to work on my approach I’d like to say my messages are intelligent and polite but lack humour
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Something with a bit of banter that shows they have looked at the profile.
Honestly it isn't too much to ask. "I don’t mean it’s too much to ask at all. I mean, if there’s little to no info on a profile or just sexual things, I find it hard to send a message, as I don’t like sending anyone things that are sexual on a first message . But that’s just me, though.
Do you really want to message people who wont give clear indications on their profile though?
Also never send a sexual message on the first one. Unless it says to do so on the profile. Not really, but where I live, there are a lot of profiles with no info. However, I love to travel, so I don’t mind going a bit further if I find profiles I have more in common with, as a connection is more important to me than having a one-night stand. I’d never send a sexual message first; I believe it’s disrespectful."
You seem to have the right mindset tbh man.
It's a marathon not a sprint and it is all a learning experience |
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"Just put you into your message op and if they like you then they will reply if not they won’t.
T"
Great advice I’ve learned recently to just be myself. Not everyone can like you on here or in life |
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By *unchalMan 41 weeks ago
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I guess you have to work with what you have. I have never once received a funny or particularly confident message. Sometimes it is like extracting teeth. Once or twice I have felt mildly intrigued but that only lasts a couple of messages. It’s a tough choice. Be entertained from the start and sex. Or eventually have sex.  |
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"Ones that are confident and naughty but without calling me a whore or a slut"
I don’t send either of those. I guess I’m just polite in my message’s. How’s life treating you both in Brazil? I’d love to visit sometime
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Ones that are confident and naughty but without calling me a whore or a slut I don’t send either of those. I guess I’m just polite in my message’s. How’s life treating you both in Brazil? I’d love to visit sometime "
Life is good here but play time is limited.
We tend to get more fun when travelling. |
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"Ones that are confident and naughty but without calling me a whore or a slut I don’t send either of those. I guess I’m just polite in my message’s. How’s life treating you both in Brazil? I’d love to visit sometime
Life is good here but play time is limited.
We tend to get more fun when travelling."
that’s good to hear. Shame you can’t. I travel a lot too. Lived in the USA as i child and went back 2 years go to visit. I go around Europe alot too though |
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By *oxy jWoman 41 weeks ago
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"Really struggling with the first line of messages anyone have any tips?"
how can anyone give you tips thats like asking others to write it for you ??? only eou know you and you'll need to work it out for yourself if you want to meet others ..
iits not rocket science its about you and what you want to talk about ... you just have to figure it out |
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Something friendly and chatty… I get numerous messages that are crass and of the ‘wanna fuck’ variety and that’s an instant turn off. I know it’s hard for guys on here to get replies and many probably get fed up with trying to create messages that stand out though. |
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"Something with a bit of banter that shows they have looked at the profile.
Honestly it isn't too much to ask. "I don’t mean it’s too much to ask at all. I mean, if there’s little to no info on a profile or just sexual things, I find it hard to send a message, as I don’t like sending anyone things that are sexual on a first message . But that’s just me, though."
See this response indicates to me you want to message everyone. If there is little to no info or things you dislike, why would you even try to construct a message, makes zero sense,
move on to a profile that ticks your boxes
Theres no one size fits all message what suits one won't suit another |
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"Hey, question for the ladies and couples on here: What kind of messages do you like to receive, and what would make you more inclined to reply?"
One that hasn’t been crowdsourced, and is a reflection of the person sending it. |
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Maybe make a play in your name being Oasis and start with a ‘funny’ message using lyrics
If I were you I’d say something like…..
Maybe you don’t really wanna know more about me but……..see if they get the humour and go from there. Some will get some won’t. You won’t be everyone’s bag so don’t take personally |
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