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Help i need lesson or advice to become a Dom/master
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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do you want tips on being dominant or being A dominant
for me its my natural state to be in control and dominant, I learnt to be A dominant from common sense, and talking to others into the same things
there are other websites that cater more to BDSM that have lots of useful information - read, talk learn read more talk more,
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"Hello
The fast been a Dom/master really turns me on but don't have a clue what things to say and do
Looking for someone to teach me and give advice  "
Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display.
Don't force it though, dominance and submission are natural things, if it isn't coming for you then it may not be there.
There is also a HUGE difference between being a Dominant and a Master though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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op.. have u had much experience meeting? from ur previous profile...
and all I'm worried is about is the fact its now 50shades nonsense everyones believing in as bdsm..
ur age is a bit of a set back too...unless its someone ur own age or under..I doubt u have the life experience to dom
anyway its really not my scene, I prefer to have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you contacted Sydney University??
Seems according to so many profiles they have an interest in all things sexual so they may have courses!!
Plus the weather's lush out there!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for your feedback, I know my age is a big thing but looking to get it right so if doesn't become a problem, I'm new to all this and the idea seem to turn me on, just showing a interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and deb have a very sub/dom sexual relationship but it wasent somthing we learned from readig or asking people it just came naturally to us, we had to take time to develop the relationship and learn each others boundries all we can say is dont rush it and think you can just dominate a woman instantly, although you could find that aswell |
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You are only a Dom if you have a sub. A sub being a person who submits to you, to a significant extent sublimates their will to yours. Therefore to become a Dom your need to evoke that response in a person you wish to submit to you, somebody you are going to invest a significant amount of time and energy on.
You need to understand a submissives psychological motivations and desire to submit so when you find somebody that you wish to submit to you you can evoke their submission.
So google, read, communicate with submissives, understand them. Then when you meet somebody you wish to have submit to you, you'll be ready.
If you want to be a bedroom Dom otherwise known as a shagging Top then buy a pair of leather trousers and some kit from ann summers, call all females you meet bitch or slut, and change your profile name to MasterSlutFucker or some such. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"You are only a Dom if you have a sub. A sub being a person who submits to you, to a significant extent sublimates their will to yours. Therefore to become a Dom your need to evoke that response in a person you wish to submit to you, somebody you are going to invest a significant amount of time and energy on.
You need to understand a submissives psychological motivations and desire to submit so when you find somebody that you wish to submit to you you can evoke their submission.
So google, read, communicate with submissives, understand them. Then when you meet somebody you wish to have submit to you, you'll be ready.
If you want to be a bedroom Dom otherwise known as a shagging Top then buy a pair of leather trousers and some kit from ann summers, call all females you meet bitch or slut, and change your profile name to MasterSlutFucker or some such."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am currently very successfully mentoring two dominants. But they are both very naturally dominant.
I think though that looking to learn is very admirable. So good luck to you. I can not really add much to what has been said. Xx
So good luck and enjoy the journey. Just beware as it's just minefield at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display. "
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Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about..."
Ah Shucks Ladies, you flatter me
Now Kneel......... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Don't know how old you are but people have been really patient here. I'd say if you haven't grown balls enough to try anything then don't get into it.
What is it exactly that you're missing ? What do you want that you can't get from regular sexed relationship?
Rape play? Suffocation? Dehumanising? Age pay? Flogging? Urology? Ownership?
Apart from these and a fee more of the extremes that can go with bdsm, there's really nothing much that can't be done in a regular sexual relationship, so just try some stuff. If she says no at any point, tame the beast immediately. That's it really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is also a HUGE difference between being a Dominant and a Master though.
And if someone doesn't understand that I'd avoid at all costs."
Aaahhhhhh! Grasshoppa!... fancy a meet? |
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"Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display.
Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about...
Ah Shucks Ladies, you flatter me
Now Kneel........."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Watch lots of bdsm porn - you'll learn lots but also read about it to im sure theres a dummies guide type book as theres alot of psychology behind bdsm but alot of people just like the idea of someone submitting to them. |
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"I don't really get the point . .."
Well....
"Laugh if you like but I would rather treat a woman as my equal with equal control of what she does and how she does it  "
Well that's made clear what ou want but what about her? You see difficult though some may find it to comprehend, some women actually want a power imbalance in their relationships. 
As much their right to choose to do so as yours to seek a 50/50 relationship
C'est la vie |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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From a woman's point of view. I like to completely dominate. Both of us get tremendous sexual satisfaction from it.
It's a very trusting relationship and I am flattered when someone submits totally to me.
I like the OP would like to explore this side further with advice from those much more experienced than me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to first realise that to enter into it properly there's a huge psychological consequences involved aswell as the physical permanent harm you can inflict if you don't know what your doing.
First look at the psychology behind it to see if this is what you really want and mature enough to handle that first as that's the most important part of any sub/dom bdsm relationship |
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