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So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated… |
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
go to a club or social and build a network of friends that way.. messaging on here is a waste of time mostly... Women get inundated with messages. |
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
That picture is going to help ffs! |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
Pics help and all you have is a blank one, profile is way too generic and doesn't show any character at all.  |
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I'd recommend you take a good hard look at your profile, be honest with yourself, if you were a woman, with a sea of men on here who've put real effort in to sell themselves, would you reply to you over them?
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By *elbaCouple 38 weeks ago
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
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Even Stevie Wonder  could see the issue straight off the bat. |
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Have a look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it say what you have to offer to your prospective meet or is it just a list of your demands? Is your profile too restrictive (mostly regarding age range)?
Also, you can't accommodate which a lot of people here read as "married/attached". If you're not, maybe explain why you cannot accommodate? However, if you're happy with it, don't change a thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Have a look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it say what you have to offer to your prospective meet or is it just a list of your demands? Is your profile too restrictive (mostly regarding age range)?
Also, you can't accommodate which a lot of people here read as "married/attached". If you're not, maybe explain why you cannot accommodate? However, if you're happy with it, don't change a thing."
Agree with all of this x |
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For us you would be a Red flag on can't accommodate as we stay clear of married men.
If you don't accommodate for other reasons then put it in your biography
EG single male can't accommodate as I live with ageing parents etc |
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"It’s certainly not easier been a woman. It’s all about effort and if you really want something do it.
Best start is actually having a profile."
Big doubt on that. I can imagine it is a pain getting inundated with messages and most of them inappropriate but that’s obviously preferable to getting no messages or replies |
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"Have a look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it say what you have to offer to your prospective meet or is it just a list of your demands? Is your profile too restrictive (mostly regarding age range)?
Also, you can't accommodate which a lot of people here read as "married/attached". If you're not, maybe explain why you cannot accommodate? However, if you're happy with it, don't change a thing."
Good point; especially on the accommodation thing. |
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"It’s certainly not easier been a woman. It’s all about effort and if you really want something do it.
Best start is actually having a profile.
Big doubt on that. I can imagine it is a pain getting inundated with messages and most of them inappropriate but that’s obviously preferable to getting no messages or replies "
So you would rather have 100s of messages that waste your time sifting through them only to find absolutely none of them are what you are looking for. OK
Quantity of messages does not make it easier. Just a different type of difficult. |
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Mate, you have received some great advice so far, allow me to just add /repeat those in my own words...
....So even if yours were the best written profile on fab, many women would still like to know they are dealing with a normal guy, not some wierdo, not a time waster,or not some fantacist (these are problems that users experience on this site).
Solution ?
Go to club events bro, meet up, socialize, if you click
Then you swab fab names and continue on on here, then hopefully swap numbers and you go from there.
Good luck
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Keep trying n be patience....too many men on here so it's competition....I been here for years but finally meeting single ladies...by myself and the Mrs. Trust me be patient and it will happen...go to clubs too. |
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By *onyp69Man 37 weeks ago
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
Iv had this same problem on my single profile. On my couples profile I have with my fwb we had loads of fun |
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Always take it from the perspective of the people who you want to meet.
What do they need? Are you giving it to them, or anything close? If not, then evaluate what it is that you can do, to achieve it. One small step at a time  |
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I think if you’re relying solely on Fab for interaction you’ll likely not do well. If you use it in conjunction with getting out and about in the scene you might do better.
In terms of your profile, no one is going to ask you for more pictures. There are so many men who have a range of photos on their profile that they’ll just move in to the next. You have to put in the effort to make your profile attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"It’s certainly not easier been a woman. It’s all about effort and if you really want something do it.
Best start is actually having a profile."
Eh ... Are you having a laugh ?! 
The whole site is specifically designed to favour the ladies.
It's a waste of time trying to meet on this site as a single guy. You are better to stick with t1nder bumble etc. theres loads of kinky women on there looking for what you are. Once you've met them there you could come on here as a couple and make a much more fruitful use of the site. It is really for couples afterall.
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"It's interesting how most of those profile advice threads lead to no changes whatsoever for the original posters  "
That's because there's nothing really wrong with their profiles. They have decided that its best to be true to themselves instead of pretending to be someone they aren't like some of the white knight guys you see on here.
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"It’s certainly not easier been a woman. It’s all about effort and if you really want something do it.
Best start is actually having a profile.
Eh ... Are you having a laugh ?!
The whole site is specifically designed to favour the ladies.
It's a waste of time trying to meet on this site as a single guy. You are better to stick with t1nder bumble etc. theres loads of kinky women on there looking for what you are. Once you've met them there you could come on here as a couple and make a much more fruitful use of the site. It is really for couples afterall.
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Why scoff at the comment about not being easier for women. Yeah we might get loads of messages but that in itself can be difficult. Unless you think we should fuck anyone.... |
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By *rk933Man 37 weeks ago
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I would say just keep making friends, I am here second time and met few people although after a long wait between meets.
most women understandably wouldn't meet a stranger off internet , you have to build a level of trust and rapport. |
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Your profile is headed "looking for stress release". I don't think women appreciate being used as a tool for stress release. You want a lady to meet "your place or mine" (despite the fact you say you cannot accommodate). Very few women will consider a home meet without having a social first. |
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
After being in here for a few years mate, you should have read many other, similar threads from solo male profiles struggling for attention in here, so should have altered your profile appropriately, given the amount of advice offered by others….
My advice; think about who you are hoping to meet, what you are actually looking for, then take a look at your profile, and ask yourself honestly, is that person likely to be interested in you? If not, how can you make yourself more appealing to them?
I don’t mean to sound harsh btw, this is meant in good faith |
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"So I’ve been on here for a few years and never even had so much as an interest in meeting with anyone. Am I doing something wrong? As a man I understand it’s a lot harder to meet than it is for women but I’m finding it hard. Any tips/advice would be apprieciated…"
Are you reading profiles before messaging? A lot of men don't.
The manner in which you make that initial contact is also very important. I'm sure the women & couples on here could tell you they recieve some absolute shockers that just aren't worthy of a response. Don't send a dick pic, but do add a face pic. Many won't even open a message if there's no pic attached.
After reading a profile, read it again! Do you fit their criteria?
If not, there's no point messaging.
As others have said, maybe try a club, or a local munch even. That way you'll definately meet & chat to new people, & probably receive some veris saying how lovely you are!
Make no assumptions, or even expect a reply. If your message is deleted, make a note of it on their profile & move on. Don't dwell on it, this site can easily grind you down! Patience is a virtue, especially on here!
Not really in a position to advise on your bio/pics, as my profile is pretty shite atm lol
Keep your chin up, & good luck fella.
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"It’s certainly not easier been a woman. It’s all about effort and if you really want something do it.
Best start is actually having a profile."
These days very few people make the effort on here. (That's including couples and single females)
Clubs are definitely the best way to meet people  |
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