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I wondered if the experienced cuckold men could advice how they have found the lifestyle emotionally.
Has been easy or hard, has it got easier over time, any regrets or is it all positive?
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By *rMrs84Couple 40 weeks ago
Doncaster |
If it’s not positive from the start it might not be for you.
I’m not sure I really classify as a cuckold but I’m happy to sit back and watch my wife fuck someone else. No emotional problems here as I just enjoy watching her get off. |
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Currently single.ehixh is isn't a good start, but we have found the cuckold lifestyle most enjoyable , so much so after the first one ended I looked for a second cuckold relationship.
After the first relationship turned cuckold we became closer with more kissing cuddling , holding hands spooning that before . It wasn't all plain sailing getting used to long term chastity was quite difficult both in been slightly uncomfortable at times and not been able to wank when I wished .
Overall it was. Avery positive experience and for us at least to pros far out weighed the cons |
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Found it very hard until I accepted what I actually was .
Never intended to become a cuckold but it was what she wanted and I did and would do anything for her.
Seeing her French kiss her lover was the most heart breaking experience. She got something out of seeing the emotional torture I was going through.
It took me a while to accept my fate but that's life I guess .
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"I wondered if the experienced cuckold men could advice how they have found the lifestyle emotionally.
Has been easy or hard, has it got easier over time, any regrets or is it all positive?
Thanks
Ben"
Something I had always fantasised about, read about and in later years watched cuck porn. The first time it happened there was along of angst, and each time she took another step the same thing, but also looking Back I love every minute. Not full time cuckold or caged reserve it for those special dates |
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Its an ongoing journey.
For me, accepting it has come as a relief tbh. Now i know that I'm not going to ever use my cock with a woman again & I'm only to meet men to service them.
My partner can see whoever she likes, free of worrying about having to tell me. |
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"The emotions were tough to deal with at first and it took a lot of conversation to get through that “beginner” phase and only time has reduced the impact of those uneasy feelings."
Whose emotions. Yours or hers |
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"The emotions were tough to deal with at first and it took a lot of conversation to get through that “beginner” phase and only time has reduced the impact of those uneasy feelings.
Whose emotions. Yours or hers "
Both |
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I was first "cucked" in the 1970s and I can honestly say that I have no regrets.I still enjoy this kink today but it's not as emotionally intense as it used to be.That's probably not a bad thing!
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By *oxy jWoman 39 weeks ago
somerset |
your either with the right person relationship wise or not as thats what it is all about the relationship forget all the sexual stuff as that nothing without the relationship most cuckold couples have been together for years its about closeness its about having a near perfect relationship where by you know each other inside out you know everything that makes the other half tick ... its about not worrying about what you say or want as the rlationship is so open and honest .. and consent is king yep even in a cuckold relationship,..
so no its not easy to find as we know with how hard it is to find swinging couples let alone cuckold couples and in truth when you take out the roleplay/fantasy side of things the their is even fewer cuckold couples ..
its the age old problem of swinging were there are say 5000 men per one woman (dating) looking for relationship to swing if you think cuckold relationships then those odd have to be at least x10 to x100..
cuckolding play as in roleplay/fantasy is having a bit of a high at the moment i think mainly due to porn and the sexual acts involved alot of guys want the sexual acts not the mental emotional side of it..
swinging is the road for the few to cuckolding hotwifing seems to be the gateway its a journey for most ..its something that cant be instant theres no conections when instant its just sex not cuckolding...
so how hard is it to get into a cuckold relationship well id say extremely hard dating normal is hard ...dating to swing is very hard ...finding a long term partner to cuckold you very very hard ..its ok for those who are in these relationships to say its not hard as they already have there relationship plus take into account the huge dollop of men who lie about things just to appear to be in the know and we know there 10000s of dreamers ...
by far the best way for a single cuy to try and find someone is kink like femdoms or sub/dom something more available to a single guy but just like swinging thats a very overcrowded male scene too .... and thats the main problem there simply are nowhere near enough women who want this scene compared to men nowhere near enough by a million miles..
sorry my view is blunt but i dont belive in leading guys up a false path of of youll be alright see it all the time theres someone for eveyone sorry its simply not the case there is NOT someone for everyone one this scene its bad enough to find swinging let alone a niche lifestyle |
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I’ve been a cuck pretty much all our marriage, over 30 years. Initially your emotions are all over the place from excitement to jealous and numerous ones in between.
Your love for your wife/partner has to be strong, to watch other guys fuck and and do the job you should be doing as an husband but ultimately you have to remember that cuckolding is all about the wife/partner and her sexual needs, some wives crave attention from other guys, enjoy feeling wanting and without being crude need fucking by other cocks, usually those bigger than their husbands.
Just be aware that once you open the Pandoras Box and your wife/partner starts to fuck other guys, it’s highly unlikely that she will want to close it and stop her fun !
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"your either with the right person relationship wise or not as thats what it is all about the relationship forget all the sexual stuff as that nothing without the relationship most cuckold couples have been together for years its about closeness its about having a near perfect relationship where by you know each other inside out you know everything that makes the other half tick ... its about not worrying about what you say or want as the rlationship is so open and honest .. and consent is king yep even in a cuckold relationship,..
so no its not easy to find as we know with how hard it is to find swinging couples let alone cuckold couples and in truth when you take out the roleplay/fantasy side of things the their is even fewer cuckold couples ..
its the age old problem of swinging were there are say 5000 men per one woman (dating) looking for relationship to swing if you think cuckold relationships then those odd have to be at least x10 to x100..
cuckolding play as in roleplay/fantasy is having a bit of a high at the moment i think mainly due to porn and the sexual acts involved alot of guys want the sexual acts not the mental emotional side of it..
swinging is the road for the few to cuckolding hotwifing seems to be the gateway its a journey for most ..its something that cant be instant theres no conections when instant its just sex not cuckolding...
so how hard is it to get into a cuckold relationship well id say extremely hard dating normal is hard ...dating to swing is very hard ...finding a long term partner to cuckold you very very hard ..its ok for those who are in these relationships to say its not hard as they already have there relationship plus take into account the huge dollop of men who lie about things just to appear to be in the know and we know there 10000s of dreamers ...
by far the best way for a single cuy to try and find someone is kink like femdoms or sub/dom something more available to a single guy but just like swinging thats a very overcrowded male scene too .... and thats the main problem there simply are nowhere near enough women who want this scene compared to men nowhere near enough by a million miles..
sorry my view is blunt but i dont belive in leading guys up a false path of of youll be alright see it all the time theres someone for eveyone sorry its simply not the case there is NOT someone for everyone one this scene its bad enough to find swinging let alone a niche lifestyle"
This is absolutely golden advice! I hope that the time is taken to read it and absorb it. Hotwife /stag/vixen and cuckhold is very different. Good luck on your journey. |
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"Thanks for your detailed reply which is great. I actually have a partner who is interested and I wondered how the men found it emotionally."
Coming off here and being chaste (even wanking without seeking permission) is probably a good place to “try before you buy”. |
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By *auradCouple 38 weeks ago
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Cuckolding is more about the mental side than the physical.
I can’t see it working in a relationship that isn’t strong, ours is as strong as I could ever imagine and the emotions that many would associate with negative feelings such as jealousy, frustration, envy even humiliation are all part of cuckolding but in this instance they are positives and add to the experience rather than take it away.
Cuckolding is far, far more than just watching another guy with your wife, in fact sometimes that is the least exciting part of it, the before and after are on a different level, that is why it is more a mental kink than a physical one.
The key (no pun intended) is communication with you and your partner, for cuckolding to work this has to be absolutely on point and this has benefits for all areas of your life.
At the moment I can’t imagine living a different lifestyle it just fits for us.
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Not sure if I'm a full cuck as I like to join in but in a recent tryst I held the Mrs legs back while the other guy fucked her such a turn on while I looked into her eyes getting pleasure from another man |
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By *w_cuckCouple 38 weeks ago
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We grew into it when swapping with couples did not work for us and its been a journey to arrive at where we are today and yes there has been some emotions on both sides but as long as you communicate it will all work out. |
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I have been a cuckold for many years now. My first wife took me down this path and my second one has continued the journey.
We are in a very strong loving relationship and have been for many years. As others have said, good communication is key.
It can be an emotional rollercoaster coaster at times. Particularly when she is spending a night or a weekend away with a long term partner. But we love that. She loves my Cuck angst, as do I.
Even though we've been doing it many years it never loses it's excitement.
There's also things to tease about and cause cuck excitement for both of us.
We love it
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Thanks for everyone ms contribution, this is something we have wanted and desired in our 10 year amazing close and trusting relationship….
It’s happening, it’s really new
But I’m REALLY struggling with feelings of jealousy, which strangely are also pleasurable at times! Can anyone point me towards some resources specifically around jealousy or is this ridiculous????
Apologies if this is inappropriate to this thread
Mark |
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By *auradCouple 37 weeks ago
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"Thanks for everyone ms contribution, this is something we have wanted and desired in our 10 year amazing close and trusting relationship….
It’s happening, it’s really new
But I’m REALLY struggling with feelings of jealousy, which strangely are also pleasurable at times! Can anyone point me towards some resources specifically around jealousy or is this ridiculous????
Apologies if this is inappropriate to this thread
Mark"
Cuck angst is a real thing, I’ve found a lot of useful info including real life experiences on a variety of podcasts including Keys and Anklets, Venus Cuckoldress, and a few others.
Hope this helps
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"If it’s not positive from the start it might not be for you.
I’m not sure I really classify as a cuckold but I’m happy to sit back and watch my wife fuck someone else. No emotional problems here as I just enjoy watching her get off. "
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By *j74Man 37 weeks ago
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"Found it very hard until I accepted what I actually was .
Never intended to become a cuckold but it was what she wanted and I did and would do anything for her.
Seeing her French kiss her lover was the most heart breaking experience. She got something out of seeing the emotional torture I was going through.
It took me a while to accept my fate but that's life I guess .
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Wow that's hard, I couldn't do it myself would fuck my head up massively  |
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"Found it very hard until I accepted what I actually was .
Never intended to become a cuckold but it was what she wanted and I did and would do anything for her.
Seeing her French kiss her lover was the most heart breaking experience. She got something out of seeing the emotional torture I was going through.
It took me a while to accept my fate but that's life I guess .
Wow that's hard, I couldn't do it myself would fuck my head up massively "
That’s it : ) it’s like all those Adrenalins and endorphins plus a load of other stuff I’m sure they’ve not named yet, then your little brain having to work it out!!! Fantasy to reality…. Be VERY CAREFUL for what you wish…. You can’t close the door Mx |
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I have to admit, we've been very new to it really but... I've loved it both times this has happened. Being tied to a chair while he fucks her, or me being sat back and watching it happen and helping him fuck her by holding her legs apart. I love it. Especially in a Bi setting. It's a massive turn on for us both.
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By *omRachCouple 37 weeks ago
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I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it. |
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"I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it."
What youre saying here is that its a form of control ... puttting your needs above hers |
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"I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it.
What youre saying here is that its a form of control ... puttting your needs above hers "
To be honest that's the common one I noticed. I'm the same. I'm happy with pretty much any scenario as long as Mrs J is enjoying it and it's what she wants. I'm more than happy and willing to do or take part in anything on the basis she's happy and enjoying it. Her satisfaction is what turns me on more than anything. |
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By *omRachCouple 37 weeks ago
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"I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it.
What youre saying here is that its a form of control ... puttting your needs above hers "
I said nothing of the sort, where exactly do I say that? you tried to psycho analyse me in private chat with this and you got blocked for it.
I find it laughable that you seem to know me better than I know myself and my wife and yet (judging by your lack of verifications) you like to portray yourself as an expert on the matter.
Unbelievable, |
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"I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it."
. To me, this is one of the most explained scenarios I’ve ever read. You are certainly a lucky guy who knows exactly what you want and like who loves to see his wife have all of the pleasure.  |
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" I want her to get that proper seeing to "
You want it to be done 'to' her. Shes the passive recipient in your fantasy
Youre using a holiday snap of her to indulge your kink. She doesnt know about this profile
Be honest with yourself
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By *omRachCouple 37 weeks ago
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" I want her to get that proper seeing to
You want it to be done 'to' her. Shes the passive recipient in your fantasy
Youre using a holiday snap of her to indulge your kink. She doesnt know about this profile
Be honest with yourself
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'She doesnt know about this profile' he says and yet we have TWO verifications from meetings versus somebody nobody will confess to ever having met. I'll leave it at that.
Oh Dear, Desperate Dan is getting VERY desperate.
I'll be making no further comment to anything he says. |
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"As the other guy . Find husbands really enjoy watching me fuck their wives . They usually wank as I fuck . Perfect scenario!"
Lovely and guys like you are what delights is cuckold husbands. Cheers |
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I used to be a fb, the guy use to watch sometimes. This went on for about a year and thought it was a good arrangement, but sadly he couldn't take it, got jealous and became aggressive.
The mind is a funny thing and sometimes these things can end in tears. |
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By *omRachCouple 37 weeks ago
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"I used to be a fb, the guy use to watch sometimes. This went on for about a year and thought it was a good arrangement, but sadly he couldn't take it, got jealous and became aggressive.
The mind is a funny thing and sometimes these things can end in tears."
Absolutely, this lifestyle isn't for everyone. The cuck is very often perceived (rightly or wrongly) as being weak and a wimpy character but it takes a great deal of mental toughness at times to play that role.
Quite odd that he flipped after a period of time, not in the beginning. |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Had a similar experience as a third, but much earlier on - he started expressing regrets right there in the middle of our third meet. Quite difficult to extract elegantly from that. Turned out that she had expressed an interest in more 121 meets, which he wasn’t happy with. |
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Good Thread. I would same I am not a cuckold but we do cuckold things as in Mrs N does not instigate things but seems to enjoy it when it happens. She just says she is happy if I am happy and doing cucky things does make me happy so I guess she is happy too during those moments and a bit after.
I think she could live without the swinging and stuff now. Age has caught up with her and she just doesn't get very horny any more at the thought of fucking other men. |
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"I would have to say that our lifestyle is more hotwife than cuckold but on the occasions that cukolding has come into play I have found it a mixed box of frogs if I'm honest.
For me a lot depends on how she responds to the guy fucking her. If he really hits her spot then she forgets that I'm even in the room watching and at times it can feel like i'm being ignored but being a cuckold is primarily about the headfuck that goes hand in hand with the role.
I want her to get that proper seeing to & for that to happen I have to accept that (for a period) she is no longer my woman and that her commitment is to her lover. A lot of cucks struggle with this initially but over time - when they realise and accept the reasons for it - learn to adapt and embrace it.
What youre saying here is that its a form of control ... puttting your needs above hers
To be honest that's the common one I noticed. I'm the same. I'm happy with pretty much any scenario as long as Mrs J is enjoying it and it's what she wants. I'm more than happy and willing to do or take part in anything on the basis she's happy and enjoying it. Her satisfaction is what turns me on more than anything."
I would say that a lot of us cucks accept this lifestyle because of our love and devotion to our wives/partners !
We accept that our eives/partners want and need other guys cocks and I’ve always thought it was selfish to try and keep them all to yourself when love is about giving them freedom when they need it.
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By *w214Couple 37 weeks ago
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In my experience, and this thread kinda backs it up, cuckolding is a very, very broad church. From full chastity to getting a semi when your wife makes a flirty comment to another guy, the scale is huge. There are people, like me (us) that are wandering the path, people that have found their place and for now at least won't move any further and people that realised they didn't like the direction of travel at all.
I think my experience is midrange on my perceived scale. As a teen I was very jealous. My wife was my childhood sweetheart and we weren't good to each other back then. We both cheated over the years but I think cuckolding began there for me. Whenever we spilt up, regardless of the circumstances I'd always think about what she was doing and get turned on. We'd occasionally hook back up for ex sex even if we had partners so I'd feel like the bull at times.
Over the years I realised how damaging jealousy is as got a grip on it, realised it doesn't have to be a negative emotion. I couldn't change the past, and if I was to commit to my wife for the future I had to accept all the thing We'd done as immature versions of ourselves. I couldn't do that and be jealous in the same way.
She's a gorgeous woman, a natural flirt and loves attention and I think once I got over the negative reaction to jealousy I began to enjoy that and feel pride in being loved by a gorgeous flirty woman. When you add that to an adventurous sex life, a pair of open minds and a trip to a swingers club in 2014 you get where we are now.
I love watching my favourite porn star in action but as previously mentioned, the build up and come down are equally delightful for me and in fact if you took them away then I don't think I would enjoy just watching her getting fucked in isolation.
Which of the thousands of cuck rituals we partake in (chastity, humiliation, cleanup etc) is between us and our sexual partners but to answer your question, as a man in a stable, loving yet moderately cuckold sexual relationship I have no issues with the mental aspect, it's the most enjoyable part of it for me.
As a footnote, there has been mention of control as part of this conversation and I found that interesting, I do feel at times that even though I enjoy being cuckolded I am actually in control, its me that runs the profile, arranges the club and party visits, directs the fantasy aspects. Because my wife loves me and wants to make me happy she is happy to be involved (the cock is a real benefit though let's be honest) but she's not without control, she's told me firmly about her red lines in the past (that 400 man gangbang with me tied to a chair and facing the corner needs revision).
Every time we step into this fantasy space that I've controlled and engineered to fulfil my emotional need and her physical ones I relinquish control to her and fucking love how she handles that and what we both get out of it. |
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"In my experience, and this thread kinda backs it up, cuckolding is a very, very broad church. From full chastity to getting a semi when your wife makes a flirty comment to another guy, the scale is huge. There are people, like me (us) that are wandering the path, people that have found their place and for now at least won't move any further and people that realised they didn't like the direction of travel at all.
I think my experience is midrange on my perceived scale. As a teen I was very jealous. My wife was my childhood sweetheart and we weren't good to each other back then. We both cheated over the years but I think cuckolding began there for me. Whenever we spilt up, regardless of the circumstances I'd always think about what she was doing and get turned on. We'd occasionally hook back up for ex sex even if we had partners so I'd feel like the bull at times.
Over the years I realised how damaging jealousy is as got a grip on it, realised it doesn't have to be a negative emotion. I couldn't change the past, and if I was to commit to my wife for the future I had to accept all the thing We'd done as immature versions of ourselves. I couldn't do that and be jealous in the same way.
She's a gorgeous woman, a natural flirt and loves attention and I think once I got over the negative reaction to jealousy I began to enjoy that and feel pride in being loved by a gorgeous flirty woman. When you add that to an adventurous sex life, a pair of open minds and a trip to a swingers club in 2014 you get where we are now.
I love watching my favourite porn star in action but as previously mentioned, the build up and come down are equally delightful for me and in fact if you took them away then I don't think I would enjoy just watching her getting fucked in isolation.
Which of the thousands of cuck rituals we partake in (chastity, humiliation, cleanup etc) is between us and our sexual partners but to answer your question, as a man in a stable, loving yet moderately cuckold sexual relationship I have no issues with the mental aspect, it's the most enjoyable part of it for me.
As a footnote, there has been mention of control as part of this conversation and I found that interesting, I do feel at times that even though I enjoy being cuckolded I am actually in control, its me that runs the profile, arranges the club and party visits, directs the fantasy aspects. Because my wife loves me and wants to make me happy she is happy to be involved (the cock is a real benefit though let's be honest) but she's not without control, she's told me firmly about her red lines in the past (that 400 man gangbang with me tied to a chair and facing the corner needs revision).
Every time we step into this fantasy space that I've controlled and engineered to fulfil my emotional need and her physical ones I relinquish control to her and fucking love how she handles that and what we both get out of it."
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By *w214Couple 37 weeks ago
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"In my experience, and this thread kinda backs it up, cuckolding is a very, very broad church. From full chastity to getting a semi when your wife makes a flirty comment to another guy, the scale is huge. There are people, like me (us) that are wandering the path, people that have found their place and for now at least won't move any further and people that realised they didn't like the direction of travel at all.
I think my experience is midrange on my perceived scale. As a teen I was very jealous. My wife was my childhood sweetheart and we weren't good to each other back then. We both cheated over the years but I think cuckolding began there for me. Whenever we spilt up, regardless of the circumstances I'd always think about what she was doing and get turned on. We'd occasionally hook back up for ex sex even if we had partners so I'd feel like the bull at times.
Over the years I realised how damaging jealousy is as got a grip on it, realised it doesn't have to be a negative emotion. I couldn't change the past, and if I was to commit to my wife for the future I had to accept all the thing We'd done as immature versions of ourselves. I couldn't do that and be jealous in the same way.
She's a gorgeous woman, a natural flirt and loves attention and I think once I got over the negative reaction to jealousy I began to enjoy that and feel pride in being loved by a gorgeous flirty woman. When you add that to an adventurous sex life, a pair of open minds and a trip to a swingers club in 2014 you get where we are now.
I love watching my favourite porn star in action but as previously mentioned, the build up and come down are equally delightful for me and in fact if you took them away then I don't think I would enjoy just watching her getting fucked in isolation.
Which of the thousands of cuck rituals we partake in (chastity, humiliation, cleanup etc) is between us and our sexual partners but to answer your question, as a man in a stable, loving yet moderately cuckold sexual relationship I have no issues with the mental aspect, it's the most enjoyable part of it for me.
As a footnote, there has been mention of control as part of this conversation and I found that interesting, I do feel at times that even though I enjoy being cuckolded I am actually in control, its me that runs the profile, arranges the club and party visits, directs the fantasy aspects. Because my wife loves me and wants to make me happy she is happy to be involved (the cock is a real benefit though let's be honest) but she's not without control, she's told me firmly about her red lines in the past (that 400 man gangbang with me tied to a chair and facing the corner needs revision).
Every time we step into this fantasy space that I've controlled and engineered to fulfil my emotional need and her physical ones I relinquish control to her and fucking love how she handles that and what we both get out of it.
An excellent account x"
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"Thanks for everyone ms contribution, this is something we have wanted and desired in our 10 year amazing close and trusting relationship….
It’s happening, it’s really new
But I’m REALLY struggling with feelings of jealousy, which strangely are also pleasurable at times! Can anyone point me towards some resources specifically around jealousy or is this ridiculous????
Apologies if this is inappropriate to this thread
Mark
Cuck angst is a real thing, I’ve found a lot of useful info including real life experiences on a variety of podcasts including Keys and Anklets, Venus Cuckoldress, and a few others.
Hope this helps
Mr d "
Will listen to them later , Thanks Mr D for the info ,Hopefully the podcasts will help guide us on our adventure .. |
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