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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male...    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have now and then ...why not?
I'd not go into a shop for something and wait for an assistant to offer me what they think I want I would go to what I'm looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When a single girl messages me I assume that its a fake profile. Happened once and the profile was come within 24hrs "
Yeah this happened to me... Got a message from a "woman"... Was feeling quite chuffed, then a couple messages in they reveal their a man! 
Was not impressed lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have now and then ...why not?
I'd not go into a shop for something and wait for an assistant to offer me what they think I want I would go to what I'm looking for "
Very true Senza... Looking good might I add   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got mesaged once by a cpl i replied, they didnt respond and then deleted my message  . Other than that i message a lot of people and they all get deleted with no reply, which is frustrating some times because i am a pefect match in some cases,for what some individuals and cpls are looking for.(I think i smell)?
I dont mind if people are not intrested but a no thanks would be nice its got to the point where i dont bother now just perv on cams instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women and couples have made first contact with me quite a bit really. A lot of women and couples block all single men, and then just message the ones that interest them.
In other cases, if I have been outside their age filters and unable to message them, they have sometimes messaged me after I have looked at their profile or fabbed their pics.
I don't know why more women don't do this really. So many complain about the huge volume of crap messages they get. If they blocked everyone and just messaged the occassional profile that actually matches what they are looking for they could do much better. |
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Never!
I'm looking for a specific type of playmate: they seldom put what they like on their profile so I have to wait to be contacted.
On specialist sites I initiate contact as the men are honest in what they want. |
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"I got mesaged once by a cpl i replied, they didnt respond and then deleted my message . Other than that i message a lot of people and they all get deleted with no reply, which is frustrating some times because i am a pefect match in some cases,for what some individuals and cpls are looking for.(I think i smell)?
I dont mind if people are not intrested but a no thanks would be nice its got to the point where i dont bother now just perv on cams instead."
We actively message single men and are meeting up with him in a few weeks
You have to understand the shear number of messages received each day by unwanted men out of your criteria. To be honest we do not bother messaging back most of the messages as they are like hi or wanna f**k !!
When you do send a nice message back to most guys they think it is an instant access to bang the wife!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get contacted by women fairly regularly, and its mostly to compliment me on my profile - I actually get those kind of messages more often than the usual 'nice cock mmmmmm' variety which are generally from couples. I used to get buckets of winks and friends invites too till I updated my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got mesaged once by a cpl i replied, they didnt respond and then deleted my message . Other than that i message a lot of people and they all get deleted with no reply, which is frustrating some times because i am a pefect match in some cases,for what some individuals and cpls are looking for.(I think i smell)?
I dont mind if people are not intrested but a no thanks would be nice its got to the point where i dont bother now just perv on cams instead."
The phrase "I am a perfect match" is the problem here.
Never assume that just because you feel you're right for someone based on the limited info anyone can put in a profile that they will jump at the chance of replying or meeting.
Attraction - be it physical, mental - or even to the tone and content of your message - is beyond your control.
As for the original question - I probably send a couple of messages a month, unless I'm away with work and looking for company. And my inbox tends to be busier than my sent box. |
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"I got mesaged once by a cpl i replied, they didnt respond and then deleted my message . Other than that i message a lot of people and they all get deleted with no reply, which is frustrating some times because i am a pefect match in some cases,for what some individuals and cpls are looking for.(I think i smell)?
I dont mind if people are not intrested but a no thanks would be nice its got to the point where i dont bother now just perv on cams instead.
The phrase "I am a perfect match" is the problem here.
Never assume that just because you feel you're right for someone based on the limited info anyone can put in a profile that they will jump at the chance of replying or meeting.
Attraction - be it physical, mental - or even to the tone and content of your message - is beyond your control.
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Absolutely spot on!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have now and then ...why not?
I'd not go into a shop for something and wait for an assistant to offer me what they think I want I would go to what I'm looking for
Very true Senza... Looking good might I add "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's weird because I never get messages from women and couples
So I thought I'd ask this lovely community lol"
That is a bit strange really. Just looked at your profile to see if there was an obvious reason why not, but im not too sure. You have good pics, a well worded profile, and you can accom and travel. Think the only thing that could put people off is you have been a member for 8 months and had no verifications. And you live in London, where there will be lots of profiles for women to look through before they get to yours |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's weird because I never get messages from women and couples
So I thought I'd ask this lovely community lol
That is a bit strange really. Just looked at your profile to see if there was an obvious reason why not, but im not too sure. You have good pics, a well worded profile, and you can accom and travel. Think the only thing that could put people off is you have been a member for 8 months and had no verifications. And you live in London, where there will be lots of profiles for women to look through before they get to yours"
That's the issue I think I face... I mentioned in another post that it ain't fair to automatically assume someone with no verifications is a fake or time waster because they've been here for how ever long... I've just been unlucky getting a meet to be verified... But that's a whole other kettle if fish lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haha ok fair one but when i said perfect match that was in the context of what they were looking for, to then dismiss some one for no reason and go no further dosnt make sense how do you know your not compatible if your not even going to try and find out?
Slight tangent but i also get fed up with cpls who state, must have photos of cock face body etc and have none themselves?
"hello kettle, this is frying pan message, over"
Any way i digress catch later you mucky people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes do. Very rarely but sometimes if he catches my eye on the forum
Did get a meet out of it once as we seemed to click on here, had a drink said we would meet again and not heard from him since lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women and couples have made first contact with me quite a bit really. A lot of women and couples block all single men, and then just message the ones that interest them.
In other cases, if I have been outside their age filters and unable to message them, they have sometimes messaged me after I have looked at their profile or fabbed their pics.
I don't know why more women don't do this really. So many complain about the huge volume of crap messages they get. If they blocked everyone and just messaged the occassional profile that actually matches what they are looking for they could do much better."
That's what I do with single men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you tried to get cam verified...some will search just for verified profiles and so yours will not show up. Getting cam verified will give you the magical green tick! Some will still bypass your profile but at least it increases your chances of showing up in searches.
As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you tried to get cam verified...some will search just for verified profiles and so yours will not show up. Getting cam verified will give you the magical green tick! Some will still bypass your profile but at least it increases your chances of showing up in searches.
As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste "
I wouldn't mind getting cam verified but it's just finding someone to have fun over cam with loool if you was willing to help I wouldn't say no lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't mind getting cam verified but it's just finding someone to have fun over cam with loool if you was willing to help I wouldn't say no lol "
Just go on the chat rooms. Get your face on cam. Talk to other people who have their cams on and don't act like a moron. If your face is on cam and you can hold an actual conversation you won't have a shortage of women that are willing to chat. If you have a good chat with a few women/couples on there im sure at least one will be willing to verify you. That's how i got my initial verification before i had meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh sugar. I think thats where im going wrong lol. Im always waiting for someone to message me. Im not good at opening lines, its always a bit ' '
..but i have been fortunate to get messages from women and couples xx yet to have a meet as such..but those that im chatting to through messaging always put a smile on my face
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We message single guys when we fancy an mmf, we have them blocked due to being inundated with messages and pics if we don't, so it does happen guys..xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We message single guys when we fancy an mmf, we have them blocked due to being inundated with messages and pics if we don't, so it does happen guys..xxxx "
we have recently messaged a single guy that was on our friends list asking about meeting up socially and see how we get on, he said " I'll get back to you "..so today "2 months "on we got rid of him..so you're not the only ones getting ignored either..lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wouldn't mind getting cam verified but it's just finding someone to have fun over cam with loool if you was willing to help I wouldn't say no lol
Just go on the chat rooms. Get your face on cam. Talk to other people who have their cams on and don't act like a moron. If your face is on cam and you can hold an actual conversation you won't have a shortage of women that are willing to chat. If you have a good chat with a few women/couples on there im sure at least one will be willing to verify you. That's how i got my initial verification before i had meets"
Thanks for the head up, may try that a little later... But when I've gone in to chat rooms I feel like I don't know where to start and then end up leaving lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have now and then ...why not?
I'd not go into a shop for something and wait for an assistant to offer me what they think I want I would go to what I'm looking for "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the head up, may try that a little later... But when I've gone in to chat rooms I feel like I don't know where to start and then end up leaving lol "
Start out in a room without too many people in at first then. Maybe the London room for example so you can at least talk to people who are local to you. Don't be vulgar, and don't beg people to watch your cam. If you are friendly, interesting and talkative, people will look at you. So long as you don't just sit there wanking you'll do fine, lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male... "
I always do. I have my profile so I don't show up on searches so I don't get loads of mail. I prefer to go looking. Seems dumb to sit around waiting for blokes to mail and then bitch about all the unsuitable mail etc. Or perhaps some people like it for the confidence boost, who knows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste "
Mail them!! What's the worst that could happen?
I get my mails deleted/ ignored/ sometimes a 'no thanks'. And ... sometimes .... a 'yes please'.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste
Mail them!! What's the worst that could happen?
I get my mails deleted/ ignored/ sometimes a 'no thanks'. And ... sometimes .... a 'yes please'. "
That's it!! I think you ladies should msg... |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Some of my best meets have been from me sending messages.
I agree what is the worst can happen? It's not the end of the world if they are not Interested is it?
Why not be the hunter instead of the hunted?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste
Mail them!! What's the worst that could happen?
I get my mails deleted/ ignored/ sometimes a 'no thanks'. And ... sometimes .... a 'yes please'. "
I am messaging more than I used to...but I'm not one to whinge at crappy mails either. Only time I'l complain about mail received is if it's abusive, but can't complain about messages not being from the right guys if you've just waited to see what you receive! In the past have managed to have a lot of fun from messages received (and have been guilty of waiting for messages to come in), but they are tailing off now I've been here for a while so I'm trying to be more active in seeking out meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not sure i would beleive it if i got a message from a lady or couple...
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I've offen wondered if a lot of guys feel like this
I used to mail men but I never got a reply and I got a few guys block me
I wondered a few times if I was just punching above my weight with the guys I was picking or if they just assumed I was a guy and ignored me
That's the main reason I stopped mailing men as none replied so I felt I was wasting my time, made more sense to just reply to men who mailed me |
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If I got a message from a profile of a lady or couple that had verifications, and pictures and had been around a while i would be flattered.
If i got one from an '18 yr old girl' on a new profile, no veris no pics and created two days ago (you know the ones i mean) i would be very very suspicious.
18 yr olds do not mail 53 yr old men
i confess i did get a message once from a couple who were interested in me, they lived in exeter 300 miles away.
i couldnt work out if it was a wind up or not, so i politely declined.
at least if us guys get messages they are so infrequent we can manage to reply to them all.
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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago
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I message single guys if their profile is informative and are what I'm looking for, if I see one I like the read of without a face pic I just ask for one first then if ok I'll message and send mine, has always worked for me some send pic's those that don't I leave alone! |
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The only mails I get out of the blue are from bi men! That's all cool and everything but I'm straight, the offer is appreciated but no thanks, haha!
Without sounding big headed, I think my profile is quite good but in my opinion swinging seems to have come down to location recently. Not many people seem to want to swinging outside of their own town or county at a push.
It doesn't help if the area in which you live isn't very 'active'.
I lived in London (South West) for a year and found it very, very poor for swinging. Maybe everyone just swung in Essex and like to keep it in there?
I think women/couples should mail single men more, go for what you want or interests you. What's the worst that could happen? They don't reply? If you don't try you can't gain anything.
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I wouldn't mind getting cam verified but it's just finding someone to have fun over cam with loool if you was willing to help I wouldn't say no lol
Just go on the chat rooms. Get your face on cam. Talk to other people who have their cams on and don't act like a moron. If your face is on cam and you can hold an actual conversation you won't have a shortage of women that are willing to chat. If you have a good chat with a few women/couples on there im sure at least one will be willing to verify you. That's how i got my initial verification before i had meets
Thanks for the head up, may try that a little later... But when I've gone in to chat rooms I feel like I don't know where to start and then end up leaving lol "
Another way to get verified is to attend a social or two, if you are polite, well mannered and articulate then you will often find a few verifs awaiting you within a day or two.
Single guys get a bad rep, but that means the nice guys do tend to stand out from the crowd in a social environment, and soon become very popular.! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have had some lovely socials and meets from the guys that have messaged me and very local too. I just go by how they message, the funnier the better to make me laugh, that means to me that guy has personality which is a big must. Then messages start flowing back and forth until we meet and even after.
I like a guy to know whats what as well, i have messaged a few and have got some lovely replys back.
But!! I am very choosy and seemed to have got it right for myself !! |
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"This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male... "
I am not actively looking for single men, so to stay in control of my inbox I have blocked single men. However if the content of their profile is original and/or individual, their pictures tease my overactive imagination and their verifs confirm my initial interest I will initiate first contact and have done so on a number of occasions. Call me fussy but it worked and I was lucky that they too were interested enough to want to meet me.
In answer to your question: seldom! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to message people who have looked at my profile or fabbed my pics. I rarely send unsolicited or random mails. It's nice to get messages come to me first though, have had a few this week |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As for messaging...I do occasionally, but I tend to wink more - if someone returns the wink then I'll send a message but it's rare I'll send a first message as I know I'm not to everyone's taste
Mail them!! What's the worst that could happen?
I get my mails deleted/ ignored/ sometimes a 'no thanks'. And ... sometimes .... a 'yes please'.
I am messaging more than I used to...but I'm not one to whinge at crappy mails either. Only time I'l complain about mail received is if it's abusive, but can't complain about messages not being from the right guys if you've just waited to see what you receive! In the past have managed to have a lot of fun from messages received (and have been guilty of waiting for messages to come in), but they are tailing off now I've been here for a while so I'm trying to be more active in seeking out meets "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had some lovely socials and meets from the guys that have messaged me and very local too. I just go by how they message, the funnier the better to make me laugh, that means to me that guy has personality which is a big must. Then messages start flowing back and forth until we meet and even after.
I like a guy to know whats what as well, i have messaged a few and have got some lovely replys back.
But!! I am very choosy and seemed to have got it right for myself !! "
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It was noted earlier , women can spend ages just going through the load of mail they get thus little time to search for themselves , would be interesting if men could not initiate a contact and women had to search and read profiles then initiate contact .
it does surprise me how few ladies like or would make first contact, too much dependent on hope for my taste |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I also think one of the reasons I don't like mailing guys is because I don't really have much to offer in the way of arranging a meet, by that I mean I don't drive and I don't accommodate and I feel a bit cheeky mailing a guy and saying
Hi nice profile, would you like to meet? by the way I don't drive so you'll have to come here and we need to get a hotel
Just seems way to much to expect from someone, at least if they mail me I don't feel cheeky saying they need to travel as it was them who made first contact
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"It was noted earlier , women can spend ages just going through the load of mail they get thus little time to search for themselves , would be interesting if men could not initiate a contact and women had to search and read profiles then initiate contact .
it does surprise me how few ladies like or would make first contact, too much dependent on hope for my taste "
Nice profile
Teasing pics
Wicked verifs
Out of your age range
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"This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male... "
Blast! I thought it said massaging single guys and with that pic- well - yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Z |
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"I also think one of the reasons I don't like mailing guys is because I don't really have much to offer in the way of arranging a meet, by that I mean I don't drive and I don't accommodate and I feel a bit cheeky mailing a guy and saying
Hi nice profile, would you like to meet? by the way I don't drive so you'll have to come here and we need to get a hotel
Just seems way to much to expect from someone, at least if they mail me I don't feel cheeky saying they need to travel as it was them who made first contact
im sorry but that is a nonsense excuse answer x the man ,after your first message , is given all that information in your profile and im sure would not reply if unhappy with circumstances.
i have honestly no idea why intelligent women hope the right random man will contact them ?
Oh and blushing
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also think one of the reasons I don't like mailing guys is because I don't really have much to offer in the way of arranging a meet, by that I mean I don't drive and I don't accommodate and I feel a bit cheeky mailing a guy and saying
Hi nice profile, would you like to meet? by the way I don't drive so you'll have to come here and we need to get a hotel
Just seems way to much to expect from someone, at least if they mail me I don't feel cheeky saying they need to travel as it was them who made first contact
im sorry but that is a nonsense excuse answer x the man ,after your first message , is given all that information in your profile and im sure would not reply if unhappy with circumstances.
i have honestly no idea why intelligent women hope the right random man will contact them ?
Oh and blushing
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But the right random man does contact me
Ok I admit I get dozens of messages from guys I have no interest in what so ever, but I also get lots of men who I look at and think WOW..what the hell you messaging me for lol ive met loads of guys off here who have been great and I have many good nights, all with guys who have messaged me first
All because I say I don't mail men that does not mean I take whatevers offered, I still only meet guys who im attracted to, and the type of guys I would mail
Its not really an excuse for a answer its just unlike lots of women on here I do not feel men should jump thro hoops for me, I would never expect a guy to travel a long way to meet me, when I cant even so much as accommodate them and I would never contact a guy when I cant do either, expecting them to, I just like to be fair because contrary to popular belief im quite a nice person really lol 'onest Guv
I suppose we all have our own way of doing this and as my nan used to say....if its not broke, don't fix it |
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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago
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Both the men we mailed last year didnt reply so were going back to abfabs fridays had a couple of nice guys contact us off here good meets but most we find believe themselves to be too good for us mere mortals thats what we have found |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male...
Blast! I thought it said massaging single guys and with that pic- well - yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Z"
Oi oi easy lol wouldn't say no doe |
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"This may sound a bit silly to ask but was just laying in bed curios...
How often do single ladies and couples actually message single guys?
As I'm sure your always the first to be contacted by a single male...
Blast! I thought it said massaging single guys and with that pic- well - yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Z
Oi oi easy lol wouldn't say no doe "
i thought you'd missed that! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of my best meets have been from me sending messages.
I agree what is the worst can happen? It's not the end of the world if they are not Interested is it?
Why not be the hunter instead of the hunted? "
totally agree. On my single profile, I prefer to send messages, rather than receive. Had plenty ignored mail, but I'm well aware I won't be everyones cup of tea, so just get on with it.
Besides, I'd rather be someones shot of tequila |
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"When a single girl messages me I assume that its a fake profile. Happened once and the profile was come within 24hrs "
I know what you mean, I don't trust brand new, no photo, female profiles that contact me, especially as I'm in the middle of nowhere! |
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"When a single girl messages me I assume that its a fake profile. Happened once and the profile was come within 24hrs
Yeah this happened to me... Got a message from a "woman"... Was feeling quite chuffed, then a couple messages in they reveal their a man!
Was not impressed lol"
This keeps happening to me lately...swear to god it is the same person too!! |
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I usually dont send out messages asking for a meet..but more like getting to know one another to see whether, when we met we will be compatible..
Usually dont get any responses lol but those that do respond. We have become really good friends x |
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I get some messages from couples then find I'm blocked because they don't want single males!!!
Others just delete replies or don't read them.
Lots of 'couples' are single males.
or if they arrange to meet the fem has to drop out at the last minute....yeah right! |
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On this and my previous profile I havent had 1 message from a woman unless I message first.
I only get messages from "straight" guys who want to wank on the phone with me |
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My regular FB is also on Fab and she does reply to the guys she's interested in, however she immediately deletes one liners, anyone that says look at my big cock, what she calls number collectors get deleted as do those who are miles away, it has been interesting to see fab from the fml point of view.
But as a guy it does drive me mad when people ask for pics, number etc then never get back to you - A polite no thanks would be nice! |
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There must be thousands of men on here who never receive a genuine message.
What do they do about it ?
Moan
Make a nuisance of themselves
Carpet bomb everyone within 25 miles with messages
Complain that other users are impolite
Ask for advice and then either don't take or take it to the extreme
A few will sit back and look what others do and adopt a similar stance
The really clever ones will up their game by improving their profile content, having a better selection of pics on show, joining in on the forums or in chat rooms, attending socials and visiting clubs.
Those that even more clever will use fab in conjunction with other sites and more importantly with real life and realise that it is not a knocking shop with free admission and neither is it a cure all every time ur cock points skywards.
That is the real problem here, reality and probability getting in the way of expectation and possibility.
All that said, some guys will get messaged purely for the way they look and even sometimes what they have between their legs.
These tho are in a massive minority, with those with something between their ears being as a whole more consistently successful than those with something between their legs.
If a guy is good looking, intelligent and has an appealing profile he will get messages. Even more so if he utilises his assets and the site to the best of their potential.
These I would term exceptional males and they are few and far between.
A problem arises in that many average guys come here to get their balls emptied without putting in any effort yet expect that they will be treated in just the same way as the exceptional males by posting a cock pic and a few lines that say little more than 'i am hung, shag me' |
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"My regular FB is also on Fab and she does reply to the guys she's interested in, however she immediately deletes one liners, anyone that says look at my big cock, what she calls number collectors get deleted as do those who are miles away, it has been interesting to see fab from the fml point of view.
But as a guy it does drive me mad when people ask for pics, number etc then never get back to you - A polite no thanks would be nice! "
If I get messages from someone I dont like sound of or they dont send a pic, I always say a polite no thank you. Manners cost nothing but a couple of minutes typing |
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"I usually dont send out messages asking for a meet..but more like getting to know one another to see whether, when we met we will be compatible..
Usually dont get any responses lol but those that do respond. We have become really good friends x"
I have sent the odd message to a single guy, just saying hi how are you etc. I say more than that but its usually off the top of my head. Dont get replies so I dont bother anymore, just wait to see if I get any messages. Done a new profile and the lady who gave me v good advice said wait for the messages to come. Not many did lol |
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If I like the look of a single guy, I will definitely message him! I think single guys sometimes get a bad rep on here for no reason: most we've chatted to or met have been genuinely lovely! And I am impressed there are so many hotties! |
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I have had some messages from couples and single ladies and that seems to work better for me than the messages I send out.
So those of you that send them out keep up the good work.
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Another things I discovered is very very few men have pics on their profile adequate enough for me to want to mail them
Before I made the first move on a guy I want to see a face pic, most guys on here have no pics at all and the ones who do its cock shots and body shots, im not saying theres anything wrong with that, im merely saying I wouldn't mail someone unless they had a face pic, which is about 2% of the guys on here |
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"Another things I discovered is very very few men have pics on their profile adequate enough for me to want to mail them
Before I made the first move on a guy I want to see a face pic, most guys on here have no pics at all and the ones who do its cock shots and body shots, im not saying theres anything wrong with that, im merely saying I wouldn't mail someone unless they had a face pic, which is about 2% of the guys on here "
I'm the same way with women really, which makes it difficult. I want to be able to see what they look like before I message,but unfortunately have to just take a chance sometimes. My face pics are private so I can't really complain if others have the same. It's just annoying if a woman asks to see my face pic when she hasnt sent her own, and its hard to tell what she looks like from her public pics. Just have to go on the written profile, and try to judge them from that. |
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