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By (user no longer on site) OP 41 weeks ago
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Just looking for advice and/or experience stories from people who have either been a single girl in a club or met some! I’m thinking of attending a club as a single girl in a couple of months’ times so interested to hear…
Particularly interested to hear of any stories of single men pairing up to have some group fun |
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I would say that it’s generally better not to pair up into a fake couple.
If the guy goes rogue and does something that gets him kicked out then that potentially taints your membership too.
Plus it’s often more expensive for you if you couple up.
And you have to babysit a guy. You’ll usually get fewer opportunities to play if you’ve got a guy in tow. |
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I’ve been to a club on my own… was so incredibly nervous but I had a rum or three and everyone was so lovely to me, my nerves soon disappeared!
I’d love to go with a gal though, think we’d have a lot of fun!
Also went with a guy once and the above is right, it wasn’t as freeing and felt tied to him for the night.
Any questions just shout! |
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My advice would be to just go, honestly once you are there and inside it’s all good. Those nerves are exciting. I’ve made some amazing friends over the years too.
I’d never pair up with anyone I didn’t trust and know extremely well. |
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I found the worst bit was going through the door.
Select a club/event that you would like to attend. Contact the club/host and say you're a newbie and would like to attend. If it's an event there usually is a chat/messages (different platform) going on, so you can say hello. Maybe ask to meet someone beforehand, friendly face etc.
At the club you will be given a walk around etc. And the staff willook after you.
Find something you feel comfortable in, and take other bits to wear just in case.
I wouldn't attend as a couple unless you know the person well.
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy |
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"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy "
What you wear depends on the club and the theme of the night.
If you’re unsure then just drop the club a message |
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"Just looking for advice and/or experience stories from people who have either been a single girl in a club or met some! I’m thinking of attending a club as a single girl in a couple of months’ times so interested to hear…
Particularly interested to hear of any stories of single men pairing up to have some group fun "
You’ll be absolutely fine visiting by yourself, the hardest part will be walking through the door! Once inside though, as a solo female, you’ll be well looked after by the staff, as single women in clubs are the rarity!
If you go by yourself, it will be the lowest cost option for you, and if you want to leave at any point, you can, you’re not thinking about someone else and what they want to do…..
Clubs as a single guy; hit or miss.
Clubs as a single woman; kiddie in a sweetie factory   |
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"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy "
It depends on the club. If its dress down then i wear a niceset of undies/ body/ or a little skirt and bra top. Not dress down, i usually wear a nice skimpy dress/skirt&top to start with then dresses down later in the night.
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"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy
It depends on the club. If its dress down then i wear a niceset of undies/ body/ or a little skirt and bra top. Not dress down, i usually wear a nice skimpy dress/skirt&top to start with then dresses down later in the night.
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The main things is wear what you are comfy in. |
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Single ladies. Speaking from experience, I had a few "Dutch courage" drinks & took the plunge with my local club. The staff were really good as I was new & alone. To be fair, it's safer than meeting a guy from Fabswingers itself. Even if you don't play, I can imagine that every club has a bar area to socialise in. Don't be scared, you'll be looked after! |
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By *archelCouple 41 weeks ago
A field somewhere |
We're friends with a few unicorns, one comes clubbing with us regularly. We don't play with her, she's just a good friend. She started by going with another unicorn friend, but comes with us when she's out now. She always has a great time and goes off and does her own thing later in the night.
I personally wouldn't risk a single guy who's not been before in case as others have pointed out..he goes rogue. Many guys can't cope with the sexually charged atmosphere and start behaving like total twats. |
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I’ve clubbed for 9 years as a single girl 
Met loads of friends along the way, single guys, couples and loads of other single gals. It’s been the best.
Never had any trouble. Decent club hosts have always been amazing.
I’ve coupled up numerous times to get in clubs with no guarantee of playing.
Just do what you want, and stick to your boundaries/ wants. It’s always been a great experience for me.
Lots of hosts can arrange group fun, or know of people who may be looking for similar. Always worth speaking to the hosts if you don’t know many on the scene. Also worth joining the group chats prior to events and getting to know people. xx |
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Ive gone to clubs, organised parties and socials as a single for years. If its a new venue to me i often message the hosts beforehand to say im coming alone and have always had a tour and been introduced to a few people by the hosts on arrival. It’s absolutely fine and no one is pushy. Most people will chat and he friendly. Just go for it xx |
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By *abioMan 41 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I would say that it’s generally better not to pair up into a fake couple.
If the guy goes rogue and does something that gets him kicked out then that potentially taints your membership too.
Plus it’s often more expensive for you if you couple up.
And you have to babysit a guy. You’ll usually get fewer opportunities to play if you’ve got a guy in tow."
I would actually fully agree with this….
I don’t see how it would be easier going to a club with someone you don’t know meeting people you don’t know.. it also feels like double the pressure!
I would give the same advice to a single girl going to a club than I would a single guy… just go an chat with all and sundry! Talking to someone isn’t “I want to get into your knickers/pants” a conversation is just a conversation!
I would not want to put my reputation on the line for someone I don’t know |
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I’ve taken a fair few ladies for their first club trip. Sometimes as a couple when we’ve met previously. Sometimes as two single buddies when I’ve shown them around and been a familiar face for them while they found their feet.
Best advice is let the club know it’s your first time - so they can show you round properly. And maybe make your first trip a “fact finding” one on a quieter day so you can get a feel for how it all works.
Happy to answer any more questions you may have. |
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When on the scene as a couple ,we met a Gorgeous lady at Liberty Elite club in Lutterworth, she was at the Bar on her own we chatted to her she was a little Nervous ,We gave her some advice and then left her to wander the club ,we Noticed her chatting throughout the night ,And more importantly Enjoying 2 guys in the Big play room ,Later that night she said she had an amazing time fulfilled 1 of her fantasies, and was so so glad she had joined and attended Liberty. |
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By *oxy jWoman 41 weeks ago
somerset |
nothing worse in clubs than people pairing up / fb / fwb they are so easy to spot as they are so far apart ... go as yourself you wont regret it but you might if you pair up with a guy you dont really know |
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