 |
By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
|
Hiya guys, hope everyones evening is going well.
I've been of fab for about 2 years now and I've noticed I get alot of views a day (roughly about 30-40) but dont get alot of messages in comparison to views. Is there anything I could add to make my profile more appealing?,. Any advice would be appreciated especially from couples with both point of views |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Are you waiting for women and couples to message you? The etiquette on fab is that men message first. Your line about messages without face pics being blocked is offputting. I find it offputting when couples and women put that too BTW but I can understand why they do, because women and couples can receive dozens of messages and can set their own expectations. As a single man who isn't getting any unsolicited messages (and probably won't!) I can't imagine why you would think that line is needed. And would you really block a couple who messaged offering you to watch them just because they don't send you a face pic off the bat? I would never send a face pic to someone first. That's my hard limit and anyone who can't accept that isn't for me (and if they have their own valid reasons for doing the same that's fair but too bad) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I disagree with the poster above that women and couples don't message first.
I don't send opening messages and most of my meets that have happened outside of social events are from people that contacted me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
|
I don't know of this "men message first" etiquette..in my bit of fab its a two way street.
My 2p's worth
What might work for one reader may not work for another... Be you, make your profile informative interesting and enticing with the words and pictures hopefully that will gain you responses from likeminded folks
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
|
No one likes to say this but I will - there is no secret formula. You’ve curated your own profile so the people who you are suited to will find you eventually. If you want to edit your profile to find people who probably don’t suit you? Search “profile advice” on the forums. There are thousands of threads to give you advice as to how to make your profile most appealing to people you will have zero chemistry with on a first meet.
If you don’t have the initiative and gumption to write a profile about yourself that interests others, then perhaps try somewhere else. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Of course there are women and couples who will message single men first. But you only have to read a handful of posts from men complaining that they send hundreds of messages with no response and women commenting that they receive so many messages that they can't answer them all to see that in the significant majority men are messaging first. A man expecting women or couples to message him first is almost definitely going to be disappointed. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I have messaged men first a few times although it's normally on the back of a forum post.
The request for a face pic with a first message would certainly put me off. I would never send a face pic until I've chatted for a while and wouldn't expect anyone else to do so either.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
