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CJs at night First Time (single guy)
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By *ags73 OP Man 50 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
I don’t know many people to ask so apologies for asking, as I haven’t yet been at night, got a rare chance to actually go.
I’ve only been to the daytime gg/gb before. I wasn’t sure if to post question on scottish forum either as stuff on events has been moved
I know the rules on consent etc, had the tour previously and I guess I wouldn’t go upstairs myself on my own.
I don’t know how it works in terms of the people side of things and unfortunately, don’t think there’s a social before hand with when I’m going. (There is another event that night which is full)
I am pretty friendly but shy, but I’m not going to go up to a couple or group of women myself sort of thing.
Am I safer just staying downstairs and just getting a feel for things?
I guess I can tap my feet to music, Can go early if there’s no one interested or talking.
I don’t want to sound negative but just following assumption that people not interested on here wouldn’t be interested in person.
Don’t want to annoy anyone or get a bad rep and I guess I know not to expect anything and just to go for the experience.
Also wasn’t sure if I should say I’m going on the discussion or not.
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By *zeroMan 50 weeks ago
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As someone who's been to CJs many times as a single guy I'd say go and just chat to as many people as you can. The staff downstairs are lovely and if it's a night when the extra space is open there'll be even more opportunity to chat as it tends to be quieter.
Venture upstairs. Go for it, check it out and see if there's a flogging and sometimes there'll be action in the bigger room if people are happy for you to watch. Just don't lurk in the corridor. That tends to look a bit creepy and if your a single male can tend to put people off.
If you are looking for pre drinks before it keep an eye in the Scotland forum section or the CJs thread for the night your going. People often comment and let people know they are have socials beforehand.
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By *ags73 OP Man 49 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
Unfortunately it wasn’t great and being too late to get on the social event last night meant flying solo.
Tried my best, had a few chats with people, who were all lovely, but came away early as I wasn’t drinking alcohol.
Certainly might try again and hope that it’d be better if I was with people or knew the script better. A woman told me just to ‘go upstairs and get into it’ but ehm, I’m it so sure it’s that easy.
My first weekend off my usual responsibilities in a year so a wee bit deflated today. |
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Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?  |
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By *ags73 OP Man 49 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly? "
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights |
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"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights "
You only need one person to make your night in a club, and that doesn’t mean to have a play either! Just to feel welcome, respected as a person, and included in the location, is what will have you wanting to go again. Most clubs couldn’t care less about solo guys once they’ve paid their entry fee, so long as they don’t upset others inside.
See if you can get in to one of the messenger group chats for the club, to get yourself known in the wider circle. Club nights tend to be full of EGOF’s (Established Groups Of Friends), so mostly pre-arranged meets inside, freezing out people not known outside the circle…..  |
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By *ags73 OP Man 49 weeks ago
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"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights
You only need one person to make your night in a club, and that doesn’t mean to have a play either! Just to feel welcome, respected as a person, and included in the location, is what will have you wanting to go again. Most clubs couldn’t care less about solo guys once they’ve paid their entry fee, so long as they don’t upset others inside.
See if you can get in to one of the messenger group chats for the club, to get yourself known in the wider circle. Club nights tend to be full of EGOF’s (Established Groups Of Friends), so mostly pre-arranged meets inside, freezing out people not known outside the circle….. "
I wouldn’t know if there’s anything like that or not, so dunno, just know there was an organised social that I was unfortunately too late to get in and I hadn’t seen anything on a pre drink, so one of these things, it can’t be helped and no-one responded to the original post last week, so can’t be helped, did what I could. |
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"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights
You only need one person to make your night in a club, and that doesn’t mean to have a play either! Just to feel welcome, respected as a person, and included in the location, is what will have you wanting to go again. Most clubs couldn’t care less about solo guys once they’ve paid their entry fee, so long as they don’t upset others inside.
See if you can get in to one of the messenger group chats for the club, to get yourself known in the wider circle. Club nights tend to be full of EGOF’s (Established Groups Of Friends), so mostly pre-arranged meets inside, freezing out people not known outside the circle…..
I wouldn’t know if there’s anything like that or not, so dunno, just know there was an organised social that I was unfortunately too late to get in and I hadn’t seen anything on a pre drink, so one of these things, it can’t be helped and no-one responded to the original post last week, so can’t be helped, did what I could."
Clubs are all about cliques mate, and you’re either in the clique, or you’re not. Good luck  |
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By *ags73 OP Man 49 weeks ago
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"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights
You only need one person to make your night in a club, and that doesn’t mean to have a play either! Just to feel welcome, respected as a person, and included in the location, is what will have you wanting to go again. Most clubs couldn’t care less about solo guys once they’ve paid their entry fee, so long as they don’t upset others inside.
See if you can get in to one of the messenger group chats for the club, to get yourself known in the wider circle. Club nights tend to be full of EGOF’s (Established Groups Of Friends), so mostly pre-arranged meets inside, freezing out people not known outside the circle…..
I wouldn’t know if there’s anything like that or not, so dunno, just know there was an organised social that I was unfortunately too late to get in and I hadn’t seen anything on a pre drink, so one of these things, it can’t be helped and no-one responded to the original post last week, so can’t be helped, did what I could.
Clubs are all about cliques mate, and you’re either in the clique, or you’re not. Good luck "
Can only try bud and every days a school day.
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"Sounds like your average solo guy’s experience in any club mate! They really are hit or miss for us, don’t beat yourself up about it!
Reading your veris, I would say the Glasgow Greedy Girls would be a great, and possibly better option? I would certainly be visiting them if I was more local, and it sounded like you enjoyed your time there? More welcoming for single guys possibly?
Ach, I had wanted to go the clubs given that’s the advice I’ve seen to get to meet people through that and widen amount of people I know etc etc
Can’t be helped and maybe different if I went again to an evening thing
I’m restricted in terms of time off at weekends and usually don’t get free at nights
You only need one person to make your night in a club, and that doesn’t mean to have a play either! Just to feel welcome, respected as a person, and included in the location, is what will have you wanting to go again. Most clubs couldn’t care less about solo guys once they’ve paid their entry fee, so long as they don’t upset others inside.
See if you can get in to one of the messenger group chats for the club, to get yourself known in the wider circle. Club nights tend to be full of EGOF’s (Established Groups Of Friends), so mostly pre-arranged meets inside, freezing out people not known outside the circle…..
I wouldn’t know if there’s anything like that or not, so dunno, just know there was an organised social that I was unfortunately too late to get in and I hadn’t seen anything on a pre drink, so one of these things, it can’t be helped and no-one responded to the original post last week, so can’t be helped, did what I could.
Clubs are all about cliques mate, and you’re either in the clique, or you’re not. Good luck
Can only try bud and every days a school day.
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Absolutely mate! Have zero expectations, but keep an open mind to be pleasantly surprised  |
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