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Make sure your profile is an exciting and engaging reflection of yourself!
Fun pics
Good text
Accurate description of your likes and dislikes!
Then make sure your messages reflect that and relate to the recipient! |
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OP, upload some creative photographs, dispense with the blank avatar and replace with something more suitable and appealing, polish your profile text with narrative that makes you stand out, inject some humour, your interests, emphasising what you like as opposed to what you detest or dislike. |
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"Sounds silly but unless you’re attractive you’re not going to get a reply. Regardless of your bio or how nice your message is. "
That’s utterly not true. Well partially, attractiveness is such a sliding scale for different people that there will be people on here that will be attracted to you. So a statement like this isn’t very helpful. There is some good advice above, but as with anything, you’re gonna have to put some effort in. And this includes going to different parties/socials and other clubs. |
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"I’ve been advised by someone who has used site before to not post cock pics and put women off would you say that’s correct "
Again, it’s such a sliding scale here some love pics, some don’t I’d say don’t send them in messages unless asked or you ask first. But it’s up to you what you have is your pictures and how you want to be perceived by people looking at you. I personally don’t have many, but have a lot of full body shots and face shots as that’s how I wish to be perceived. |
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It’s not easy and takes time. As others have said, lots of guys and not that many women. Just be yourself, when you send a message make sure you’ve read their profile and talk to them like you would if you met them in the pub. Don’t send “wanna fuck?” or “nice tits” etc. you wouldn’t speak to people in the street like that, we are all real people after all (most anyway) What appeals to one won’t appeal to others. For example, guys we bring in to our sex life tend to be tall because K likes tall guys (V is 6”1 for example)
And always remember, people on here won’t just fuck anyone.
I know it’s cliche but clubs and socials is by far the best way to meet people but we also appreciate it’s not for everyone. Best of luck x |
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By *orny-DJMan 50 weeks ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
This might seem a little controversial, but as far as I can see it, the best way to get a response is to BE WHAT THEY'RE LOOKING FOR.
I see so many threads started in the forum, usually by single guys, that give the impression that they seem to think that there is some secret code, or magic formula to generating interest and to getting meets.
There really isn't.
It's just like the real world on here.
You're only going to appeal to a handful of people, and probably around half of those you might not be attracted to.
You might look at someone's profile and after reading it think that you're exactly what they're looking for, but the truth is, if they don't fancy you, then it isn't going to make any difference how good your profile is or how magnificent your introductory message is, they're not going to be interested.
I know that I'm not going to appeal to everyone, and chances are, I'm unlikely to appeal to most of those ladies that I'm interested in, plus I have the added disadvantage of restricted availability and probably not able to play at the same times as those I'd like to. But I accept this, because that's just how life is.
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By *io--Man 50 weeks ago
Near Blackpool |
If you want as many responses as possible, advertise yourself to the most popular wants from your target audience. However I much prefer my detailed profile that has most important things that could be deal breakers further on, Id rather less responses but the ones that are, are more compatible.
Oh and verification is super important. At least be picture verified as you cant do much about meets |
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By *ickD80Man 50 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"I’m a idiot I thought I had my pics on public but had on private ffs"
In your bio you’ve said ‘Have pictures in private available until feel more comfortable on this site.’ which very much suggests you knew full well that you don’t have any public pictures.
One way to increase your chances of getting a response is to not be a liar… |
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I'm going for fewer messages with more effort in each one. One or two a day. Each message is tailored to the recipient.
I say why I am messaging them. I say what I have which maybe they would like. And I send a face picture so they don't have to click on my profile to know what I look like.
Since coming back on I have sent about 8 messages, two of potential interest, three read not responded but not deleted immediately. Better than my previous experience if read and delete! |
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I’m flakey as fuck at replying to friends let alone strangers.
I would say though, do read a profile and get an idea of what the person(s) are looking for, do you fit it? What can you bring to their table? Then try and start a conversation using something from their profile or say something nice about it that you liked. It’s not always going to get a reply because you are one of about twelvtybillion men but if you are polite, gracious and respectful you are a hell of a lot closer to getting a reply…
…oh and to meet people?! Get out to an organised group social! There’s loads around
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By *ickD80Man 50 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
Is no one else bothered that OP said in this thread that he thought his pictures were public but had them private by mistake and says in his bio that his pictures are private because he’s not comfortable posting public pictures yet? He obviously lying either in the thread or in his bio, or in both, but no one seems to care. Makes a joke of the whole site when people can blatantly lie and not get picked up on it. |
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"Is no one else bothered that OP said in this thread that he thought his pictures were public but had them private by mistake and says in his bio that his pictures are private because he’s not comfortable posting public pictures yet? He obviously lying either in the thread or in his bio, or in both, but no one seems to care. Makes a joke of the whole site when people can blatantly lie and not get picked up on it. "
Well there’s not a lot anyone can do about it, the op hasn’t broken any rules so it’s not a reportable thing.
The op is of no interest to me so there’s no need for me to get upset.
It’s an odd thing for you to worry about tbh. |
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"Is no one else bothered that OP said in this thread that he thought his pictures were public but had them private by mistake and says in his bio that his pictures are private because he’s not comfortable posting public pictures yet? He obviously lying either in the thread or in his bio, or in both, but no one seems to care. Makes a joke of the whole site when people can blatantly lie and not get picked up on it. "
You did pick him up on it in your previous response. |
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"Is no one else bothered that OP said in this thread that he thought his pictures were public but had them private by mistake and says in his bio that his pictures are private because he’s not comfortable posting public pictures yet? He obviously lying either in the thread or in his bio, or in both, but no one seems to care. Makes a joke of the whole site when people can blatantly lie and not get picked up on it. "
Men often lie on fab, I guess sometimes you become immune to it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Is no one else bothered that OP said in this thread that he thought his pictures were public but had them private by mistake and says in his bio that his pictures are private because he’s not comfortable posting public pictures yet? He obviously lying either in the thread or in his bio, or in both, but no one seems to care. Makes a joke of the whole site when people can blatantly lie and not get picked up on it. "
A whole day passed from op creating the thread to you commenting on this. Maybe he sorted out his pics in that day between him commenting and your comment? |
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By *rMrs84Couple 50 weeks ago
Doncaster |
"You have no pics on show so why would they pick you before me say for example?  "
Bingo.
No pictures of note.
No verifications other than photo verification.
I'm going to guess you send a forgettable opening message too sadly.
Get some pictures up, get some verifications - go to a club and meet people, then try again. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Hi everyone any tips on how to get some replies or even read messages? I feel I’m a decent enough looking guy with a fun sense of humour but not had the chance to show it "
I’d narrow down your age range, 18 to 99 puts me off personally. |
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I’m probably not the right person towards this question as I don’t get responses either, but taking a rudimentary view of your account. Your pictures are set to friends. Only you have a profile picture which is good but it’s not public so it’s hard to actually see what you look like from a small box, if you’re only relying on fab to meet people then you’re limiting yourself get to a local social or club. Mingle with people in real life and you won’t ever have to send a message on fab again |
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By *ailor75Man 49 weeks ago
Brigg, near scunthorpe |
It's never easy , there are a lot of women who just like the attention. And will go for the " Studs 'and you are one of hundreds that message them , just look at how times you've sent a message and it's not been read , but also not deleted lol , eventually someone will reply and when they do , just reply the way think best , I find messaging the " less attractive ladies with loads of verifications usually gets a reply but wouldn't worry to much , over 75 percent of women on here arnt after sex , they use it as way to get attention of men to make them feel better about themselves, true swingers are few and far between , but just be patient |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Hi everyone any tips on how to get some replies or even read messages? I feel I’m a decent enough looking guy with a fun sense of humour but not had the chance to show it "
Send multiple dick pics.... Always works |
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