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Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
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"Tey being more flexible With your preferences? Age limitations height ect? "
Can’t see anything about OP’s height preferences but I’d say 18-50 is a fairly flexible age range… I don’t think wanting to meet more people who suit your preferences shoulD translate as “change those preferences”  |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?"
I’m looking for the exact same thing |
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over a year ago
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What I’ve noticed come across few local to me who are on here but also on dating sites,
Before I get my head bitten off, that’s totally fine to be on both,,
But what I have seen is they post on here what they want etc but on dating profiles dead against anything casual ,, now this is my point and I promise I am trying to make one
If you want whatever it is you looking for on here that’s totally your call and I respect it,, but if your on dating site totally against everything you want on here where is the honesty,,
Just confusing yourself with your choices or am I wrong? Just my thoughts not aimed at anyone in particular or out to offend
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"What I’ve noticed come across few local to me who are on here but also on dating sites,
Before I get my head bitten off, that’s totally fine to be on both,,
But what I have seen is they post on here what they want etc but on dating profiles dead against anything casual ,, now this is my point and I promise I am trying to make one
If you want whatever it is you looking for on here that’s totally your call and I respect it,, but if your on dating site totally against everything you want on here where is the honesty,,
Just confusing yourself with your choices or am I wrong? Just my thoughts not aimed at anyone in particular or out to offend
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Is it not possible to use different sites for different things?
I wouldn't see anything wrong with one person using fab for casual sex and a dating app to find a partner. And I wouldn't have a problem with a person doing the opposite.
Apps and sites are tools for us to use however we see fit. No need to imply dishonesty at all. |
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"What I’ve noticed come across few local to me who are on here but also on dating sites,
Before I get my head bitten off, that’s totally fine to be on both,,
But what I have seen is they post on here what they want etc but on dating profiles dead against anything casual ,, now this is my point and I promise I am trying to make one
If you want whatever it is you looking for on here that’s totally your call and I respect it,, but if your on dating site totally against everything you want on here where is the honesty,,
Just confusing yourself with your choices or am I wrong? Just my thoughts not aimed at anyone in particular or out to offend
Is it not possible to use different sites for different things?
I wouldn't see anything wrong with one person using fab for casual sex and a dating app to find a partner. And I wouldn't have a problem with a person doing the opposite.
Apps and sites are tools for us to use however we see fit. No need to imply dishonesty at all."
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"What I’ve noticed come across few local to me who are on here but also on dating sites,
Before I get my head bitten off, that’s totally fine to be on both,,
But what I have seen is they post on here what they want etc but on dating profiles dead against anything casual ,, now this is my point and I promise I am trying to make one
If you want whatever it is you looking for on here that’s totally your call and I respect it,, but if your on dating site totally against everything you want on here where is the honesty,,
Just confusing yourself with your choices or am I wrong? Just my thoughts not aimed at anyone in particular or out to offend
Is it not possible to use different sites for different things?
I wouldn't see anything wrong with one person using fab for casual sex and a dating app to find a partner. And I wouldn't have a problem with a person doing the opposite.
Apps and sites are tools for us to use however we see fit. No need to imply dishonesty at all."
Yes apps are tools but your ignoring my comment,, I said seen people ask for something then, Bad mouth exact same thing on different profile,
All for people keepin fab personal as we all have lives off of here, see profile on tinder wanting casual but same person then slagging casual off if you get me,, fab was and still is thought of by many as a place for like mines individuals to be boy the lifestyle,, not just hookup site, |
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If this is any help to you OP, I'd reword your profile. I've had the exact opposite problem to you, and realised my profile invited too many of the wrong kind of men I was looking for (ie ones who wanted a longterm exclusive thing)
My profile was full of words like sensual, great connection, looking for a fwb
etc. I've since had to rewrite it.
It's just my opinion, but your profile read to me that you're looking for casual excitement with many men?
Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck. |
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"If this is any help to you OP, I'd reword your profile. I've had the exact opposite problem to you, and realised my profile invited too many of the wrong kind of men I was looking for (ie ones who wanted a longterm exclusive thing)
My profile was full of words like sensual, great connection, looking for a fwb
etc. I've since had to rewrite it.
It's just my opinion, but your profile read to me that you're looking for casual excitement with many men?
Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck. "
I agree with this, you gotta be so specific these days because can be miss read , miss interpreted, or often just ignored |
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck. "
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous. |
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Another thing I don't get is I have certain women telling me to date when they themselves choose not to date. Don't get why people love to give advise they don't follow themselves hence why I don't take them seriously |
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck.
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous."
Most men who are like my self are genuinely looking for a long term connection with one person but also enjoy the lifestyle for what it is. I’m not looking for monogamy, I want someone who enjoys the lifestyle in the same way that I do and who I can share this experience with. I know that’s asking a lot and I want my cake and eat it too but I can’t see a good reason why I shouldn’t aim for all my goals
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck.
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous.
Most men who are like my self are genuinely looking for a long term connection with one person but also enjoy the lifestyle for what it is. I’m not looking for monogamy, I want someone who enjoys the lifestyle in the same way that I do and who I can share this experience with. I know that’s asking a lot and I want my cake and eat it too but I can’t see a good reason why I shouldn’t aim for all my goals
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If you’re only looking for one person to meet and have sex with then you’re monogamous.
I suppose soft swing is still swinging, but it’s pretty rare these days. |
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Going to social events has always been the best for me. Finding a community always helps.
As someone suggested, there is Feeld.
Might also be worth looking for local poly groups on Meetup, I've seen one near me. |
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck.
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous.
Most men who are like my self are genuinely looking for a long term connection with one person but also enjoy the lifestyle for what it is. I’m not looking for monogamy, I want someone who enjoys the lifestyle in the same way that I do and who I can share this experience with. I know that’s asking a lot and I want my cake and eat it too but I can’t see a good reason why I shouldn’t aim for all my goals
If you’re only looking for one person to meet and have sex with then you’re monogamous.
I suppose soft swing is still swinging, but it’s pretty rare these days."
Having 1 main partner and have meeting people with that person going clubs etc is definitely swinging |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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It's tricky OP ...in my experience.
I am stuck in the world between tinder, bumble and fab.
On dating sites I leave it open as to what I'm looking for e.g with relationship type I put "not sure' etc in the hope it might be a discussion we can have. I have dozens of coffees via normal dating sites but almost always reverse pretty quickly. Feeld is fantastic, so refreshing and I have met one lovely lady on there that I see , but she lives miles away. I have met one lady on fab and we had a ethically non monogamous relationship..I guess is the term , That's finished but we still do stuff , like walk the dogs together .
There seems to be a lot of both woman and men on fab looking for some form of a relationship but also staying swinging ...
Don't know why it's so difficult to find..somone should organise a big singles speed dating event..
Good luck 
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck.
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous.
Most men who are like my self are genuinely looking for a long term connection with one person but also enjoy the lifestyle for what it is. I’m not looking for monogamy, I want someone who enjoys the lifestyle in the same way that I do and who I can share this experience with. I know that’s asking a lot and I want my cake and eat it too but I can’t see a good reason why I shouldn’t aim for all my goals
If you’re only looking for one person to meet and have sex with then you’re monogamous.
I suppose soft swing is still swinging, but it’s pretty rare these days.
Having 1 main partner and have meeting people with that person going clubs etc is definitely swinging "
That’s not monogamy though.
If you’re only looking for one person then that’s monogamy.
Lots of guys on here are looking for a monogamous girlfriend. |
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Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck.
Men looking for just one partner aren’t ethically non-monogamous.
Most men who are like my self are genuinely looking for a long term connection with one person but also enjoy the lifestyle for what it is. I’m not looking for monogamy, I want someone who enjoys the lifestyle in the same way that I do and who I can share this experience with. I know that’s asking a lot and I want my cake and eat it too but I can’t see a good reason why I shouldn’t aim for all my goals
If you’re only looking for one person to meet and have sex with then you’re monogamous.
I suppose soft swing is still swinging, but it’s pretty rare these days.
Having 1 main partner and have meeting people with that person going clubs etc is definitely swinging
That’s not monogamy though.
If you’re only looking for one person then that’s monogamy.
Lots of guys on here are looking for a monogamous girlfriend."
Definitely not for me that’s what tinder and bumble are for |
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My suggestion is to be very clear on your profile on here - I’ve just rewritten mine at the start of Feb to show I’m looking for a proper kinky partner (miss a naughty BF!)
On Tinder I’ve also put long term as my selection, but dropped a few hints in my bio eg ‘kink friendly’, naughty, adventurous. I have met a partner or two on Tinder before who was also on Fab that way.
Not been on Feeld for a few years, found everyone much younger |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?"
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Id like to meet someone but it’s so difficult. I’ve had a bit of a reword on my profile - let’s see what happens !
Hello
Hi. You are over 200 miles away !"
I'm often up that way ...used to live in Brum ... |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try. "
That's a whole world of complication ... |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ..."
How’s it complicated? |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ...
How’s it complicated?"
I could write an essay ...
People on the kink scene , in my experience of munches, kink events etc and dating in that dimension , are inherently more complicated than swingers , their backgrounds , desires, characters , relationships , vulnerabilities, journeys etc are in general more complex ...
It also means there is a lot of very interesting people in that world which is why I have been going to the Birmingham munch for years. |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ...
How’s it complicated?
I could write an essay ...
People on the kink scene , in my experience of munches, kink events etc and dating in that dimension , are inherently more complicated than swingers , their backgrounds , desires, characters , relationships , vulnerabilities, journeys etc are in general more complex ...
It also means there is a lot of very interesting people in that world which is why I have been going to the Birmingham munch for years. "
But what the OP is looking for is most likely to be found in that arena. |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ...
How’s it complicated?
I could write an essay ...
People on the kink scene , in my experience of munches, kink events etc and dating in that dimension , are inherently more complicated than swingers , their backgrounds , desires, characters , relationships , vulnerabilities, journeys etc are in general more complex ...
It also means there is a lot of very interesting people in that world which is why I have been going to the Birmingham munch for years.
But what the OP is looking for is most likely to be found in that arena. "
If they are looking for BDSM-based relationships then fetish sites are a good place to look. However, most people on fetish sites are not ENM, they are largely looking for monogamy in my experience.
I have had WAY more sucess meeting people for BDSM-based ENM on sites like this over the years. |
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ...
How’s it complicated?
I could write an essay ...
People on the kink scene , in my experience of munches, kink events etc and dating in that dimension , are inherently more complicated than swingers , their backgrounds , desires, characters , relationships , vulnerabilities, journeys etc are in general more complex ...
It also means there is a lot of very interesting people in that world which is why I have been going to the Birmingham munch for years.
But what the OP is looking for is most likely to be found in that arena.
If they are looking for BDSM-based relationships then fetish sites are a good place to look. However, most people on fetish sites are not ENM, they are largely looking for monogamy in my experience.
I have had WAY more sucess meeting people for BDSM-based ENM on sites like this over the years."
We’ve had much more luck on the fetish based sites, I guess everyone is different. |
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By *jonesMan
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"Does anyone have any suggestions of ways to meet people looking for open/ENM relationships and/or relationships in the lifestyle?
I've tried Feeld but it's not very active in my area. I just would like to meet non-vanilla people who don't get completely freaked out and/or judgemental about my sexual preferences.
Suggestions, anyone? Or reside myself to sexy spinsterhood?
Try other lifestyle sites. There is a big fettish site you could try.
That's a whole world of complication ...
How’s it complicated?
I could write an essay ...
People on the kink scene , in my experience of munches, kink events etc and dating in that dimension , are inherently more complicated than swingers , their backgrounds , desires, characters , relationships , vulnerabilities, journeys etc are in general more complex ...
It also means there is a lot of very interesting people in that world which is why I have been going to the Birmingham munch for years.
But what the OP is looking for is most likely to be found in that arena.
If they are looking for BDSM-based relationships then fetish sites are a good place to look. However, most people on fetish sites are not ENM, they are largely looking for monogamy in my experience.
I have had WAY more sucess meeting people for BDSM-based ENM on sites like this over the years.
We’ve had much more luck on the fetish based sites, I guess everyone is different. "
If you travel to Europe ...joyclub
is a fantastic mix of tinder , feeld, kink , swinging, ENM.
Its in German tho .
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"If this is any help to you OP, I'd reword your profile. I've had the exact opposite problem to you, and realised my profile invited too many of the wrong kind of men I was looking for (ie ones who wanted a longterm exclusive thing)
My profile was full of words like sensual, great connection, looking for a fwb
etc. I've since had to rewrite it.
It's just my opinion, but your profile read to me that you're looking for casual excitement with many men?
Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck. "
Not me, am hoping to find a gf on here to continue the swing thing, otherwise id use the vanilla sites. I like the fact that a potential on here will still go with others as i am a bit of a stag. |
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"If this is any help to you OP, I'd reword your profile. I've had the exact opposite problem to you, and realised my profile invited too many of the wrong kind of men I was looking for (ie ones who wanted a longterm exclusive thing)
My profile was full of words like sensual, great connection, looking for a fwb
etc. I've since had to rewrite it.
It's just my opinion, but your profile read to me that you're looking for casual excitement with many men?
Maybe be more direct with what you're looking for on your profile? There are a lot more men out there who are wanting just one partner than you'd think on a swing site! Good luck. "
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Makes me realise I’m lucky to have a compatible swinging partner reading threads like this. And we’re also open to more with the right couple/person.
Wishing everyone lots of success finding their ‘lobster’  xx |
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I find meeting in person in clubs works really well to build initial rapport. I have met some amazing people already in clubs then on to fab and after a while swapped tel numbers.
Lots of weirdos and fake profiles on so called dating sites
Good luck |
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