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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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We've been on before, had a bit of fun, and left. Like so many others, here we are . . Again! 
Same as before though, if we search couples looking for couples, there are plenty of results, but very few have pics of the guy, which is an instant turn off for my Mrs. Does anyone else find this an issue?
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"We've been on before, had a bit of fun, and left. Like so many others, here we are . . Again!
Same as before though, if we search couples looking for couples, there are plenty of results, but very few have pics of the guy, which is an instant turn off for my Mrs. Does anyone else find this an issue?
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It's not an issue for us. We get many winks and messages off couples with only photo's of the Lady and we ignore them, no issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter. "
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy. |
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy. "
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy.
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest. "
That's a different perspective, thank you |
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"We've been on before, had a bit of fun, and left. Like so many others, here we are . . Again!
Same as before though, if we search couples looking for couples, there are plenty of results, but very few have pics of the guy, which is an instant turn off for my Mrs. Does anyone else find this an issue?
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Yep get this all the time with my couples profile. Sometimes it is laziness, sometimes the lady is much more attractive, sometimes a sign that it is all more about her having fun and little consideration for the female of the couple. Worse is when you give the benefit of the doubt and ask for pics of the man and get back a really crap one or a cock photo. So as commented above a good filter, well at least an orange flag. The best couples we’ve met have pics of both. |
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy.
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest. "
I think often they do want to be involved but think that if the female half is attractive then it doesn’t matter about the man. Obviously stupid especially with straight couples.
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy.
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest.
I think often they do want to be involved but think that if the female half is attractive then it doesn’t matter about the man. Obviously stupid especially with straight couples.
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That maybe so but life is too short to find out. I'm not here to chase after men who don't show me the courtesy of letting me see what they look like. |
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Look at it from our point of view
I , Mr have had to become a cock spotter
Mrs is like , this isn't blind date
Whilst we don't particularly want cock pics with opening messages , she like to see what she might have to work with
We like pics of both and just the odd guy pic would make us wonder what's going on |
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy.
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest.
I think often they do want to be involved but think that if the female half is attractive then it doesn’t matter about the man. Obviously stupid especially with straight couples.
That maybe so but life is too short to find out. I'm not here to chase after men who don't show me the courtesy of letting me see what they look like. "
Absolutely my view on it too. It just makes me think they don't actually give a crap about what I might want and therefore, as you said previously, a great filter. |
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Yeah it's frustrating, 4 way attraction is hard enough to find especially when you can only see 1 of the other couple.
We meet together so we both are on the profile.
I just won't message back anyone with pics of just the woman trying to get a pic of the bloke can be hard work so I don't bother, generally if there's no pics or just a cock pic I assume he's ugly.
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Like the above said, if there is no pics of the guy in a couple profile, the. We assume (and often proven) he is not the best looking or nor in similar shape to their partner.
If you are jointly looking, then both should be on the profile, otherwise it becomes, in all essence, a solo profile. |
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"Yep! We just use it as a filter.
We assumed last time we were on that was a good indication of fake profiles, but so many of them have verifications.
Obviously at a club, you see both parties, we're maybe missing something, but honestly can't understand how a couple can have a profile that only shows 50% of them on the pics.
We've already seen a lot of profiles we would be interested in exploring more, but when clicking pics, there's absolutely nothing for Mrs to see, and at that, she's out, same as I would be if it was all pics of the guy.
Oh we don't think they're fake we just assume that for whatever reason the guy either won't be involved due to the way they play or doesn't want to be involved through reluctance or lack of interest.
I think often they do want to be involved but think that if the female half is attractive then it doesn’t matter about the man. Obviously stupid especially with straight couples.
That maybe so but life is too short to find out. I'm not here to chase after men who don't show me the courtesy of letting me see what they look like. "
Oh yes I agree not worth spending. Actually met a couple like this at a party (perviously swapped messages and failed to get pics of him beyond his cock) and they were quite similar in real life - she was front and centre looking glam and he was walking around in her shadow barely talking to anybody |
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By *andb69Couple 45 weeks ago
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Not an issue at all. People use their profile however it best works for them. If it doesn't work for others then they could just move on to one that does. There are plenty to choose from. You don't look in a baker's shop window and complain they don't display car accessories. Profiles are just shop windows. |
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"Our couple profile is only 6wks old
So?
With an attitude like yours
Say no more "
What is wrong with my attitude? I was asking the relevance of being 6 weeks old in the context of this thread and the discussion. |
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"Not an issue at all. People use their profile however it best works for them. If it doesn't work for others then they could just move on to one that does. There are plenty to choose from. You don't look in a baker's shop window and complain they don't display car accessories. Profiles are just shop windows. "
Yep agreed on moving on. Trouble is you get bakers complaining on Forum or privately that you don’t want to buy their car parts that they are not displaying |
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Completely understand where you are coming from, same reason why most porn isn't interesting for me as you can't see the bloke properly. However, some of our best meets have been with people with zero/few photos on their profile.
Some people just aren't comfortable with it for whatever reason, and we respect that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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We used to think the same way and avoid profiles with only the lady in the photos. We then realised that all our meets are at clubs so it's far less of an issue, if Penny doesn't fancy the guy then we make our apologies and find others we are attracted too. |
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Yep I've been half a couple for 8 years here and it's a bug bear of mine.
If only the lady plays I fully get why no pics of the man. If both parties meet and play, there should be one body shot of the man at least (not just a cock like many have).
I'm straight so seeing the man is really important . We no longer engage with these profiles, if they message and don't attach a pic of him, we delete.
It always feels like it's the lady who would be more involved than the man. |
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99% of the pics on ours are female, but as we aren't looking for full swap and more looking for ladies to only play with each other its less of an issue i guess.
But interesting to see if a different ratio made any difference to the responses or messages we get |
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By *bflirtyCouple 45 weeks ago
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His is why our profile has a couple of pics of both of us, face on, that way it saves all the awkwardness of teasing out photos via several messages and then having the “she’s hot but he’s not” dilemma.
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I prefer to organise and watch, than take part. I’m always there, but prefer to watch, or lightly take part, but this is in our profile, so generally only have pics of the wife.
I generally find there most of the couples that contact us seem to just have the guy wanting to play, with various excuses why the girl won’t this time, I suspect, that many of the couple profiles are just single guys. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 44 weeks ago
Baughurst |
"I prefer to organise and watch, than take part. I’m always there, but prefer to watch, or lightly take part, but this is in our profile, so generally only have pics of the wife.
I generally find there most of the couples that contact us seem to just have the guy wanting to play, with various excuses why the girl won’t this time, I suspect, that many of the couple profiles are just single guys."
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What both-straight couple would ever want to play with you two if you (the male) rarely takes part? You will only get interest from males or the male in a couple because you don't show and you don't play. What can you offer to the women in a couple? |
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"I prefer to organise and watch, than take part. I’m always there, but prefer to watch, or lightly take part, but this is in our profile, so generally only have pics of the wife.
I generally find there most of the couples that contact us seem to just have the guy wanting to play, with various excuses why the girl won’t this time, I suspect, that many of the couple profiles are just single guys.
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What both-straight couple would ever want to play with you two if you (the male) rarely takes part? You will only get interest from males or the male in a couple because you don't show and you don't play. What can you offer to the women in a couple?"
Broadly I agree although the OP is clearly into various kink/BDSM scenarios rather the classic swinging swapping thing so perhaps some couples where male dom half wants to do things with two sub ladies or female half of couple is domme and wants to be involved perhaps domming her partner and another lady. Probably other scenarios but it's a stretch and definitely niche and not Fab mainstream so not surprised not much interest. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 44 weeks ago
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"I prefer to organise and watch, than take part. I’m always there, but prefer to watch, or lightly take part, but this is in our profile, so generally only have pics of the wife.
I generally find there most of the couples that contact us seem to just have the guy wanting to play, with various excuses why the girl won’t this time, I suspect, that many of the couple profiles are just single guys.
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What both-straight couple would ever want to play with you two if you (the male) rarely takes part? You will only get interest from males or the male in a couple because you don't show and you don't play. What can you offer to the women in a couple?
Broadly I agree although the OP is clearly into various kink/BDSM scenarios rather the classic swinging swapping thing so perhaps some couples where male dom half wants to do things with two sub ladies or female half of couple is domme and wants to be involved perhaps domming her partner and another lady. Probably other scenarios but it's a stretch and definitely niche and not Fab mainstream so not surprised not much interest. "
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Thanks for the edit, you got me scratching my head when you said OP.
This post I realised l responded to appears to be from a couple, genuine, who meet mostly single profiles if young men (20s-30s). Couples meets are possible, the way you described it, but unlikely.
Therefore not sure why he cares whether there's a woman or not in the couple (or fake couple), as long as there's a young male.
Having said that, he is probably right that couples approaching him are fake, a genuine couple not into the scenarios you described would not make excuses, they would openly say "I am not interested because I'm straight and I can't see you, the man, but my husband/partner he is interested in playing with the woman while you watch", for example. |
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By *eyeYCouple 44 weeks ago
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As said prior, a filter for us.. Just why would I entertain the idea!?!?
We feel we make a proposition representation, although in the moment I mostly have better things to do than take pictures of him!  x |
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By *uffintwoCouple 44 weeks ago
Gerrards Cross |
We don't understand lack of male pictures either! OK, we understand more of the female, but non or just a cock shit if male really doesn't work for us. For us to meet, E (f) has to fancy the guy. Would have thought that obvious. |
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Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor. |
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By *andb69Couple 44 weeks ago
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor."
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from. |
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor.
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from."
Of course that's true.
It's also true that everyone has the right to express their opinion about it and criticise that behaviour if they see fit. |
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By *andb69Couple 44 weeks ago
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor.
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from.
Of course that's true.
It's also true that everyone has the right to express their opinion about it and criticise that behaviour if they see fit."
Yes, but complaining that someone you don't know, and will probably never know, isn't giving you exactly what you want is not really criticism is it, any more than a child stamping its feet and saying "I want" is criticism? |
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor.
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from.
Of course that's true.
It's also true that everyone has the right to express their opinion about it and criticise that behaviour if they see fit.
Yes, but complaining that someone you don't know, and will probably never know, isn't giving you exactly what you want is not really criticism is it, any more than a child stamping its feet and saying "I want" is criticism?"
That's not my read of the vast majority of replies in this thread.
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor.
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from."
Yes of course people can post whatever they want and if they don't want to show the man then fair enough. However, no harm in pointing out that for a large number of people this is a red/orange flag as often these people are unaware, especially if new. Also often see people with no pics of the man complaining or questioning, here in Forum or on status, why they are struggling to meet other couples. |
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"Yes, it's not a game of blind date. If it's a couple and the male has any intention of being present them we want to see both. Mrs isn't going to share with any old guy just because he's managed to rope a woman into the mix. The quality of males potentially involved to us are just as important as the females. Infact sometimes profiles push so hard about the female and say/show so little of the male, makes you question what's wrong with him? Surely they'd want to show him off too?
We do understand there are some reasons why they don't show pictures of the male or on the rare occasion the other way round (and its actually a genuine couples profile, not just a single guy). However if we can see them (public photos or private message) we're not likely to be intrested. Because seeing a bit of who may aim to end up naked and in bed with is an important factor.
As we tried to say above, what you want to see is absolutely immaterial: A profile is based upon what the owners want to show, and because it's their profile they have the right to post whatever works for them without any need for explanation, excuse or reasons.
There are plenty of things we would like to see, and even more things we really don't want to see and if a profile doesn't work for us we just move on. There a plenty to choose from.
Yes of course people can post whatever they want and if they don't want to show the man then fair enough. However, no harm in pointing out that for a large number of people this is a red/orange flag as often these people are unaware, especially if new. Also often see people with no pics of the man complaining or questioning, here in Forum or on status, why they are struggling to meet other couples. "
Yep seen this too and asking why they can't find a "unicorn" too.
Of course people can choose what they want to post, but if both expect to be involved in meets, I can't honestly fathom why they'd only show one of them on their pics.
Even if she is the most attractive (as many say) the other couple or Lady are still going to want to see him. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yeah we found this all this time we had a profile before hardly anything of the male half of couples which I get if the male doesn't play but been a straight women it can be very frustrating when nothing of the male half of a couple. We even have it where if we ask for pictures they just send pics of the female to.
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We have 6 public pictures, 4 of her and 2 with him in. Predominantly we are seeking guys not couples so feel the balance is correct. Being as the OP isn’t on the site anymore I guess the response is pointless anyway  |
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