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Ok know there been loads of posts like this but I’d like some honest feedback on my profile.
I’ve been on here a while now and have attended socials clubs and had a limited success but recently I’ve been messaging and have no interest whatsoever and just beginning to wonder if I’m just not anyone’s cup of tea or something else |
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps. "
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Perhaps he should try wearing womens underwear....would that help? "
I didn’t ask for your opinion on my profile and you’re breaking forum rules by commenting on it. |
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Perhaps he should try wearing womens underwear....would that help? "
Perhaps he should hide his profile like a scared little pussy hole. |
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Well you have 10 verifications by meet... you can't be doing too badly for a single guy.
And an opening message that is more than 3 lines long and shows that you have read the profile and why (beyond them being female/ couple) you are messaging them (in our opinion) would put you in the top 10% opening messages from single guys. Doesn't guarantee success but might add to it. Mr |
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"Well you have 10 verifications by meet... you can't be doing too badly for a single guy.
And an opening message that is more than 3 lines long and shows that you have read the profile and why (beyond them being female/ couple) you are messaging them (in our opinion) would put you in the top 10% opening messages from single guys. Doesn't guarantee success but might add to it. Mr"
Thank you I’ll take this on board and I appreciate your help |
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By *t12guy49Man 43 weeks ago
Walton-on-Thames |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps. "
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile? |
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile?"
He asked for people’s opinions so I gave him mine. Do you disagree with anything I’ve said? |
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By *t12guy49Man 43 weeks ago
Walton-on-Thames |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile?
He asked for people’s opinions so I gave him mine. Do you disagree with anything I’ve said?"
I haven’t looked at his profile. If I did, I wouldn’t feel the need to tear it (and him) apart. You could’ve been nicer |
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile?
He asked for people’s opinions so I gave him mine. Do you disagree with anything I’ve said?
I haven’t looked at his profile. If I did, I wouldn’t feel the need to tear it (and him) apart. You could’ve been nicer "
Please quote exactly what I said that teared him apart? Everything I said was referring to his profile, nothing was personal, so why are you saying that I teared him apart?
I could have been nicer, I could have been more scathing, there’s no rule regarding how nice you have to be when giving profile advice. I wasn’t saying he was boring, I was saying that his profile was boring because it doesn’t say anything unique or interesting about him. Everyone says that the bio is a chance to sell yourself so say the same as what everyone else says isn’t selling himself. He’s basically said I’m an average guy, looking for no strings sex, let’s chat. Which is what pretty much everyone here is looking for. If he’s offended by what I said then he needs to grow a thicker skin and shouldn’t ask for profile advice if he’s overly sensitive, but I doubt he is offended because i didn’t say anything personal.
He’s probably more offended by you hijacking his thread by trying to defend him when he didn’t even want defending. |
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By *t12guy49Man 43 weeks ago
Walton-on-Thames |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile?
He asked for people’s opinions so I gave him mine. Do you disagree with anything I’ve said?
I haven’t looked at his profile. If I did, I wouldn’t feel the need to tear it (and him) apart. You could’ve been nicer
Please quote exactly what I said that teared him apart? Everything I said was referring to his profile, nothing was personal, so why are you saying that I teared him apart?
I could have been nicer, I could have been more scathing, there’s no rule regarding how nice you have to be when giving profile advice. I wasn’t saying he was boring, I was saying that his profile was boring because it doesn’t say anything unique or interesting about him. Everyone says that the bio is a chance to sell yourself so say the same as what everyone else says isn’t selling himself. He’s basically said I’m an average guy, looking for no strings sex, let’s chat. Which is what pretty much everyone here is looking for. If he’s offended by what I said then he needs to grow a thicker skin and shouldn’t ask for profile advice if he’s overly sensitive, but I doubt he is offended because i didn’t say anything personal.
He’s probably more offended by you hijacking his thread by trying to defend him when he didn’t even want defending. "
At least he has verifications and has actually met people, so he can’t be doing too badly |
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By *ickD80Man 43 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Did it make you feel good, completely tearing apart someone’s profile?
He asked for people’s opinions so I gave him mine. Do you disagree with anything I’ve said?
I haven’t looked at his profile. If I did, I wouldn’t feel the need to tear it (and him) apart. You could’ve been nicer
Please quote exactly what I said that teared him apart? Everything I said was referring to his profile, nothing was personal, so why are you saying that I teared him apart?
I could have been nicer, I could have been more scathing, there’s no rule regarding how nice you have to be when giving profile advice. I wasn’t saying he was boring, I was saying that his profile was boring because it doesn’t say anything unique or interesting about him. Everyone says that the bio is a chance to sell yourself so say the same as what everyone else says isn’t selling himself. He’s basically said I’m an average guy, looking for no strings sex, let’s chat. Which is what pretty much everyone here is looking for. If he’s offended by what I said then he needs to grow a thicker skin and shouldn’t ask for profile advice if he’s overly sensitive, but I doubt he is offended because i didn’t say anything personal.
He’s probably more offended by you hijacking his thread by trying to defend him when he didn’t even want defending.
At least he has verifications and has actually met people, so he can’t be doing too badly"
He’s been to socials and chatted with people and they’ve verified him. If he’s not doing too badly why does he say he’s getting absolutely no interest whatsoever and why is he asking for profile advice? |
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"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps. "
Somebody is in a bad mood today 
OP seen better but seen a lot worse too and seen plenty of men with similar profiles have plenty of meets. You're a decent looking guy and big plus is your veri from somebody who has met you (and clearly done something - take note Nick). It's not easy but keep plugging away and sure you will find more fun. |
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"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
I’ve looked at your pictures and read your bio and there’s absolutely nothing about you that is any different to 90% of the people here….you don’t like writing about yourself (no one does), you’re an average guy looking for fun and excitement (who isn’t) looking to connect and have some chilled fun (isn’t everyone) pictures can be supplied (any non fake profile can supply pictures). You’re rubbish at opening messages (why is that of any interest or relevance to anyone reading your profile with a view to sending you an opening message themselves, if you send someone a rubbish opening message they’re probably not going to look at your profile and if they do look and have to read that you’re rubbish at opening messages after receiving a rubbish opening message from you, it doesn’t make make receiving a rubbish opening message from you any more palatable)
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
The only thing that really stands out on your profile is that you can’t accommodate and can’t travel, and it doesn’t stand out in a good way.
Hope that helps.
Somebody is in a bad mood today
OP seen better but seen a lot worse too and seen plenty of men with similar profiles have plenty of meets. You're a decent looking guy and big plus is your veri from somebody who has met you (and clearly done something - take note Nick). It's not easy but keep plugging away and sure you will find more fun. "
Thank you yeh I’ve had a few meets over the yrs but just feel like something has changed as now no longer getting replies. Maybe meet to make some time to get back to a club and have some fun there |
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It's not too bad OP. Do you look at other guys profiles?
Maybe have a look at the profiles of the men who verify the women your interested in.
And look it could be worse. You could have no verifications at all and think it's ok to attempt to shred someone who's asked an honest question. And that's no place to be at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I'm probably not ur target audience (I'm sure u prefer locals  )
But I have to disagree with the person talking about ur verifications. Whether it's playing or socialising, I'd rather see that on a profile then no verification at all.  |
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"I'm probably not ur target audience (I'm sure u prefer locals )
But I have to disagree with the person talking about ur verifications. Whether it's playing or socialising, I'd rather see that on a profile than no verification at all. "
Thank you I appreciate that. And yes ideally local couples or women but I do travel a fair bit sporadically for work so local could be anywhere really. |
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"Your profile is like the biggest bland object on a bland planet covered in bland objects looking at your profile and being completely bored by how bland it is.
Even your verifications from people you’ve met at clubs are completely vanilla and devoid of anything exciting or interesting, they’re just from people you chatted without doing anything more than that.
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Oh my days
Did I actually just read someone with zero veris criticising someone else for "only" having vanilla veris.
Mate..... |
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