Now you're hurt, you're mad you're upset.
She's now with the other guy , but he had no idea about you. He thinks she's great wonderful person. She's begging you not to say anything to him. What would you do? |
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"I shit on you in the worst way possible but I’d really appreciate it if you didn’t do anything to jeopardise my happiness.
Definitely wise the guy up then block and away. "
Literally those were her words!!! |
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By *ickD80Man 48 weeks ago
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I really don’t think it matters what you do, I don’t think he’ll pay too much attention to what you tell him because he’ll put it down to you being bitter and trying to get revenge on your ex. If he is bothered and asks her about it then she’ll easily be able to talk her way out of it by saying that she was unhappy in the relationship with you and blame you in some way and tell him that she is happier with him and loves him more than she loved you so she’d never cheat on him. He’s in a new relationship with someone he thinks is wonderful so he’s going to want to believe that she’s as wonderful as he thinks she is and will convince himself that it’s nothing to worry about. And if he sees it more clearly than that and accepts that she cheated on you then maybe he’s not the sort of person who judges people on their past mistakes and is willing to give her a chance to prove she’s changed. Maybe knowing that she’s cheated in the past will mean that he is a bit more cautious at first but that will soon pass if he doesn’t see any reason not to trust her.
Unfortunately I don’t think you have as much power over your ex as you seem to think you do, probably best to forget about it and move on. |
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I (J) was cheated on once.
She left me for the guy as well. About 18 months after splitting up with her I bumped into her in town one night. The following day I ended up at hers/her boyfriends house whilst he was on holiday, and had her in their bed.
I took (consentual) photos of us in some very compromising positions. I didn't confirm either way whether I would show her boyfriend the photos, which for me was more enjoyable that she was left in suspense.
About a year later he died when he smashed his car up d*unk, I never did find him and show him the photos.
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"I really don’t think it matters what you do, I don’t think he’ll pay too much attention to what you tell him because he’ll put it down to you being bitter and trying to get revenge on your ex. If he is bothered and asks her about it then she’ll easily be able to talk her way out of it by saying that she was unhappy in the relationship with you and blame you in some way and tell him that she is happier with him and loves him more than she loved you so she’d never cheat on him. He’s in a new relationship with someone he thinks is wonderful so he’s going to want to believe that she’s as wonderful as he thinks she is and will convince himself that it’s nothing to worry about. And if he sees it more clearly than that and accepts that she cheated on you then maybe he’s not the sort of person who judges people on their past mistakes and is willing to give her a chance to prove she’s changed. Maybe knowing that she’s cheated in the past will mean that he is a bit more cautious at first but that will soon pass if he doesn’t see any reason not to trust her.
Unfortunately I don’t think you have as much power over your ex as you seem to think you do, probably best to forget about it and move on. "
Exactly this, yeah you might tell the new partner but cheaters/narcissists are very good (in most cases) of manipulating the truth.
They will change the narrative to suit their needs and the new partner will no doubt believe what they are being told by this person because you've been made out to be useless/a cheat/abusive etc, they will have no reason to not believe it |
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"I (J) was cheated on once.
She left me for the guy as well. About 18 months after splitting up with her I bumped into her in town one night. The following day I ended up at hers/her boyfriends house whilst he was on holiday, and had her in their bed.
I took (consentual) photos of us in some very compromising positions. I didn't confirm either way whether I would show her boyfriend the photos, which for me was more enjoyable that she was left in suspense.
About a year later he died when he smashed his car up d*unk, I never did find him and show him the photos.
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Jesus christ |
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Well we're swingers so cheating doesn't happen because we trust each other.
Anyway back to the op. Tell him or don't, either way he owes you nothing because he never made a commitment to you. If anyone is to blame its your partner  |
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