"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
People winking at you do so before properly reading your profile. Superficially you look like a swinging couple.
But for all practical purposes you are a single guy profile with a very occasional, non-participating female spectator. Once people properly read your profile and understand your dynamic there will be a huge drop-off in interest.
All but exceptional single men on fab have an awful response rate and an even lower conversion rate. I don't know if the man in your couple is exceptional because your profile doesn't sell him at all. The photos are mostly of you - why, if you don't play?
In some ways your profile is less attractive than a single guy's would be because many women who are looking to meet single guys will be put off by the idea of the wife hanging around in the background.
Finally many people are suspicious of "only the man plays" couple profiles because they suspect it might be a single guy posing as a couple or a married guy cheating on his wife.
No offence intended, just food for thought. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
It's very common on here. We've returned hundreds of winks and they haven't followed up with a message. However some winks have led to fun times. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?
It's very common on here. We've returned hundreds of winks and they haven't followed up with a message. However some winks have led to fun times."
You're a soft play-only couple. Nothing wrong with that but a lot of people just spam winks and then only read your profile if you wink back, and then will be put off that you don't full swap. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
In our experience if someone wants to interact with you they will message so early on when joining Fab we just bulk deleted all winks which keeps the admin time down. You have some good verifications which shows it works for you but there has been a large influx of non swingers who wouldn't know what to do after winking so best ignored. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?
It's very common on here. We've returned hundreds of winks and they haven't followed up with a message. However some winks have led to fun times.
You're a soft play-only couple. Nothing wrong with that but a lot of people just spam winks and then only read your profile if you wink back, and then will be put off that you don't full swap."
We're definitely not soft play only, though it may appear that way to people who only read the first few sentences. No doubting our profile puts many off though. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?
It's very common on here. We've returned hundreds of winks and they haven't followed up with a message. However some winks have led to fun times.
You're a soft play-only couple. Nothing wrong with that but a lot of people just spam winks and then only read your profile if you wink back, and then will be put off that you don't full swap.
We're definitely not soft play only, though it may appear that way to people who only read the first few sentences. No doubting our profile puts many off though."
I mean, literally everything but the very last sentence suggests you only soft play. I'm sure you have your reasons for doing it but I'm not sure why you'd create the impression you're soft play-only, which will cause many people to stop reading and therefore not find out you do in fact full swap. |
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Thanks for the responses our problem is i work nights mon-fri and im a cuckqueen in the sense my turn on is watching him with other women hence why midweek its just him but i also love being with a woman with him, we are probably more towards a poly dynamic but we are also trying new things all the time. |
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"Thanks for the responses our problem is i work nights mon-fri and im a cuckqueen in the sense my turn on is watching him with other women hence why midweek its just him but i also love being with a woman with him, we are probably more towards a poly dynamic but we are also trying new things all the time."
Yeah, this still limits you to unicorn hunting or finding a single woman or couple for what is essentially a single male most of the time.
It's not an impossible ask but I would expect a very low positive response rate. Unicorns are called unicorns for a reason. And again, even the most attractive men on here get a tiny fraction of the responses compared to average single women and full-swap couples. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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I think a wink is a way of someone showing some appreciation of a profile and the pics, i for would wink alot more but if they are to far or only looking for a particular person/s then i read look and move on. |
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"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
The amount of time we reply to a wink with "Hey guys, thanks for the wink. Nice profile pics" and never get a reply. Does my head in |
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By *enk15Man 49 weeks ago
Evesham |
"We get loads of winks but never recieve a message from the winker and rarely recieve a reply if we message them back. Are we missing something?"
I received a wink but decided not to reply as i figured they would message if they were interested.
They did message, but it was to complain I never responded to the wink 
So the next time I got a wink from someone, I sent a message.... then crickets.
So yes, there is no rhyme or reason to this place. Best to go with the flow and see what happens. |
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By *orny-DJMan 49 weeks ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
I've found that, in most cases, if I've responded to a wink with a message, it either remains unread, I get no response or it gets deleted which makesme wonder why they winked in the first place, which is why I ignore them now |
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