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So now my kink is a gloryhole but I’d rather be told straight up who’s behind the hole if it’s a guy it’s a guy a girl a girl but recently found out my usual gloryhole isn’t a girl as they claim I’ve no problem with it being a girl guy tv/ts or tgirl or anyone but some others might not be aware of this and like it so question is do I expose this lie for everyone else or leave it be? |
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You leave it.
For many, the allure of glory holes is the mystery, why ruin that for others enjoying the fantasy?
In a huge portion of cases, glory holes are "manned" by guys (see what i did there!?... sorry I'llsee myself out). That's common knowledge and most people's default assumption unless told otherwise. But it's the risk you take with them, if people cared deeply about it, they wouldn't risk it. |
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No I’m fully happy and aware with the situation of who it may be but other people might not know this fact it’s ok to put it bluntly it’s a guy pretending to be a female gloryhole on here so not sure what’s the best avenue to go down here as I’m not bothered by who it is the allure of mystery is what gets me going but others won’t know this and believe it’s a woman when it’s not |
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"No I’m fully happy and aware with the situation of who it may be but other people might not know this fact it’s ok to put it bluntly it’s a guy pretending to be a female gloryhole on here so not sure what’s the best avenue to go down here as I’m not bothered by who it is the allure of mystery is what gets me going but others won’t know this and believe it’s a woman when it’s not"
But... the point of a glory hole is that you don't know?
If you want to be guaranteed a female, do it where you can see who's face you're fucking.
Otherwise, use it as the personless fantasy fodder it's supposed to be. |
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That’s a very good point as I said I’m not the one bothered I enjoy it and the experience is as what I expect to be just other people don’t have same mentality as some and it may be an issue for some but as some have said not my problem I guess |
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By *xybumWoman 50 weeks ago
East Kilbride |
"But they are not female they’re pretending to be female but are actually male"
lol I think you need to google the difference between a male and female gloryhole… also checkout Czech gloryhole porn… |
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"So now my kink is a gloryhole but I’d rather be told straight up who’s behind the hole if it’s a guy it’s a guy a girl a girl but recently found out my usual gloryhole isn’t a girl as they claim I’ve no problem with it being a girl guy tv/ts or tgirl or anyone but some others might not be aware of this and like it so question is do I expose this lie for everyone else or leave it be?"
So an unverified profile is saying another profile is not as stated? Is the gloryhole profile on here verified by other users? |
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By *ickD80Man 50 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"So now my kink is a gloryhole but I’d rather be told straight up who’s behind the hole if it’s a guy it’s a guy a girl a girl but recently found out my usual gloryhole isn’t a girl as they claim I’ve no problem with it being a girl guy tv/ts or tgirl or anyone but some others might not be aware of this and like it so question is do I expose this lie for everyone else or leave it be?"
To be honest I have zero experience of glory holes, I have always assumed men put their dick through a hole in a wall and then anyone can suck it and the man doesn’t know who it was, and never will.
You said that you’ve found out that your ‘usual glory hole isn’t a girl as they claim’ which implies that you have been going to a glory hole and putting your dick in the hole and the same/usual person has been sucking it every time….so you know who’s sucking it and the other person knows who’s cock she’s sucking, you must be in contact with this person to arrange a time when you will both be there at the same time.
Doesn’t this negate the whole point of going to a glory hole? Or am I missing something? |
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I've not had a marriage proposal through a gloryhole yet, though some of the men have perhaps wished I was their wife, to get the same cock servicing quality on demand. Gloryholes are fully or semi anonymous sexual satisfaction facilities. At closed environments like clubs, some guys may workout who I am, by some of my clothes. But they are perhaps best used when immediate satisfaction is needed. No getting to know each other socially, just physically.
I think we must accept that it is a mainly anonymous facility. If you arrange a meeting with people and they are fully revealed, whilst not being who they say they are, then report to Admin. For gloryholes, where you arrange anonymous engagement, then it's up to all to support the preservation of this. No outing of others, whilst maintaining discretion.
And the other golden rule is for no naming and shaming. |
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"No I’m fully happy and aware with the situation of who it may be but other people might not know this fact it’s ok to put it bluntly it’s a guy pretending to be a female gloryhole on here so not sure what’s the best avenue to go down here as I’m not bothered by who it is the allure of mystery is what gets me going but others won’t know this and believe it’s a woman when it’s not"
Just let others use the facility as suits them, or not. |
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I’m just saying that I’m fine with the whole concept just is it right the profile states they’re a woman when they’re not I just don’t want a bad ending from this with someone who’s not comfortable it being chance of being a man |
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I’m Not fussed with who may or may not be behind the hole in general visited a few and some I know have been women some I know have been men and some I don’t know that’s the magic but those GHs that have profiles on here state if they’re male female or trans so I don’t mind but this particular one states they’re a woman and they’re not so like I’ve said previously I just do t want a bad ending from someone who can’t deal it’s not a woman |
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Slightly surprised by some of responses that essentially it ok for men to be deceived and potentially tricked into a sexual experience they do not consent to.
Sure if it is not specified who is behind the glory hole (eg in a club) then fair enough can't complain as could be a man or a women. However, different if specified in advance that lady is behind it and actually a man. I am not sure what kind of glory hole you mean OP but is it one of the private ones that often see advertised? Somebody sets one up at home and invites people over. Seen some couples do this and explicitly say it is the wife doing the sucking. In such case if actually a man then that is deliberatley misleading to trick somebody into false consent.
There was a legal case of a lady pretending to a man and seducing a female friend. Most of the communication was online but when meeting used blindfolds and the fake man engaged in sexual acts with the lady - I guess lots of fingers, tongues etc. The lady was convicted of sexual assault.
Not sure how I would handle this OP depending on the exact context but it is bang out of order and I would be tempted to expose in some way. As you say there is also the danger of one of glory hole users finding out and reacting very badly. |
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"It's a hole where you get sucked.
Hopefully you get the end result that you want.
I really do not see the issue here.
Don't like it them do not use their service."
Well some people are straight and attend a private one organised by a lady or couple after being told it will be the lady on the other side. They are not consenting to being sucked by a man. Bit like the legal case I mentioned above. Some people might be happy either way but I am pretty sure some people would not be impressed if fooled like this. |
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"If you're worried about men using the sex thing that was basically invented in male sex venues for male on male sex, stay home."
Yes screw consent and the potentially the law. If you are a gay/bi man just lie and pretend to be a lady to get what you want - straight men are fair game I guess.
PS lots of venues with ladies behind the wall and fairly easy to figure out in some cases and also lots of ladies offering private glory holes. It is no longer just for gay/bi men. |
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I really don’t understand why so many on here don’t get the OP’s concern. He has stated quite clearly it is advertised as a female glory hole, so being sucked off by a man is deception that negates consent.
This is not the same as a non specified gloryhole where you take your chances.
Stop having a go at the OP. |
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Your post is confusing. What you're actually asking is, should I report a female profile I know 100% is male. The clear answer to that is absolutely yes.
The whole glory hole story and situation is totally irrelevant and has massively skewed peoples responses. |
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By *DW1983Man 50 weeks ago
Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
If you're being led to believe that it's a woman, if your consent is based on the understanding that it's a woman, and if that person knows you wouldn't consent to it if it were a man, then I'd say it's a clear violation of that consent.
Unfortunately, as much as I think reporting the profile is probably a good idea, I'm not sure what you can acieve really given that you say you're ok with it. It's up to everyone to look out for themselves and assess the risks.
Personally, I've been around the internet long enough to know that pretty much any anonymous female profile offeting anonymous gloryhole sucking is highly likely to be a male, and wouldn't go anywhere near it.
In a club scenario, if I could be sure who was sucking me (i.e. if she were wanting to suck unknown/anonymous cocks), I might use one, but even then it's unlikely, as I'm pretty picky about who I play with.
Knowing that lots of people don't use condoms for oral, there's probably a different level of risk involved if the person turns out to be a guy, and even if you don't mind that it's actually a guy, I'd say it's important to know so that you can properly manage your sexual health. |
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By *ucka39Man 50 weeks ago
Newcastle |
It's your right to be aware of whom is as it'd become under abuse because it's not something that you intentionally would've done if you knew otherwise it's the law as it stands which many forget.... |
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"So now my kink is a gloryhole but I’d rather be told straight up who’s behind the hole if it’s a guy it’s a guy a girl a girl but recently found out my usual gloryhole isn’t a girl as they claim I’ve no problem with it being a girl guy tv/ts or tgirl or anyone but some others might not be aware of this and like it so question is do I expose this lie for everyone else or leave it be?"
And that’s precisely why I’d never do it. |
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"I really don’t understand why so many on here don’t get the OP’s concern. He has stated quite clearly it is advertised as a female glory hole, so being sucked off by a man is deception that negates consent.
This is not the same as a non specified gloryhole where you take your chances.
Stop having a go at the OP."
Yes totally agree. Amazed how many people can’t distinguish between a general anonymous glory home and one where somebody has clearly stated in advance that a lady behind it and attended on that basis. Also amazed how many completely belittle the idea of consent.
As I’ve posted above vaguely similar scenarios of ladies being deceived by somebody misleading on gender have been prosecuted. Imagine a lady meeting another lady for oral and massaging and fingering fun while blindfolded. After putting on the blindfold the lady invites her male friend in to perform the oral and fingering and make her cum. Man then disappears. Presumably that is ok as she got orgasm and didn’t know any different? Pretty sure that would be illegal and the perpetrators libel to prosecution for sexual abuse. Just because it’s a man doesn’t make it different. |
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"I may get shit for this but. If I was tricked and a guy sucks my cock through a GH, he would lose his teeth."
And this is one of the reasons why I’m wondering what to do some people wouldn’t be happy if they found out it was a guy
Update: reported it and will see what will come of it |
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lol I think you need to google the difference between a male and female gloryhole… also checkout Czech gloryhole porn…"
I like French ones, hearing them patriotically singing
" Le trou de gloire est arrivé"! |
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