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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas? |
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"thanks ladies wasnt sure if i was just worrying for nothing. "
You have to feel comfortable. You are under no obligation to meet anyone: this is fun. If someone you haven't met is already disrespectful or discrete (he's discussing your meet and no doubt showing your pic to others you don't know already) why you even bothered seeking advice is beyond me.
The guys a creep! (((Shudders)))
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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago
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You did the right thing. As soon as i read your posting i was thinking 'no no no'. You could have ended up in a nasty situation.
But id be asking what does this man think you are?
Id be thinking sod him, and not meet ever |
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?"
Why would he want to do/suggest that for the first time you are meeting???!!!If the initial meet was good and you were planning on meeting again then it would maybe be ok to ask...but on the first meet when you have already agreed that it would be just you and him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone else says the o p seems mature enough to figure out something amiss without asking advice here.
Just block him move on and if it helps make your preferences very clear. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As someone else says the o p seems mature enough to figure out something amiss without asking advice here.
Just block him move on and if it helps make your preferences very clear."
i did block him and he threatened to name and shame me on his status saying i was a tinewaster |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As someone else says the o p seems mature enough to figure out something amiss without asking advice here.
Just block him move on and if it helps make your preferences very clear.
i did block him and he threatened to name and shame me on his status saying i was a tinewaster "
. Better to have been named a time waster than go through what could have happened....you did the right thing girl.. |
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It's him that's the time waster. The likelihood is that he had no intention of turning up because he was looking to push things to see how much of an influence he could have on you to stoke his ego. Any other guy would have taken this meet, given you a good time and when he had gained your confidence perhaps suggested group play.
There a thousands of descents guys on here, you've spotted a goofball a mile away so your twat-dar is working fine.
Go have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's him that's the time waster. The likelihood is that he had no intention of turning up because he was looking to push things to see how much of an influence he could have on you to stoke his ego. Any other guy would have taken this meet, given you a good time and when he had gained your confidence perhaps suggested group play.
There a thousands of descents guys on here, you've spotted a goofball a mile away so your twat-dar is working fine.
Go have fun "
twat-dar i love it |
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?"
Report him if he's threatening to name you on his status. I suggest that you meet guys socially first to discuss things, make your boundaries crystal clear and put some safety precautions in place such as openly texting a friend your location and a time to text again to say everythings ok. If something doesn't feel right then it isn't right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
Report him if he's threatening to name you on his status. I suggest that you meet guys socially first to discuss things, make your boundaries crystal clear and put some safety precautions in place such as openly texting a friend your location and a time to text again to say everythings ok. If something doesn't feel right then it isn't right."
my hubby always knows where i am when i go on a meet. and stays in regular contact via phone calls |
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?"
As a single girl, i ALWAYS meet sociall first. Your instincts are usually spot on when you meet someone, You will also outthe wierdos doing that. Hubby knowing where you are may not be enough.
Trust your instinces, there are some wierdos on here. There are also some lovely, friendly respectful guys on here with whom you can have a whale of a time. It is kowing which are which...Instincts.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
As a single girl, i ALWAYS meet sociall first. Your instincts are usually spot on when you meet someone, You will also outthe wierdos doing that. Hubby knowing where you are may not be enough.
Trust your instinces, there are some wierdos on here. There are also some lovely, friendly respectful guys on here with whom you can have a whale of a time. It is kowing which are which...Instincts...."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Remember, you must remain in control. Safety and security is always important and everyone has a good time.
If you have doubts meet socially first.
Best advice is to forget him, most guys are happy to meet one on one and introduce others if the lady wants it. |
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?"
Just another take;
Could it be that he was just seeing if you wanted a little more than he could offer himself? ... possibly he was short on confidence and was asking the question in order to get the response "no thanks, just you will be fine"
Only person who really knows what was intended is the fella involved but as personal safety has to be paramount then would have to agree that cancelling was your only option.
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
Just another take;
Could it be that he was just seeing if you wanted a little more than he could offer himself? ... possibly he was short on confidence and was asking the question in order to get the response "no thanks, just you will be fine"
Only person who really knows what was intended is the fella involved but as personal safety has to be paramount then would have to agree that cancelling was your only option.
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But that's his problem, not the OPs
If he has performance related issues, he needs to ask questions of himself not mask it by creating scenarios to mask it.
Had he got to know the OP and gained her trust, she may well have, at some point in the future been up for a group play, but with guys they jointly chose not just him.
Sounds to me like he was just another someone who is feckin clueless at best and/or a chancer at worst.
The OP did right to question it, cancel and block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
Just another take;
Could it be that he was just seeing if you wanted a little more than he could offer himself? ... possibly he was short on confidence and was asking the question in order to get the response "no thanks, just you will be fine"
Only person who really knows what was intended is the fella involved but as personal safety has to be paramount then would have to agree that cancelling was your only option.
But that's his problem, not the OPs
If he has performance related issues, he needs to ask questions of himself not mask it by creating scenarios to mask it.
Had he got to know the OP and gained her trust, she may well have, at some point in the future been up for a group play, but with guys they jointly chose not just him.
Sounds to me like he was just another someone who is feckin clueless at best and/or a chancer at worst.
The OP did right to question it, cancel and block."
Glad we agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP, no way are you a 'timewaster'!
You have every right to change your mind, at any time. Tenfold, since he moved the goalposts!
Report him to Admin for his threat to 'name and shame' you on his profile.  |
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
Just another take;
Could it be that he was just seeing if you wanted a little more than he could offer himself? ... possibly he was short on confidence and was asking the question in order to get the response "no thanks, just you will be fine"
Only person who really knows what was intended is the fella involved but as personal safety has to be paramount then would have to agree that cancelling was your only option.
But that's his problem, not the OPs
If he has performance related issues, he needs to ask questions of himself not mask it by creating scenarios to mask it.
Had he got to know the OP and gained her trust, she may well have, at some point in the future been up for a group play, but with guys they jointly chose not just him.
Sounds to me like he was just another someone who is feckin clueless at best and/or a chancer at worst.
The OP did right to question it, cancel and block."
Couldn't agree with you more! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?
Just another take;
Could it be that he was just seeing if you wanted a little more than he could offer himself? ... possibly he was short on confidence and was asking the question in order to get the response "no thanks, just you will be fine"
Only person who really knows what was intended is the fella involved but as personal safety has to be paramount then would have to agree that cancelling was your only option.
But that's his problem, not the OPs
If he has performance related issues, he needs to ask questions of himself not mask it by creating scenarios to mask it.
Had he got to know the OP and gained her trust, she may well have, at some point in the future been up for a group play, but with guys they jointly chose not just him.
Sounds to me like he was just another someone who is feckin clueless at best and/or a chancer at worst.
The OP did right to question it, cancel and block.
Couldn't agree with you more! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thanks ladies wasnt sure if i was just worrying for nothing.
You have to feel comfortable. You are under no obligation to meet anyone: this is fun. If someone you haven't met is already disrespectful or discrete (he's discussing your meet and no doubt showing your pic to others you don't know already) why you even bothered seeking advice is beyond me.
The guys a creep! (((Shudders)))
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"My advice!!!! Meet in public place! Do not meet alone at his or yours especially after that!!"
I'd advise not wasting another nano second on someone disrespectful when there are thousands of decent blokes on here to choose from. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My advice!!!! Meet in public place! Do not meet alone at his or yours especially after that!!
I'd advise not wasting another nano second on someone disrespectful when there are thousands of decent blokes on here to choose from."
thank u i agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am meeting a guy for the first time and he has asked me if he wants him to get a few other guys round. alarm bells have started ringing and im unsure as to what to do. any ideas?"
Personally I would back out at such a suggestion as it hints he has talked to others about your meet. Safety is paramount in seining and if you don't feel safe it will be not as much fun. Tell him this and see what his reaction is. |
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