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First mmf - swingers club or hotel meet?
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*Advice please*
I have a female play partner (sexy BBW) who would like to be fucked by two guys at once - me being one of them.
Neither of us have been to a club before, so we're nervous, but I am also concerned about being messed around, or a no-show, if we were to arrange a hotel meet.
Which is better for a first time experience?
Does anybody have any experience or advice they would be willing to share please?
Also, where is a good club in the South West or Midlands, ideally (we're not going to Chams in Newport because it's too close to home!)?
Thanks x |
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Having been part of a couple on here getting messed about is sadly a thing that happens far to often on here by men. Clubs Route 69 has lockable rooms so you can have just who you want in there with no one else which may be easier for you, Gems is more open plan with no where for the three of you to go, both good but just different. I'd say hotel but meet prior if possible to make sure genuine. |
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I’ve been messed about too. So I have to say that I won’t do hotels any more.
Expensive lessons learned.
I’d do a club, at least that way if they don’t show you can still have a good time and you may find someone else who can oblige.
I’ve been to Route 69 and it was great.
Small but great.
I’ve not been to Gems so can’t comment.
Heathrow Abfabs/kestrels may work? |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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I myself would go to a club. I wouldn't arrange a hotel meet, too expensive if they didn't show or had to cancel on the day of.
At least with a club there are options for you. |
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We were let down by a couple once with a hotel meet, meant we had a night on our own that we made the best of, but still unnecessary cost.
We were hosted by a guy for our first threesome and he was really good with it, though it might have been that we hust found one of the good ones!
We have since hosted a couple of times.
I'd agree with the others though, in general we arrange club meets now so that last min cancellations can be replaced by a club night. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 51 weeks ago
Baughurst |
Arrange with a guy that you two like to meet to play at a club. If it's a no show, there will be other guys there (not the case at a hotel). In any case, I'm sure you and your lovely playmate will know how to have fun together even in the disappointing scenario that you cannot get a suitable guy, and you'll gain experience about what a club looks like, so next time it's easier to decide location. |
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If she's on here too, does she have any previous meets that would join you maybe.
If not, I'd say a club might be the best bet for you.
Have a look at your nearest club and see what night single males attend, you never know who you might meet there. |
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"I myself would go to a club. I wouldn't arrange a hotel meet, too expensive if they didn't show or had to cancel on the day of.
At least with a club there are options for you. " Our thoughts too and if you are in the Midlands you could try Chams in Darlaston, we enjoyed a visit there |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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We were trying to sort out a private meet on this site but having no verifications at the time it was near impossible. Plus we were incredibly picky with profiles we would try messaging.
We ended up going to our local club, and this is shortly after Covid lockdowns finished so it was quiet. We went to the main play area towards the end of the evening and ended up full swapping on the same night.
Point we're making is just go to a club. Its easier to find people that actually want to fuck in a room that has people fucking in it. You'll also discover for yourself if the reality is really for you. |
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Chams in Darlaston is a fantastic club, always a relaxed atmosphere in there, but like all clubs, your experience on the night is governed by who is in when you are. It would be a bit of a trek from Swansea too...
A private meet in a hotel is always far more comfortable, with a proper bed, and your own en suite etc, plus you have no distractions from other people, whether wanted or otherwise, and you can choose a hotel as local (or not) as you like... |
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Are you worried you'd bump into people you know in Newport? They're there too, remember, so they shouldn't be judgemental. And I've been in clubs halfway across the country and bumped into people from Wales. |
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We understand there is always a risk of bumping into someone from the same area, but lower risk if we go somewhere that is not local.....
And happy to have a night away in a hotel as part of the fun. |
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Thank you all for the advice.....
the overwhelming response is to go to a club. The reviews for Chams in Darlaston look positive.
We like the idea of being able to take in the atmosphere for ourselves, watch others and have others watch us too.
If we decide to invite another person to join us, that would be cool.
In addition, we can stay at a local (ish) hotel and have a nice vanilla time too. |
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By *rK MrsJCouple 50 weeks ago
Kidderminster |
"*Advice please*
I have a female play partner (sexy BBW) who would like to be fucked by two guys at once - me being one of them.
Neither of us have been to a club before, so we're nervous, but I am also concerned about being messed around, or a no-show, if we were to arrange a hotel meet.
Which is better for a first time experience?
Does anybody have any experience or advice they would be willing to share please?
Also, where is a good club in the South West or Midlands, ideally (we're not going to Chams in Newport because it's too close to home!)?
Thanks x"
Chams in darlaston would definitely recommend |
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By *rK MrsJCouple 50 weeks ago
Kidderminster |
"We understand there is always a risk of bumping into someone from the same area, but lower risk if we go somewhere that is not local.....
And happy to have a night away in a hotel as part of the fun."
Chams in Darlaston have rooms you can book and you get breakfast in bed |
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Personally we’d suggest a club, you can chat to people and take your time to get to know people before she decides if she wants to take the plunge.
Don’t worry about going to a local club and people recognising you, we’ve seen people in clubs we would never have guessed they were swingers that we’ve seen in ‘real life’, but people are there for there own pleasure and are usually discreet, certainly not there to ‘out’ people as swingers in the local community. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 49 weeks ago
Baughurst |
"Personally we’d suggest a club, you can chat to people and take your time to get to know people before she decides if she wants to take the plunge.
Don’t worry about going to a local club and people recognising you, we’ve seen people in clubs we would never have guessed they were swingers that we’ve seen in ‘real life’, but people are there for there own pleasure and are usually discreet, certainly not there to ‘out’ people as swingers in the local community."
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That would be funny: "swingerspotters", like trainspotters for trains, going to clubs to spot swingers, having little books to annotate the details of the sightings, spotting the rare unicorns, then outing them in social media ... |
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I would suggest the club. I thought I was the dominant one and in fact my partner lead the way..you might just be surprised how it turns out and if it doesn't suit you can just leave and enjoy yourselves |
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By *obertjMan 49 weeks ago
Birmingham |
Doing this in a club or in a hotel/house provide two really different experiences. For the former, it’s really fuck and go. For the latter, you really need to get to know the 3rd party so you engage with them. There is an element of risk but the benefits are great if it works out. |
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