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So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that!
We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine!
So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this!
So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked!
So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked!
Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before?  Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! |
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Well, quite a few things! Who knows who is gonna be behind that door?
Like from our perspective, we'd never ever give our address out freely. We'd have to have been 110% convinced both parties are committed to meeting you know? |
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As a single guy this is unfortunately a fairly common possibility… only once had it as a couple and to be fair it was not last minute, he disappeared the morning of the meet planned for the evening.
As a single I’ve got to the postcode given and been asked to wait 5 minutes - followed almost immediately by the block:
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But that is terrible behaviour either way! I mean most people would quite happily take an excuse, at least you definitively know you've been cancelled on. But to be blocked is very cowardly and disrespectful if you know you did nothing wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. We've had a few experiences where we've been blocked at the last minute.
We've given up meeting single guys on Fab as a good 70-80% cancel either the day before or last minute.
We've pretty much given up meeting people online due to the timewasters and fantasists. There's an awful lot of people that fantasise about meeting people, but when that becomes a reality and they actually have to go through with it, they get scared and pull out. The amount of effort we've seen people put into arranging a meet only to cancel, block or ghost is extraordinary. They will spend hours chatting, asking questions, building a rapport then vanish when they have to go through with it.
We meet people at parties now. Meeting in real life is so much better than Fab of any other app. |
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"But that is terrible behaviour either way! I mean most people would quite happily take an excuse, at least you definitively know you've been cancelled on. But to be blocked is very cowardly and disrespectful if you know you did nothing wrong!"
Totally agree
But it seems there is that element in the lifestyle
They seem to get their “kick” from the chat.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Didn't get blocked but got once got a flat tyre excuse minutes before a couple were due to arrive at mine. Radio silence when I said I could pick them up, had a tyre pump and my place was next door to an MOT garage. They did message me again for a meet about 3 months later though so maybe it wasn't a made up excuse but sure felt like it. |
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As a single woman, I would never, EVER meet someone for the first time at a private address. Always at a public place. If they din’t want to show their face to me in public, I don’t want to show them my body in private…
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that!
We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine!
So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this!
So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked!
So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked!
Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! "
She probably had last minute nerves, and simply bottled it. It happens. Take comfort in the fact IF she really lives at the address she gave, she’s potentially worrying you may still call round at some point…
Don’t overthink it, just learn from it, and move on. There’s plenty of genuine people to share good times with in here   |
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By *oxy jWoman 48 weeks ago
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fab provides the tools the rest is down to you ... what can fab do ? nothing is the answer can you imagine them trying to fix 1% of the pronlems on here let alone all..
something happened she got cold feet ? something was said that she did not like?? or she was a man or just a prick teaser..
for me the warning sign is there in black n white .. a woman giving her home address out not caring about her own safety ? sorry but thats not the real world i dont know of one single woman who would do this..
she being verified means nothing you only have to be a verified man to set up a fake womans profile and veri it from another computer and bingo a fake womans profile..
we stopped meeting couples and women on here years ago maily to avoid male run couples profiles but also because a massive amount of couples and womens profiles are fake / or couples who've split and the guy has kept it..hence we only meet guys via this platform
the only way for me/us is to be super blunt and to the point thick skinned and very very picky but thankfully been doiung this a very long time and our littke black book serves us well
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By *oxy jWoman 48 weeks ago
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"There’s plenty of genuine people to share good times with in here "
there may well be plenty genuine people on here but finding the ones that the attraction is right and getting on is the hard bit |
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that!
We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine!
So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this!
So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked!
So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked!
Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! "
pretty much the same has happened to me and I've posted about it as well. A few others I've spoke to, it's happened to them with the same person. I wonder if it's the same as my one |
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By *enk15Man 48 weeks ago
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So they were relying on the fact that you would check their profile and see that they had blocked you?
Was she planning on just ignoring you had you turned up and knocked on the door?
Very odd behavior. It's not like typing out "Sorry, changed my mind" is a difficult thing to do. |
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And we always respect that, make it be known multiple times that it's on them to call the shots if they want to meet us. That's how much of a back seat we take because we never want to make anyone uncomfortable. The fact the address was sent and how to access the property was even more weird! |
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"fab provides the tools the rest is down to you ... what can fab do ? nothing is the answer can you imagine them trying to fix 1% of the pronlems on here let alone all..
something happened she got cold feet ? something was said that she did not like?? or she was a man or just a prick teaser..
for me the warning sign is there in black n white .. a woman giving her home address out not caring about her own safety ? sorry but thats not the real world i dont know of one single woman who would do this..
she being verified means nothing you only have to be a verified man to set up a fake womans profile and veri it from another computer and bingo a fake womans profile..
we stopped meeting couples and women on here years ago maily to avoid male run couples profiles but also because a massive amount of couples and womens profiles are fake / or couples who've split and the guy has kept it..hence we only meet guys via this platform
the only way for me/us is to be super blunt and to the point thick skinned and very very picky but thankfully been doiung this a very long time and our littke black book serves us well
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I wouldn't give out my home address that way either but I do know there are women profiles on here that do. I've had people message me that's what they've been used to. I'm not outwardly accusing anyone of being dangerous but I know what I consider safe and my comfortable boundaries. So to be told I'm over-reacting because xyz was happy with it. Definitely confirms to me it happens (sometimes all you need to see if the veris left to confirm it to be true).
As for OP I'm sorry you've had your time wasted in that way. It isn't pleasant and I'm sure you used all your usual checks before proceeding. I've been ghosted loads on/before agreed socials. I never really understand it as they message me first and invite me out. Who has the time to play these games? Was stood up once and we had been chatting for weeks and weeks. Hard lesson learnt for me. |
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Honestly, we've been around long enough to know the game. She was as verified as we were by enough people with verifications so it all seemed legitimate. Everything all checked out in full.
Normally we would only meet socially first but she insisted on no socials or clubs and was more than comfortable hosting!
Would totally accept any excuse, cold feet, ill, somethings happened etc, but imagine if we had actually had turned up!  |
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"fab provides the tools the rest is down to you ... what can fab do ? nothing is the answer can you imagine them trying to fix 1% of the pronlems on here let alone all..
something happened she got cold feet ? something was said that she did not like?? or she was a man or just a prick teaser..
for me the warning sign is there in black n white .. a woman giving her home address out not caring about her own safety ? sorry but thats not the real world i dont know of one single woman who would do this..
she being verified means nothing you only have to be a verified man to set up a fake womans profile and veri it from another computer and bingo a fake womans profile..
we stopped meeting couples and women on here years ago maily to avoid male run couples profiles but also because a massive amount of couples and womens profiles are fake / or couples who've split and the guy has kept it..hence we only meet guys via this platform
the only way for me/us is to be super blunt and to the point thick skinned and very very picky but thankfully been doiung this a very long time and our littke black book serves us well
I wouldn't give out my home address that way either but I do know there are women profiles on here that do. I've had people message me that's what they've been used to. I'm not outwardly accusing anyone of being dangerous but I know what I consider safe and my comfortable boundaries. So to be told I'm over-reacting because xyz was happy with it. Definitely confirms to me it happens (sometimes all you need to see if the veris left to confirm it to be true).
As for OP I'm sorry you've had your time wasted in that way. It isn't pleasant and I'm sure you used all your usual checks before proceeding. I've been ghosted loads on/before agreed socials. I never really understand it as they message me first and invite me out. Who has the time to play these games? Was stood up once and we had been chatting for weeks and weeks. Hard lesson learnt for me. "
Yep very much a lesson learnt. And if it's happened to us, someone else has probably been in the same position. It's more the time invested and wasted despite all the in depth checks we do. Luckily it wasn't a wasted visit to the area but thankfully we looked and didn't just turn up without realising! |
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OP,
Thankfully, you had a lucky escape. I doubt the address was genuine.
"Normally we would only meet socially first but she insisted on no socials or clubs and was more than comfortable hosting!"
I think this is the lesson, you have to wonder at the judgment of someone inviting unknown strangers into their home.
Even as a single male, I wouldn't just turn up to a private address. |
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I got blocked by a woman who I meet on here last week after she said she wanted to see me again. But I'm not bothered as I wasnt feeling her in any way. I was kinda catfished too as she wasnt as attractive in her pictures too compared to in person |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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There are many risks in any first solo meet.
Not the least of which, the person could have been invited to a very unpleasant scam or fraud. I've heard stories where a single guy is "invited" to a meet at a hotel room - some too good to be true type thing, which, despite our natural human tendency for self preservation, gets put aside once that carrot dangles on a long stick.
Guy shows up, girl gets gooey and THEN...
Girl's "boyfriend" shows up, beats the snot out of him, robs him blind and leaves him with the hotel bill.
It's not that unusual.
I empathise with women and couples who only meet at socials. It's not my personal M.O. but I see the appeal.
I always take it with a huge grain of salt that 99% of new guys who message me for a meet don't mean it so I generally stick with old friends and lovers and overbook new meets to allow for this. It's worked pretty well so far.
And yes, the risks for women, especially those inviting you to her place are much bigger.
That's why a first social meet (and many more) is always a good idea. |
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By *rispyDuckMan 48 weeks ago
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Maybe her husband suddenly arrived home unannounced from a business trip  
We will never know for sure! All I know is this is very common, single guys cancel last minute, single ladies cancel last minute & couples cancel last minute. A better meet will come your way  |
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Fab Admin always investigate reports of inappropriate behaviour, when users report it. Even if blocked, you can still report users.
It's peculiar and not on, to have people travelling and to not notify them, if plans change. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Fab Admin always investigate reports of inappropriate behaviour, when users report it. Even if blocked, you can still report users.
It's peculiar and not on, to have people travelling and to not notify them, if plans change. "
I'm glad you posted this.
I'm also curious about the investigation process but I respect that THAT won't be made public, for very obvious reasons. |
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"Fab Admin always investigate reports of inappropriate behaviour, when users report it. Even if blocked, you can still report users.
It's peculiar and not on, to have people travelling and to not notify them, if plans change. "
I am curious if anybody has ever been sanctioned in some way after being reported for not showing or blocking just before like this. I know it's an option when you report somebody but never heard of anybody getting sanctioned for it. You hear of people getting timeouts and bans for all sorts of things but never that. Obviously hard for Admin to judge what happened I know but sometimes there in black and white in messages. |
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"And we always respect that, make it be known multiple times that it's on them to call the shots if they want to meet us. That's how much of a back seat we take because we never want to make anyone uncomfortable. The fact the address was sent and how to access the property was even more weird! "
Have you heard anything from her since? |
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"I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. We've had a few experiences where we've been blocked at the last minute.
We've given up meeting single guys on Fab as a good 70-80% cancel either the day before or last minute.
We've pretty much given up meeting people online due to the timewasters and fantasists. There's an awful lot of people that fantasise about meeting people, but when that becomes a reality and they actually have to go through with it, they get scared and pull out. The amount of effort we've seen people put into arranging a meet only to cancel, block or ghost is extraordinary. They will spend hours chatting, asking questions, building a rapport then vanish when they have to go through with it.
We meet people at parties now. Meeting in real life is so much better than Fab of any other app. "
Our approach to avoiding cancellations and time wasting is to not exchange face pics, minimise sexy chat and arrange a face to face drink, when we’ve arrange to go out together anyway.
Little time is wasted and we were out for a drink anyway so if they don’t turn up then we still have a nice night. |
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I've had about four meets planned with day & time that didn't go ahead, because I didn't get final confirmation on the day.
Among those there was the couple who blocked me (fair enough their choice), I then meet with another couple they know (reading verifications), suddenly I get a message from them with some excuse of "had a nightmare can we do Whats App".
So I replied, really politely, that actually I was blocked when I went to contact them about our meet, and that had left me confused about where I stood with them.
Never heard back, their loss |
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Unfortunately this sort of stuff happens on fab and it’s not just single guys. I met a woman for a social that went really well and we agreed to meet the following week to play at a hotel.
I booked a hotel 10 mins from her place. She messaged me telling me she was enroute and the nothing. No reply to messages or calls.
She was verified and seemed genuine. Put it down to experience, move on because there are great people to meet on fab |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. We've had a few experiences where we've been blocked at the last minute.
We've given up meeting single guys on Fab as a good 70-80% cancel either the day before or last minute.
We've pretty much given up meeting people online due to the timewasters and fantasists. There's an awful lot of people that fantasise about meeting people, but when that becomes a reality and they actually have to go through with it, they get scared and pull out. The amount of effort we've seen people put into arranging a meet only to cancel, block or ghost is extraordinary. They will spend hours chatting, asking questions, building a rapport then vanish when they have to go through with it.
We meet people at parties now. Meeting in real life is so much better than Fab of any other app.
Our approach to avoiding cancellations and time wasting is to not exchange face pics, minimise sexy chat and arrange a face to face drink, when we’ve arrange to go out together anyway.
Little time is wasted and we were out for a drink anyway so if they don’t turn up then we still have a nice night. "
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By *eyeYCouple 48 weeks ago
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We have experienced similar from a couple.. They instigated the chat, were well verified, arranged a bar to meet at, etc over the week..
D rearranged the work he had, raced home after finishing what he couldn't put off, I had my hair and nails done and then radio silence when we tried to confirm after lunch on the day.. Very frustrating! Apparently he "got called into work" by the unapologetic message at 11pm, feasible, but fuck off! We went to a club instead.. 
Some are just entitled idiots, who feel they have the right to treat others this way..
D, whilst single, has previously received abuse from some ladies and couples, when he declined their 'proposition' because he didn't find them attractive..
We now don't pursue anything online because of this sort of behavior |
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The address you was given might not have been hers.
I was sent to an house to meet a guy and an old lady answered.
After having been sent to a wrong address once before i go prepared .
I just asked for mr Brook and i had come to quote for some work.
She told me she lived alone and i must have got the wrong address.
I suspect who sent me must have lived near watching because they had description of the house ,The make, model and colour of the car on the drive was correct.
Though mine ended up not being a wasted journey the lady wanted some work done on her house.
When i checked later the guy had deleted his fab profile. |
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"The address you was given might not have been hers.
I was sent to an house to meet a guy and an old lady answered.
After having been sent to a wrong address once before i go prepared .
I just asked for mr Brook and i had come to quote for some work.
She told me she lived alone and i must have got the wrong address.
I suspect who sent me must have lived near watching because they had description of the house ,The make, model and colour of the car on the drive was correct.
Though mine ended up not being a wasted journey the lady wanted some work done on her house.
When i checked later the guy had deleted his fab profile. "
It was good of you to have a back up story of why you were there. No point worrying the old lady.
Some people are shit. Hope you find someone nice in the future. |
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"The address you was given might not have been hers.
I was sent to an house to meet a guy and an old lady answered.
After having been sent to a wrong address once before i go prepared .
I just asked for mr Brook and i had come to quote for some work.
She told me she lived alone and i must have got the wrong address.
I suspect who sent me must have lived near watching because they had description of the house ,The make, model and colour of the car on the drive was correct.
Though mine ended up not being a wasted journey the lady wanted some work done on her house.
When i checked later the guy had deleted his fab profile. "
That's awful.
Good quick thinking though not to alarm her. How cruel for someone to do that to the lair of you. |
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By *DW1983Man 48 weeks ago
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The last few posts say what I was thinking too when I started reading the thread. It wouldn't surprise me to hear that people would arrange a meet and give out an address of someone they wanted to prank or annoy by sending random strangers to their door. A "great" way to score points anonymously in a neighbourly dispute... |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Some people get cold feet, some people string you along. They block you or you block them. Just pay it no mind and move on. At least you avoided what would have been an awkward experience. |
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that!
We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine!
So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this!
So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked!
So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked!
Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! "
We've had false addresses and a couple who cancelled 30 minutes prior to a meet then admitted they were using us as 'backup' just incase the other couple didn't appear !. Cherry was fuming as took ages getting ready, instant block of course. |
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This has never happened to us, but only because we arrange to meet at Clubs only. We have been stood up at Clubs, but we have always got each other to play with or the chance of meeting someone new.
I can see that organised socials are worth doing and maybe even a social before a meet. But no way are we inviting anyone to our home or even meeting someone at there’s unless we have already met.
I don’t think we are paranoid, just don’t want to be messed around. If we’ve decided we want to have a ‘sexy’ night, we don’t want to feel let down - Clubs are the way forward |
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I think most of us have such stories always leaves you feeling a bit silly
mine was to believe i was meeting a couple in Morden i had to go to streetlight and would then be told address of which house
lots of emails asking if i was coming - account deleted as i walked to the arranged spot.
What can you do - just another funny fab adventure!! |
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It boggles the mind. I had to cancel a meet the other day but it was on the morning of the meet, which was itself due in the evening (I was kicked in the balls so didn't want to risk not being able to perform but did offer everything else!)
I felt so bad, I was super apologetic etc. How people do it so willingly is beyond me. |
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Happened to friends of mine.
A couple.
They invited a guy around to theirs .
All seemed fine.
He let his mates in and they got tied up and ro bbed.
Stopped them playing after that and in the stress they split up.
It's best to go with your gut feeling that you had and be safe.
Always that chance they're not genuine people. |
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"So they were relying on the fact that you would check their profile and see that they had blocked you?
Was she planning on just ignoring you had you turned up and knocked on the door?
Very odd behavior. It's not like typing out "Sorry, changed my mind" is a difficult thing to do."
I've turned up at an address and knocked ... not the people that I was expecting to meet there!
Some very odd and disturbing people around.
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People get blocked all the time on here. And the only reason I can think of is nerves who doesn’t get nervous why block why not just say oh I am really nervous can we take it slow etc and I am sure everybody on here is willing to do that as we all know once your there and you start to chat it’s going to happen so don’t block communication is key just say |
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As a single woman my safety is one of the most important things for me. I’d never have anyone to my home, or go to someone else’s home unless I knew them incredibly well.
This is why I stick with club events. X |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"So they were relying on the fact that you would check their profile and see that they had blocked you?
Was she planning on just ignoring you had you turned up and knocked on the door?
Very odd behavior. It's not like typing out "Sorry, changed my mind" is a difficult thing to do."
Also the fact that it could be someone elses address that they have a beef with? |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Consider yourselves lucky to only have one meet cancelled on you.
We have a trail of time wasters, at a social event one woman told the room she was an orphan, a week later told us she couldn't come to an arranged meet coz her brother died. 
We have been dropped, then the people dropping us post a veri for someone else on the night.
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Far too common. Probably some dude in his pants. It probably wasn't even their actual address.
I just meet at clubs now, find it's safer, less pressure to play if you don't fancy each other in real life, other people there if the have to cancel.
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Happens all the time. One common red flag is that they give you the postcode but tell you they’ll give you the address on the day. Then they ghost you. In my more naive days I had one where I was waiting at a postcode at the allotted time, in Altrincham, guy was over 20 minutes late, then finally messaged me to say “I’m just leaving Liverpool now”.
I always verify house addresses on Street View. I had one where the guy had given me his address and it street viewed as a garage. When I messaged him about it, he said he was going to shut up shop for half an hour and do me in the office or on one of the cars! |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that!
We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine!
So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this!
So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked!
So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked!
Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! "
Your grown adults FFS!
Fab can't hold your hand for you
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Hi op
That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve "
Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well |
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By *ucka39Man 45 weeks ago
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"Hi op
That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve
Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well "
Nope you misunderstood if one doesn't turn up have a backup plan |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Well, quite a few things! Who knows who is gonna be behind that door?
Like from our perspective, we'd never ever give our address out freely. We'd have to have been 110% convinced both parties are committed to meeting you know? "
Sorry this happened to you. I’ve also had similar happen to me many years back. Someone invited me to their hotel. When I arrived at the room it was totally empty (the whole floor of the hotel was empty and every room had the doors wide open, as if being renovated).
When I went to message the person, they had blocked me.
Such weird and bizarre behaviour. So now I very rarely meet anyone without them providing proof that they’re in the location they say. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Consider yourselves lucky to only have one meet cancelled on you.
We have a trail of time wasters, at a social event one woman told the room she was an orphan, a week later told us she couldn't come to an arranged meet coz her brother died.
We have been dropped, then the people dropping us post a veri for someone else on the night.
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You know you can be an orphan and have a brother, right? |
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"Hi op
That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve
Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well "
There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Hi op
That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve
Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well
There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated. "
Oh wow I'd be honored if I was second on a list |
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We prefer to meet people in clubs but did arrange to meet a couple on holiday in Morocco who would be arriving a half way through our holiday and staying in the same hotel. We’d been chatting for a few weeks before hand and up to the morning of their arrival ..then ghosted. How some people get there kicks hey  |
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I had a meet cancel on me as I arrived on the street. 10 min before though asking if I was still coming.
I know people have the right to change their mind but does get a little annoying when it happens |
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"We don't feel fab admin take this behaviour seriously, especially since changing hands a year or so prior to covid."
All reports to Admin are investigated. Sometimes there's little information that they have to go on other than hearsay of what the reported user has allegedly said and agreed to, if arrangements were made off-site. But a picture can emerge if enough of us report the same types of messing others around.
If more of us confirm meet details on Fab, getting them to agree at least there's something more tangible than something that may never have happened. It could be a good thing if fab introduced each user accepting meet details requested, with assumptions that users also cancel via fab, with automatic notifications.
I encourage everyone to always report, as this will help to improve site standards for everyone. |
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"Hi op
That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve
Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well
There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated.
Oh wow I'd be honored if I was second on a list"
It’s not that someone else is preferable to you, it’s simply that they arranged first, and I don’t just dump people if something more interesting comes along. Take your ticket and wait for your number to be called like a good boy. |
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By * and BCouple 45 weeks ago
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"But that is terrible behaviour either way! I mean most people would quite happily take an excuse, at least you definitively know you've been cancelled on. But to be blocked is very cowardly and disrespectful if you know you did nothing wrong!"
How do you know it's cowardly as it's the internet and also FAB, trolls and folk getting off on terrible behaviour, the only reason some people are on here. They then read a forum post and feel great. Us respectful people are disgusted at that kind of behaviour but we put ourselves onto the internet so we have to take everything it throws at us. Some things are great and some boil our piss. We have just been chatting with a single guy who's profile stood out as really good, we arranged to have a social but not a time or a place as he wasn't going to get time till after new year. We went to message 2nd January and he's gone. Few years ago we arranged to meet a couple in Stoke, had address and time. We were just about to leave Derby to head over and like you OP we checked on fab to tell them we are on our way, again they had left fab just before we were due to meet. Fab is getting worse with this kind of thing which is why 99.9% we just meet people in a club. We have a great night out and if folk turn up and we click it's a bonus  |
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It's happened to me twice in recent months. A guy blocked me as we were in the process of setting up a drink. Another deleted his whole account hours before we were supposed to meet because I wouldn't commit to giving him a hug. Unfortunately it's probably best to assume a meet isn't happening until you're actually on the meet with them. |
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Blocks happen for a variety of reasons , which is part of the course , though however moments before a meet, that’s not nice . In respects to home visits , we do these after we have meet others at clubs , you know the people then ., oh , if you have a hot tub and local to Sutton, let us know ,, |
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