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How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated |
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By *ossannCouple 49 weeks ago
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I am polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated"
I think you have to accept that the risk is going to be elevated because you can't have as much prechat as you can when you meet people through apps.
I mean, you could probably ask, but when you have some prechat with someone through apps, you can weigh up how truthful they sound through other conversation. You're more likely to know when someone is more likely to be lying.
I'll use condoms for vaginal sex and actually, I think my partner and I may also use condoms in the club because it is easier to police and he might notice the difference in sensation too much if he doesn't use them with me too, in the moment.
My goal is early diagnosis, so regulsr testing is how I'll protect my sexual health I'm regard to the increased risk at clubs. |
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You will typically have adults at a swinging club, as well as on the scene, to use their own judgement and call, upon the type of sex they will have with others.
STI testing penetration is higher amongst swingers than overall. Test results aren't going to be universally available, nor fully reflective of today's sexual health status.
Consent is always overt, so discuss your expectations then |
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I've been swinging for 29 years.. almost exclusively at clubs for over 20 of those... often multiple partners.
I've never ever caught anything.. I'm mindful of my own sexual health.
I won't allow toys to be used on me unless a fresh condom is on it. I watch for guys swapping from woman to woman with fingers etc...
I use condoms for sex with no exceptions at clubs... but not for oral
I rarely take any cum in my mouth. And I am regular tested. When I was doing gb weekly I was actually tested every 2 weeks. I am on prep now as well but see that as an added layer of protection.
I stopped doing private parties except one close friends as I'd found that those were the events that most bare play seemed to be expected.
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but doesn't cover all areas and you have to demand a throat swab.. ans as a woman I like at least every 3rd check to be a visual one x |
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Welcome to swinging...
The way I (and I guess we) approach sexual health is focussing on protecting myself and working out my comfort levels.
I've never been to a club that asks for test results - not sure they exist but maybe?!?
We play bare with each other at homes and in clubs. So it's possible to see bare sex in a club. But with others it's always with a condom, besides for oral. I know some choose to protect for oral as well though.
Tbh... I don't ask if ppl have had an STI screening. I've also never been asked in a club.
Hope you enjoy and have fun
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated"
Your health, is your health. YOU are your No.1 priority, so only ever do what YOU feel comfortable with, with anyone.
NOBODY who routinely practices safe sex 'forgets' condoms when going on a private meet, or to a swinger club, so I would avoid those who have. Just keep your wits about you out there   |
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated
Your health, is your health. YOU are your No.1 priority, so only ever do what YOU feel comfortable with, with anyone.
NOBODY who routinely practices safe sex 'forgets' condoms when going on a private meet, or to a swinger club, so I would avoid those who have. Just keep your wits about you out there "
^^^ definitely this, very well said ^^^
I’ve no statistical or evidence base to support my statements, a view based purely on twenty plus years of swinging!
I’ve never caught an STI and as far as I know, nobody I’ve played with had an STI; that said and as others have said, your sexual health is yours alone to protect.
Swingers tend to have much higher levels of STI screening than the general public, they tend to be more responsible sexually and definitely more respectful of those around us
That said, you’re always going to have chancers and I wouldn’t discount couples either; my experience tells me that some are as untrustworthy as single guys and (to a much lesser extent) single girls.
Trust your own judgment OP.  |
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated
Your health, is your health. YOU are your No.1 priority, so only ever do what YOU feel comfortable with, with anyone.
NOBODY who routinely practices safe sex 'forgets' condoms when going on a private meet, or to a swinger club, so I would avoid those who have. Just keep your wits about you out there "
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By *elkieWoman 49 weeks ago
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated
Your health, is your health. YOU are your No.1 priority, so only ever do what YOU feel comfortable with, with anyone.
NOBODY who routinely practices safe sex 'forgets' condoms when going on a private meet, or to a swinger club, so I would avoid those who have. Just keep your wits about you out there "
I mean, I did  I’m generally soft swing only but always have condoms in my bag just in case. The one time I needed them, there wasn’t a single non-latex condom in the club, let alone my bag. I’m so glad the shops were open
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"How do you ensure sexual health at a club?
Does the club ask for recent test results, or just use barrier protection (ie condoms etc) all the time?
(I've seen reviews of my local club where people have said about not using condoms, so I'm a little unsure)
Also same, with hookups?
Previously I was generally, I'm ok with unprotected oral, if the person has tested clear and I trust them to have tested/ had safe sex, and would only move on to non-barrier protection after a longer term dynamic is established.
I'm less sure in swinging circles, given the higher than average sexual contact that is likely between people here, Vs my kink and polyam scenes
I'm polyamorous so am familiar with regular testing and use of barriers, but entering swinging feels very different
Completely new to this, and still learning, so advice is greatly appreciated"
No sex is safe sex even condoms are used but you can minimise the risks. I Play safe, gets regularly tested at least every 3 months. My health is my responsibility and I don’t expect anything from no one. Unfortunately in this lifestyle you don’t know who you are meeting at clubs and what they been up to or if they ever been tested. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"If anyone asked me for recent STI test results I wouldn't meet them.
Why?"
Because they are incredibly stupid to think anyone would tell the truth. Also they'd be likely to want bareback and virtue signalling about how "safe" they were. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"If anyone asked me for recent STI test results I wouldn't meet them.
I wouldn't meet anyone who wouldn't have a conversation about sti testing "
I just got tested. All clear. |
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"If anyone asked me for recent STI test results I wouldn't meet them. "
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who wouldn't have a conversation about sti testing "
Same
I want my encounters consensual
Which means *informed* choice.
Whether to go without a condom isn't just based on the sti testing results either
Tbh, use of language like
"virtue signalling"
is a red flag to me anyway, so I'll let you be, away from me  |
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As a general rule, I consider condoms to only be effective against HIV, although not technically accurate, most other STIs, you can catch either through skin to skin contact or through oral in one way or another.
I suspect the testing rate of club goers vs is higher than the average fab community so in theory you're safer in a club.
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"Because they are incredibly stupid to think anyone would tell the truth."
Well the place we use gives you a link that you can use to anonymously share your results with someone else. Not 100% secure, but in practice pretty close.
If someone wanted to see that it wouldn't greatly change our calculations of whether to meet them either way. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Because they are incredibly stupid to think anyone would tell the truth.
Well the place we use gives you a link that you can use to anonymously share your results with someone else. Not 100% secure, but in practice pretty close.
If someone wanted to see that it wouldn't greatly change our calculations of whether to meet them either way."
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