Hello OP
Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet.
Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a ripped gym bunny or a chubby guy, that's not you, so don't waste your time or theirs.
Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about.
Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further, they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Take out the line about single males, it's negative and people don't want to see negativity. You have already set your preferences so update the email filter and they won't be able to contact you. On the same note, you might want to reconsider stating you've recently broken up from a long term relationship. It might be the honest truth but people don't generally want to be a rebound shag. On the same note, it's a bit pointless to say that if people want to see your face pic they should message you when your face pic is on your profile to see, so you might want to reconsider that aspect.
Expand your profile by adding some more about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to ensure you make the best possible first impression.
Put on some pics with more variety, some of the present ones are virtually identical. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, and anything in between is great. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice.
However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves.
Then get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. Noting that you don't want to dive into a club environment straight away you could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? It's probably not the best time of the year, but once the spring comes around there are likely to be a few more socials. If you search for Northampton in the forum you will see that there is one there in Feb 24.
Whatever else you do, do not get despondent. It's hard for single guys on here, but not impossible.
Good luck  |
