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So what to do when you find out your date was sex worker

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

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By *ity_BoyMan over a year ago

London

Why is it something they need to declare on a date?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All depends on whether they expected me to pay at the end of the date.

I might be a bit hacked off then!

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"All depends on whether they expected me to pay at the end of the date.

I might be a bit hacked off then!"

Not yet but seems like it will be the case if I go on second date lol

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Would it make any difference if she/he was a bank robber or a criminal master mind in their past life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think what she's does/did for a living should influence if you date someone.

And it's just that, dating. If she was gonna charge, she'd charge for the first date too and upfront

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All depends on whether they expected me to pay at the end of the date.

I might be a bit hacked off then!

Not yet but seems like it will be the case if I go on second date lol"

Ah ok.

In that case it becomes a bit more like a business transaction.

But I agree they should have been more upfront about it.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Was or is?

If as you say you think she might ask you to pay, you're not dating.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"All depends on whether they expected me to pay at the end of the date.

I might be a bit hacked off then!

Not yet but seems like it will be the case if I go on second date lol"

Has she strongly implied that or is that you assuming? Especially is she WAS a sex worker rather than one now.

Many years ago I went on dates in Japan with an ex-porn star and lady who offered massages with happy endings. Neither wanted any money - if was just casual dating. You might be letting your mind run away with things.

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By *ichaelsmyMan over a year ago

douglas

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

the obvious question to be asked, is how do you know about it if she hasnt said anything to you.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

the obvious question to be asked, is how do you know about it if she hasnt said anything to you."

I think he meant that he would have like to have know BEFORE the date. Guessing he found out on the date.

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By *ayd100Man over a year ago

clitheroe

So what

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By *irexMan over a year ago

Hertford

I’ve only met sex workers though work (it’s amazing how many people you meet as a firefighter working in the west end) and just see them as people doing a job who were always friendly and normal people going about their business. You’re right, never judge.

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

Sex workers are people too, so it’s not unreasonable that they want to date. Their career doesn’t preclude them from that.

If you don’t want to date sex workers it’s probably best that you ask what people do for a living before you arrange a date. That way no one is disappointed.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

Do you expect dates to declare that they were a plumber or a nurse in the past? What difference would it make to your dating experience? Without more explanation, respectfully, I think you are judging. Whatever people did or were in the past should not have any impact in the quality of the time you have with that person.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

"All depends on whether they expected me to pay at the end of the date.

I might be a bit hacked off then!

Not yet but seems like it will be the case if I go on second date lol"

Make up your mind please. Are they a sex worker now or not any more? Us this person charging you for sex? Or you think you will or might be charged on second date? And if they say yes, it's your choice. You had a date, you enjoyed, you did not pay. All happy.

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"Sex workers are people too, so it’s not unreasonable that they want to date. Their career doesn’t preclude them from that.

If you don’t want to date sex workers it’s probably best that you ask what people do for a living before you arrange a date. That way no one is disappointed. "

I do ask people what they do and also open and upfront about me including me being a swinger

I don’t have a problem with people doing sex work .but I don’t want to go on a date where they are only doing it for financial gain

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?"

I did and off course I I will not pay and leave the date.i have not had sex yet but suspect if do money will get involved one way or another and after posting this I just deleted the number lol end of issue .but do feel people should be upfront

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By *arahfromwarringtonTV/TS over a year ago

warrington

Get an STD test.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Sex work is work, sex work is not illegal if you’re against it then that’s your problem. They do not have to disclose anything on a first date that they don’t want to.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

Isn't this judging ?

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

It sounds like a miscommunication, you believe you are on a date, she thinks you are a client.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

If the woman in question is looking to be paid for sex, then yes, she should be up-front about it. Letting someone know on your first face to face meeting that it will only go further if money is involved is not acceptable.

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

Is the date just a meet for sex, or with intention for something longer term.

If the former then no, if the latter then yes i would want to know by at least the third date.

i am as honest as i can be with women i meet and expect the samez if i found this out on say date 10, after months of chatting and meeting i would likely feel they had witheld the information for negative reasons.

For everyone saying people history doesn't matter at all, for some people it does. liek everyothing else, we all have our own preferences and expectations.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Is the date just a meet for sex, or with intention for something longer term.

If the former then no, if the latter then yes i would want to know by at least the third date.

For everyone saying people history doesn't matter at all, for some people it does. liek everyothing else, we all have our own preferences and expectations."

I agree. I'd have reservations about dating a sex worker but there are other occupations I feel that way about too for many reasons.

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By *orny-DJMan over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Was your 'date' arranged through fab?

If so, you should report their profile as they would be in breach of site rules

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is the date just a meet for sex, or with intention for something longer term.

If the former then no, if the latter then yes i would want to know by at least the third date.

For everyone saying people history doesn't matter at all, for some people it does. liek everyothing else, we all have our own preferences and expectations.

I agree. I'd have reservations about dating a sex worker but there are other occupations I feel that way about too for many reasons. "

Like Traffic Wardens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was your 'date' arranged through fab?

If so, you should report their profile as they would be in breach of site rules"

Ah c’mon!!! Long as it wasn’t mentioned in conversation here then that is super harsh!!!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think what someone does for a living is very personal and private. Nobody has any right to know such intrusive personal information. It's a legitimate profession and entirely above board. Plus divulging very intimate details isn't potentially safe for some people

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Was your 'date' arranged through fab?

If so, you should report their profile as they would be in breach of site rules"

They haven't asked for money so they've done nothing wrong. Sex workers can use fab the same rules apply to them as everyone else, no soliciting or asking for expenses or gifts.

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"I think what someone does for a living is very personal and private. Nobody has any right to know such intrusive personal information. It's a legitimate profession and entirely above board. Plus divulging very intimate details isn't potentially safe for some people "

Strange then, when one of the first questions any woman has ever asked when on a date is......

thats right...

you can smell it comming.....

What do you do for a living?

Ig i said thats a very personal piece of information, it is highly unlikely date two would occur.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

We never ask people we meet from fab what they do for a living although plenty have asked us. In ordinary dating I'd say it's one of the questions that show you're interested in getting to know someone.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Don't think I'd ever describe any meeting off Fab as a "date" although perhaps others do. I had assumed it was not via here.

As an aside I was once close with somebody I met off here. Well we met off here and met maybe 10 times over a year or so and chatted a lot. Then she effectively became a sex worker in the broad sense (arrangements with men) and said she would see me again but I'd have to pay. That was quite a shock after all that time

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"It sounds like a miscommunication, you believe you are on a date, she thinks you are a client. "

Lol it’s turned out that way luckily I got away with buying couple drinks dropping her home and blocking the number.i have no problem with their work I would have even dated regardless but thing I cannot bear lying for no reason but it’s done and dusted

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Get an STD test."
why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"It sounds like a miscommunication, you believe you are on a date, she thinks you are a client.

I'm confused. So from where did you make contact? Did she actually ask for money? How did she lie? Did you ask her if she was a sex worker and she said no? Did she tell you beforehand she did something else? We are missing some information here

All done and dusted but not sure how we can comment on your thread without the key information

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it something they need to declare on a date?"

The past is nothing to do with a new relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x"

Sex workers world be tested more often and less likely to risk bare

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x"

Unless std is airborne I am Safe lol

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

If the date is currently working as a sex worker, even if she is romantically and not financially involved with the OP, I feel he has a right to know before.

If she is looking for customers, it's definitely something that should be mentioned

If she was a sex-worker, but has now got a new career, it's none of OPs business

I've had fab meets with sex workers, in a non-professional setting. Lovely women, generally.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

Sex workers world be tested more often and less likely to risk bare"
that's what I was thinking x

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?"

If I give full disclosure including swinging it will be nice if some one said I am seeing clients and will see you the 2 hours I am free and not treat me like an idiot .I have no problem with their work but don’t like to be treated like a fool.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Do you honestly think that would happen though?

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By *TG3Man over a year ago

Dorchester

Rejoice in the fact you got it for nothing

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You haven't explained fully what happened... You said she lied? How?

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?

You've decided to delete her number because you "suspect" money will be involved. Maybe she just wants to date?

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I don't think what she's does/did for a living should influence if you date someone.

And it's just that, dating. If she was gonna charge, she'd charge for the first date too and upfront "

I think it does make a difference depending on what you want from the date.

There are a lot of sex workers IF TicTockers on here who use this site to get business.

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By *a1970Man over a year ago

East cork

I can't see the problem.... I think your over thinking a wee problem......

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple over a year ago

Somerset

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

Sex workers world be tested more often and less likely to risk bare"
According to a study reported in the BMJ, female sex workers have a higher incidence of certain STIs than similar aged women in the general population. In female street sex workers, the incidence of STIs was 9-60 times higher.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

Did she actually ask for money? I think the chances of SWers trying to fool people into using their services through dates is quite rare

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

Sex workers world be tested more often and less likely to risk bareAccording to a study reported in the BMJ, female sex workers have a higher incidence of certain STIs than similar aged women in the general population. In female street sex workers, the incidence of STIs was 9-60 times higher. "
Street workers not sex workers

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?

You've decided to delete her number because you "suspect" money will be involved. Maybe she just wants to date?"

I think 80 pounds worth of drinks where i only had 1 pint and then putting makeup in my car after to see a supposed friend in a hotel bar was a good enough indications lol

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

Sex workers world be tested more often and less likely to risk bare"

Hmmm. Not sure this is 100% accurate as money talks.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends what she charges can be cheaper than an expensive dinner date...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

No. You should ask everything you want to know before fucking someone

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well."

I would say sex workers eiukd not go on s normal date. They see evey date as a possible trick. They would always be manipulating you one way or another. Or if you dated them they wouldn't have sex with you but expect to have everything paid fir them. They are in a very cynical business and it takes a certain mindset.

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By *Spicey4MeMan over a year ago

Leeds

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

I think that's a pretty harsh and generic statement. Sex workers are people too. I think as long as you have a open and honest relationship just like any other it can work.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

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..I can tell you all the girls an guys I know that work in this industry aren't like that

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By *randMrsMaybeCouple over a year ago

hyde

What wild assumptions made by some on here... thankfully the minority.

There's a HUGE spectrum of 'sex workers' out there too.... from someone selling feet pics to cam girls to girlfriend experiences and adds extras. Would you make the same judgements about them all? And also say they're 'all looking for their next trick'?

If I dated any kind of sex worker I would want to know enough that I was comfy, safe and my boundaries respected and same applies to them.

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By *ohnny3333Man over a year ago

fleetwood

My gf disclosed to me she used to be a sex worker before we met not really bothered me

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By *eltic connectionCouple over a year ago

Manningtree

Long before we met I went out with a very pretty Australian girl. Second date she told me she had a couple of regular clients who she met for sex, she wanted me to know as she hoped we could become something more than friends, she had a young daughter and I assumed it was extra money to bring her up as the dad had gone back to Australia. I accepted it and was touched by her honesty. Date three I found out she was using the money for drugs, dumped her there and then!

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

I think that’s a bit of a reach

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

That’s absolute horse shit buddy

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?"

I hope not because it would be a long conversation, I've got a low boredom threshold and have had a lot of jobs!

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

That's on the sreet so they were probably crack whores

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"I would say sex workers eiukd not go on s normal date. They see evey date as a possible trick. They would always be manipulating you one way or another. Or if you dated them they wouldn't have sex with you but expect to have everything paid fir them. They are in a very cynical business and it takes a certain mindset.

Absolute tosh built on nothing but presumption. I think you'll find that it is you being cynical.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple over a year ago

Staffordshire

well 2 things you can do. Decide She wasn't your cup of tea or ask her out for another date if she is

Pretty simple really.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

Sound like the question should be more what do you do if your date wants paying?

Her pervious or current occupation isn't really the issue in my book on its own. We all have to make a crust, some people actually enjoy what they do and adult work shouldn't make you undateble and doesn't make you an untrustworthy person.

It's more is it a real date or a snide business opportunity. I guessing your concern regarding her looking to charge is more to do with a vibe or what she's said rather than just the knowledge of her adult work? If she is buttering you up for trade its a total no from the dating point of veiw, obviously. If you're open to her services that's up to you but better establish that sooner than later. However I'd argue would you want to even enter an exchange of services for money with someone who goes about their business in such a deceitful manner? Anyway that's probably hypothetical because from what you've said sounds like you want a date not a business transaction.

If you're unsure of the situation but think there's potential go on a second date and feel it out some more. Do you pay for every thing? Does she pay for anything or at least offers to pay? Because I would generally see someone who was seeing you as a potential client wouldn't be looking to split the bill or buy a fair share of the drinks.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

Well I have not read the whole thread but personally I'd find it interesting and probably have very many questions most inappropriate.

I would think that most sex worker's have some very interesting stories to tell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently in a 2 year on off (last few months have been on off) with a former sex worker and still works doing cam(minimal x rated, was very good at talking and luring losers to pay mad money for nothing).

Not easy at the time, as when we met presumed it would just be a one odd thing and she was extremely open, but chose to accept it as we got more serious and then in a relationship. She stopped her physical part of the trade meeting wise (to my knowledge haha), but it made me have this doubt whenever she was on webcam per se. Was fun making content with her etc, but I wouldn’t date a sex worker again, I’m too jealous truthfully. But if you don’t mind that, go for it, just the key must be transparency. Talking with my own experience.

A percentage of women for various reasons didn’t have the most easy upbringing, which is a whole different spanner to throw in the works. So faithful or not they will never be satisfied, will cause various issues and truthfully very rarely find happiness long term.

Open to reasonable replies, however don’t pipe up needlessly attacking, I’m speaking on my own experiences.

In a nutshell, do what makes you happy, and stop getting obsessed with this site. Many people are so fixated on here and I’d say that’s more of a topic starter.

Peace

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple over a year ago

Somerset

"Get an STD test. why would he need to do that... he didn't have sex and even if he had. Why would he need to jaut because she was a sex worker x

That's on the sreet so they were probably crack whores"
The paper didn’t use such terms. The 9-60 times higher was for street sex workers but more generally also found a higher incidence of STIs than the general population of all sex workers when comparing them amongst women that visited sexual health clinics. I was responding to an evidence free assertion with some data because I was interested to know whether that assertion was correct.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What happened OP? You went on a date with someone who is a sex worker and she tried to charge you after the date, or said she would charge you for the next one?

This does not sound like normal sex work protocol, it sounds like some kind of scam. Normally all charges are agreed before anything happens, not after the fact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

Any "Not judging but..." always ends with a judgement doesn't it?

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By *oandjohnCouple over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

It is in her past…. Is she not allowed to move on.

You’re going on a date to find out about each other and if you get a long.

You might find that she is more honest than most and she probably didn’t want you to prejudge her.

Have you declared that you are a swinger?

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"Any "Not judging but..." always ends with a judgement doesn't it?"

Yes, but to be fair, so does every sentence that doesn't start with those words. The whole point of a forum is to discuss opinions, and every opinion is based on a judgement.

Otherwise we would have every post being "I don't know"!

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By *wistedTooCouple over a year ago

Frimley

Sounds like she dodged a bullet by having you block her number to me. She would have ended up with a pre-emptively judgemental person who can’t see outside the small mind he has. Paranoid isn’t the word. lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a relationship went past a few dates and started developing it would certainly make sense to declare it. However certainly not on a first date.

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

If they're on the clock and are taking you for a punter then yes, it needs to be made clear up front.

If they have an only fans page as a sideline then no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

No, it’s a private matter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sounds like she dodged a bullet by having you block her number to me. She would have ended up with a pre-emptively judgemental person who can’t see outside the small mind he has. Paranoid isn’t the word. lol."

This

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

This

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By *heekyDemandCouple over a year ago

Leicester

Tense is everything here.

Was, not is.

Was a sex worker, everyone has a past and even if they still are if she is engaging in a consensual relationship with you, not for money, either you will get over it or you won't.

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By *ashMan over a year ago

Westhoughton

Doesn't matter on a date or being friends..

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By *oll_Face_xxWoman over a year ago

Dollywood

"It is in her past…. Is she not allowed to move on.

You’re going on a date to find out about each other and if you get a long.

You might find that she is more honest than most and she probably didn’t want you to prejudge her.

Have you declared that you are a swinger?"

Exactly a great point to make what you said.

To the OP you're into Swinging so why if someone who is/was a sex worker being Judged? Or a concern..geniune question.

Everyone has a back story and we are all individuals.

Curious do you attend swing clubs ? Meet people off here ? You issues with club owners or hosts in clubs ? As all sex related doesn't mean we are bad people

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple over a year ago

Darlington

We need context OP.

Sex worker as in assuming you are paying them for the date without telling you is a dick move.

Sex worker as in they are part of the trade but sees you as a potential partner and likes you then I really wouldn't mind. Sex work is work, just a really fun kind of work if done right

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"We need context OP."

Well if you read what the OP actually said, then he never criticises her for being a sex worker.

What he criticises her for is making it appear initially this was a romantic date, and then making it clear to him that if it was going to go any further he would have to pay.

I don't see how anyone can condone that.

Now you may think that he's picked up the wrong end of the stick, and even I wonder if she was just being exploitative, but frankly that's not the point, because none of us will ever know what really happened.

I think if someone asks a question in "Swinging Advice", we should try and answer the actual question, and do less of the attacking the OP for things they didn't say.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

Oh, and I think people are getting confused by the "was". It's clear from the rest of what he said he means that she was a sex worker at the time of the date he had with her.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

Before replying to posts that have had a lot of answers anyway, it's helpful to read what others have said before and any clarifications from the OPs. Some of the replies here clearly have ignored what the OP has added and responded later on and have been even more judgemental than what the OP question appeared to be initially, at face value.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think what she's does/did for a living should influence if you date someone "

Yea I'm not gonna have a partner that will put it out for cash. I don't care that people say that being a sex worker is just another job. It comes with very real emotional and physical risks. The vast majority of sex workers already have issues, mental, drug or otherwise. Those that think different believe the glam images on film n tv are the norm.

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Before replying to posts that have had a lot of answers anyway, it's helpful to read what others have said before and any clarifications from the OPs. Some of the replies here clearly have ignored what the OP has added and responded later on and have been even more judgemental than what the OP question appeared to be initially, at face value. "

I’m not surprised that Op is at it again. From complain about how loose some women Vagina are to calling everyone on fab stupid to complaining no one played with him at club when he payed lots of money for entrance. Just to mention few. You can call it a curse of green arrow or check posts below

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1478694

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1159049

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/1415287#message_35986744

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By *heekyDemandCouple over a year ago

Leicester

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1478694

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1159049

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/1415287#message_35986744

Ah, the great filter again

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1478694

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1159049

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/1415287#message_35986744

Taking good note

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?

You've decided to delete her number because you "suspect" money will be involved. Maybe she just wants to date?

I think 80 pounds worth of drinks where i only had 1 pint and then putting makeup in my car after to see a supposed friend in a hotel bar was a good enough indications lol

80 pounds of drinks? In weight?

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1478694

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1159049

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/1415287#message_35986744

I do stand by what ever said before .I didn’t complain about the vagaina but stated the fact.also like everyone else I have every right to rate a night in a club where I stated a fact again that they did not limit and number as usual some one said I was complaining that I did not get to play and club is like a scared cow that no one say any thing .money thing I cannot bothered to answer that one .if some one call me names I will not stay quite even and happy to deal with key board warriors lol .My face picture are not hidden so not hiding behind any thing and green arrow lol

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By *rlandoMan over a year ago

Lincolnshire

doesn t really matter , as long as you like them

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"We need context OP.

Well if you read what the OP actually said, then he never criticises her for being a sex worker.

What he criticises her for is making it appear initially this was a romantic date, and then making it clear to him that if it was going to go any further he would have to pay.

I don't see how anyone can condone that.

I think if someone asks a question in "Swinging Advice", we should try and answer the actual question, and do less of the attacking the OP for things they didn't say."

And that’s a sensible answer instead of personal attack

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple over a year ago

Durham

Consider it a compliment that you got a freebie?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"I don't think what she's does/did for a living should influence if you date someone

"
that's rather judgemental. I know a vast number of sex workers that are business women that happen to love sex. I don't know any that have any issues and a vast amount i see socially at events across the country as they enjoy swinging just the same as anyone else

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By *unner6969Man over a year ago

London

"Why is it something they need to declare on a date?"
. If they’re going to charge you for it, yes.

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By *ex-BombsCouple over a year ago

Flitwick

Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!"

Lie in what way? They tell you how much, have sex with you and that's it. Where's the lie?

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By *udy3Man over a year ago

Corby

I’d give her a five star rating on trip advisor

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By *unlife2000Man over a year ago

Western Bay

Marry them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d give her a five star rating on trip advisor "
fuck I nearly spill3d my beer

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!"
what makes you say that x

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By *ex-BombsCouple over a year ago

Flitwick

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x"

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a gullible man’s money and tell him how fantastic he is in bed to ensure he comes back! Fair play to them though "
its not a gullible man's money, no one is forced to part with their money... have you ever booked a aex worker or got friends who are?

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a

gullible man’s money and tell him how fantastic he is in bed to ensure he comes back! Fair play to them though its not a gullible man's money, no one is forced to part with their money... have you ever booked a aex worker or got friends who are?

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

"
Let's face it some fabbers are also sex workers,any problem with that?

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By *ex-BombsCouple over a year ago

Flitwick

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a gullible man’s money and tell him how fantastic he is in bed to ensure he comes back! Fair play to them though its not a gullible man's money, no one is forced to part with their money... have you ever booked a aex worker or got friends who are?

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

Gullible as in the sex worker is only interested in their money and no never have and never would, very much each to their own

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By *ex-BombsCouple over a year ago

Flitwick

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

Let's face it some fabbers are also sex workers,any problem with that? "

It’s very much each to their own freedom of speech/thought/choice etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a gullible man’s money and tell him how fantastic he is in bed to ensure he comes back! Fair play to them though its not a gullible man's money, no one is forced to part with their money... have you ever booked a aex worker or got friends who are?

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP! what makes you say that x

Do men really think that sex workers enjoy every encounter they have? They are there to take a gullible man’s money and tell him how fantastic he is in bed to ensure he comes back! Fair play to them though its not a gullible man's money, no one is forced to part with their money... have you ever booked a aex worker or got friends who are?

It's more like acting a part... and no not every encounter is great... but you would be surprised how many decent meets can be had..

Gullible as in the sex worker is only interested in their money and no never have and never would, very much each to their own "
that's not entirely true... some will be doing it as they enjoy it. And gullible means you don't know your doing something. I'm sure anyone paying is aware they are paying for a service. Same as If you book a cleaner etc

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By *ity_BoyMan over a year ago

London

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By *ity_BoyMan over a year ago

London

I'm sure whoever pays to spend time with sex workers is under no illusion that they're telling the truth about how they are in bed.

It's transactional sex not therapy

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!"

Sex workers literally have sexually-charged encounters for a living. They're not 'lying' any more than a primary school teacher lies when they tell their kids about Santa. They are playing a previously prescribed role.

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By *annessaTV/TS over a year ago

Denham

I lived in Japan for many years so my answer is slanted towards my experiences there.

Offer to marry her.

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We like to make informed choices about who and how we play with others. Considering whether they are prolific players on the club scene, sex worker, virgin, non-monogamous relationship (with or without consent) or whatever.

We make no judgements, we just prefer to know how the land lies and have honesty with or play friends, as we are with them. I don't think that is too much to ask.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!"

I think you're getting them mixed up with politicians. Maybe because both take your money and then screw you?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"We need context OP.

Well if you read what the OP actually said, then he never criticises her for being a sex worker.

What he criticises her for is making it appear initially this was a romantic date, and then making it clear to him that if it was going to go any further he would have to pay.

I don't see how anyone can condone that.

I think if someone asks a question in "Swinging Advice", we should try and answer the actual question, and do less of the attacking the OP for things they didn't say."

I agree with you here, and the OP could probably have been clearer about this thread he has opened….

I wouldn’t have been impressed to discover my ‘date’ was actually a sex worker, so then the second ‘date’ was going to cost me money. If I wanted to book an esc*rt, I know where to find one. Fab is for consenting adults to enjoy the swinging lifestyle, and if this ‘lady’ arranges meets through Fab, which then leads to asking for payment, she should be reported to the admin team

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

So long as she isn’t expecting you to p@y for sex, what does it matter?

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By *rozac_fairyCouple over a year ago

tamworth

I mean, we are just normal people. And it's just a job. Sex worker is a huge umbrella term too, I'm not a full service worker, I'm a Dominatrix. But the general term comes with so many facets.

I don't think I've ever planned a date and felt an immediate need to tell someone my employment status or job description BEFORE a date, that's all conversation to have on the actual date isn't it?

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By *rozac_fairyCouple over a year ago

tamworth

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!"

Just a quick question, what do you think I would lie about?

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By *heekyDemandCouple over a year ago

Leicester

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!

Just a quick question, what do you think I would lie about? "

There is a massive misconception about Ds and the work they do, for a good D there needs to be a level of trust and understanding that transcends something is basic as sex work.

Hopefully we can run into you both at a kink event, we go to Embargo, others planned for '24.

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

So long as she isn’t expecting you to p@y for sex, what does it matter?"

Exactly

He is complaining because he had to spend £80 on drinks and he guessed this because she puts makeup on before meeting someone at a bar. Not to mention on a different thread Op complained about woman’s vagina too loose after a meet. There is no excuse for Judgemental, appalling and narcissistic behaviour like this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean, we are just normal people. And it's just a job. Sex worker is a huge umbrella term too, I'm not a full service worker, I'm a Dominatrix. But the general term comes with so many facets.

I don't think I've ever planned a date and felt an immediate need to tell someone my employment status or job description BEFORE a date, that's all conversation to have on the actual date isn't it?

I never tell dates what my job is either. None of their business.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

Dates are for getting to know people.

I don’t do the whole texting for months thing so it’s very real that I will be dating men who don’t know my job.

That’s what dates are for IMO. I don’t feel the need to tell anyone anything before dates.

Unless you’re meeting her in a sex worker capacity, it’s irrelevant prior IMO.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Unless your date is from Fab, do you tell them you’re a swinger?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"Unless your date is from Fab, do you tell them you’re a swinger? "

Nope.

But I don’t define myself as a swinger lol.

I’ll tell them I’ve been to sex clubs when it comes up. But don’t advertise it because I’m not looking for it in a relationship x

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By *rozac_fairyCouple over a year ago

tamworth

"Sex workers literally lie to people for a living and a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Lucky escape OP!

Just a quick question, what do you think I would lie about?

There is a massive misconception about Ds and the work they do, for a good D there needs to be a level of trust and understanding that transcends something is basic as sex work.

Hopefully we can run into you both at a kink event, we go to Embargo, others planned for '24."

Perhaps. But it still is classified as sex work. I am a sex worker as I offer a sexual based service in exchange for a wage that I then pay tax on.

If we're going to talk about sex work, we should absolutely be open to all aspects of said work and the services provided under the umbrella term. No sex worker is superior to another because of what they do or don't do

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

My first serious relationship was a ex worker she told me everything I never judged her as that was her past and we never really understand why we do things at a time and for what reason if any importance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had a relationship with a sex worker , we met because of her work and went back a few times and things just changed , once we’d met outside of her work, everything changed. We used to talk about it which was cool and being open about it was great , it used to get us both horny too. Sometimes I’d be with her and she’d go off to a client and I’d tell her how to be and then we would fuck when she came back.

Like a lot of people have said , everyone is a person and if everyone was the same the world would be a very boring place

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

I think that's a pretty harsh and generic statement. Sex workers are people too. I think as long as you have a open and honest relationship just like any other it can work. "

I dated a sex worker for a time trust me when I say I am deakin from experience.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

So what to do when you find out your date was sex worker - I would ask them when did they stop been a sex worker , Are they still a sex worker.From the replies I get to these two questions would probably have a bearing on whether there is a second date.Also if I choose the location of the date like a restaurant I would expect to pay the bill.If the lady chooses the restaurant and it’s a bit expensive for me I would expect her to pay half as many years ago I went out with a young lady from Belarus on two lunch dates where she chooses the restaurant and each time I paid the lunch bill £80 -£90 for lunch whilst she sat back and acted like a lady.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple over a year ago

tamworth

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

What exactly would the informed decision be? Does someone need to share their entire work history on the off chance that you are unwilling to sleep with ex-traffice wardens?

Ah, you mean they currently are a sex worker? My mistake - I read your questions as implying they *were* (in the past) a sex worker, but not any more.

Either way, how do you know they are planning to charge you? Sex workers go on 'normal' dates as well.

I think that's a pretty harsh and generic statement. Sex workers are people too. I think as long as you have a open and honest relationship just like any other it can work.

I dated a sex worker for a time trust me when I say I am deakin from experience.

Dating a sex worker for a period of time doesn't really mean you've experience in all aspects of dating a sex worker though... most of my sex work friends are happily married with a family. Myself included.

How does that happen if we don't go on normal dates, don't have sex if it's not part of the job etc? Just curious...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My opinion is that what he/she does to make a living shouldn't matter. I think up until recently there was a really bad stigma attached to it, maybe there still is but I think it's starting to become more accepting in general society.

We have met a couple of adult workers through swinging, didn't change our opinion of them.

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Respect the fact that they were honest about it and don't judge them as it would've taken a lot to even mention it not knowing what reaction to expect...

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By *issy_named_cTV/TS over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Respect the fact that they were honest about it and don't judge them as it would've taken a lot to even mention it not knowing what reaction to expect..."

Exactly this

Listen to her and get to know her

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"I think that's a pretty harsh and generic statement. Sex workers are people too. I think as long as you have a open and honest relationship just like any other it can work.

I dated a sex worker for a time trust me when I say I am deakin from experience.

Just one experience though.

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By *he ass man 666Man over a year ago

paradise city

Would be overly bothered also don’t need to know her cv so I would be bothered if she had a weekend job at McDonald’s either

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan over a year ago

Norwich

So has anyone met a sex worker professionally and had it develope into a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So has anyone met a sex worker professionally and had it develope into a relationship? "
yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly. Thank you for that comment! Do you think it's maybe possible lots of people lie for all the wrong reasons.

You are so right.

I could be lying now by saying I'm beautiful lol.

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By *DW1983Man over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Personally I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where she felt she had to keep it secret. It should be as normal to talk about as any other job, hobby, interest, desire, or anything else. It wouldn't be an issue. Making up some other job as cover instead would be, though.

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By *ive-DeliciouslyCouple over a year ago

Haywards Heath

"Get an STD test."

EVERYONE should be testing regularly & the majority of people working in the adult industry test, take PrEP & even use condoms for oral! Safer than the average "I'm not dirty, won't contract anything" swingers on their 7th hook up that week who never go to the clinic, who think they're safe/clean

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By *ullfuncoupleCouple over a year ago

hull

This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site "

Some swingers date people as well.

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By *phialtesMan over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site "

Curious, how are people who are unlikely to meet you if they are interested in dating killing the site?

Surely being diverse brings in new people to the site?

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site "

Politely disagree. I’d rather use fab to find someone with the same interests as myself. For clubs especially.

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By *he ass man 666Man over a year ago

paradise city

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Politely disagree. I’d rather use fab to find someone with the same interests as myself. For clubs especially."

Agree , plus I’m sure lots of couples on fab had started out as single fabbers to

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By *atureguy65Man over a year ago

Dorchester

Op, forgive me, but that sounds as if you were rather naive.

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By *umagain58Man over a year ago

London

I have had two husband ask me for payment for his wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Politely disagree. I’d rather use fab to find someone with the same interests as myself. For clubs especially."

The kind of couple, who will only meet people if you adhere to the many requirements they unnecessarily have, any singles on here not attending clubs are the Antichrist in their eyes. Haha, keep an eye out for them on your standard dating apps,

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By *ragon007 OP Man over a year ago

london

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

So long as she isn’t expecting you to p@y for sex, what does it matter?

Exactly

Again my face is here for every one to see not hiding like a coward like you .I have enough balls to show my face when I Give a opinion

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

So long as she isn’t expecting you to p@y for sex, what does it matter?

Exactly

Again my face is here for every one to see not hiding like a coward like you .I have enough balls to show my face when I Give a opinion "

Only coward here is you. You met someone, didn’t like but never said anything to their face and now slagging them here behind their back. You never answered? you only guessed she is a sex worker because you had to spend £80 on drinks and she put make up on before meeting someone at bar. Did she ask you for money? Clearly she didn’t from original post. Your opinion got you banned from clubs ( different threads you started) and clearly everyone can see traits of narcissistic behaviour from your posts. Go get a life and live and let live. focus on yourself rather than criticising others. I won’t be wasting my time replying to your post here. Some people are just beyond help

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By *electableicecreamMan over a year ago

The West

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Some swingers date people as well."

Swingers' are people too!

Fab is not a swingers site.

It's on anonymous matchmaking sex site for anyone to use. It's literally built that way.

It's an amateur porn site

It's a forum

It's a cam sex site

It might have started out as being for swingers but that's not who's paying the rent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Some swingers date people as well.

Swingers' are people too!

Fab is not a swingers site.

It's on anonymous matchmaking sex site for anyone to use. It's literally built that way.

It's an amateur porn site

It's a forum

It's a cam sex site

It might have started out as being for swingers but that's not who's paying the rent. "

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By *eltic connectionCouple over a year ago

Manningtree

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Some swingers date people as well.

Swingers' are people too!

Fab is not a swingers site.

It's on anonymous matchmaking sex site for anyone to use. It's literally built that way.

It's an amateur porn site

It's a forum

It's a cam sex site

It might have started out as being for swingers but that's not who's paying the rent. "

And that is sadly why so many true swingers are now leaving the site! We were told by another couple that they had 10 couples leave in the last 4 weeks! We have lost 4!

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I think that's a pretty harsh and generic statement. Sex workers are people too. I think as long as you have a open and honest relationship just like any other it can work.

I dated a sex worker for a time trust me when I say I am deakin from experience.

Just one experience though."

Once was enough. I used tobe as idealistic as those on here who sat my it doesn't matter but trust me it's a soul destroying experience. If yiu want to dare a sex worker be my guest, but proceed with caution.

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By *iss KinkWoman over a year ago

North West

I wouldn’t discuss my job with someone I just met

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Some swingers date people as well.

Swingers' are people too!

Fab is not a swingers site.

It's on anonymous matchmaking sex site for anyone to use. It's literally built that way.

It's an amateur porn site

It's a forum

It's a cam sex site

It might have started out as being for swingers but that's not who's paying the rent. "

So your point is that you are not a "true" swinger if:

* You look anonymously for a match for sex with people with similar sexual interests

* You engage others socially about sex and swinging in a forum to get advice, joke, participate in conversations and even argue about things

*You have a taste for exhibitionist and voyeuristic behaviour, so you post amateur porn or watch it

*You engage in sexual practices broadcasting it on a web cam (see exhibitionist/voyeur above).

*You have a Fab account but choose not to meet anyone for sex, or you don't because you can't get a meet.

Are you saying that swingers do not engage in that?

Having claimed boldly that "Fab is not a swingers site"...You have me wondering now... who is a swinger and are Mr/Mrs Arpeggio swingers? what should have or not have a swingers site to qualify? Why any of those features, e.g. the webcams, the forum, etc impede the "true" swingers to use Fab for their purposes?

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By *electableicecreamMan over a year ago

The West

I don't think I ever defined a swinger at all. Let alone a 'true' swinger.

No my point was that fabswingers is used in many ways by people from all walks of life including but certainly not limited to swingers.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

"I don't think I ever defined a swinger at all. Let alone a 'true' swinger.

No my point was that fabswingers is used in many ways by people from all walks of life including but certainly not limited to swingers."

I get it. You meant that Fab is not ONLY a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a swinging site it says fab swinger not fab dating you none swinger are killing this site

Some swingers date people as well.

Swingers' are people too!

Fab is not a swingers site.

It's on anonymous matchmaking sex site for anyone to use. It's literally built that way.

It's an amateur porn site

It's a forum

It's a cam sex site

It might have started out as being for swingers but that's not who's paying the rent.

And that is sadly why so many true swingers are now leaving the site! We were told by another couple that they had 10 couples leave in the last 4 weeks! We have lost 4!"

We’ve lost four, damn our life’s will never be the same

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By *ripodius WillyusMan over a year ago

Here and there

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made "

Hang on by definition we are all on a sex site, i get checked regular and when few yr ago had meets most days when I went for regular sti test they put me down as sex worker, no money ever exchanged nor asked for I just love rumpy pumpy.

Did you tell the date you on here?

Nobodys business nor should it be if she is sex worker and if for money might be needed for financial reasons.

Folk on here I think majority would think nowt to do with anyone else.

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I wouldn’t discuss my job with someone I just met "

This

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Op, forgive me, but that sounds as if you were rather naive. "

This

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

the obvious question to be asked, is how do you know about it if she hasnt said anything to you."

Exactly

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Sex workers are people too, so it’s not unreasonable that they want to date. Their career doesn’t preclude them from that.

If you don’t want to date sex workers it’s probably best that you ask what people do for a living before you arrange a date. That way no one is disappointed. "

Couldn’t agree more.

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"This thread is going all over the place. OP... Have you met this woman in person and have you had sex with her? If so, has she charged you money?

Op is delusional. She never asked him for money according to original post but it’s not end of issue for him otherwise he won’t be slagging her in forums.

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Sex work is work, sex work is not illegal if you’re against it then that’s your problem. They do not have to disclose anything on a first date that they don’t want to. "

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not judging but should that not be openly said so a informed decision can be made

Isn't this judging ?"

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"It sounds like a miscommunication, you believe you are on a date, she thinks you are a client.

All done and dusted but not sure how we can comment on your thread without the key information

Good point

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