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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
You’re visiting someone who has hosted you in their home several times and provides drink and nibbles.
Do you reckon it’s mannerly to take a bottle of something or a box of chocolates to thank them for going to the trouble of being hosts ?
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"You’re visiting someone who has hosted you in their home several times and provides drink and nibbles.
Do you reckon it’s mannerly to take a bottle of something or a box of chocolates to thank them for going to the trouble of being hosts ?
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If I'm visiting someone at home I always bring something even if it's just a packet of biscuits. |
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"You’re visiting someone who has hosted you in their home several times and provides drink and nibbles.
Do you reckon it’s mannerly to take a bottle of something or a box of chocolates to thank them for going to the trouble of being hosts ?
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Both, and flowers for the Lady. |
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Glad to see so many people are mannerly.
We had a couple we met who we hosted about 5 times. Brought their own drink, drank some of it then took it away with them. Meanwhile we supplied drinks, food and accommodation. Just seemed a bit mean to us and it eventually annoyed us .
It’s nice to be nice. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
no ... and i know im not alone on this but i/we accept no gifts they mean nothing apart from creepy om/we are here to have fun nothing else ... gifts always feel like ''why do that'' i even say to people no gifts yet they turn up with one and then im turned stone cold and i tell them the meet goes no further this goes for all men couples and women ... to us its creepy ...
but thats us and i do know its not only us but we also know others who wont meet unless theres a gift ... used to be a couple in chatroom that demanded a bottle of scotch or vodka plus chocs there are couples who demand cash there used to be one lady on here years ago give you argos cat numbers and men were agreeing not small stuff neither one guy got her the washing machine she wanted ... to me a gift is like a payment for whats to come and that dont ring right swinging is about exchanging fun not gifts or money |
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"no ... and i know im not alone on this but i/we accept no gifts they mean nothing apart from creepy om/we are here to have fun nothing else ... gifts always feel like ''why do that'' i even say to people no gifts yet they turn up with one and then im turned stone cold and i tell them the meet goes no further this goes for all men couples and women ... to us its creepy ...
but thats us and i do know its not only us but we also know others who wont meet unless theres a gift ... used to be a couple in chatroom that demanded a bottle of scotch or vodka plus chocs there are couples who demand cash there used to be one lady on here years ago give you argos cat numbers and men were agreeing not small stuff neither one guy got her the washing machine she wanted ... to me a gift is like a payment for whats to come and that dont ring right swinging is about exchanging fun not gifts or money "
This is not what we’re looking for. We’re not asking for a gift but it’s a small token, say a box of After Eights, to show appreciation for accommodating and providing food and drink. Like you might do if you were visiting a friend for dinner. |
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I would usually take something if it was a party but I don’t think I have ever taken a “gift” on a fab meet. That might have something to do with the fact that I almost invariably meet at a pub first and I would have bought a round and then it is “back to theirs” so a gift would seem presumptuous and a little weird in a pub. |
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I would usually take something if it was a party but I don’t think I have ever taken a “gift” on a fab meet. That might have something to do with the fact that I almost invariably meet at a pub first and I would have bought a round and then it is “back to theirs” so a gift would seem presumptuous and a little weird in a pub."
We agree if it’s a one of meet starting in a bar then probably in appropriate. If you had met them several times at their home then it’s different. |
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Depends what it’s for.
If it’s just sex, absolutely not. Fuck and leave even if it’s at their house and you’ve repeated a few times.
If your actual legit friends and socialise together then yeah definitely. |
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"You’re visiting someone who has hosted you in their home several times and provides drink and nibbles. "
I'm that situation, and assuming that you don't host them, obviously yes. But don't upstage what they provide. |
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"Glad to see so many people are mannerly.
We had a couple we met who we hosted about 5 times. Brought their own drink, drank some of it then took it away with them. Meanwhile we supplied drinks, food and accommodation. Just seemed a bit mean to us and it eventually annoyed us .
It’s nice to be nice. "
This is amusing, they took their drink back! In life some people are more generous than others. Personally if you hosted us several times, we'd be bringing drinks and flowers. |
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"no ... and i know im not alone on this but i/we accept no gifts they mean nothing apart from creepy om/we are here to have fun nothing else ... gifts always feel like ''why do that'' i even say to people no gifts yet they turn up with one and then im turned stone cold and i tell them the meet goes no further this goes for all men couples and women ... to us its creepy ...
but thats us and i do know its not only us but we also know others who wont meet unless theres a gift ... used to be a couple in chatroom that demanded a bottle of scotch or vodka plus chocs there are couples who demand cash there used to be one lady on here years ago give you argos cat numbers and men were agreeing not small stuff neither one guy got her the washing machine she wanted ... to me a gift is like a payment for whats to come and that dont ring right swinging is about exchanging fun not gifts or money "
It's not a gift. Agree on people demanding that people bring things (usually couples demanding of men) is not great. However, that's not like taking flowers or a bottle of fizz if say one couple meeting another at their house. It's just like meeting normal friends. They host you at their house, provide drinks, few nibbles, chat for a bit etc. Different if popping round for a quick fuck I admit - turning up with flowers then would be odd  |
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I'm not bothered if people don't bring anything. If we invite people into our home we just want their company. The last dinner party we went to we took after dinner mints and champagne. Nobody else took anything. We were the only ones to write and thank our hosts afterwards too, people just have different ways of doing things |
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In my younger (more desperate days) I got invited to a couple's house and they told me to bring two bottles of white wine. I agreed. We had a couple of glasses and then husband stepped outside for a "phone call" and came back saying kids playing up at babysitters and they had to go and collect them. I think it was code that I wasn't for them and a routine to end things and kick me out. Gave me back one of the two bottles and said time I left |
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"I'm not bothered if people don't bring anything. If we invite people into our home we just want their company. The last dinner party we went to we took after dinner mints and champagne. Nobody else took anything. We were the only ones to write and thank our hosts afterwards too, people just have different ways of doing things "
Wow nobody took anything to a dinner! Yes some people have different ways of doing things - some people like are polite and some aren't Not taking anything to a swinging meet is fine but not taking anything to a dinner party is really odd unless really extenuating circumstances. |
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"I'm not bothered if people don't bring anything. If we invite people into our home we just want their company. The last dinner party we went to we took after dinner mints and champagne. Nobody else took anything. We were the only ones to write and thank our hosts afterwards too, people just have different ways of doing things
Wow nobody took anything to a dinner! Yes some people have different ways of doing things - some people like are polite and some aren't Not taking anything to a swinging meet is fine but not taking anything to a dinner party is really odd unless really extenuating circumstances. "
We were a bit surprised. Our hosts made a big point of saying we'd brought the chocolates when they passed them round with the coffee  |
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We had this dilemma the other month. Good freinds of ours. We didn't want to seem ungrateful or tight. But we didn't want to seem like we were undermining their genuine unconditional generosity (if that makes sense). Or bring something along that might seem a snub to what they were putting on. They put on food and drinks as well as hosting. We know they don't expect anything, just our company.
We are terrible over thinkers anyways so dedicated way more time and anguish over what should be a very simple and OK decision either way over a pint. We decided on some nice chocolates in the in end. A token of our appreciation but something not being offered by our hosts so thus no chance of it being seen as a snub to the food and drink provided (again probably over thinking).
So we got a tray of Ferrero Rocher and a selection tray of Belgium chocolates. However over another pint we decided that two boxes of chocolates may be a bit OTT and the classier thing would be to turn up just with a simple tray of Ferrero Rocher. So we ate the Belgium Chocolates in the pub.
Hope our freinds aren't reading this  |
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