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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking? |
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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
The short answer is, you don't.
Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so.
Remember, you're there to do a job |
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"The short answer is, you don't.
Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so.
Remember, you're there to do a job"
Exactly this! |
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
Manchester Area |
"We received a message from a man I worked with once. We blocked him and I never mentioned it.
I do wonder sometimes if discretion is properly understood. "
Presumably, the message indicated he knew you were on here and worked together rather than just a general message due to being 'local' |
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We had our first encounter of this on Saturday someone sent a face pic and it was someone D knows from Work so we said we know him and we don’t like mixing our worlds so will keep his secret but won’t be playing so close to home |
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"We received a message from a man I worked with once. We blocked him and I never mentioned it.
I do wonder sometimes if discretion is properly understood.
Presumably, the message indicated he knew you were on here and worked together rather than just a general message due to being 'local' "
No he had no idea who we were having not seen our faces. We politely turned him down, didn't mention I worked with him and kept our mouths shut. We wouldn't meet anyone from work anyway |
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"Obviously I believe in discretion"
If you believe it in, probably best to exercise it. I'm sure there are plenty of other women available and if you really absolutely have to message her, probably get to do so after the job is complete so you keep some level of professionalism |
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If we both recognised each other, then fine it a hobby we both have and if it came up in conversation outside work it's likely we would agree to be totally professional at work.
However, outside work if we happen to be in a club, depends if we can agree to leave kink at the door on the way out.
If the answer is yes, maybe we would play. |
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"I'm astonished how ladies especially put their raunchy pics with clear faces on here. Do they have no worries about being recognised..?"
Maybe because anyone that recognises them is also on Fabswingers, nobody has a moral highground and nobody is doing anything illegal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?"
Depends on your job and if you're likely to have to return.
If it's a one off visit then if you must message then do so after you have left, much later, if you are likely to return then I wouldn't message at all, they may ask for you not to return then your employer will ask why, too much hassle imo |
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Got clocked the other day by someone who works up in the offices at work who I recognise from a fetish club I go to.
I've played it totally cool and haven't reacted but the look on his face when he saw me in the canteen was priceless.
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"The short answer is, you don't.
Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so.
Remember, you're there to do a job"
Boom! There's the correct advice. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"Got clocked the other day by someone who works up in the offices at work who I recognise from a fetish club I go to.
I've played it totally cool and haven't reacted but the look on his face when he saw me in the canteen was priceless.
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Brilliant  |
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"Got clocked the other day by someone who works up in the offices at work who I recognise from a fetish club I go to.
I've played it totally cool and haven't reacted but the look on his face when he saw me in the canteen was priceless.
Brilliant "
Luckily he's only seen me in what my friend describes as 'goth/industrial school girl' but last time I saw him he was naked with a ladies toilet sign round his neck...
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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago
Swindon |
A couple of years ago I was recognised by a work colleague. When I responded that I did not know what he was referring to, he did not take the hint and was persistent in challenging my response. I had to say that I would report him to HR if he did carried on with his line of questioning.  |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
Do nothing about it. If they recognise you and wink or give you a signal, text them here after work!
I would not bother if someone recognise and approach me at work. If there would be mutual interest - we can discuss it beyond office hours. But I don’t expect others to be as relaxed and openminded about it as me |
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By *redy81Man
over a year ago
London |
A few weeks ago a lady asked me to help her a bit with something IT related on her laptop. We are not colleagues, we don't know each other we only participated in the same workshop that is about our profession.
So I sat there, took her laptop, and noticed that one of the many opened windows in her browser had the little cherry on the white background as the favicon.  
Currently, I'm just at the beginning of something vanilla, so not looking for new partners, but it was still an exciting and fun situation, I had a little smile...
But I didn't say anything and definitely didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable in that setting.
What if I was still single and in "hunter mode", also if she was my type??? I think I still would not mention it to her, but I would try to flirt with her in a general way, and if she is up for a drink, I would told her what I noticed when we are in a bit less "official" settings. |
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?"
Please don't do anything. Discretion is key here.
The only way to say anything would be if you bumped into them at a club or event. It could cause a lot of embarrassment at work for someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been talking too a women on here for a week not being able to show each others face then when we do we worked together lol….. pm me to find out more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?"
You don’t. Simple as. |
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A few years ago I noted someone had viewed my profile … most likely from who’s near! I was horrified when I saw it was someone who worked for me!! He had a clear facial pic - I immediately blocked him!
He never said anything or made any comment, but then again, I think my disguise is pretty good! … only a very select few have ever seen both sides to me, and all said they would never have guessed or made the connection! - phew! X
R xx |
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By *r X46Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"A few years ago I noted someone had viewed my profile … most likely from who’s near! I was horrified when I saw it was someone who worked for me!! He had a clear facial pic - I immediately blocked him!
He never said anything or made any comment, but then again, I think my disguise is pretty good! … only a very select few have ever seen both sides to me, and all said they would never have guessed or made the connection! - phew! X
R xx"
Did he fab any of your pics? |
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?"
Being discreet means that you do not mention it at all. |
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"A few years ago I noted someone had viewed my profile … most likely from who’s near! I was horrified when I saw it was someone who worked for me!! He had a clear facial pic - I immediately blocked him!
He never said anything or made any comment, but then again, I think my disguise is pretty good! … only a very select few have ever seen both sides to me, and all said they would never have guessed or made the connection! - phew! X
R xx"
But, we can see your face.
I'm sure that he would know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only happened once.there was a guy who started at warehouse I worked at and he was openly gay and I'd met him a few times at cottages and my house.luckily he was great and understood that it wasn't something I wanted others to know about.
There is also a woman I've seen pics of on here who I'm sure works in a shop in my town.i thought she looked familiar then noticed a tattoo she had.she seems very dirty but unfortunately I'm out of her age range  |
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?
Being discreet means that you do not mention it at all."
Exactly. Surely the indiscretion starts by coming on here and putting it about that you have recognised someone from work (or wherever)? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only happened once.there was a guy who started at warehouse I worked at and he was openly gay and I'd met him a few times at cottages and my house.luckily he was great and understood that it wasn't something I wanted others to know about.
There is also a woman I've seen pics of on here who I'm sure works in a shop in my town.i thought she looked familiar then noticed a tattoo she had.she seems very dirty but unfortunately I'm out of her age range "
I would never say something at her place of work but would have just sent her a message just to say that we were noth close and would she be interested in meeting up,and just left it at that.as people say you hope others on here can act with discretion . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve come across people I’ve known on Fab over the years. Including some I’ve worked with and a neighbour etc. One guy actually messaged me outside Fab asking me if I was still on. Another gay guy who I don’t think was on Fab once said to me ‘you’re not the only Fab guy in the office….’ LOL |
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"The short answer is, you don't.
Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so.
Remember, you're there to do a job"
Precisely! From experience, never mix business and pleasure. |
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There is a male Fabber who used to work in my local fish and chip shop. When he passed my order to me, I looked him in the eye and said, “that’s fab thanks”. I winked at him and he left. I think he got the message. Lol. |
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"I'm astonished how ladies especially put their raunchy pics with clear faces on here. Do they have no worries about being recognised..?"
I often wonder that.
I'd be mortified if someone from work or a neighbour recognised us.
It happened once in a club with a neighbours friend, she was more shocked than us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happened once in a club with a neighbours friend, she was more shocked than us. "
I was at a group party with an old gf and saw a couple I knew from 200m up the road. I just said "look, who's going to say what to who about this ?!", which was true and worked a treat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I identify anyone that I know, even vaguely. Or anyone that are friends of friends, it’s an instant block.
My social and private life are separate and never the twain shall meet! |
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