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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now  |
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I'm guessing the "stuff" could be shopping/activities with wife/partner, or maybe looking after kids? As the hours you give sound very much like they just have a short while free for "late lunch". |
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "
Dunno. But if I don't meet on certain weekends, it's because I am going drinking with my mates, and then know I will be fucked the next day from the alcohol. |
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It was difficult for me to meet as a single parent. Especially when I first started on here I had a 1 and 4 year old. I think sometimes that was viewed with great suspicion by some. However surprisingly many women I encountered did belive me and would make accommodation to find time we could both meet. This was sometimes extra hard because often thet were single parents too. So it could be some time until the opportunity matched up. I was grateful for their patience with my situation and hopefully it was well worth their while. Having said that there's a fair few iffy people on here (men and women in My/our experience). So as grateful as I am for their trust in my integrity and their patience I totally also understand other women's scepticism. After all from the outside looking in one could argue there's a good chance I could have been not genuine with my reasons for not accommodating or not being available much.
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By *lan157Man 51 weeks ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
Single people can be free at weekends but some notice is reasonable and for socials and play meets to be properly arranged. Even single people have weekend plans and make sure they are going to be fully occupied. |
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"Can’t say I’ve ever experienced this no.
If the same thing is happening, maybe change your approach? Visit a club?"
Agreed.
Never experienced it as I only meet weekends.
Clubs are good for that as tends to be the busiest events |
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By *oxesMan 51 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "
My hours are alive place plus I work second and 3rd jobs and cannot accommodate. It's one of the reasons I like clubs. But I believe they're should be a mutual communion or give and take otherwise it's either disrespectful or just not going to work |
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"I's getting a bit boring now "
Yeah it’s getting boring these single men exercising control over how they spend their quality time and with who. How dare they.
Personally, I don’t offer weekend meets to anyone until they’ve demonstrated that they’re both genuinely interested and reliable. Up until then, the meet is either going to be at a less valuable time or, like 50 Cent, you can find me in the club.
If someone can’t turn up for a coffee on a Thursday afternoon having agreed on it, why should I take a chance on that person ruining a perfectly good Saturday night? |
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By *abioMan 51 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
Why would any single be potentially any more available at weekends than couples?
They may still have work
They may still have children
They may well have to do as much mundane stuff
Sometimes people just tend to overthink everything and in doing that it can be moulded to fit any narrative… |
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends?"
They are not single... They are attached and under the WAG Curfew at the weekends. |
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"Why would any single be potentially any more available at weekends than couples?
They may still have work
They may still have children
They may well have to do as much mundane stuff
Sometimes people just tend to overthink everything and in doing that it can be moulded to fit any narrative… "
This, all the way.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Most men that can’t meet at weekends or evenings are most probably ‘playing away’. I am, however my wife does know, just doesn’t want to be involved and likes our time together. |
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I don't think just not meeting at weekends means someone's cheating.
Many like me work unsocial hours or they may go to sports or have kids too.
I tend to avoid people who give off other red flags though that may mean they're attached though.
If someone could only meet every 3rd weds for an hour, it's unlikely we'd be compatible. |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner"
This isn't true. Most are unattached. I've organised a few parties and most of the singles I've met are genuinely single. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Makes no difference what folk may say ..seems you've already pre determined the reason 
Perhaps the guys you're seeking are already out having fun on the weekends
Q. Do you seek the gents you mention or do they approach you?
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People generally are working longer hours these days just to make sure they have milk and bread in the fridge every morning.
If someone's not available during the week could mean many different things.
They may have kids, they maybe carers to parents - some people actually care about their parents; they may work during normal sociable hours or they maybe playig/watching sports.
There is endless supply of singles on this site. I'm sure you will find one that fits your schedule. |
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By *abioMan 51 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner"
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. |
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Obviously some have genuine reasons for not being able to meet weekends but if somebody can NEVER meet at weakends then highly likely attached. Of course not everybody but vast majority.
Used to run chat groups and have socials. Everyone was always up for having groups socials and really excited. As soon fixed a date for a Saturday all the excuses used to flood in. So tried Friday and wasn't much better. Most of the ladies and couples were fine with Saturdays (and they also have childcare and work issues - people can juggle work sometimes or get babysitters) but men in general struggled.
Saying that there are plenty of couples on here who after chatting a while reveal that can only meet Monday afternoons for example. Usually because they are fuck buddy couples and attached to others. Just one of those things and you find the people who match to you. |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
This isn't true. Most are unattached. I've organised a few parties and most of the singles I've met are genuinely single. "
it is true |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…."
Is not asumming its facts |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts"
This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it? |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts
This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it?"
Nope and will not never meet men on here as Im not that way inclined (no offence to does who who do) and again I didnt say all men with single profiles aernt'single. 60% of men on here with single profiles aren't single to be precise. End off |
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I only work Monday to friday luckily enough so weekends are preferred for me , happy to meet in the week too , if its a bit of a drive i just book the next day off work. I.m single and live alone. |
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts
This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it? Nope and will not never meet men on here as Im not that way inclined (no offence to does who who do) and again I didnt say all men with single profiles aernt'single. 60% of men on here with single profiles aren't single to be precise. End off "
I'd love to know your process for making up random numbers |
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"People should stop using "facts" in debates unless they provided considerable empirical evidence to support their argument.  "
Yep! It's called "anecdotal evidence".
So John Snow, the Father of Public Health gathered enough evidence from observation that a well in Soho was the cause of illness. He shut that well down and the illness stopped. That was years before Cholera was discovered under the microscope.
I've experienced enough "single" men who wants weekday lunchtime knee trembles and they can't make weekends ... That's enough evidence for me.
I rest my case m'lord... |
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"People should stop using "facts" in debates unless they provided considerable empirical evidence to support their argument.
Yep! It's called "anecdotal evidence".
So John Snow, the Father of Public Health gathered enough evidence from observation that a well in Soho was the cause of illness. He shut that well down and the illness stopped. That was years before Cholera was discovered under the microscope.
I've experienced enough "single" men who wants weekday lunchtime knee trembles and they can't make weekends ... That's enough evidence for me.
I rest my case m'lord..."
hat Snow did was science. He formulated a hypothesis- illness comes from water in a specific well-based on observation, probably originally based on anecdote, then tested that hypothesis by shutting the well and thus found it to be correct. The hypothesis that most ‘single’ men that can’t meet on weekends are attached is more difficult to test. I would guess it is probably sound based on the fact most single men would move heaven and earth for casual sex but attached ones can’t explain disappearing on weekends to the wife. Yes, I know there are a few genuine exceptions. |
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "
Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life.
Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual.
Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way.
Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation. |
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"Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation."
Oh this I have done and have met some attached men, sadly trapped into fatherhood. One even confessed to making detailed arrangements with Fabbers because the fantasy of a Saturday evening meet sustained his sexual excitement through the week. Knowing full well he'll be changing nappies on Saturday evenings.
I can believe this to be true because he rarely logs on his "single" profile past Friday afternoon. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 51 weeks ago
Baughurst |
"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts
This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it?"
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By *arl17Man 51 weeks ago
Central Portugal |
"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner
That is:
A) a hell of an assumption
B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts
This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it?
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I agree based on many years of experience so pack your bus up please, as experience trumps supisition  |
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now
Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life.
Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual.
Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way.
Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation."
Have learned this over time! |
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now
Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life.
Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual.
Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way.
Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation."
This may come as a shock but swingers who mainly meet weekends also have families, hobbies, work weekends sometimes etc.
It is understandable if people mainly meet weekdays and occasionally weekends but it is the people who clearly say NEVER free at weekends. It's bloody obvious if somebody can only ever meet weekday afternoons. And this applies to ladies and couples as well as men, although my experience from running groups and socials is that it is much more likely with men. People who've been around the block on this site for years are not fools. |
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