Hi
Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately
We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.
In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact
We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?
Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated
P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females
Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her. |
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"Hi
Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately
We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.
In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact
We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?
Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated
P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females
Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her. "
profile and you guys look good,don’t understand problems your having. |
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"Hi
Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately
We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.
In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact
We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?
Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated
P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females
Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her. profile and you guys look good,don’t understand problems your having."
We don’t either that’s why we posted we thought it’s just us. Thanks
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"You say the female half gets attention when she's posting about going out alone. People can see what the female half looks like. The male half is apparently just a single dick shot."
Thank you will bear this in mind and sort some new pictures of him. X |
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"Are you fully reading their bio and sending polite, respectful, well thought out messages? "
Yes and normally end it with a question on weather we are what they are looking for or something about the profile or a club visit etc. x |
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"If I’m looking for couples I like to see photos of both. "
This, unless you attach pics of the mr In a message, we'd delete any message (if sent to my couple profile) as I have no idea what your man is like.
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Things always go in cycles here, with interest and availability coming and going.
You have to be really well acquainted with what you want - knowing your target audience really well, means that you can aim to give them what they need. It's probable that you have misidentified what the female half of the couples want. If the woman in the couple isn't given sufficient respect and her needs addressed, then you will probably have the couple leaving you cold. It can work either way, any/both in the couple, or from them to you in reverse.
You could potentially chat with couples at swingers clubs and get a feel for what they expect and like, as a minimum, from another couple, via Fab contact. |
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As a single guy who meets couples I would pass your profile by OP.
It's so heavily biased towards herself that it appears Mr isn't engaged at all. It's not just the photos but the bio only talks about Mrs.
On the photos side it's all subjective of course but the absence of full body shots of Mr and the lack of photos of you together is a red flag for me.
Personally I am not a fan of close up genital shots but that might just be me. |
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On here as a couple and we don't find problems meeting couples when we are in the mood.
As others have said your profile is very female centric - in both words, pics and veris. Most couples tend to be looking for a four way experience and the man is important. Even if you send pics of the male half the words in your profile would make us nervous. We've had lots of experiences with couples where it is far too much about the female half so tend to be careful. Maybe that is the reality of what you are looking for in which case it's fine and hopefully you find people. But if you are looking for more than that with lots of four way interaction a few tweaks on words and pics would help a lot.
Also we've chatted to couple where in the messages we get that strong vibe as well and puts us off. Female half may be amazing but if you want to meet a couple there is another female as well. |
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