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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome  |
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Where is she suggesting meeting?
Could be for real but be cautious if your spider senses are tingling. There are attractive ladies out there that are real ladies but nevertheless still potentially scamming in some way. The old if it's too good to be true adage.
For example, booking a hotel, getting you to send her the money and then disappearing. Meeting and then trying to get money out of you or else threatening various thing... There was a case a few years back of a man our sort of age meeting a young lady to be dominated and once he was tied to the bed her boyfriend appeared, beat the crap out of him and stole his wallet etc. |
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome "
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not. |
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not."
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh yes and of course has she got a good collection of decent veris and from what kind of people? "
Yea a few veris from men and looking at their profiles looks real enough.. eg veris from a few other people and checked those too.
Plus green tick etcc..
Want to meet up in a local café mac Donald's, no mention of money etc.. but yeah, getting beaten yp by her bf could be something to be wary of |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Where is she suggesting meeting?
Could be for real but be cautious if your spider senses are tingling. There are attractive ladies out there that are real ladies but nevertheless still potentially scamming in some way. The old if it's too good to be true adage.
For example, booking a hotel, getting you to send her the money and then disappearing. Meeting and then trying to get money out of you or else threatening various thing... There was a case a few years back of a man our sort of age meeting a young lady to be dominated and once he was tied to the bed her boyfriend appeared, beat the crap out of him and stole his wallet etc. "
Spider senses are definitely tingling lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where is she suggesting meeting?
Could be for real but be cautious if your spider senses are tingling. There are attractive ladies out there that are real ladies but nevertheless still potentially scamming in some way. The old if it's too good to be true adage.
For example, booking a hotel, getting you to send her the money and then disappearing. Meeting and then trying to get money out of you or else threatening various thing... There was a case a few years back of a man our sort of age meeting a young lady to be dominated and once he was tied to the bed her boyfriend appeared, beat the crap out of him and stole his wallet etc.
Spider senses are definitely tingling lol"
Listen to your instincts. Trust your instincts. Women and gays hone these early in life, straight men not so much. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Where is she suggesting meeting?
Could be for real but be cautious if your spider senses are tingling. There are attractive ladies out there that are real ladies but nevertheless still potentially scamming in some way. The old if it's too good to be true adage.
For example, booking a hotel, getting you to send her the money and then disappearing. Meeting and then trying to get money out of you or else threatening various thing... There was a case a few years back of a man our sort of age meeting a young lady to be dominated and once he was tied to the bed her boyfriend appeared, beat the crap out of him and stole his wallet etc.
Spider senses are definitely tingling lol
Listen to your instincts. Trust your instincts. Women and gays hone these early in life, straight men not so much. "
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"frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet."
You don't look like a bag of shite, in fact to me you look like someone who could fulfil that 'slightly dom' role.
But, if 'she' really wants this then 'she' will confirm things for you and put your mind at rest.
Don't go in without being sure.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
You don't look like a bag of shite, in fact to me you look like someone who could fulfil that 'slightly dom' role.
But, if 'she' really wants this then 'she' will confirm things for you and put your mind at rest.
Don't go in without being sure.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Reverse image search any pics, check the veri trail, are the pics recent, ask her to confirm if she’s single.
If something feels off then trust that instinct I say."
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Suggest a meet in a public place op, just in case. That way you'll be able to see she's real and you won't be putting yourself at risk.
If she'd dodgy there will be excuses as to why she can't meet you for a coffee somewhere.
If she's real, there shouldn't be an issue & hopefully all will go well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not.
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted. "
Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not.
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted.
Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real. "
Do I look ok? Or ok..ish? I hate getting my pics taken |
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not.
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted.
Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real. "
lol sorry I needed a self-deprecating sarcasm emoji. You took me too literally on bag of shite comment. Thank you for your concern but I do quite well for myself.
The point I was trying to make is that older men (particularly if they sense not the best looking or desperate) are sometimes targeted by young attractive women scammers. Lots of stories on here for example of the hotel scam. Personally I had a big issue about 10 years ago. I was around 45 and got chatting to a very attractive lady locally who was around 25. Too good to be true. I took all normal precautions and ended up meeting and having fun. Then all kinds of shit started -making various allegations, threatening all kinds of things and basically demanding money (can't go into details as most of the words are banned on Forum). Went on for about two weeks with different phone numbers and getting more and more demanding and threatening. I think she had targeted me from the beginning looking back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome "
We are pretty good sleuths if you need any help seeing if they are legitimate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not.
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted.
Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
lol sorry I needed a self-deprecating sarcasm emoji. You took me too literally on bag of shite comment. Thank you for your concern but I do quite well for myself.
The point I was trying to make is that older men (particularly if they sense not the best looking or desperate) are sometimes targeted by young attractive women scammers. Lots of stories on here for example of the hotel scam. Personally I had a big issue about 10 years ago. I was around 45 and got chatting to a very attractive lady locally who was around 25. Too good to be true. I took all normal precautions and ended up meeting and having fun. Then all kinds of shit started -making various allegations, threatening all kinds of things and basically demanding money (can't go into details as most of the words are banned on Forum). Went on for about two weeks with different phone numbers and getting more and more demanding and threatening. I think she had targeted me from the beginning looking back. "
Gentle Lover,. Don't worry about it.. honestly I'm fine.
It's sometimes not easy guaging people's reactions by text alone....
Yep., Guilty as charged about taking things literally.. loads of people tell me that.
Hope you read this and feel better mate.
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real. "
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance. |
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance. "
ValleyDave - join in with the subject of the thread. It’s not good to use the thread to go back to complaining about not getting enough attention.
OP - yes be wary. But I can also see why someone attractive would want to meet you. You come across as easy-going, safe, interesting (the pirate stuff) and grounded. Expand your BDSM skills and I’ll join the queue!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance.
ValleyDave - join in with the subject of the thread. It’s not good to use the thread to go back to complaining about not getting enough attention.
OP - yes be wary. But I can also see why someone attractive would want to meet you. You come across as easy-going, safe, interesting (the pirate stuff) and grounded. Expand your BDSM skills and I’ll join the queue!
Dee "
Lovely X and Thanks for the kind words |
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome
Suggest a video chat. Then you can see if she's really or not.
See above. Quite possibly real but still a bag of trouble. Us middle age men who look like a bag of shite are quite vulnerable and sometimes targeted.
Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
lol sorry I needed a self-deprecating sarcasm emoji. You took me too literally on bag of shite comment. Thank you for your concern but I do quite well for myself.
The point I was trying to make is that older men (particularly if they sense not the best looking or desperate) are sometimes targeted by young attractive women scammers. Lots of stories on here for example of the hotel scam. Personally I had a big issue about 10 years ago. I was around 45 and got chatting to a very attractive lady locally who was around 25. Too good to be true. I took all normal precautions and ended up meeting and having fun. Then all kinds of shit started -making various allegations, threatening all kinds of things and basically demanding money (can't go into details as most of the words are banned on Forum). Went on for about two weeks with different phone numbers and getting more and more demanding and threatening. I think she had targeted me from the beginning looking back.
Gentle Lover,. Don't worry about it.. honestly I'm fine.
It's sometimes not easy guaging people's reactions by text alone....
Yep., Guilty as charged about taking things literally.. loads of people tell me that.
Hope you read this and feel better mate.
Everything is tickety boo up here
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Oh I'm tickety boo I am happy to laught at myself being what I am but I brush up pretty well and have loads of fun. Can't argue though that most 50s/60s men are indeed a bag of shite looks wise compared to a hottie in their 20's |
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance.
ValleyDave - join in with the subject of the thread. It’s not good to use the thread to go back to complaining about not getting enough attention.
OP - yes be wary. But I can also see why someone attractive would want to meet you. You come across as easy-going, safe, interesting (the pirate stuff) and grounded. Expand your BDSM skills and I’ll join the queue!
Dee "
Yep never misses a chance. Where's the banging head on wall gif when you need it. |
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Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang |
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"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang "
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun |
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"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun "
To be fair in the Midlands we have an embarrassment of riches for clubs, where we are a drive for an hour in any direction we could be at Uniquez, Purple Mamba, Club 29, Atlantis, Liberty Elite, The Attic, Xtasia or Chameleons. We are members at most of these and it is frighteningly easy to start an orgy. If you meet with another couple and just ask the odd single to join if can have a snowball effect. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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Remember that what women find attractive and what men think women find attractive are often very different things. It's quite possible that she's seeing things in you that you don't see yourself.
Some caution is advisable, but I wouldn't write off a potentially good thing through insecurity. (Well, too often I would, because insecurity. It's so much easier to offer advice than to follow it) |
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"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun
To be fair in the Midlands we have an embarrassment of riches for clubs, where we are a drive for an hour in any direction we could be at Uniquez, Purple Mamba, Club 29, Atlantis, Liberty Elite, The Attic, Xtasia or Chameleons. We are members at most of these and it is frighteningly easy to start an orgy. If you meet with another couple and just ask the odd single to join if can have a snowball effect."
You do seem to be lucky in your part of the country. There is nothing within one hour of me. Even if there was more it is still a big time and cost commitment and a very late night. I go somewhere 1 and 1/2 hours away but it’s a big commitment to go. Most of Fab focus on private meets for this reason. I agree it is often easy for a couple to start an orgy (I go as a couple and do) but much harder as a single man to get dragged into one |
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"Ok, Long story short, ive met others so no novice, now ive been chatting and really getting on with someone on here for a while.
She's also interested in meeting me snd saying i sound Nice from the banter.
Everything great until she's sent me a pic of her face.
She likes men to ne slightly dom, but i felt a bit wobbly seeing her face for the first time.. as she's absolutely fecking stunning. So good in fact i thought is rhis a guy taking the piss.
Been on th phone to her and sounds real enough. and frankly i look a bag of shite, but still wants to meet.
Any thoughts of first time meet with someone like this where feeling intimidated?
All accounts of any encounters like this welcome "
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Be realistic about people looking stunning. Some people use filters and lighting and look very unlike their photo's in real life. Maybe you're savvy with people using flattering photos? |
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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago
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Fab is a strange ol' place...
Talking from experience, I've had meets with men that I considered way out of my league and I even made one wait 6 months and it was all perfectly normal and above board.
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"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun
To be fair in the Midlands we have an embarrassment of riches for clubs, where we are a drive for an hour in any direction we could be at Uniquez, Purple Mamba, Club 29, Atlantis, Liberty Elite, The Attic, Xtasia or Chameleons. We are members at most of these and it is frighteningly easy to start an orgy. If you meet with another couple and just ask the odd single to join if can have a snowball effect.
You do seem to be lucky in your part of the country. There is nothing within one hour of me. Even if there was more it is still a big time and cost commitment and a very late night. I go somewhere 1 and 1/2 hours away but it’s a big commitment to go. Most of Fab focus on private meets for this reason. I agree it is often easy for a couple to start an orgy (I go as a couple and do) but much harder as a single man to get dragged into one "
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"Fab is a strange ol' place...
Talking from experience, I've had meets with men that I considered way out of my league and I even made one wait 6 months and it was all perfectly normal and above board.
People like who they like. "
If there's one thing I've learned, when there's 30 naked people in the big bed at Libs, there is no such thing as "out of someone's league" |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun
To be fair in the Midlands we have an embarrassment of riches for clubs, where we are a drive for an hour in any direction we could be at Uniquez, Purple Mamba, Club 29, Atlantis, Liberty Elite, The Attic, Xtasia or Chameleons. We are members at most of these and it is frighteningly easy to start an orgy. If you meet with another couple and just ask the odd single to join if can have a snowball effect.
You do seem to be lucky in your part of the country. There is nothing within one hour of me. Even if there was more it is still a big time and cost commitment and a very late night. I go somewhere 1 and 1/2 hours away but it’s a big commitment to go. Most of Fab focus on private meets for this reason. I agree it is often easy for a couple to start an orgy (I go as a couple and do) but much harder as a single man to get dragged into one "
I mean, OP has two lovely clubs within travelling distance of him (and me.) You should absolutely do a road trip
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
Also, OP. She might be out of your league, but she also might be an ordinary lass sending you pictures of the time she felt good about herself and is freaking out you won’t like her.
AND pretty lasses have insecurities too.
Please update when you’ve met her? I’m invested now, I love a good story.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
one thing me and hubs have learnt over the years the longer the talk / communications take the less likely the meet is going to happen ?? the more talk the less you want to meet its not like your dating for long term partner or are you ?
also what advice can anyone give ? its your situation and hers not sure how anyone can aqdd to that ,,,,there is such a thing as over thinking it all ... if i had to speak to a guy for more than a week for a meet id be bored senseless i want fun not life stories ... just meet her if shes real she'll be there if shes a bunny boiler you'll soon find out i guess too |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"Fab is a strange ol' place...
Talking from experience, I've had meets with men that I considered way out of my league and I even made one wait 6 months and it was all perfectly normal and above board.
People like who they like.
If there's one thing I've learned, when there's 30 naked people in the big bed at Libs, there is no such thing as "out of someone's league""
oh there deffo is some whom may jump on a bed with anyone but alot wont ... i would not theres no chance someones getting anywhere near me unless i find them sexually attractive im picky with men im even more picky with women  |
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"Take a chance OP, what's the worst that can happen? Agree to meet in a club so if they don't show up you can just chat to other people, sample the glory holes and if you're lucky get dragged into a 12 person gangbang
lol you make it sounds so easy going to a club. Most don't want that and it's not easy - travel, time and cost. Actually not so easy getting involved in a 12 person gangbang either and sounds hideous - 12 person orgy on the other hand is fun
To be fair in the Midlands we have an embarrassment of riches for clubs, where we are a drive for an hour in any direction we could be at Uniquez, Purple Mamba, Club 29, Atlantis, Liberty Elite, The Attic, Xtasia or Chameleons. We are members at most of these and it is frighteningly easy to start an orgy. If you meet with another couple and just ask the odd single to join if can have a snowball effect.
You do seem to be lucky in your part of the country. There is nothing within one hour of me. Even if there was more it is still a big time and cost commitment and a very late night. I go somewhere 1 and 1/2 hours away but it’s a big commitment to go. Most of Fab focus on private meets for this reason. I agree it is often easy for a couple to start an orgy (I go as a couple and do) but much harder as a single man to get dragged into one
I mean, OP has two lovely clubs within travelling distance of him (and me.) You should absolutely do a road trip
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"one thing me and hubs have learnt over the years the longer the talk / communications take the less likely the meet is going to happen ?? the more talk the less you want to meet its not like your dating for long term partner or are you ?
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This is so true especially for couples. There are exceptions but if you don't make plans within first 1-2 months it becomes quite unlikely you will ever meet. Singles I think have more patience - my record in the past before meeting was 6 years of chatting on an off
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance.
ValleyDave - join in with the subject of the thread. It’s not good to use the thread to go back to complaining about not getting enough attention.
OP - yes be wary. But I can also see why someone attractive would want to meet you. You come across as easy-going, safe, interesting (the pirate stuff) and grounded. Expand your BDSM skills and I’ll join the queue!
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The lady I replied to had replied to a single bloke who said he wasn't in the best condition body wise .
Nothing to do with me having zero success. The lady I replied to seemed to look down on us who wernt gym fit and body beautiful. |
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Then do something about it. No one wants to meet a bag of shite so does it matter if they real.
Getting vibes that you are saying every bloke should be gym fit ,and all us dad bods who would never go anywhere a gym arnt worth a second glance.
ValleyDave - join in with the subject of the thread. It’s not good to use the thread to go back to complaining about not getting enough attention.
OP - yes be wary. But I can also see why someone attractive would want to meet you. You come across as easy-going, safe, interesting (the pirate stuff) and grounded. Expand your BDSM skills and I’ll join the queue!
Dee
Yep never misses a chance. Where's the banging head on wall gif when you need it.
The lady I replied to had replied to a single bloke who said he wasn't in the best condition body wise .
Nothing to do with me having zero success. The lady I replied to seemed to look down on us who wernt gym fit and body beautiful. "
Being brutally honest, it wouldnt matter what you looked like, your negative attitude is what's off putting...but you know this already dont you? |
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