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I joined a while ago, have had a few chats but not been able to get a meet sorted or anything. I do know someone on here, but she's on a couples profile and hubby doesn't know about me lol
Question is, is my profile okay? I've had my friend check it out, she thinks it's fine, but getting very little response to message requests and not sure what to do next. |
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From our perspective your profile is fine, but could do with brightening up with a few more pictures.
We also find it amusing that you've stated you disagree with terms and conditions that were updated five years before you opened this profile, but you had to agree to them to join the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined a while ago, have had a few chats but not been able to get a meet sorted or anything. I do know someone on here, but she's on a couples profile and hubby doesn't know about me lol
Question is, is my profile okay? I've had my friend check it out, she thinks it's fine, but getting very little response to message requests and not sure what to do next."
In my experience profile really doesn’t matter too much, it’s a numbers game and single males are on the losing side. Unless you have a niche talent or body part. If you have then my advice is to promote that aspect within your profile and hope your kinks align.
Good luck pal |
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I know you’ve said you don’t really have time for clubs but if you make the time that’s the easiest way of getting verifications. We are immediately put off by profiles with no verifications as we get a lot of messages from single guys and we’ve come across a lot who aren’t real. |
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a cock pic a big hard one catches my eye.
not sure what the ratio is between men v women and couples here but i feel the vast, vast majoirty are men. therefore, no matter what u do to your profile, you may not get a meet
try clubs and if you are well hung i am sure a cuk/couple will say hi to u |
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Profile looks ok, loose the legal mumbo jumbo at the bottom it's worthless.
Maybe more pics it's hard to get an idea of physique.
Other than that you are one of many single blokes just gotta try stand out, local socials maybe a good idea to get verified it's just a load of swingers in a pub, they are always friendly.
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"From our perspective your profile is fine, but could do with brightening up with a few more pictures.
We also find it amusing that you've stated you disagree with terms and conditions that were updated five years before you opened this profile, but you had to agree to them to join the site."
I didn't realise the T&C's bit was redundant, copied as I'd seen similar all over the place. 
I'm not one to take pics of myself usually, but I do have a few I'll look out later. |
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"I know you’ve said you don’t really have time for clubs but if you make the time that’s the easiest way of getting verifications. We are immediately put off by profiles with no verifications as we get a lot of messages from single guys and we’ve come across a lot who aren’t real. "
I get that, I'm stuck in a chicken vs egg situation lol. I have a FWB who wants to go with me, but she's taken and we can't risk local as she knows a couple of people who go, can't risk getting caught. I'll try and figure something out.  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Hi op
Bio is pretty decent so more photos smartly dressed if anything leaving the rest for the imagination as far as messages just treat people similar how you would offline in the real world that you'd probably bump into the pub/club and read their bio which may help you start the conversation that may have pulled your interest
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi op
Bio is pretty decent so more photos smartly dressed if anything leaving the rest for the imagination as far as messages just treat people similar how you would offline in the real world that you'd probably bump into the pub/club and read their bio which may help you start the conversation that may have pulled your interest
Good pal "
Luck  |
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"Hi op
Bio is pretty decent so more photos smartly dressed if anything leaving the rest for the imagination as far as messages just treat people similar how you would offline in the real world that you'd probably bump into the pub/club and read their bio which may help you start the conversation that may have pulled your interest
Good pal "
Cheers, photos will be looked out soon, and I always do try to link something in the profile if I can.
To be fair, I have had a couple of "no, thank you" messages back, at least they're letting me know |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
Why do you feel you have to go to a club with a woman who is cheating on her partner. Be a man and go on your own and keep it real rather than worry you will get caught out. Much better to feel relaxed rather than look over your shoulder knowing you are doing wrong. Be genuine and respect others is our advice   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I joined a while ago, have had a few chats but not been able to get a meet sorted or anything. I do know someone on here, but she's on a couples profile and hubby doesn't know about me lol
Question is, is my profile okay? I've had my friend check it out, she thinks it's fine, but getting very little response to message requests and not sure what to do next."
Your profiles really good I'm surprised you're not knee deep in clunge. |
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"Why do you feel you have to go to a club with a woman who is cheating on her partner. Be a man and go on your own and keep it real rather than worry you will get caught out. Much better to feel relaxed rather than look over your shoulder knowing you are doing wrong. Be genuine and respect others is our advice "
I've thought about it, but I'm usually really shy in person tbh, and we've been looking to play as a couple for a while anyways. But if I can find a free date, I'm going to try and find something I can get to. |
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"I know you’ve said you don’t really have time for clubs but if you make the time that’s the easiest way of getting verifications. We are immediately put off by profiles with no verifications as we get a lot of messages from single guys and we’ve come across a lot who aren’t real. "
With respect ,this is why blokes like myself have zero chance of success on here .not everyone is interested in going to clubs or organised socials ,so suffer from having no meet verifications, meaning a lot of people won't even give us the time of day . I would love a one on one public social meeting to see if there is a spark and attraction . |
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The best advice you can get can be boiled down to these three points.
1. Decent pics
2. Accurate thought out profile
3. Meet verifications.
The best way to get a verification here is to go to an organised social. There are loads around and more and more popping up each day!
Also look for people like me who will meet for a coffee/beer to verify you exist! Even if we’re not each other’s target audience! |
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I think your profile pic is good but I'm not keen on the other too, especially the one with a toilet and loo roll in the background.
I find your profile has some contradictions. You list safe sex as an interest but want to send a wife home full of your cum. You work practically 24/7 so can't go to clubs but could carve out time for a meet.
Could the woman you know on here give you a verification ? |
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"I know you’ve said you don’t really have time for clubs but if you make the time that’s the easiest way of getting verifications. We are immediately put off by profiles with no verifications as we get a lot of messages from single guys and we’ve come across a lot who aren’t real.
With respect ,this is why blokes like myself have zero chance of success on here .not everyone is interested in going to clubs or organised socials ,so suffer from having no meet verifications, meaning a lot of people won't even give us the time of day . I would love a one on one public social meeting to see if there is a spark and attraction ."
Dave, the best way to get a verification is to go to an organised social! Even just the once! There’s a great one in Leeds too!! |
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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
A lot of men on here seem to think that there is some magic formula, secret code or handshake that will unlock the door to getting meets while failing to realise that fab is very much like the real world in that it's all down to how attractive somebody finds you.
One person might consider you incredibly handsome whilst someone else less so.
Just because people are on fab does not mean that they're looking to hook up with anyone who asks. I mean, given the disproportionate number of men to women, can you imagine how busy the ladies of fab would be if that were the case.
You can only be yourself. Stop trying to please everyone and readjust your expectations |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
Near Clacton |
I joined a while ago, have had a few chats but not been able to get a meet sorted or anything. I do know someone on here, but she's on a couples profile and hubby doesn't know about me lol
Question is, is my profile okay? I've had my friend check it out, she thinks it's fine, but getting very little response to message requests and not sure what to do next.
Fact is you are one in millions here, and in life, single men just looking for women are in abundance. Also your profile is all about you, not what your offering the good ladies here.
It's O.K. thank me later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of men on here seem to think that there is some magic formula, secret code or handshake that will unlock the door to getting meets while failing to realise that fab is very much like the real world in that it's all down to how attractive somebody finds you.
One person might consider you incredibly handsome whilst someone else less so.
Just because people are on fab does not mean that they're looking to hook up with anyone who asks. I mean, given the disproportionate number of men to women, can you imagine how busy the ladies of fab would be if that were the case.
You can only be yourself. Stop trying to please everyone and readjust your expectations"
And a lot of men on here use the "what do you think of my profile" ploy as an underhand way of getting profile views...so many posts like this lately, desperate springs to mind  |
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"I know you’ve said you don’t really have time for clubs but if you make the time that’s the easiest way of getting verifications. We are immediately put off by profiles with no verifications as we get a lot of messages from single guys and we’ve come across a lot who aren’t real.
With respect ,this is why blokes like myself have zero chance of success on here .not everyone is interested in going to clubs or organised socials ,so suffer from having no meet verifications, meaning a lot of people won't even give us the time of day . I would love a one on one public social meeting to see if there is a spark and attraction ."
I know this is complete crap but did some research the other day to back it up. Posted it somewhere. Looked at the first 30 men near me who have verifications. Out of the the 30, 20 seemed to have been nowhere near a club or organised social - all veris were private meets, 8 had veris hidden so who knows and 2 mentioned club/organised social. I know it will vary area to area but large number of men are getting meets and veris without clubs and group socials, although obviously they help a lot if you are so minded. |
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