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Supposedly something happens but we never get told (and to be fair not sure how Admin could figure out real situation unless clear in messages). Never heard of anyone getting an timeout, ban, etc. for not showing for meets but perhaps somebody has. |
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"Supposedly something happens but we never get told (and to be fair not sure how Admin could figure out real situation unless clear in messages). Never heard of anyone getting an timeout, ban, etc. for not showing for meets but perhaps somebody has. "
Hence us asking the question. Curiosity  |
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It happens all the time. We report it but have yet to see anything happen. We just block and move on. Everyone has the right to change their mind. It’s just a shame they don’t let us know. But such is life on here. We don’t get offended by it anymore.
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"It happens all the time. We report it but have yet to see anything happen. We just block and move on. Everyone has the right to change their mind. It’s just a shame they don’t let us know. But such is life on here. We don’t get offended by it anymore.
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One of the most frustrating things about this site is the no-shows - which happens a lot. And far too many people on here are not actually interested in a meet but the idea of it and continue to waste precious time. And that's before you get to the content collectors.
Simple rules i follow to minimise disappointment. Try and have a back up plan. Make sure you make actual contact with the person or couple. Phone or otherwise. Check their verification and distance from you. You want more veris and less distance.
After all that I still get stood up with no apology or reason. Its important to not take it too personally and move on. |
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over a year ago
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I've reported a few not sure what happened you never get told. I just block and move along.
Not long ago I had arranged a meet and he waited until I was about to leave my house then he blocked me.
Such a stupid annoying thing to do. I was pretty annoyed but what can you do. |
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Apparently, this isn't a problem at all, and is VERY rare. Also, (and again 'apparently') this is YOUR fault for not being more diligent.
Disclaimer: This is not the opinions of anyone behind our profile. Click the green arrow next to our name and look at 'Agreed Meet', all will be explained... |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
the site provides the tools to meet you cannot expect admin to do anything after that everyone is responsible for themselves ... i mean think about it what can admin do ? who do they believe? .. surely people dont believe that its for admin to sort ??
its down to ourselves to sort ...me personally cant remember the last let down i had or we had but then im very sure of my / our selection process its been years since being let down and i / we meet often very often
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"the site provides the tools to meet you cannot expect admin to do anything after that everyone is responsible for themselves ... i mean think about it what can admin do ? who do they believe? .. surely people dont believe that its for admin to sort ??
its down to ourselves to sort ...me personally cant remember the last let down i had or we had but then im very sure of my / our selection process its been years since being let down and i / we meet often very often
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I agree with you. Just makes you wonder what is the point of the reporting option for didn't show up. |
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"Apparently, this isn't a problem at all, and is VERY rare. Also, (and again 'apparently') this is YOUR fault for not being more diligent.
Disclaimer: This is not the opinions of anyone behind our profile. Click the green arrow next to our name and look at 'Agreed Meet', all will be explained..."
It is rare and a few examples doesn't prove otherwise. Perhaps you would like everybody to comment on the times people did show up so we can compare? Still doesn't make your proposed solution make sense. Thought you would realise from the comments on your thread that not a lot of support for the idea. |
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"Apparently, this isn't a problem at all, and is VERY rare. Also, (and again 'apparently') this is YOUR fault for not being more diligent.
Disclaimer: This is not the opinions of anyone behind our profile. Click the green arrow next to our name and look at 'Agreed Meet', all will be explained...
It is rare and a few examples doesn't prove otherwise. Perhaps you would like everybody to comment on the times people did show up so we can compare? Still doesn't make your proposed solution make sense. Thought you would realise from the comments on your thread that not a lot of support for the idea. "
For someone who ended their comment with, " I'll say no more" you are certainly saying a lot more!
So your definition of rarity is judged by comparing one element against it's opposite?
There are over 25 million homes in the UK. Every year, there are around 27,000 house fires. That's 0.1%. makes me wonder why we have a fire service in this country?
I also note you haven't mentioned the section of my comment where it's considered the fault of the person who did turn up. |
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I suspect what many are after is removing players with a consistent pattern of behaviour. Say three strikes and you’re out. How hard is it to send a message saying, “hey, I’ve changed my mind! Have a a great time.”
We we had three send polite messages (not included in the 9 who were booked and confirmed). They will be invited to smaller/more intimate affairs. There are people behind the profiles.
Our vetting process is thorough, and we always get very positive responses about our booking and information provided (we supply what three words for parking location and door, photos of the door, specific times and numbers etc), not to mention the player s that attend.
It’s better for the site to have respectful members. Air b&b tracks cancellation rates of bookers and hosts can see what members conversion rates are before accepting a booking. I’m not saying track cancellations. Life, nerves and consent withdrawal happens and that is more than okay. Tracking no-shows would improve the site for everyone. |
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I’ve had no shows over my time on here and messaged one guy to check our meet was still on to find out he had blocked me. I always have a back up plan so my time is never wasted. I forget and move on. |
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OP to answer your original question - I have no idea what happens if you report it but my general understanding is that the site can’t do much.
On the wider question of no shows - some people seem to struggle with it an lot and others have no issue at all. I am in the later category. I always assume that if people _consistently_ have no shows then the problem lies with their selection and vetting process. If it happens occasionally then just write it off as one of those life things. |
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over a year ago
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on. |
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As with all statistics, the more exposure to a variable, the more likely it is to happen. Those who do more events/meets will, by the nature of percentages, be let down. Saying it’s rare is relative to the number of meets. If you have three meets or seven meets your chances of being let down are lower than those with more.
We have a 1/3 meet conversion, with couples/singles if we’re doing one on one/two. In group events we overbook and plan on an 80 drop-out rate. We were very lucky and happy that we only 55% drop-out.
We’re always reviewing what went right and what we can do better to improve the odds and experience for all. As such, we’ve adjusted our times for the future, as it seems to work better.
It’s all trial and error, and most of all, about having consenting and risk-aware fun! We’re absolutely delighted by those that show up. We make sure they feel valued and appreciated. Because they are. |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on. "
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you?  |
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Nothing happens in that situation.
It’s impossible to prove and could be for a million and 1 reasons so not fair to action anyway IMO.
Usually when you report someone (for something else) they usually just block you from seeing their profile.
Abusive messages get a couple of warning messages and then deleted eventually. |
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"Apparently, this isn't a problem at all, and is VERY rare. Also, (and again 'apparently') this is YOUR fault for not being more diligent.
Disclaimer: This is not the opinions of anyone behind our profile. Click the green arrow next to our name and look at 'Agreed Meet', all will be explained...
It is rare and a few examples doesn't prove otherwise. Perhaps you would like everybody to comment on the times people did show up so we can compare? Still doesn't make your proposed solution make sense. Thought you would realise from the comments on your thread that not a lot of support for the idea.
For someone who ended their comment with, " I'll say no more" you are certainly saying a lot more!
So your definition of rarity is judged by comparing one element against it's opposite?
There are over 25 million homes in the UK. Every year, there are around 27,000 house fires. That's 0.1%. makes me wonder why we have a fire service in this country?
I also note you haven't mentioned the section of my comment where it's considered the fault of the person who did turn up."
That was a different thread but you chose to drag it up here.
When people's houses start burning down when somebody doesn't show up to a meet we can reconsider your scheme and perhaps charge everybody an extra £2/month for the cost of administering the inevitable abuse of the system.
I also note you haven't mentioned the section of my comment on the almost universal lack of support for your idea.
This like the dead parrot sketch. It's a dead parrot, gone, not happening, kapoosh, finito. Have a good day. |
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By *lsiePTV/TS
over a year ago
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on. "
Because it's frustrating and makes the site worse for people who are using it as intended.
My hope for these reports is that action is taken when patterns emerge. Yeah, one report could be a misunderstanding or a genuine mistake but when they start racking up on an account I'd like the staff to consider if it's someone just here to grief. |
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I'm sure reporting no-shows would really ever do anything would it?
You can't prove it actually happened. The site isn't responsible for overseeing people arranging to meet.
Just change how you seek people maybe? We've had alot of problems with no-shows, we now only meet at clubs to stop it being a wasted evening. I'm not saying that's a solution for everyone, you have to consider what you want and what could work for you. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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ill say again i cannot remember the last time a meet did not show up thats me meeting or us meeting and know lots who are the same i have to go back 5 or 6 years to find a no show and we meet often by often i mean twice weekly at least .
if you are being let down or messed about then its time to look at yourself and your process of picking someone to meet rather than blame other because you are attracting and picking those letdowns that to me says it all if your one of those who think everyone is a goodie or deserves a meet then theres your problem your putting to much trust into people and then when it goes tits up you moan ''oh why me / us'' well sorry to say its down to you and your selection process ...people need to be more blunt and to the point be a lot more selective then you'll find the real guys and not the dreamers n wankers ....
so rather than consantly moan do something about it grow a backbone and make your selection process harder and block idiots and dreamers and then you may find things will work for you.
this scene will walk all over you if you soft |
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"ill say again i cannot remember the last time a meet did not show up thats me meeting or us meeting and know lots who are the same i have to go back 5 or 6 years to find a no show and we meet often by often i mean twice weekly at least .
if you are being let down or messed about then its time to look at yourself and your process of picking someone to meet rather than blame other because you are attracting and picking those letdowns that to me says it all if your one of those who think everyone is a goodie or deserves a meet then theres your problem your putting to much trust into people and then when it goes tits up you moan ''oh why me / us'' well sorry to say its down to you and your selection process ...people need to be more blunt and to the point be a lot more selective then you'll find the real guys and not the dreamers n wankers ....
so rather than consantly moan do something about it grow a backbone and make your selection process harder and block idiots and dreamers and then you may find things will work for you.
this scene will walk all over you if you soft "
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I have reported those who fail to show up a number of times and have no idea of the outcome...however, I do feel better having reported and blocked..
Most of them old enough to know better..
Maybe it's fear of meeting up or getting off on the chat etc I don't know, but I think it should be reported... |
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over a year ago
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Unless a member from admin was present to see someone didnt show up its ur word against theirs. Not sure much can be done if reported just block and move on |
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report no-show - i guess admin blocks their profile
people can lie re "n0-shows" just because i guess you blocked or ignored someone, so admin wont know whos telling the truth, so block is easier
people do lie and that is a fact of life |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on.
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you? "
Then why not message the admin instead of asking people who have no chance of knowing the answer lmao |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on.
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you?
Then why not message the admin instead of asking people who have no chance of knowing the answer lmao"
Because this is swinging support and advice hence us asking. Is that ok with you? |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on.
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you?
Then why not message the admin instead of asking people who have no chance of knowing the answer lmao
Because this is swinging support and advice hence us asking. Is that ok with you? "
It's fine with me that you want to waste your time as this is all you were ever going to achieve |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on.
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you?
Then why not message the admin instead of asking people who have no chance of knowing the answer lmao
Because this is swinging support and advice hence us asking. Is that ok with you?
It's fine with me that you want to waste your time as this is all you were ever going to achieve "
Wow you are argumentative, if it's such a waste of time why are you commenting. Some of us adults like to discuss things in the correct place in the forum's |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
Why should any 'action' happen ? Do you want to get lawyer onto it ?? FFS .. just move on.
We have. Just curious if action is taken over a report like that. Is that ok with you?
Then why not message the admin instead of asking people who have no chance of knowing the answer lmao
Because this is swinging support and advice hence us asking. Is that ok with you?
It's fine with me that you want to waste your time as this is all you were ever going to achieve
Wow you are argumentative, if it's such a waste of time why are you commenting. Some of us adults like to discuss things in the correct place in the forum's "
It's a waste of their time - not mine. Big difference
I've given them some constructive feedback so they can take it on board and reduce the amount of noise on the forum and we can get back to the serious stuff - fucking  |
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I've given them some constructive feedback so they can take it on board and reduce the amount of noise on the forum and we can get back to the serious stuff - fucking "
Fantastic idea. Why don't you put your comments on the various threads in the games forum too! You don't need to stop there... You can also save the time of all those in The Lounge!
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I've given them some constructive feedback so they can take it on board and reduce the amount of noise on the forum and we can get back to the serious stuff - fucking
Fantastic idea. Why don't you put your comments on the various threads in the games forum too! You don't need to stop there... You can also save the time of all those in The Lounge!
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Will have a look - thanks. |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
All that happened when I reported a profile for unsolicited abusive mail, was the site blocked each of us from viewing the other's profile. So basically, it appeared the other person had been removed, but they hadn't. I had it confirmed by friends that they were still on the site.... |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
All that happened when I reported a profile for unsolicited abusive mail, was the site blocked each of us from viewing the other's profile. So basically, it appeared the other person had been removed, but they hadn't. I had it confirmed by friends that they were still on the site.... "
You've hit the nail very firmly on the head. |
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It's sad but it's absolutely standard.
The real madness comes when they get defensive about it and then start throwing out nonsensical drivel to justify them "deciding" that you aren't for them after all when the reality is that either they are fantasists who never had any real intention of getting real or they just screwed up and can't take responsibility.
It's made us very much focus now on a small cadre of regular and reliable playmates who we know are going to show when they say they will. Every now and again we will sort of "go out to tender" on bringing new people into the fold but the drop out rate from agreed meet to actual meet is about 70% |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
All that happened when I reported a profile for unsolicited abusive mail, was the site blocked each of us from viewing the other's profile. So basically, it appeared the other person had been removed, but they hadn't. I had it confirmed by friends that they were still on the site.... "
How do you know that is all that happened? Admin doesn't just remove an account for one message unless really bad but all kinds of things they can such as message timeouts, status bans etc. Perhaps a warning and next time removed. We just don't know what happens behinds the scenes. |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?
All that happened when I reported a profile for unsolicited abusive mail, was the site blocked each of us from viewing the other's profile. So basically, it appeared the other person had been removed, but they hadn't. I had it confirmed by friends that they were still on the site....
How do you know that is all that happened? Admin doesn't just remove an account for one message unless really bad but all kinds of things they can such as message timeouts, status bans etc. Perhaps a warning and next time removed. We just don't know what happens behinds the scenes. "
What do you want to happen?
I think that’s kinda a good way of dealing with it… unless the message is horrendous and/or illegal connotations what do you actually want fab to do? |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
Probably nothing as it's getting much worse on here than when we first joined 10 years ago ! |
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over a year ago
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens? i very much doubt admin would have the time to do anything as there are so many time wasters on here they must get swamped with reports of time wasters, but i think its admins own fault,, if they had clamped down on it a few years ago this site would be so much better for the genuine users  "
And what could admin do? Theres only so much the rest is down to the individual |
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"We swear hardly anyone meets off fab now, used to be so much different years ago, so many fakes and time wasters Ehhh :/"
Totally agree with that. We’ve been on this site almost since it started and it’s gradually become a chat/wank/fantasy site. That’s ok but we generally now use another pay site for meets and it’s worked out really well for us! |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
Don’t think it would be fair unless the persons name appears multiple times or there is a full investigation by a detective as to why he didn’t turn up, anyone could just make it up if They didn’t like some one
It’s rubbish but block and move on |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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Yes action does get taken once they've investigated but I'm sure you get blocked from each other also. Honestly why would you want to continue chatting with someone like that and it saves drama.... Always try and have a (backup plan reserved) so not all lost and not dressed for nothing |
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"Yes action does get taken once they've investigated but I'm sure you get blocked from each other also. Honestly why would you want to continue chatting with someone like that and it saves drama.... Always try and have a (backup plan reserved) so not all lost and not dressed for nothing "
I think people are genuinely incquisitive as to what action is taken for this specifically. People pop up with timeouts for all kinds of things but never heard of anybody getting a timeout or other restriction for being reported for now showing up to an agreed meet. Not sure Fab can really do anything so makes me wonder why this report option is there. |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
Not really worth it.
As about 75% of people on here are dreamers or timewasters the percentage of no shows is high.
We tend to go to socials, clubs, private parties and swingers holidays as you can be sure of a good mix of people.
To be fair, we have had only one no show but we do tend to meet for a drink and chat in a pub on initial meets so if its a no show we can have a nice night together in a pub but we always need to have a chat on phone before entertaining a meet.
Have fun. xx |
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By *ary69321Man
over a year ago
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I arranged to meet someone, I drove to their place, they said they would wait outside, I waited about 25 minutes and they didn't show up, I never reported, they sent me a message later, all it said was hey daddy, no explanation at all. |
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"Apparently, this isn't a problem at all, and is VERY rare. Also, (and again 'apparently') this is YOUR fault for not being more diligent.
Disclaimer: This is not the opinions of anyone behind our profile. Click the green arrow next to our name and look at 'Agreed Meet', all will be explained..."
Well put |
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By *MCOUPLECouple
over a year ago
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Our last 3 arranged meets were like this. All ghosted or no shows. The one before that was openly sharing pics of others and had drugs in their pics. Should have seen the red flags a mile away but we didn’t.
Finding it extremely frustrating trying to organise anything in the north now and even more so because we are both straight.
Perseverance is not being rewarded. |
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One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on !  .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days) |
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Years ago someone I had messaged with wanted to meet for a coffee and cake meet..I asked them to turn up, take a photo of themselves with the background showing.They did that, and I knew then they had turned up.So I then met them.
Before that I had them text/message to say when they were half way, and where they were..always worked.No time was wasted. |
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"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)"
How after the first time being ghosted did you go back for more, I'm sorry you guys but you've only got yourself to blame for the other two, don't need admin to sort that one |
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"Years ago someone I had messaged with wanted to meet for a coffee and cake meet..I asked them to turn up, take a photo of themselves with the background showing.They did that, and I knew then they had turned up.So I then met them.
Before that I had them text/message to say when they were half way, and where they were..always worked.No time was wasted."
Did you reply with the same photos and half way messages ? |
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"Years ago someone I had messaged with wanted to meet for a coffee and cake meet..I asked them to turn up, take a photo of themselves with the background showing.They did that, and I knew then they had turned up.So I then met them.
Before that I had them text/message to say when they were half way, and where they were..always worked.No time was wasted.
Did you reply with the same photos and half way messages ?"
No as they travelled to Me.I stepped out of My home and walked.They already knew what I looked like as we video called many times.I text to say ''on My way'' |
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"Years ago someone I had messaged with wanted to meet for a coffee and cake meet..I asked them to turn up, take a photo of themselves with the background showing.They did that, and I knew then they had turned up.So I then met them.
Before that I had them text/message to say when they were half way, and where they were..always worked.No time was wasted.
Did you reply with the same photos and half way messages ?
No as they travelled to Me.I stepped out of My home and walked.They already knew what I looked like as we video called many times.I text to say ''on My way''"
Sounds like a great way to do it |
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"Years ago someone I had messaged with wanted to meet for a coffee and cake meet..I asked them to turn up, take a photo of themselves with the background showing.They did that, and I knew then they had turned up.So I then met them.
Before that I had them text/message to say when they were half way, and where they were..always worked.No time was wasted.
Did you reply with the same photos and half way messages ?
No as they travelled to Me.I stepped out of My home and walked.They already knew what I looked like as we video called many times.I text to say ''on My way''
Sounds like a great way to do it "
Always works for Me.I meet respectful genuine peeps. |
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"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)
How after the first time being ghosted did you go back for more, I'm sorry you guys but you've only got yourself to blame for the other two, don't need admin to sort that one "
Lol you assume so little of us. THEY got back in touch with us, made their believable excuse and even gave us their phone number so we could text each other !?... Then it happened again, and again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)
How after the first time being ghosted did you go back for more, I'm sorry you guys but you've only got yourself to blame for the other two, don't need admin to sort that one
Lol you assume so little of us. THEY got back in touch with us, made their believable excuse and even gave us their phone number so we could text each other !?... Then it happened again, and again."
I don't assume little, by me saying you went back for more, my wording wasn't correct but by listening to their BS twice more says it all
Sorry but what I first said still stands |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)
How after the first time being ghosted did you go back for more, I'm sorry you guys but you've only got yourself to blame for the other two, don't need admin to sort that one
Lol you assume so little of us. THEY got back in touch with us, made their believable excuse and even gave us their phone number so we could text each other !?... Then it happened again, and again.
I don't assume little, by me saying you went back for more, my wording wasn't correct but by listening to their BS twice more says it all
Sorry but what I first said still stands "
So what's your point? If they make excuses once, just don't believe them because they're always lying? No benefit of the doubt at all?
It's not like they didn't make any effort by, let's say, giving out their phone number or something. |
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"I am pretty sure the reports do absolutely nothing, but they give some sort of satisfaction to the stood up party."
Exactly this lol.
Plan/ do your research better…. Never been stood up or had anyone not be/ look exactly as I expect cos I do my homework before hand.
People don’t have to meet on here, even if they say they want too.
Could be a million reasons someone doesn’t turn up - not any other user or admins responsibility to disprove them |
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"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)
How after the first time being ghosted did you go back for more, I'm sorry you guys but you've only got yourself to blame for the other two, don't need admin to sort that one
Lol you assume so little of us. THEY got back in touch with us, made their believable excuse and even gave us their phone number so we could text each other !?... Then it happened again, and again.
I don't assume little, by me saying you went back for more, my wording wasn't correct but by listening to their BS twice more says it all
Sorry but what I first said still stands
So what's your point? If they make excuses once, just don't believe them because they're always lying? No benefit of the doubt at all?
It's not like they didn't make any effort by, let's say, giving out their phone number or something. "
Maybe read the post properly, if I was ghosted before the meet then chances are they won't turn up, coming up with some BS excuse is a red flag.
For me and many others, on the day there will be communication, on the way there would be communication, if those don't happen they probably won't turn up. So that happens the first time.
If it happens a second time and then a third, give your head a wobble |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"I was about meet a lady this week we had been talking for a few days and the day came for our meet,but sadly she had disappeared of the site before we met."
Awe
She might have found the site too much for her/him. A user can be genuine but be put off by many others |
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"One couple let us down THREE times, ghosting before meets then making wild excuses. Amazing how much effort they put into keeping us hanging on ! .... YES ADMIN COULD DO SOMETHING, simply take the report and check the messages. If something is clearly out of order send them a warning and add a note to the account. If similar reports start stacking up against them then delete their account (no refund) and block their ip address for a few months ! (it is possible and admin used to do it in the old days)"
After the first time this is entirely upon you.
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"I was about meet a lady this week we had been talking for a few days and the day came for our meet,but sadly she had disappeared of the site before we met."
It won’t have been a woman behind the account. |
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"If you report someone for the above does anyone know if any action is taken? If so may we ask what exactly happens?"
I'm sur I read that they put a block in place to prevent you both from interacting with each other in the future...
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