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"regular is difficult. we are still looking for potential locals..
Where are you guys from ?
I'm from my mom..I was there spot on 9 months
Ha ha wasn’t asking you lol x x "
Oh my dearest apologies your highness how very ill assumed of me.  |
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"regular is difficult. we are still looking for potential locals..
Where are you guys from ?
I'm from my mom..I was there spot on 9 months
Ha ha wasn’t asking you lol x x
Oh my dearest apologies your highness how very ill assumed of me. "
It’s all god and thanks for recognising me as your kink lol x |
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I can’t believe it’s so hard to find someone who you want to have regular but casual sex with. Someone who you have a connection with but won’t want it to develop into a relationship where you would have all the attendant responsibilities and commitments.
Honestly, you would think women would be queuing up for that sort of arrangement.
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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago
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They are out there. But not a lot on this site. Many females who are single are really happy just doing their own thing.
You also got to think... what if you do find someone who wants that and then further down the line... the feels creep in and then shit happens and you are back to square one?
Too difficult to navigate that without some bumps. |
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over a year ago
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"I can’t believe it’s so hard to find someone who you want to have regular but casual sex with. Someone who you have a connection with but won’t want it to develop into a relationship where you would have all the attendant responsibilities and commitments.
Honestly, you would think women would be queuing up for that sort of arrangement.
Mr DD"
we most definitely are up for such an arrangement, just most the men that want this arrangement are utter shite in the sack/ self serving lovers... so why would one want something like that regularly ? It's got to me good for me to want it on a regular basis or at least trying to be .
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"I can’t believe it’s so hard to find someone who you want to have regular but casual sex with. Someone who you have a connection with but won’t want it to develop into a relationship where you would have all the attendant responsibilities and commitments.
Honestly, you would think women would be queuing up for that sort of arrangement.
Mr DD"
we most definitely are up for such an arrangement, just most the men that want this arrangement are utter shite in the sack/ self serving lovers... so why would one want something like that regularly ? It's got to be good for me to want it on a regular basis or at least trying to be .
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"they can get clingy and attached.. not good.. but fun at the beginning"
Men? Yes, quite a few I've crossed paths with seem to want to either only be the one person you're meeting, or want to set up a cpls profile, or ask way too many Q's about what you're up to in your free time  |
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"they can get clingy and attached.. not good.. but fun at the beginning
Men? Yes, quite a few I've crossed paths with seem to want to either only be the one person you're meeting, or want to set up a cpls profile, or ask way too many Q's about what you're up to in your free time "
FWB the F is for Friend and you'd like to think that friends do enquire what you've been doing in your life.
I'm being flippant I know. I've had a FWB a long time ago but she ended up wanting more.
I'm older and wiser now do I'd see the signs more.
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"they can get clingy and attached.. not good.. but fun at the beginning
Men? Yes, quite a few I've crossed paths with seem to want to either only be the one person you're meeting, or want to set up a cpls profile, or ask way too many Q's about what you're up to in your free time "
Doubt that .. there's thousands of men on here who don't give a shite about that.. they just want sex .. it's the women who want to have what is actually a relationship but not calling it a relationship.. .. |
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"they can get clingy and attached.. not good.. but fun at the beginning
Men? Yes, quite a few I've crossed paths with seem to want to either only be the one person you're meeting, or want to set up a cpls profile, or ask way too many Q's about what you're up to in your free time
FWB the F is for Friend and you'd like to think that friends do enquire what you've been doing in your life.
I'm being flippant I know. I've had a FWB a long time ago but she ended up wanting more.
I'm older and wiser now do I'd see the signs more.
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I have no issues being friends with someone, in fact it's my preference with someone I'm hopping into bed with. I was being flippant too, more in relation to the assumption made that women tend to get overly clingy, or too attached made by a previous poster 
Men, seem to often do that too was the point I was making... Guess we're all just human at the end of the day |
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A few years ago I had a pleasure of meeting up wotg a couple they lived in reasonable driving distance
We all had an awsome connection and lots of filthy fun
Between the 3 of us or just me and male
Sometimes another male joined in
He was a fab chef too and cooked us an awsome curry for after
Hot tub drinks and curry
Often went to Spain for a long weekend to their Appartment.
Was fantastic whilst it all lasted since then I've not amd will not ever again |
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"A few years ago I had a pleasure of meeting up wotg a couple they lived in reasonable driving distance
We all had an awsome connection and lots of filthy fun
Between the 3 of us or just me and male
Sometimes another male joined in
He was a fab chef too and cooked us an awsome curry for after
Hot tub drinks and curry
Often went to Spain for a long weekend to their Appartment.
Was fantastic whilst it all lasted since then I've not amd will not ever again "
Not even a male couple? |
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"A few years ago I had a pleasure of meeting up wotg a couple they lived in reasonable driving distance
We all had an awsome connection and lots of filthy fun
Between the 3 of us or just me and male
Sometimes another male joined in
He was a fab chef too and cooked us an awsome curry for after
Hot tub drinks and curry
Often went to Spain for a long weekend to their Appartment.
Was fantastic whilst it all lasted since then I've not amd will not ever again
Not even a male couple?"
Now a male couple .. where do I sign up
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"they can get clingy and attached.. not good.. but fun at the beginning
Men? Yes, quite a few I've crossed paths with seem to want to either only be the one person you're meeting, or want to set up a cpls profile, or ask way too many Q's about what you're up to in your free time
Doubt that .. there's thousands of men on here who don't give a shite about that.. they just want sex .. it's the women who want to have what is actually a relationship but not calling it a relationship.. .. "
So, thousands of men wanting a shag only then?... Not a FWB arrangement which is what the thread is about? |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. "
I found my Stag and love of my life on Bumble! Honestly, a total game-changer for me. He is incredible. Did I give him more time and emotional effort? yes. The value proposition there is very different to here. I was looking for a life partner on there, where other platforms (Tinder etc), it’’s more transactional. In here I find it amazing for finding lifestyle friends and connections. I love Fab, but it’s not where I’d be for a life partner or just fucking for sure. There’s way better places for that. The platform absolutely has an anchoring effect on the output and effort of the individuals on it, in my opinion (and observation).
IMO go where the value prop is right for the activity of those on it. Xx Prof |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
Stop looking.
Then it will happen "
This is so true, we spent best part of 7 years looking for the impossible and then one evening in a club it just happened… |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely.
I found my Stag and love of my life on Bumble! Honestly, a total game-changer for me. He is incredible. Did I give him more time and emotional effort? yes. The value proposition there is very different to here. I was looking for a life partner on there, where other platforms (Tinder etc), it’’s more transactional. In here I find it amazing for finding lifestyle friends and connections. I love Fab, but it’s not where I’d be for a life partner or just fucking for sure. There’s way better places for that. The platform absolutely has an anchoring effect on the output and effort of the individuals on it, in my opinion (and observation).
IMO go where the value prop is right for the activity of those on it. Xx Prof"
Love this. Gutted santa never brought me a naughty but nice gf this year xx |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ? "
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate . |
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We’re open to a female fwb situation, to meet both or either of us separately. Maybe it’s a poly arrangement we’re seeking, who knows where it might go.
We’ve had no trouble meeting ladies single or married, and after a couple of laps around the sun in the swinging scene we’re looking for more than sex.
No rush we’ll see what happens xx |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate ."
Well we all know why! |
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Patience and perseverance is absolutely key.
I have a met a number of fwbs over the years - in different countries - on fab. They don't last forever but just enjoy the time you have and been thankful.
It will take time to meet a fwb. The older you get the harder it is - well that's what I've found. It also depends where you live! Kent is a bit of a desert. Southern Spain amazing.
Try some other sites too. Fetlife is good for the USA
And just perservere. Try hard not to be pushy and depereate either |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!"
That's easy to say when you have 107 meet verifications with respect. We arnt all as lucky as you. |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!"
With respect , we can't all be in the lucky few percent of single blokes who get all the meets . I'm happy that you have been as successful as you have been ,but the vast majority of us will never even get even a social meet on here . |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!"
All....I don't. Please enlighten me. Genuine here not being facetious. |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!
With respect , we can't all be in the lucky few percent of single blokes who get all the meets . I'm happy that you have been as successful as you have been ,but the vast majority of us will never even get even a social meet on here . "
Well the OP seems to have found someone now, so perhaps he could enlighten other guys who are struggling how he did it?  |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ? "
I have tried too, even on here. It’s so hard as the usual vanilla sites don’t have a category for us.
I am still searching and maybe luck will change. |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate ."
Fab ain't gonny serve a woman up to you on a plate. You need to put yourself out there. Have you changed tactics since you came back with a positive attitude  |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!
That's easy to say when you have 107 meet verifications with respect. We arnt all as lucky as you."
Having good photos, a positive and informative bio and going to clubs isn't luck. |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Fab ain't gonny serve a woman up to you on a plate. You need to put yourself out there. Have you changed tactics since you came back with a positive attitude "
I have been positively looking for a social meet ,but no luck what so ever . I have been checking meets that people in my area advertise ,but people either want couples , gym fit or ,the couples/women who post meets always want group social meet ups , So I don't fit their criteria . |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!
That's easy to say when you have 107 meet verifications with respect. We arnt all as lucky as you.
Having good photos, a positive and informative bio and going to clubs isn't luck."
Thank you for your reply .I hope you have had a good christmas. I do the best I can with my photos and bio . I have re written it so many times ,but alas , with the same results. I keep looking for local members who are advertising social meets ,but sadly they are always either group socials or club meets . |
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"Love to find a partner in crime here seem to have no luck so ?
I've been trying for a year and a half ,but sod all luck . I havnt even managed a social meet in all the time I've been on here . Good luck anyway mate .
Well we all know why!
This is the truth of it at least how it looks. If all us perfectly decent but not modelesque looks were to put up loads of fake pictures of us we'd no doubt get plenty chat.. internet is the shallowest of places to find someone and this place is the shallowest site of them all. Tbh it's a swinger's site first and foremost so id not expect much in terms of dating. Best to use tinder or the like way way more chance of meeting a sexy woman on there every bit as deviant or sexy or seeking NSA as half the women on here.
With respect , we can't all be in the lucky few percent of single blokes who get all the meets . I'm happy that you have been as successful as you have been ,but the vast majority of us will never even get even a social meet on here . "
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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago
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these forums paint a very unrealitic view of the scene as a whole women and couples will tell you its easy to find regular on these forums but they are very much in the minority with these forms being tiny themselves.
the brutal truth is men wanting to swing are on a scene where 95% will fail thats just normal swinging fb/fwb will be even harder for men 99% fail and those looking from dating 99.99% will fail.
just because a few on a forun tell you the found it and they are couples and women means nothing as men on this scene are in a very very different boat, and away from the forum with the bulk of swinging couples and women you'll acttually find that couples and women find fb/fwb extreamely hard to find one down to attraction and two getting on.
its a fact nothing on this scene for most men is easy and that how this scene has been for a long long time |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF"
Im looking on here as i dont want to do vanilla dating. I enjoy mfm situations when in a relationship and it doesnt go down well mentioning it on a tinder date. |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF
Im looking on here as i dont want to do vanilla dating. I enjoy mfm situations when in a relationship and it doesnt go down well mentioning it on a tinder date."
Beg to differ. Far more women on regular dating sites that are into exactly all these kinks you just need to sense the subtleties and be smart about the chat and timing. Way more success than on here. |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF"
I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF
I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
They're only on Tinder cos they haven't heard of Fab. There are lonely men and women everywhere looking for relationships.
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF
I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
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You must have had a different tinder to me! Most of the women I met were weird! |
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I’m hoping to find a relationship but trying here as well as tinder etc as ideally would like a partner that is active in the swing scene and would like to remain active but might also want a relationship. I’m thinking will attend club meets too but would just be to socialise as I’m looking for a stag/vixen relationship in the sense that I want to be monogamous and not play but have a partner that plays and meets guys. I thought this would be quite sought after by single woman who enjoy the scene but it’s tough going! |
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I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
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What a shame! You seem exactly what we’re looking for  xx |
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I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
What a shame! You seem exactly what we’re looking for xx"
But you've blocked single guys from messaging you. |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF
I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
You must have had a different tinder to me! Most of the women I met were weird!"
Aren't we all weird in our own way?
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely. agree fully on that or POF
I found most blokes on tinder/bumble just want a quick fuck every few weeks which isn't fwb to me or a video call so they can have a 3 mins wank, that's doesn't do anything for me. And if a female mentions swinging/mfm etc, then she is a slag.
You must have had a different tinder to me! Most of the women I met were weird!
Aren't we all weird in our own way?
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I kinda mean they had few social skills and one was definitely psychotic! |
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Good thread. I’m after the same but better still someone long term who enjoys the scene too. I’ve had a couple of ongoing things with couples from here but fem wise it’s much easier finding someone on POF, Match etc but rarely anyone into the scene and I’d prefer more than vanilla now.
Tactic this year is put more effort going to clubs to try and find someone but it can be soul destroying at clubs as a single guy. |
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"I’m hoping to find a relationship but trying here as well as tinder etc as ideally would like a partner that is active in the swing scene and would like to remain active but might also want a relationship. I’m thinking will attend club meets too but would just be to socialise as I’m looking for a stag/vixen relationship in the sense that I want to be monogamous and not play but have a partner that plays and meets guys. I thought this would be quite sought after by single woman who enjoy the scene but it’s tough going! "
You are telling me, i want exactly the same and stag/vixen. |
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Am confused, just had a message off a woman on here who offered something exciting, said you could share me with black men, i said that sounds a bit kinky then she replied and said iv got an attitude and blocked me. Some strange people on this site i tell you. Didnt realise finding things kinky and liking a suggestion would get you blocked or meant you had an attitude. |
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"Looking in the wrong place mate. Try tinder or bumble .. genuinely.
I found my Stag and love of my life on Bumble! Honestly, a total game-changer for me. He is incredible. Did I give him more time and emotional effort? yes. The value proposition there is very different to here. I was looking for a life partner on there, where other platforms (Tinder etc), it’’s more transactional. In here I find it amazing for finding lifestyle friends and connections. I love Fab, but it’s not where I’d be for a life partner or just fucking for sure. There’s way better places for that. The platform absolutely has an anchoring effect on the output and effort of the individuals on it, in my opinion (and observation).
IMO go where the value prop is right for the activity of those on it. Xx Prof"
Sounds like you guys have hit the jackpot. This is exactly what i crave |
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