FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Fabswingers profile is honesty the best policy
Fabswingers profile is honesty the best policy
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Be honest so people can make an informed opinion at the start rather than at whatever point you decide to mention your preference.
Ultimately, there are plenty of people that will bareback so just focus on them rather than those that won't. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Isnt this a follow up to your thread last week where you posting moaning no one would meet you because your "cuddly" but the real reason was your profile was littered with requirements people just wouldnt do (bareback only etc) which you have now removed ?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
Retirement Village |
"I think you should be honest
Better to be safe than sorry!"
Be honest so your playmates know what to expect
Or
Lie and potentially have issues when you meet people which could cause problems at a meet.
I'd stick to being honest as that way you all know what to expect when you meet  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Always better to be honest on your profile and you will meet the right people for you both nothing worse than meeting someone and you know they have lied on there profile it does not make a good start xxx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Be honest so people can make an informed opinion at the start rather than at whatever point you decide to mention your preference.
Ultimately, there are plenty of people that will bareback so just focus on them rather than those that won't."
This! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We are honest on our profile but I think it is hindering our chances of meets should we embellish the truth"
When you say 'embelish the truth' what are you referring to? is it age or smoking or something like that?
What is it that you think is hindering your chance of meets? x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just be honest. It's the only way. At the end of the day at some point you have to be truthful, so you might as well start as you mean to go on.
People will be interested in you. Just give them a chance. Just because not everyone likes your likes dont lose heart.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Honesty is the best policy, as others say, but you you have no obligation to tell everybody in this world everything about you, so I'd share appropriately.
My gut feel is that your physical selves can be revealed via descriptive info, as well as photos, and your sexual interests can be included via the lists options, as well as covered in the written part, where you can cover what you're looking for in others, as well as what you really enjoy. Obviously many of us like varied things, depending on the company we're in, and so it's probably useful to be explicit about those things that you're fixed upon, and also state how open you are.
I haven't read your profile, so apologise if your profile already does this. Good luck!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Having a disability doesnt mean people wont like you. And if you want bareback stick with your convictions. It isnt for everyone but if thats your choice thats what it is.
Ive learnt that not everyone here will like you, just be you and make the most of who you are and what you want.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
honesty...
Im totaly straight but I know if I say I am bi [like a lot of men d ,to get an invite] pmsl
I would get raise in my meet ratios and get more invites but then what do you do? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Honesty goes a long way. Liars always get found out in the end.
If ppl can't like you for who and what you are, do you really want to meet them anyway?
Lying or omitting important info to snag a meet is just as bad and not fair on the person who thinks you are genuinely honest.
Just be yourself and let ppl decide if your for them or not !! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
hi honesty ?
this is an absolute no brainer for us , u have 2b totally honest!!
you are what you are there's no point in embellishing the truth u will be found out !!
there are to many fake profiles on here and if genuine people start tweeking there profiles as well it will be a scenario where some people will just give up !!!
stay true to who and what ur and the right people will come along . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If you're struggling for meets then perhaps rewrite your profile trying to be positive and light-hearted.
If there are sensitive things you don't want to say then don't but do mention that you like a good chat, either online, on the phone or in person before any play so you can establish boundaries.
If you do prefer bareback (some do and this site is for everyone) then don't click on safe sex in likes.
Lying on your profile to get more meets might get the meets but will also lead to frustration, anger and abandoned meets as people will leave if you are not as described. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Only if you are homicidle.maniac,,ps little white lies are ok"
Like the guy who used a pic that was 5 years old but it was ok cos it was still him? Except he'd put 4 stone on. 
Omission is ok, outright lie no. Omission can be remedied by good communication.
Outright lies will be found out and engender bad feelings and resentment. Oh, and walk outs from your carefully planned meet when the hotel is paid for and the bubbly chilling and leave you all alone with noone to play with and noone replying to your hastily posted meet now. 
I know this because I've walked away from a few meets when the other has turned our to be not as advertised. Then I get the pleading messages, the begging messages rounded off by the fuck you messages. And they have papered the site with meet requests in the meantime.
Liars never prosper. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If you're having to lie to get meets that basically means you could be meeting people that wouldn't ordinarily want to meet you. Sod that !
If people can't accept YOU for YOU l, do you really want to meet them? We wouldn't. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *enguy30Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"We are honest on our profile but I think it is hindering our chances of meets should we embellish the truth"
I'm the same. The fact I tell everyone I have a partner etc seems to hinder my chances. I just get labeled as another cheating bloke even tho I'm verified and I put our couple profile name on my own profile!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Too much honesty can be bad. I would for instance just say "wont do crowds" the why you dont is your business until you know someone. I can understand wanting to be clear enough so that people have realistic expectations, at the same time people might avoid too much frankness just to skirt what they think may be akward. Dont lie, but dont make an issue you may have a focal point either. Its subtle, but important. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
