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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd meet you OP. Fairly decent profile.
Cannot accom is a red flag to many as it implies you're cheating but there can be other reasons for this. You have a good face pic up.
The reality is that you're one message of many in a woman's inbox. Your message really needs to shine.
Best of luck! Xx |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
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Your status of ANY woman available for fun.....
And to get your verification, sounds a bit desperate.... I doubt it would make the woman you meet feel particularly special when it is put like that.
Also remember that no one here has asked you to message them, so they don't owe you anything if they do. |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
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"Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou "
Unfortunately no one owes you a reply, help or their time via private messages, assuming that's how you're communicating as this is your one and only forum post.
It's not ignorance. |
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Ignorant of what?
Sometimes you will be what someone is after, sometimes you won’t be. Most people will check a profile before opening a message and if there are hard limits there (eg smoking, inability to accommodate without a reason etc etc) then it would be a waste of time reading the message.
And before someone chimes in that it’s only polite to send a reply - more often than not it ends up in an annoying ping pong of why I said no, which can turn nasty - so as per the rules, no reply = no. (And that’s before we take number of messages received per day into account.) |
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All fine and well stating what you want, but the reality is that what you're looking for (stretching) is probably more reserved for people in established relationships etc.
I doubt many women are going to message you because they will assume they're going to get ripped apart on the first date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neuro diverse here, ADHD wouldn't normally cause a problem with reading.
Still, there is a lot of good advice here.
Swinging isn't for everyone, and its a realisation that single men have to work hard, to be noticed and to be trusted at times.
All the best,
Mark |
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"Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou "
I think you are searching for a small niche of ladies you want to use toys that are too big for them and to be stretched with fingers. Most are going to be wary of that especially first up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As soon as I got to the part about setting challenges by using toys that are too big I stopped reading.
Sorry but even if a woman was into that it’s something they’d only feel safe doing with a trusted person.
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By *unchalMan
over a year ago
Dartford |
"Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou "
I think the post title is a problem. And the stretching stuff. I imagine you might get there with someone but it is unlikely they are going to want to risk it with a stranger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It comes across you think like any women here will go near you when infact there are thousands of other options here.
The whole stretching part of your profile is a massive turn off to a large section of females here so you are really limiting yourself.
Good luck to you OP. |
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It’s not ignorant if someone chooses not to reply to your messages if they ain’t interested .
I’ve read through your profile and the bio would put me off because it seems to be about you and what you’d do to the female ie the stretching comment perhaps the female doesn’t want stretched .
I’d say have a think about rewriting your bio and rethink your approach to other members . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Given that I'm the only one that's posted anything positively "nice" to you in response and you've not responded... is this not what you're accusing others of?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou "
You need to be clear on what advice you want |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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its not Ignorant if nobody is not attracted to you ?? yet of course ... or someone could say your Ignorant for not understanding what swinging is if your expecting everyone to jump when you message
fact is nobody owe you anything nada nothing its a swinging site not a oh we will fuck anything site
add in to that that 95% of the site is men possibly more youll see that for alot on men it will be impossible |
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My advice would be to check out some other profiles see how there write up is. Aim it at the people you'd like to meet take out the stretching stuff that isn't a turn on for most.
Most importantly don't expect every one to want to jump into your pants on command. Maybe get some pics that are in focus and not blurry.
And really dude just put in the work start chatting in the forums go to clubs attend a social or 2. You don't get anything here for free meets take time effort and patience. And when you do get a reply don't go bombarding them with messages if they don't reply straight away. Every one has a life away from fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given that I'm the only one that's posted anything positively "nice" to you in response and you've not responded... is this not what you're accusing others of? "
Hi Michaela,
I will reply to you. 
Agree, it is quite ignorant for him not to reply.
Have a happy hump day, nearly weekend. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given that I'm the only one that's posted anything positively "nice" to you in response and you've not responded... is this not what you're accusing others of?
Hi Michaela,
I will reply to you.
Agree, it is quite ignorant for him not to reply.
Have a happy hump day, nearly weekend. x"
Note to self. Do not drink water while reading this post. Literally spat all my water out from laughing so hard |
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The fact you would want to stretch my vag to accomodate the QE2 is very off putting  . Your bio sounds like it's all about your pleasure and not the ladies. Just because some ladies like very big cock does not mean they want to be used like a glove ( you fit four fingers and a thumb in a glove ) women are not sex toys for you to use abd abuse Op. Think on it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given that I'm the only one that's posted anything positively "nice" to you in response and you've not responded... is this not what you're accusing others of?
Hi Michaela,
I will reply to you.
Agree, it is quite ignorant for him not to reply.
Have a happy hump day, nearly weekend. x"
Awwwww thank you xxxx  |
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The amount of folk esp single males moaning about no messages etc like the original poster is doing.
Do not take fab serious its fantastic fun if lucky I been swinging long time.
Respect and not pretending to put on a false front is essential. |
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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
I suggest you familiarise yourself with site FAQs OP as the non replying to messages is covered there. A non reply should be taken as a 'no thank you'
Nobody has asked you to contact them and nobody owes you a reply.
Tell me, do you phone up all the takeaways that drop their leaglets through your door just to tell them you're not interested?
No, thought not.
You're just coming across as somewhat entitled |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thankyou for your honest advice, and i apologise for the lack of replies. I didn't know this thread was here and my original message has been misconstrued.
I like to think I'm not entitled and am sincerely if I've come across as such |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Welcoming and helpful to me would be as basic as guiding me through this website when I've reached out as I'm clearly thick lol.
I'm sorry what does OP stand for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Welcoming and helpful to me would be as basic as guiding me through this website when I've reached out as I'm clearly thick lol.
I'm sorry what does OP stand for?"
Original Poster. The one who started the thread.
Well done for having the stones to return to this one - respect xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Absolutely understandable and i would never want the attention of a lady who isn't attracted to me. I can't imagen anything worse and despise men like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thankyou very much for you message. I completely agree with you and thankyou for your feedback. I'll have a look at my profile and try to come across less intimidating and explain myself better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's brilliant advice. Thankyou Mark
I apologise for my delayed response.
My ADHD Doesn't impede me reading but it does tend to make me jump to the end of any situation and fill on the blanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thats not atall how i want to be seen or how i meant to come across.
I didn't mean to title a thread as i did and basically got confused.
You're correct and thankyou for taking time out to put me straight.
I hope you have a lovely weekend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I really didn't mean to come across like that but i see what you mean!!
Definitely more about her pleasure for me but thankyou for your message, i really appreciate it! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am such a fucking bell end!! How do i get notifications from this thread
You can't get notifications when people comment on your posts"
Well that's frustrating but a great bit of info to have. Thankyou!! |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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"Thankyou!!
Hi
If you use the reply and quote per comment it's easier to understand whom you are replying to
Thanks bud. Feel like a right tit  "
I think most people make this mistake in the beginning |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Welcoming and helpful to me would be as basic as guiding me through this website when I've reached out as I'm clearly thick lol.
I'm sorry what does OP stand for?
Original Poster. The one who started the thread.
Thankyou! I really appreciate it. Alot of lessons learnt on this day! X
Well done for having the stones to return to this one - respect xx"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Neuro diverse here, ADHD wouldn't normally cause a problem with reading.
Still, there is a lot of good advice here.
Swinging isn't for everyone, and its a realisation that single men have to work hard, to be noticed and to be trusted at times.
All the best,
Mark"
Thankyou so much for the advice. I struggle with my adhd in a sense that i jump ahead and fill in the gaps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suggest you familiarise yourself with site FAQs OP as the non replying to messages is covered there. A non reply should be taken as a 'no thank you'
Nobody has asked you to contact them and nobody owes you a reply.
Tell me, do you phone up all the takeaways that drop their leaglets through your door just to tell them you're not interested?
No, thought not.
You're just coming across as somewhat entitled"
Thankyou for your honest advice, and i apologise for the lack of replies. I didn't know this thread was here and my original message has been misconstrued.
I like to think I'm not entitled and am sincerely if I've come across as such |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's brilliant advice. Thankyou Mark
I apologise for my delayed response.
My ADHD Doesn't impede me reading but it does tend to make me jump to the end of any situation and fill on the blanks"
I have had to learn with my autism that how I see things, isn't always how they were intended.
You'd do well to read "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters.
It will help you rethink how you handle some situations... where the chimp part of your brain, verses the human / computer part, leaps in first.
All the best, as others have said it takes some "stones" to return to this thread.
Kind regards
M of M and M |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had to learn with my autism that how I see things, isn't always how they were intended.
You'd do well to read "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters.
It will help you rethink how you handle some situations... where the chimp part of your brain, verses the human / computer part, leaps in first.
All the best, as others have said it takes some "stones" to return to this thread.
Kind regards
M of M and M"
Thanks, I’ll be reading that too.
Op if it helps I think people look at fab all wrong.
Try and imagine it’s a massive pub full of people chatting in groups and you know no one. There’s no seats left and 100s of blokes walking round trying to bag a seat by a lady.
If you want one of those seats offered to you you really have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had to learn with my autism that how I see things, isn't always how they were intended.
You'd do well to read "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters.
It will help you rethink how you handle some situations... where the chimp part of your brain, verses the human / computer part, leaps in first.
All the best, as others have said it takes some "stones" to return to this thread.
Kind regards
M of M and M
Thanks, I’ll be reading that too.
Op if it helps I think people look at fab all wrong.
Try and imagine it’s a massive pub full of people chatting in groups and you know no one. There’s no seats left and 100s of blokes walking round trying to bag a seat by a lady.
If you want one of those seats offered to you you really have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination."
Brilliant way of picturing it. Very analytical |
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"Good morning. I seem to be having troube in the sence of no one is very welcoming or helpful no matter how polite i am. Please feel free to read through my emails.
Some advice would a long way here, thankyou "
Just be yourself and know your polite yourself if people aren’t kind then it shows what type of person they are x |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
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I have had to learn with my autism that how I see things, isn't always how they were intended.
You'd do well to read "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters.
It will help you rethink how you handle some situations... where the chimp part of your brain, verses the human / computer part, leaps in first.
All the best, as others have said it takes some "stones" to return to this thread.
Kind regards
M of M and M
Thanks, I’ll be reading that too.
Op if it helps I think people look at fab all wrong.
Try and imagine it’s a massive pub full of people chatting in groups and you know no one. There’s no seats left and 100s of blokes walking round trying to bag a seat by a lady.
If you want one of those seats offered to you you really have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination."
Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination. |
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Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination. "
He could, but it's not. it's a site for swingers hence the name |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination.
He could, but it's not. it's a site for swingers hence the name"
And how is that different to what he said?  |
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Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination.
He could, but it's not. it's a site for swingers hence the name
And how is that different to what he said? "
If you have to ask |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination.
He could, but it's not. it's a site for swingers hence the name
And how is that different to what he said?
If you have to ask "
I am asking you. What is the difference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or he could look at it as a website for chatting, getting to know, meeting new people that has way more men than women on it but being polite doesn’t guarantee you sex as you have to catch someone’s eye by using your brain and your imagination.
He could, but it's not. it's a site for swingers hence the name
And how is that different to what he said?
If you have to ask
I am asking you. What is the difference?"
Me too because I think it’s a bit of a simile.
I’m just putting it in terms I think people seem to relate to more easily.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg!! That’s such a violation, what a disgusting thing to try and do. We visit clubs regularly and thank goodness this has never happened to us or would probably be arrested. Hope you’re ok op and the culprit will never be allowed to ever repeat this again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Omg!! That’s such a violation, what a disgusting thing to try and do. We visit clubs regularly and thank goodness this has never happened to us or would probably be arrested. Hope you’re ok op and the culprit will never be allowed to ever repeat this again. "
Shit, sorry posted to wrong thread |
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